And women have the glorious ability to open their hearts and share emotions and I don’t think it’s productive to devalue / deny / suppress the Goddess.

There is so much beauty in those words.

Bai

Since there is only one blog here in Johannesburg that rates that title among gay women, I scan Michelle’s blog and there is this clueless diatribe from you. I knew I shouldn’t have l stayed up late last night penning that comment to you.

Vulva, what part did’t you understand? Or is it better to pretend not to understand than to address the elephant in the room?

It is not me asking for “a special consideration.” It is you. You want to abandon the intellect and become emotionally involved without the slightest bit of caution that is your prerogative. But it is immature to advocate it for others as if it is some kind of virtue.

Then you say “Perhaps you get too emotionally involved too soon. (maybe you need a little work in boundaries)”

Hello? That was my point. If you rip your head out of your Vulva, you may be able to follow my lead.

Then you follow that caution to me with the inane declaration “And women have the glorious ability to open their hearts and share emotions and I don’t think it’s productive to devalue / deny / suppress the Goddess. If you have chosen via the heart it’s the right start. Just go slow.

Have you been paying attention to the past few days of articles. I mean the ones that suggest that following the heart leads to most divorces. “Go slow.” You say. Lady that is an option fully open to the ones who are not just following their hearts.

It’s the heart that keeps you from feeling that little something that says something is wrong here. It’s following the heart that gets the girl pregnant every time. It’s the following the heart that keeps you from seeing what is obvious to all your family and friends who can see that the thing your heart has picked is a lying sack of shit.

Which brings us to the obvious – Of course you couldn’t understand what I meant in my first two paragraphs. I was referring to your statement – “Women are generally more emotional then men and their relationships can be much more emotionally intense.”

To me the implication here is you expect that women should be given some special consideration because you say women are generally more emotional than men.

To me that simply implies that women use their brains a lot less in forming and maintaining a relationship than men do. Those same women blame men for manipulating them.

You follow up that with another bit of inanity – “Giving your heart shouldn’t make you feel weak. You honor the Goddess. Just don’t lose yourself”

Giving your heart without some serious intellectual consideration can and most probably will lead to losing yourself. That’s what makes a woman make mistakes in her judgement.

“Giving your heart” without a pause to allow your mind to get a grip on the hormones raging because of that heart is NOT honoring the Goddess as much as it is honoring the God that gives men the edge for using their intellect to guide their emotional commitments.

Don’t bother “reading between the lines,” I’ll clue you. I was living for myself, albeit using my heart because it was that silly heart of mine telling me that they’re begging was a sign of how much they loved me.

And since my heart was already lost before the begging I didn’t step back and use my head to reason. I foolishly honored the “Goddess” in me and went with the feeling.

What I am saying is you can’t have it both ways. If you are advising women to honor the Goddess in them and go with their hearts, you can’t be in the same breath be telling them to go slow.

You could if you are clueless to the fact that the heart overrides the mind when allowed to operate on its own. Women need to be advised to wait at least 18 months to allow their hormones to settle( 18 months is the average time it takes to fall out of love — i.e., about the time it takes for the fog to clear from your eyes and to see the guy for who he{she} really is. – Before you say “I do” Posted by Michelle Moquin on July 3rd, 2011).

Hello, again? 50% of all unions go awry because they are unions of the emotional Heart sans a good dose of intellectual analysis by the Brain.

Brittany

Now for that cup of coffee and back to work.

Yes I am gay and very okay with it.

Winter

“life enhancing”. Bravo! I love it!

You wrote :

“But do you think we are better served by using that as an excuse for asking for special consideration from our potential partners?

I mean would we be better off being adviced to toughen up and NOT become so emotionally committed before we give ourselves an opportunity to learn more about the partners we have chosen via the heart.”

I don’t understand. What do you mean by excuse? And what kind of special consideration are you asking for?

As to toughening up and not becoming “so emotionally committed before we give ourselves a opportunity to learn more about the partners we have chosen via the heart,” that rings somewhat contrary to me. Perhaps you get too emorionally involved too soon. (maybe you need a little work in boundaries)

And women have the glorious ability to open their hearts and share emotions and I don’t think it’s productive to devalue / deny / suppress the Goddess. If you have chosen via the heart it’s the right start. Just go slow. Dont bring the u-haul on the second date.

I don’t know what you meant by your first two paras but making up any excuse and asking for amy kind of special considerations doesn’t sound like a strong independent woman to me.

Giving your heart shouldn’t make you feel weak. You honor the Goddess. Just don’t lose yourself.

You write “beg me to sleep with them, beg me to move in with them, and then either leave me for another woman… ” Reading between the lines I have to ask are you living for yourself or other people?