If you have not, and they find out and are hurt thereby, are you still going to stand by your self-righteousness? Probably. Because your cheating behavior shows its all about you. That’s not a partnership people.

If I am not mistaken, I seem to recall that ZL previously stated that she had a cheating partner. If my memory serves me correctly, why would she then kick a cheating partner to the curb? By her very words above, she would tolerate it, because its beautiful and loving. So which is it ZL?

I stand by my thoughts. There is nothing beautiful and loving about stepping out on your partner without their knowledge.

Be adults. Be honest. Give your “real” partner the chance to be on board or get out. Humans really are the worst of the creatures, and the most selfish. They can justify anything.

He is very generous with his wealth. I want to have children but he says, we should wait 3 more years. I am 32 we have been married 9 years.

T gives me the emotional love I need. We have safe sex occasionally because I know he has sexual needs, but he does not satisfy me in that category the way my husband does. He has a good job and insists upon paying his own way when we are together.

So I allow him to be the gentleman and grab the tabs. But it is not about the physical with me for T. He is just so needed that without him I would be lost.

He is not married and constantly asks me to marry him but I love my husband more than I love him. I just need the hole filled he does in my life.

Some may see it as “selfish,” but they are not walking in my shoes.

Holly