Comments on: Unsupportive Relationship? You may be better off alone

By: Zen Lill

Zen Lill — Tue, 07 May 2013 14:14:25 +0000

Julian, sorry to disappoint, though my life this past weekend included an all day and night party I forgot about, it was awesome but no time for posing…and I’m a tiny bit of a procrastinator, too : ) I’ll get to it, thanks for checking in though…ZL

By: Julian

Julian — Tue, 07 May 2013 05:21:32 +0000

Zen Lill, I checked to see if you had posted a picture. But no such luck.

When, is the question of the day.

By: Zen Lill

Zen Lill — Tue, 07 May 2013 00:35:22 +0000

I’m going to echo Helen on this one: duh?! they needed research to tell you that one? Just ask anyone with half a brain.

I love how all researchers always agree that relationships ‘take work’ and the only one doing the work of the upkeep of the relationship as far as I can see is women, not always but usually. Women ask those types of relationship q’s not men in my experience.

I think research on marriage will tell you that it’s undergoing big change as are just plain old long term with a primary partner relationship, bc no one person can be all that we’ve come to ‘expect’ from our ONE partner. It’s challenging to be in a relationship more then 3+ years, Brian, bc that’s where the uncertainty that we actually thrive on (usually is the end of of infatuation, too, that’s lasts months to aprox 3 years) and the depth of ‘uh-oh it’s love, now what?’ kicks in and suddenly your either deeply ensconced in a live-in relationship or a marriage that you may or may not want. Or you find you chased that uncertain feeling simply bc that’s what felt so great, not her/him. It’s an exquisite upside down kind of hit of dopamine thing that’s going on there…

…& then suddenly the hankering for either escape or another party (to take a mini escape) comes in, (though I would suggest that one of the best ways to find out a lot about yourself is to be in a relationship) and I wish I could give you more personal details also, but we all know I’m public enough here (not going to disclose my man status detes, too : )

Luv, Zen Lill

By: Brian

Brian — Mon, 06 May 2013 18:57:14 +0000

There’s being single, being a couple and being a couple who has children. Each has it’s advantages. Once a person is actually ready to not have the world solely revolve around them, then the next indicated step is to socialize with others, and acquire a mate, sometimes I wonder if I’ll ever get to that place.

I’ve been in relationships and after 3 or so years wanted out. Now that I’m single again I wan’t a partner, I can be happy either way, having someone is more fulfilling and more work, Loneliness is sad and empty, so I give it to God and take the pressure and the outcome out of my own hands and give it to him.

By: Penny

Penny — Mon, 06 May 2013 18:56:19 +0000

This article will attract a number of single people who will espouse in postings what they perceived as the merits of being single. I wonder how many of them truly feel that way or whether their posts are merely an attempt to cover for anguish over being single? What motivates them to pontificate about the merits of being single?