I was busy for a few days buying myself a car, time consuming and fun at the same time! It’s nice to know that you’re popping in to catch some sweetness. My car dealer and I were chatting about divorce and all of the above, he said ‘you think like a man’ I said, ‘hmmm, that would infer that most women are not logical and only run on negative emotion’ and he said ‘when it comes to love, marriage and money many become illogical and go into fuck over mode’ – I had to respond, ‘ I hope not all men feel this way but most people, man or woman, are not in the positive state of mind they could be if they let a little time pass’ bc I can only speak fr myself but I said and did nothing for awhile bc I wanted to be very sure and loving in my demeanor, that I did for me but it also quickly showed me that it was a positive thing fr all of us, still is…

If you can take the higher (loving) road do it, if you cannot then do what you must and forgive as quickly as possible (for you and the ecology of the surrounding lives).

Off the soapbox now, -ZL

All the talk here today about divorce, well I can only say that it seems like both of them handled their affairs coming from a fear based place, you can easily say that it might be about money…though I can tell you that wanting the money could be standard gold digging or it could be an irrational and fear based way of putting the ex in the same ‘pain’ that ‘she’ went through. Unfortunately, you cannot transfer pain that way and the energy involved in doing/handling that, from both parties not to mention the kiddies, is negative and with no positive light at the end if the tunnel.

If he did take up with a local island woman, regardless of her weight (perhaps he likes his women well rounded and why not?), there does come a day when (man or woman) you must get on with the business of living and loving, and it’s most helpful to everyone if emotions don’t run the show constantly.

Allow yourself and your ex to move on, financially a man should want his ex to be able to give the kids a stable life regardless of her actions, and a woman should want her ex to have some life that resembles the life they shared regardless of his actions. The whole idea of leaving a woman destitute bc she’s no longer with you seems harmful to both and the idea of wanting to take a man to the cleaners seems harmful to both, so unless you don’t care about your psyche and anyone else’s (unloving in general) then best action might be no action or how about just forgiveness (after an appropriate time, this you do for yourself, believe me).

And that’s my rant in divorce and weight gain by island women ; )

Luv, Zen Lill

Don’t generalize Chamorritas like that, it gives the impression you are small minded. I surmise you either have a fat local wife, who may or may not be Chamorrita, and she cannot control what she eats or you are jealous of all the beautiful Chamorritas.

Tell me one place where there are no fat women because as far as I know, there are fat women in every corner of this earth. The difference is Chamorittas are beautiful whether they are plump or petite.

It seems to me that you can’t handle beautiful Chamorritas or you’ve had some bad experiences. I don’t know, could it be perhaps that Chamorritas took you for everything and you are bitter?

Oh, BTW, there is no such word as Alot, they are two words; “A + LOT= a lot. Got it Don & Teef?

Alot of these local women make Ricky Naputi, the “world’s fattest man” featured on the TLC channel look anorexic by comparison! This local woman will then be the next one challenging Guam’s divorce laws! LOL!