That core is dominated by feelings of rebelling against the double standard that has been levied against her gender. The problem is her intent on maintaining at all costs that the double standard be ignored at fails to acknowledge that that double standard will be used against the female because it is accepted by other females and she is part of that society which accepts it.

The female who blindly refuses to listen to logic from anyone on this is doomed to a life of misery if it is discovered and made public that she will have sexual intercourse so liberally. And yet, she will fight to the end to preserve that position.

The great mystery to me is: Why do those women not see that they gain nothing by having sexual intercourse so early in the relationship? So why are they fighting so hard to preserve that “independence” of their ego.

That book and many who come here to offer genuine help, have made it perfectly clear that to not wait a suitable time never helps the woman. It only provides her body to the predatory male for his benefit.

If any are caught armed before they surrender, they will be eliminated without discourse. If caught without arms, the sentence will be expulsion with confiscation of vessel and penalties to the Mothership at the Emperor’s discretion.

A slice of lemon can spruce up plain-old water, but you might be drinking more than you bargained for. Turns out, those seemingly innocuous water glass garnishes (see also: iced tea and diet soda) could be serving up a host of unappetizing organisms.

For one Journal of Environmental Health study, researchers swabbed the rinds and flesh of 76 lemons from 21 restaurants collected during 43 visits and found that a whopping 70 percent of them produced microbial growth.

The samples were collected as soon as the beverage (either soda or water) was served, before drinking or touching, and while the researchers couldn’t pinpoint the exact origins of the microorganisms, they speculated that they may have come from the restaurant employee or raw meat or poultry contamination, among other sources.

“Although lemons have known antimicrobial properties, the results of our study indicate that a wide variety of microorganisms may survive on the flesh and the rind of a sliced lemon,” the authors wrote in their report. “Restaurant patrons should be aware that lemon slices added to beverages may include potentially pathogenic microbes.”

Philip Tierno, Ph.D., clinical professor of microbiology and pathology at NYU Langone Medical Center, has conducted dozens of similar experiments, including one commissioned by ABC news, which found that half of lemon wedges collected from various restaurants were contaminated with human fecal matter.

What’s more, the ABC cameras nabbed employees handling lemons with their bare hands. And in Tierno’s experience, restaurants may not be diligently washing lemons — or they rinse them, but don’t scrub. It’s also easy for a worker’s hands, whether it be a bartender serving up a drink or a chef slicing the fruit in the kitchen, to cross-contaminate after dealing with patrons, washing glasses and handling food.

“We found in every single group of specimens from different institutions, representations from the three body sites that men usually impart their flora,” Tierno tells HuffPost Healthy Living of his research.

Those include bacteria from the intestines (in the form of fecal matter), the respiratory tract (think coughing, talking, sneezing) and the skin. Among the specimens collected were E. coli, staphylococcus epidermidis and candida, a fungus commonly found in the vagina. While his team didn’t test specifically for viruses, such as norovirus (a.k.a. the stomach flu) or the cold virus, this type of contamination is typically an indicator that they are present, he explains.

I have daughters and I would never give the kind of advice you gave on the issue of vetting. I did read that book. It was controversial only because it was tainted with religion and the author’s own behavior was less than stellar.

However the book should be standard reading for every young woman. Yes, each will make her choice, but on his advice to make a man wait 90 days, there are no shades of gray.

No one loses if the woman waits 90 days. The women who argue against it are acting as agents for men, most of them predatory, who are only interested in their immediate sexual gratification, not agents for women. Only the man interested in sex before the 90 days wins from from your advice.

The elephant in the room is the woman interested in sex before the 90 days my daughters claim. (I am a Pharm., PHD. My children know that I usually use drugs when I use a simile or anecdote to make an analogy or prove a point.) I hope you will not be put off by my using one or two here because this is directed to my daughters as much as it is to you. I told them they could get my answer on the blog and if it made them more comfortable they could reply there.

Actually the Elephant in the room is whether it is ever wise for anyone (male or female) to engage in sexual intercourse before 90 days. That is the question which has a lot of gray areas. But it is not viable for teens especially females because they are more vulnerable physically and psychologically. In their case it is never wise to engage in sex before the vetting of 90 days.

I would also add that sex before 90 days is never viable for young women between their teen years and the period of their life when they are still considering forming meaningful romantic relationships with others. This is true not because they would be “sluts, whores, or any other derisive term because they engaged in early sex with their partners. It is true for several reasons, the tainted reputation, even thought not warranted, is but one of them.

Although it is true that a female should not be made to feel different for engaging in early sex when the male isn’t, it is a fact that society influenced by male dominance has made that practically a given. The fact that males are prone to bragging about having sex with those females and embellishing when kissing and telling doesn’t help.

Right or wrong, gaining such a reputation is going to impact a female negatively. It can become a form of psychological and emotional bullying that she may have no defense for and may never recover from. Her self esteem and ability to feel comfortable in public could be damaged beyond even trained psychological help.

One can argue that it shouldn’t be so but it is, in this case there should be no reason to have to experience it because without that being the case a female should not be engaging in early sexual intercourse, period. The reason is she gains nothing by doing so.

One could argue she gains the sexual satisfaction she was seeking with her choice of partner. Here is my first drug analogy. One takes a prescription drug because the doctor has examined you and prescribed it as the thing that will make you feel or get better.

Most people fill the the prescription and take the drug without reading the contraindications that come with the drug. Some do read the contraindications but resist discussing them with their doctor or pharmacist before taking them together that amounts to about 95% of all people taking prescriptions drugs.

If the person a female met was that drug and the contraindications that came with it was that person’s character traits, then we could say that about 95% of women fall into the category of never checking on the character of the person or getting a bit of incite on the character of the person before having sex with them, but decides to engage in sex with them anyway.

Like those taking the prescription drug many get their good feeling and are none the worse for the experience. But for those 5% that do suffer a side effect, it can be devastating or fatal. My question is why take the unnecessary risks?

It is only 90 days and if the man isn’t still there when the date arrives, what have you lost? In time you will certainly have as many in there 90 day period as you have approaching it. Hence with a little willpower, your sexual appetite can be appeased with those whom you have not only read the contraindications but talked about it with your physician or pharmacist. Again why take the unnecessary risks?

Reading and discussing the contraindications of a drug does not guarantee that you will not experience a negative result, but it does guarantee you will understand the signs that one may be coming. That would be the time to disengage from taking that drug.

Young or naive women seldom get advice from their parents, “don’t do it,” is not advice. When they do get romantic advice, it is mostly bad.

Hence if you are a role model, Zen Lill, one who claims to have experience, then it is shameful that you would not advice young or naive or inexperienced females not to wait at least 90 days before having sexual intercourse. There are no gray areas for them. The risk to their emotional, physical and psychological state by predatory males is too great to take the unnecessary risk.

Women who deny that a woman takes a greater risk when she decides to make herself vulnerable by having sexual intercourse with a man, than a man is when he dose it with a female, are just liars. Women who deny that this is true to themselves are just fools.

To my daughters, I say if you are going to listen to a woman on this blog, pick one that will risk adversity by arguing for the issue that defers to your safety.

That person to me would be Michelle Moquin. Her argument is that if a man is worth having sex with before the 90 days he will be worth having sex with after, but the reverse is not true. So ladies, read that prescription bottle and discuss any contraindications with those who you trust concerning information about them. Why take the unnecessary risk?

Morris