Now it is time to heal.

Take Care and thank you for the good vibes.

HOWIE

I guess I should add (just to provoke) that we as women need to ‘woman up’ and you men, well, ya need to ‘man up’ and that just may take some redefining and certainly some refining ; ) I’m on everyone’s side to do this the same way Mischa is on everyone’s side to sign up for camp!

- ZL

PS – Howie/Al, seriously, be po’d about the blog or whatever is fine but please, a health update?

Eric, I’ll take your compliment but I think your wife (and everyone else) might be mistaken if they believe my message re: women is any different than Mischa’s. Quick story, a pal said what is your bitch re: women, look at you you tall skinny white overpriveleged biagge strutting around in a beemer, you’ve got life by the balls so what’s up? My response: I’m not skinny. (LOL for a few…) and my bitch is exactly that, yes from all outside eyes of women around the world and you, I have the freedom to strut this tall ass right out of here instead of talking to you and jump in my car drive real far and no one, no one, would question my freedom to do so…that’s what I’m talking about, when women around the world don’t need anyone’s ‘permission’ to do just that and a lot of other things like be safe in their own homes, or vote and yes, do all the things that men do and that yes, I do also, then…I will stop talking about it, I then cited many of the atrocities that transpire in other countries and said if it happens to these women, then all women are either feeling it or denying it, it’s like masturbators – you do or you’re a liar : ) so M & I – our thoughts on the subject are very close…

I express my approach differently bc – ok and now I will take some serious shit and I’m ok with that – (disclaimer: males who are inherently evil and religiously evil about abusing women are not included in what I’m about to say) – I do think that men are in decay, in every way, they don’t know how to behave like real men anymore and there’s few to turn to for lessons/role-modeling, women are so fed up with attempting to bring forth the underlying good man that they now just bag on men regularly also.

Now, remember what i said about your subconscious always listening the other day, well…I rarely watch tv and I did the other day (but it’s been my bitch for awhile) and the way men are portrayed by the media is a crying friggin shame. Kids roll their eyes at their dads as if – like how clueless is he, hahaha – and women just shake their heads at the things men do, etc…pay attention, it’s very subliminal, it feeds man hating and aren’t-men-just-too-goofy instead of trying to help the poor fuckers become the kind of man you’d look up to and respect and vice versa (very important vice versa there).

I watched a diaper comercial that had that dad looking like an ass, he looked emasculated instead of what he could’ve looked like – a real man doing his part in child rearing, showing his sweetness and vulnerability but no, oh and before you get railing just remember that what you think he is, he is and will act like, same goes for you, I hold myself to that standard but I’m not sure many women do, and so it goes, the questions and answers on many subject fronts could go on and on – but I did read a comment here that got me thinking about this q (for example) if your man stinks in bed – why is he inept, did you discuss what you do want or say let’s buy some toys or any number of things you could’ve done to take control? And if you rail tyhat he’s a premature EJ well, if you knew that, why did you marry him? hee hee – Or do you just lay there and think ah, it’ll be over in 5 anyway, bc if that’s your approach, why should he change (he doesn’t know anything is wrong) and why (a better q) would you be willing to pass on the pleasure that its yours for the snagging?

I could go on and on about treating each other as humans as oppossed to pussy and dick to be bargained over that often gets into the foray here but I won’t. I think we should all stop selling it short, it being ourselves. Why can’t a man love a woman and vice versa and not have to be trading for sex/dollars/other manipulations, I just don’t get that…

On another related topic, I was researching media and women (models of the past and now, they seem incredibly under- nourished to me) and decided to look up males also…hmm, interesting, just as Barbie was an impossible model for girls/women – so is GI Joe for boys/men, back in the day, his bod was based on a 36″ waist, 12.5″ bicep, then in the 60′s they added a six pack (no genitals though?) and a 32″ waist, 16.5″ bicep, now the bad boy has a 29″ waist, 54″ chest, 19.5″ biceps, yeow, not possible even if you add steroids, enough to make feel inadequate yet men? …and back in the day male models were seen in undies 3% of the time, that’s up to 70% so men have a just as visual audience going on as women do and the ‘body’ anxiety to go with it or so it seems, ever heard of dysmorphia?

Yeah…so eric, I do present both sides bc I kind of feel a certain empathy for males, I think they are secretly waiting for women to fill them in, and done with a compassionate approach on our part (for the good ones, the diamonds in the rough if you will) I actually hold out major hope that some of you will realize that you are missing a lot on life by choosing hyper-malesness instead of the real man route, but who asked me right? : )

Caio for now, Luv, Zen Lill

Michael E. Kitces, CFP, CLU, ChFC
Pinnacle Advisory Group, Inc.

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