Zarani

The question is why hasn’t Al responded?

My guess is the cyborg has removed any knowledge he had of the blog.

Eunice

You needn’t worry about my Jorge. He is never threatened by my dalliances. Though I must admit I haven’t had one since he became such a mogul.

That means this is one horny girl. Be prepared (if you get lucky) to satisfy this demanding beauty.

Carla

Deborah Norville
Inside Edition

One key way to encourage people to treat us well is to give them something that we all want — respect.

When people feel respected, their sense of self-worth rises, a sensation so pleasant that they become predisposed to like and trust the respect giver.

Often they will do everything in their power to aid whoever showed them respect in hopes that they will receive respect again.

Showing respect can make family members feel closer to us… employees and colleagues work harder for us… and increase the odds that customer service reps, retail employees and waiters will treat us favorably.

As a bonus, showing other people respect elevates our own outlook on life — it feels good to make others feel good.

Improving our mood doesn’t just brighten our day. It actually makes us smarter. Our brains release dopamine when we experience positive feelings.

Dopamine receptors are located in the cerebral cortex, the part of the brain that handles strategic thinking and problem solving. When you “feel good,” you have excited the decision-making part of your brain.

Perhaps the best part is that respect is free and limitless. We can spread it around liberally, and it doesn’t cost us a cent.

RESPECT FOR FAMILY

Don’t take family for granted…

Respect the mundane. Most of the things your spouse does for you are things that he/she has done many, many times before.

Or perhaps you have a grown child or sibling who routinely performs tasks for you. Such tasks might have come to seem routine and unexceptional over the years, but that doesn’t mean we’re free to ignore them.

The fact that someone does something for us day in and day out makes him more deserving of our respect, not less.

Best: Stop waiting for a reason to show your loved one respect, and start noticing and respecting the routine.

Imagine that someone other than your spouse cooked dinner for you or someone other than your son shoveled your driveway — wouldn’t you give that person your respect and gratitude?

Example: Each day, choose a chore that your partner or other family member has always done and thank him for doing it, rather than criticize the one time that it’s neglected.

Ask their opinion. Mention a news story, political debate or an issue that’s giving you trouble at work and ask, “What do you think?”

When we ask people for their input and listen to what they say, we send the message that we respect their intelligence and opinions.

Show respect according to your family member’s definition of the term, not your own. We tend to think of family as extensions of ourselves, so we show them respect by saying and doing things that would make us feel respected.

Unfortunately, each person’s preferred way of being respected is a little different. The things that would make us feel respected might not be valued by our loved ones.

Example: A wife met her husband at the door each evening with questions about his day.

Years earlier, this woman had felt respected when her mother asked her questions about her day after school, and she assumed that everyone felt the same.

Only later did this wife learn from her husband that his definition of respect in the evening was receiving 15 minutes of private time to unwind after work. Her attempt to show that she cared was interpreted as disrespect.

Don’t be insulted if your family members don’t respond to your attempts to show respect as positively as you had hoped. It’s your job to learn their definition of respect, not their job to feel respected because you have done things that you would appreciate.

Ask your loved one what you could say or do that would make him feel more respected… and whether there’s anything that you currently do that makes him feel disrespected.

RESPECT IN THE WORKPLACE

Showing respect to people you work with makes good business sense whether you’re an employer or an employee.

Employers who don’t show respect risk losing their best workers. A recent survey found that workers who feel disrespected are three times more likely to quit.

Elite employees are most likely to leave because they are best equipped to find new jobs. People who feel respected are more likely to be loyal to their companies.

Example: Medical-equipment-parts supplier PartsSource has a policy that each manager must compliment someone every day to foster a culture of respect. The company has a 94% employee-retention rate.

Employees who don’t show respect to colleagues cede a golden opportunity to create professional alliances. It’s easier to build a successful career when those you work with are pulling for your success.

To show respect in the workplace…

Acknowledge the efforts of others with specificity and with an audience. Saying “nice job” or “keep up the good work” is not enough.

These clichés might be considered offhanded or insincere. Instead, praise one or two specific things that an individual has done well to show that you are paying attention.

Example: “I really appreciate that you check in every afternoon to make sure everything is under control before you leave for the day.”

For greatest effect, voice your respect while other coworkers are around to hear. The person receiving the praise will feel elevated not just in your eyes, but in the eyes of everyone present.

Give a voice to those who feel voiceless. Employees tend to feel disrespected when it seems that no one listens to their ideas or complaints.

If you’re the boss, solicit input and ideas from everyone in your organization. Ask follow-up questions to show that you’re listening.

If you’re not the boss and your coworkers feel that upper management doesn’t listen, try to build a reputation as the colleague who does listen.

Help your colleagues and employees picture a positive future career. Make comments that suggest a coworker or employee has a bright future with the company… or, better yet, that he is on track for a specific promotion (assuming this is true).

Example: “Keep this up, and you may be the next assistant manager.”

This tells the employee that his hard work has been noticed and reinforces the idea that tangible rewards are on the way.

RESPECT FOR PEOPLE WHO SERVE OTHERS

Retail employees, customer service phone reps and restaurant waitstaff have difficult jobs. They spend long days listening to the problems, demands and complaints of customers and generally receive very little respect or remuneration in return.

The fact that these professionals are so often disrespected is all the more reason to treat them with respect — it will make you stand out, greatly increasing the odds that these people will do their best to get you what you want.

Express a willingness to help this person with his/her problems before requesting assistance with your own.

One problem shared by virtually all customer service reps, retail employees, waiters and the like is coping with demanding, upset customers. Acknowledge this challenge, and promise to do your part to reduce it.

Example: “I can imagine all the complaints you must deal with, but I’m going to try to be the one customer who doesn’t make your job more annoying.”

Let customer service employees know that you greatly value their efforts. Do this at the outset of the conversation — don’t wait until this person has solved your problem.

Example: “I could use some assistance, and I want to thank you in advance for any help you can provide me.”
WHY I WROTE THE POWER OF RESPECT

My book was born out of frustration. I was tired of seeing a steady drumbeat of stories that seemed to have disrespect at their core.

Recent examples include Rep. Jim Wilson’s shouting during President Obama’s Joint Address to Congress and Kanye West’s storming the stage during Taylor Swift’s acceptance speech at the Video Music Awards. It seemed to me that we were on a slippery slope as a society.

But as a professional observer of human behavior, I know that people don’t change unless they see their own self-interest benefiting.

So I researched the link between considerate, respectful behavior and benefits that “boomerang” back to the giver. I was amazed by both the breadth and vibrancy of what I found.

interviewed Deborah Norville, anchor of Inside Edition, the nation’s longest-running syndicated newsmagazine, seen daily by five million viewers. A two-time Emmy Award winner, she is author of The Power of Respect: Benefit from the Most Forgotten Element of Success (Thomas Nelson) and creator of the Deborah Norville Collection of fine yarns, available at JoAnn Fabric and Craft Stores and elsewhere. http://www.dnorville.com

Guam’s women have concerns too about the sudden influx of the military and their influence upon our way of life.
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Campaign Unites Women Concerned about Build-Up

Last Updated on Wednesday, 04 August 2010 14:49
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Wednesday, 04 August 2010 14:45

Guam – Guam News

Guam -This week, Fuetsan Famalao’an releases a public service campaign to unite local women concerned with the proposed military build-up.

Tiningo’ Famalao’an (women’s knowledge / things women know) encourages the implementation of strategies for sustainability in order to preserve Guam’s unique way of life.

Tiningo’ Famalao’an features local women from various professional and generational backgrounds who highlight ways in which their lives will be affected by the realignment of the proposed movement of US military troops to Guam.

The project aims to emphasize the importance of maintaining social and economic justice within the proposed plans to increase the US military presence on Guam.

Fuetsan Famalao’an invites all local residents and leaders to follow daily (with the exception of Saturday and Sunday) installments of Tiningo’ Famalao’an, which will air during PNC news beginning Thursday, August 5.

Fuetsan Famalao’an (strength of women) is comprised of women in Guam who have gathered since 2006 to articulate their concerns regarding the increased militarization of our island home.

Fuetsan Famalao’an believes residents must be made aware of ways in which federal plans affect our daily lives, particularly those of our local women and children. Fuetsan Famalao’an is dedicated to encouraging participation in all dialogues regarding our home’s future and believes that silence cannot be our legacy.

Contact: Lisa Cipollone, 688-3024