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George W. Bush’s Policies Bankrupt The Country

Posted by Michelle Moquin on April 10th, 2013

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An interesting write from the Huff Po, that I thought you might like to read:

 

David Stockman, Ex-Reagan Budget Director: George W. Bush’s Policies Bankrupt The Country

 

A former adviser of Ronald Reagan has some choice words for George W. Bush.

David Stockman, Reagan’s budget director from 1981 to 1985, slammed Bush and his former boss in an op-ed in The New York Times Sunday. Stockman argued in the piece that Reagan’s view on the deficit “created a template for the Republicans’ utter abandonment of the balanced-budget policies of Calvin Coolidge.”

“(Reagan’s deficit policies) allowed George W. Bush to dive into the deep end, bankrupting the nation through two misbegotten and unfinanced wars, a giant expansion of Medicare and a tax-cutting spree for the wealthy that turned K Street lobbyists into the de facto office of national tax policy,” Stockman wrote.

(Click over to The NYT to read Stockman’s full op-ed)

Stockman, also a former Republican congressman from Michigan, resigned from Reagan’s administration in 1985 in protest over deficit spending. Bush and Reagan aren’t Stockman’s only targets in the piece; he attacks lawmakers, Federal Reserve and Treasury officials and Wall Street for a combination of easy money and deficit expanding policies that he argues will lead to another Wall Street bubble explosion in the near future.

Stockman may have a point when it comes to Bush’s policies, at least. The cost of the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan combined with the Bush-era tax cuts for the wealthy willaccount for nearly half of the debt the U.S. will owe by 2019, according to a February analysis from the Center on Budget Policy and Priorities, a left-leaning think tank.

Bush isn’t the only Republican leader to draw Stockman’s ire in recent months, though. During the 2012 presidential election, Stockman called Republican candidate Mitt Romney “a master financial speculator who bought, sold, flipped, and stripped businesses.” He also attacked Vice Presidential Candidate Paul Ryan’s budget, arguing that it was “devoid of credible math or hard policy choices.”

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33 Responses to “George W. Bush’s Policies Bankrupt The Country”

  1. anonymous Says:

    Stockman should know, he is an expert on this issue…

  2. Carrie Says:

    Zen Lill, this southern girl has a house full of grown daughters. My ex husband left me with 7 daughters, he took the second born my son David with him when he ran off with one of my daughters best friends.

    You are the last word here in my household with the girls. They are 16, 17,20, 22, and 24. This isn’t the home the creep left us with that was a modest 4 bed 2 bath home. My two oldest got me to sell it an invest in an idea she had. Long story short, she made $300 million with it before she sold it for $2.6 billion a year ago.

    We built this modest place to settle in. The experience with my ex has the girls spooked for men when it comes to marriage. My eldest are 30 year old identical twins. They often fooled even me and their father as to who was who.

    One graduated from Standard and the other UC Berkeley. Both did it in three years when they were 20. They swapped attending their graduations, of course no one knew the difference.

    They have always kept separate friends and take particular pleasure in standing in for the other. Even though their majors are different, one has a an Phd in engineering from MIT, The other has Phd in bio chemistry and a MD from Harvard medical school.

    Their father has two other boys from the woman he ran off and married, 13 years ago. He has made repeated attempts to re-enter our lives. I have forgiven him as I feel it was the fates that removed his disruptive presence from our lives.

    I have thrived in his absence so have the girls. But they see it different and they refuse to give him any slack. I thought I’d appeal to you to talk to them. They respect your opinion.

    Carrie

  3. Zen Lill Says:

    Carrie, because I don’t take a request like that lightly, I am going to take your question and the info provided and head to the gym to think on it, I’m not sure it’ll be perfect even then due to the lack of lots of unanswered questions but I will give some insights, sigh, I have lived with and through more than I care to admit, and have studied the male and female psyche and the DSM more than most people in the healing profession(s).
    Be back later, luv, Zen Lill
    PS this must have been particularly difficult hard on the daughter who lost her trusted BF and her father, whom I’m assuming until that time, she also trusted. (and that’s not to minimize the loss(es) of your other daughters at all), it’s no wonder they’d like a word about father, men and marriage. Thanks for trusting me with this…

  4. 11k7L43 Says:

    It has been agreed that the Rl10 will be given the latitude decide what will be done about N. Korea. Those who opposed will stand down immediately.

  5. Burt Says:

    Michelle, I hate this free-for-all you run here. How about using something like this to corral the abusive conduct on your blog.
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    Admin’s note: Participants in this discussion must follow the site’s moderation policy. Personal attacks, profanity, abusive conduct and expressions of prejudice are not allowed. If you have comments about site moderation, contact the site publisher in email.
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    This would encourage civilized people like me to become regulars.

    Burt

  6. Health Info Says:

    Stroke: It’s On the Rise Among Younger People

    Unfortunately, only about 20% to 30% of them go to the ER…

    Few people in their 40s or 50s can imagine having a stroke, particularly if they are generally healthy. But the risk is higher than you might think—dispelling the common belief that stroke is a risk for only the elderly.

    An unexpected trend:
    Over the last several years, there has been an increase in strokes among adults in their 40s, 50s and 60s. What’s most alarming about this development is that doctors don’t expect to see strokes in these relatively young patients, so the diagnosis sometimes gets overlooked.

    Important finding:
    One in seven young stroke patients was initially misdiagnosed as having another problem, such as a seizure or alcohol intoxication, researchers at Wayne State University–Detroit Medical Center found in a recent study.

    Exciting New Stroke Treatments
    What to do: First and foremost, be alert. Stroke can occur at any age, so it’s important for all adults to pay close attention to symptoms.

    If you are diagnosed and treated within about four hours of having a stroke, you are far more likely to recover than someone whose diagnosis and treatment are delayed.

    Unfortunately, only about 20% to 30% of young patients with stroke symptoms go to the emergency room, according to research. The others are likely to shrug off the symptoms (especially if they were relatively minor and/or short-lived) and do not learn that they have suffered a stroke until a subsequent problem is detected later on.

    WHAT’S CAUSING EARLIER STROKES?
    Many of the so-called “age-related” diseases that greatly increase stroke risk, such as high blood pressure (hypertension), diabetes and high cholesterol, are now appearing in patients who are middle-aged or younger—primarily because so many Americans are eating more junk food, gaining too much weight and not getting enough exercise. Family history is also a risk factor for stroke.

    But even if you don’t have any of these conditions (or a family history of stroke), you are in good physical shape and generally eat a well-balanced diet, do not be lulled into a false sense of security.

    Anyone can suffer a stroke. That’s why it’s very important for all adults to be on the lookout for red flags that could signal a stroke.

    PREVENTION WORKS
    Stroke is the fourth-leading cause of death in the US. Those who survive a stroke often face a lifetime of disability, including paralysis and speech and emotional difficulties.

    Fortunately, younger patients, in general, are more likely to recover than older ones because their brains have greater plasticity, the ability to regain functions after stroke-related trauma. Even so, many young stroke patients will have permanent damage.

    Important:
    Regardless of your age, fast treatment is critical if you experience stroke symptoms. The majority of strokes are ischemic, caused by blood clots that impair circulation to the brain.

    Patients who are given clot-dissolving drugs, such as tissue plasminogen activator (tPA), within the first few hours after a stroke are far more likely to make a full recovery than those who are treated later.

    Up to 80% of strokes can be avoided by preventing or treating the main risk factors, according to the National Stroke Association. For example, not smoking is crucial—people who smoke are twice as likely to have an ischemic stroke as nonsmokers.

    Also important…
    Do not ignore hypertension. Like stroke, hypertension is often viewed as a problem only for the elderly. But there’s been an increase in hypertension in younger patients, who often go undiagnosed.

    Warning: Uncontrolled high blood pressure damages the brain—even in patients who haven’t had a stroke, according to a new study published in

    The Lancet Neurology.
    If your blood pressure is high (normal is below 120/80), you are two to four times more likely to have a stroke than someone with normal blood pressure.

    What to do: All adults should always have their blood pressure taken during routine doctor visits (at least once every two years if your blood pressure is normal…and at least annually if you’ve been diagnosed with hypertension or prehypertension).

    You can reduce both blood pressure and the risk for stroke by maintaining a healthy body weight…eating a healthful diet…getting regular exercise…and taking medication if your blood pressure remains elevated despite lifestyle changes.

    Manage diabetes.
    It’s second only to hypertension as a risk factor for stroke. Diabetes increases the risk for all cardiovascular diseases, including hypertension. People who have diabetes are up to four times more likely to have a stroke than those without the condition.

    What to do:
    Get tested. The American Diabetes Association recommends that all adults age 45 and older get screened for diabetes every three years.
    If you already have diabetes, do everything you can to keep your blood sugar stable—for example, eat properly, get exercise and lose weight, if necessary.

    Keep an eye on your cholesterol.
    It’s the third most important stroke risk factor because LDL (“bad”) cholesterol can accumulate in the arteries, impede circulation to the brain and increase the risk for blood clots.

    What to do:
    Beginning at age 20, get your cholesterol tested at least every five years. If your LDL is high (less than 100 mg/dL is optimal), you’ll want to get the number down by eating less saturated fat…getting more vegetables and other high-fiber foods…and possibly taking a statin medication, such as simvastatin (Zocor). Depending on the drug and dose, statins typically lower cholesterol by about 25% to 50%.

    Pay attention to your alcohol consumption.
    People who drink heavily (three or more alcoholic beverages daily for men and two or more for women) are more likely to have a stroke earlier in life than moderate drinkers or nondrinkers.

    In fact, in a study of 540 stroke patients, French researchers found that heavy drinkers suffered their strokes at age 60, on average—14 years earlier than patients who drank less or not at all.

    Warning:
    Heavy use of alcohol is also associated with increased risk for hemorrhagic stroke, which is caused by bleeding in the brain (rather than a blood clot). This type of stroke can occur even in patients without a history of serious health problems.

    What to do:
    If you drink, be sure to follow the standard advice for alcohol consumption—no more than two drinks daily for men…or one for women.

    SURPRISING RED FLAGS FOR STROKE
    Stroke symptoms aren’t always dramatic. If you’ve had a minor stroke or a transient ischemic attack (a brief interruption of blood flow known as a “ministroke”), the symptoms might be fleeting and easy to miss.

    What’s more, in rare cases, symptoms may occur that you may not think of in relation to a stroke. For example, you may initially feel disoriented or experience nausea, general weakness, face or limb pain, chest pain or palpitations—all of which typically come on suddenly.

    Depending on the part of the brain that’s affected, you may not be aware of your symptoms and must rely on someone else to call for help.

    Don’t take chances.
    Get to an emergency room if you have these and/or the classic symptoms below—FAST (Face, Arm, Speech and Time) is a helpful guide.

    Face: The most common stroke symptom is weakness on one side of the body, including on one side of the face. You may have difficulty smiling normally.

    Arm: One-sided weakness often affects one of the arms. Hold both arms out to your sides. You could be having a stroke if one of your arms drops down.

    Speech: Your words could sound slurred, or you might be unable to say a simple sentence correctly.

    Time: In the past, the “window” to receive clot-dissolving medication was considered to be three hours. New research indicates that stroke patients can benefit if they get treated within 4.5 hours after having the first symptom.

    Source: Brett M. Kissela, MD, professor and vice-chair of the department of neurology at the University of Cincinnati College of Medicine.

    He was the lead researcher of the National Institutes of Health–funded study, published in Neurology, that documented increasing strokes in younger adults.

    He specializes in stroke treatment and prevention and the role of diabetes and elevated glucose on stroke risks and outcomes.

  7. Clint Says:

    Burt, stick your advice where the sun don’t shine. If you don’t like the uncensored environment go to where someone else decides what is appropriate for others to hear.

    We are adults here. We can take it as well as dish it out.

  8. Vince Says:

    Ditto Clint

  9. Patrick Says:

    What’s the atack, he settled 8 MILLION for fraud. Maybe you don’t understand that…no wonder your party can produce jon corzine and bernie maddof.

  10. Dave Says:

    Stockman’s article is excellent and he is “right on”—he is non-partisan in his criticism and shows how our chaos developed over time which I’ve mentioned in many posts. He doesn’t directly implicate the Federal Reserve as the ultimate foundation of our demise but he does so indirectly.

  11. June Says:

    I can’t wait to hear what your advice is Zen Lill.

  12. Dave Says:

    “The state-wreck originated in 1933, when Franklin D. Roosevelt opted for fiat money (currency not fundamentally backed by gold), economic nationalism and capitalist cartels in agriculture and industry.”

  13. Dave Says:

    “in 1971, when Richard M. Nixon essentially defaulted on the nation’s debt obligations by finally ending the convertibility of gold to the dollar.

    That one act — arguably a sin graver than Watergate — meant the end of national financial discipline and the start of a four-decade spree during which we have lived high on the hog, running a cumulative $8 trillion current-account deficit.

    In effect, America underwent an internal leveraged buyout, raising our ratio of total debt (public and private) to economic output to about 3.6 from its historic level of about 1.6.”

    One of the solutions:It would require, finally, benching the Fed’s central planners, and restoring the central bank’s original mission: to provide liquidity in times of crisis but never to buy government debt or try to micromanage the economy.

    Getting the Fed out of the financial markets is the only way to put free markets and genuine wealth creation back into capitalism.

    I’ve said it many times in the past and will say it again—our problems as a nation began with the creation of a central bank and the loss of all fiscal discipline over time.

  14. Mattie Says:

    When George W. Bush took office we had a balanced budget and projected surpluses which would have paid off the national debt by now. You always want to look at anything except the most obvious cause because you helped elect him and supported his idiotic policies while he was in office.

  15. Ruben Says:

    What makes Bush a special little traitorous scumbag is that he pissed away the lives of thouands of Americans in the process of enacting his self destructive policies.

    He knew people were going to die when he lied us into Iraq against our national interests and he did it anyway. That’s as lowlife as one could possibly be….

  16. Mattie Says:

    The great contradiction—you have people like David Stockman who is morally obtuse writing a book defining the moral “obtusemanship” of other individuals/the system.

    America, what a great country. And that is symptomatic of our decline. We allow ilk like David Stockman to continue their narcissistic, self-absorbed game when they should be sitting their sorry rearends in jail—another one is Jon Corzine.

  17. Mawr Says:

    HAHAHAA!!! The GOP is a regular cannibal holocaust!!

  18. Maggie Says:

    Have you forgotten how Al-Qaeda and some hard right Israelis danced in the streets following 9-11?
    They don’t come any more conservative than those ah0les

  19. Morise Says:

    Hey, mom you threw me out when I flunked college. Well here is a little something all that money you paid for my 9 college years paid for.

    To All The Colleges That Rejected Me
    The world needs ditch diggers too.
    - Judge Elihu Smails

  20. Kelly Says:

    I know now that though most of you won’t admit it, you read this blog a lot. Many of you comment with particular vitriol against the Left. Yes, we are friends and, yes, we are from that lucky 1%.

    But that’s where we part likes. You pontificate about the Left as if every problem begins and ends with an Obama policy. We drink each others liquor and philosophize about those worse off than us, you know the other 99% of our country.

    I mostly allow you to beat up on my beliefs because I know that most of you know better. But just in case I have been too generous here is some food for thought you might digest before you go on your next rant about the evils of Obama policy.

    You realize, of course, that all spending allocations are set by Congress, initiated in the House of Representatives. Which is in the control of which party? It’s government spending, doncha know? Has to be cut. Government is the problem. Drown it in the bathtub.

  21. Silvia Says:

    DD, there is an obvious connection between those who sell guns on that website and the lobbyists who want to make sure every lunatic in teh country can buy one.

    Next time you want to influence me to accept you opinion. Post it here so others can rip you a new asshole.

    Kat tells me you frequent this blog because you love spouting your “superior opinion to her. But she says you refuse to post it here. My guess is you can’t take the heat.

  22. Vivian Says:

    Kelly, I have a similar problem. We are not part of the 1% but we are white, so we still belong to the ruling class. I love baiting the Righties when they get a bit tipsy.

    My favorite past time is to put one side against the other. I have noticed that the right to life side vs. right to bear arms side, right to bear arms wins.

    My guess is their ultimate point is force the bitch to have it, if we don’t like it we shoot it.

  23. Zen Lill Says:

    Burt, I’ll put it nicely, read ‘Disclaimer: adult blog’ at above right >>>> and then read Clint’s comment.

    Carrie,
    I cannot without knowing more about dad and his personality (was/is he a narcissist, was/is he abusive before the departure with other and obviously much younger woman – indicating any number of things in and of itself – most males go find a younger woman not so much for beauty as for naivete’ to their/the worlds ways and thus easier to mold/mind bend, though I don’t know who/how he was/is so that’s speculation at best) speak to the heart of whether they should openly embrace a relationship just bc he’s offering.

    I would suggest offering forgiveness, even if it’s just a private in their own mind/heart affair and ONLY bc it helps them to move on and to find and feel their way into trusting others. It’s tough to trust men when the primary one in your life drops a betrayal on you (taking a best friend and her actually going with your father) and that’s your first model for how men act? Yikes.

    I would say that forgiving him for themselves is key, if closure – i.e. meeting up with him once – would help that along, then offer to take them for a short visit and see how that goes, if they indicate during the visit it’s not cool in any way, just get up and leave. The girls can then have the experience of ‘giving it a go’ while reserving the right of refusal, and then they can forgive as needed (or not) and carry on.

    If they do forgive I would not just open the front door to their (dad and his wife) every advance, I would take short visits for a while till I was convinced they (if the old best friend wants to be in on this action)/he were honest and forthcoming in their wish to know the girls and have a place in their lives.

    Then each girl knowing what their own emotional make up is like and their own comfort level with the situation is, can come to their own conclusion. It may be different for each of them bc they may take it all in differently. Remember that even when there’s 7 people in the room they all may have a different story to tell about what went on and they all might go through different stages of forgiving at different times…could feel mildly (or severely) unbalancing for a while, and all parties must be willing to give it some time especially the dad/his wife (and by that I mean, agree to not just blow up at each other immediately, have a dialogue with each other or a trained professional to sort through things that are bound to come up), it’s a lot to ask of all of the girls and I wouldn’t force it if one (or more) of your girls does not want to join in…

    …though in my opinion, personal opinion, it’s a nothing ventured nothing gained situation.

    At the very least, they will gain some closure that likely they need but don’t even know they need it.

    If it all goes to hell, at least they will have extended a hand to the olive branch and they can walk away knowing they tried. If this occurs let me know I have a further personal ritual they can do to allow forgiveness without having to engage with dad/wife at all, it’ll be simply for them, I usually prefer to walk peeps through it in session bc it can be powerful (i.e. it can get emotional) but it’s like lifting a boulder off your heart as well…

    Picking a marriage partner is a tricky thing, dopamine doses has many people making decisions about life that is the equivalent of being under the influence, so I think Mischa posted it here before but know someone at least 3 years, so that effect has minimized and if they’ve got character and consistent behavior/traits that are what they want you might be onto something.
    2 questions to always ask any man: 1. Are you married or otherwise involved? (they will lie even if you catch them off guard but watch the body language and the eyes, very telling…) and 2. What’s your mother like? If they start spewing venom or do any shaming/blaming on the mother – RUN – bc even if he’s right and she was a psychopath/narcissist he’s damaged in a way your ‘love’ cannot help, (believe me I made this fatal mistake once) and if they soften and tell you about her, he’s worth talking to…

    I think if every woman tuned into their intuition and go with it, they know, it’s when we choose to overlook what we know in our gut that we lose. And hey, I’ve done it before bc I wanted the bad boy badly enough, he had a motorcycle and a hot body, etc…and of course I knew long term it’s nothing but what a short ride it was, if you’re mentally and emotionally centered, you can hang, I wouldn’t suggest it for most, it can be devastating for some women and they never recover…from narcissists, and or bad boys/pathological liars/abusers of any kind. & any woman can be lured bc narcs are actors and read you to learn exactly how to appeal to you, so don’t kick yourself if you get caught up just get out asap!!

    I would watch out mostly for intellectual and somatic (sexual predator types) narcissists (& they are usually liars as well) bc contrary to popular belief, they rarely change and they will make your life miserable under certain conditions – like right after they’ve convinced you that you’re the best and they’re the best so you’re made for each other, just RUN FOR THE HILLS – no forwarding address (I’d google the terms if you suspect one of your girls is involved with someone like this, and some narcs outgrow it to a degree after their 20′s are over, some stay that way, like a Dorian Gray character).

    Keep me posted and hope this was helpful?

    Luv, Zen Lill

  24. Bernie Says:

    I had one of my friends on the right pose this question, “is there any government action that can be taken to reduce the number of gun deaths in the country?”

    And then he quickly answered it with “None that will prevent apparently normal people from going postal. That’s a social product, like all the other pathologies that inflict modern society, especially the U.S.: suicide, depression, prescription drug abuse, parents killing their children, children killing their parents, random violent crime, etc.”

    His wife jumped in with, “I read on Michelle’s blog that is the kind of spill one gets from the tiny penis white boy, who needs big guns and even bigger magazines to feel equal to those well hung black dudes.” Sounds about right to me.

    You could have heard the proverbial pin drop. I suppose the only saving grace was that we were all white. Even so no other male there dared to broach the subject of guns that night.

    Later we girls had a good laugh. Some of us were not afraid to admit that our tiny pecker men never satisfied our desire for a vagina orgasm. It was the first time we women had had an open conversation about sex.

    Thank you Michelle.

  25. Morgan Says:

    I am so tired of the Left using tragedies like the 6-Year-Old Shot by Another Boy to further their gun control aims. If I could speak to the parents that lost their boy I would remind them of the necessity to sacrifice for the Amendments of this great country. I would say, “Losing your 6 year old is a small price to pay to protect our 2nd amendment freedoms.”

    They may have lost a child but at least they get to keep their guns.

  26. Morgan Says:

    I would have added “You can always make another baby, once your guns are taken they’re gone for good.”

  27. Danielle Says:

    In the end what will America do about gun violence? Those who can afford it will live behind high walls with armed security personnel checking every single person entering, they’ll send their kids to private schools with armed guards at the front door, they’ll ride in bulletproof vehicles and shop in exclusive areas where it is unlikely for dangerous people to be.

    And the rest of us will live the way they do in places like Brazil where we’ll be forced to arm ourselves and we won’t go out much at night.
    It’s the “vision” of luminaries like Ronald Reagan, George Bush and Wayne LaPierre.

  28. Nan Says:

    This southern woman is so tired of politicians not understanding that once they leave office in disgrace they are not welcome to return to office?”

    Republicans here know they can do it because as long as they are running against dems who support equality for anything, southern whites will vote for them. Most of us white here never consider character, ethics or any stupid quality like that when voting. COLOR is all that matters, that and your RACE policy.

  29. Wilma Says:

    Anyone else notice the absurdity of all the answers except Danielle’s when it comes to guns? I don’t know why I would expect anything else of “conservatives” (not to be confused with actual Conservatives).

  30. Kathy Says:

    The money we paid in to SS did not flow out to beneficiaries, it accumulated as a trust fund and was invested in interest bearing bonds which are held today in a vault at the Social Security Administration and are just as valuable as the one’s held by the Chinese and milliions of Americans.

    The only problem is that in order to pay our government’s bills we need more tax revenues and Republicans are unwilling to allow us to raise the revenue necessary, this is why we need to throw them out of Congress and do what is necessary.

  31. Anonymous Says:

    Gosh, you are so beautiful Michelle. I enlarged you new photo and placed it along with the others. This one is just Superb!

    I love you.

  32. Santiago Says:

    Howie, were are you? Say something amigo.

  33. Carrie Says:

    Zen Lill, I would have responded sooner but I had to read it several times. Thank you so much for giving it such through thought.

    Carrie.