To All Of The Mothers…
Posted by Michelle Moquin on 8th May 2011
…And Mothers “to be” (that includes you too Evelyn! :)…I wish you all…
A Happy Mother’s Day!
I wasn’t quite sure what I was going to post this morning. Something short and sweet…something profound, or something personal. Then I found this article on National Geographic that I found interesting.
When and how did Mother’s Day begin? Read on and you’ll find out.
Why Mother’s Day Horrified, Ruined Its Own Mother
Born of war, Mother’s Day went big-time—and broke its mother’s heart.
Brian Handwerk
for National Geographic News
Published May 8, 2011
Before the brunches, before the gifts and greeting cards,Mother’s Day-today honored with perhaps the ultimate Internet accolade, a Google doodle-was a time for mourning women to remember fallen soldiers and work for peace.
When the holiday went commercial, its greatest champion gave everything to fight it, dying penniless and broken in a sanitarium. Of course, Mother’s Day marched on without her and is today celebrated, in various forms, on a global scale.
(Related: “Mother’s Day Mayhem: ‘Worst’ Animal Moms?”)
As early as the 1850s, West Virginia women’s organizer Ann Reeves Jarvis held Mother’s Day work clubs to improve sanitary conditions and try to lower infant mortality by fighting disease and curbing contaminated milk, according to historian Katharine Antolini of West Virginia Wesleyan College.
The groups also tended wounded soldiers of both sides during the U.S. Civil War from 1861 to 1865, she added.
In the postwar years Jarvis and other women organized Mother’s Friendship Day picnics and other events as pacifist events uniting former foes. Julia Ward Howe, for one-best known as the composer of “The Battle Hymn of the Republic”-issued a widely read “Mother’s Day Proclamation” in 1870, calling for women to take an active political role in promoting peace.
Around the same time, Jarvis had initiated a Mothers’ Friendship Day for Union and Confederate loyalists across her state. But it was her daughter Anna who was most responsible for what we call Mother’s Day-and who would spend most of her later life fighting what it had become.
“Mother’s Day,” Not “Mothers’ Day”
Moved by the 1905 death of her own mother, Anna Jarvis, who never married or had children of her own, was the driving force behind the first Mother’s Day observances in 1908.
On May 10 of that year, families gathered at events in Jarvis’s hometown of Grafton, West Virginia-at a church now renamed theInternational Mother’s Day Shrine-as well as in Philadelphia, where Jarvis lived at the time, and in several other cities.
Largely through Jarvis’s efforts, Mother’s Day was observed in a growing number of cities and states until U.S. President Woodrow Wilson officially set aside the second Sunday in May in 1914.
“For Jarvis it was a day where you’d go home to spend time with your mother and thank her for all that she did,” said West Virginia Wesleyan’s Antolini, who wrote “Memorializing Motherhood: Anna Jarvis and the Defense of Her Mother’s Day” as her Ph.D. dissertation.
“It wasn’t to celebrate all mothers. It was to celebrate the best mother you’ve ever known-your mother-as a son or a daughter.” That’s why Jarvis stressed the singular “Mother’s Day,” rather than the plural “Mothers’ Day,” Antolini explained.
But Jarvis’s success soon turned to failure-at least in her own eyes.
Storming Mother’s Day
Anna Jarvis’s idea of an intimate Mother’s Day quickly became a commercial gold mine centering on the buying and giving of flowers, candies, and greeting cards-a development which deeply disturbed Jarvis. She set about dedicating herself and her sizable inheritance to returning Mother’s Day to its reverent roots.
Jarvis incorporated herself as the Mother’s Day International Association and tried to retain some control of the holiday. She organized boycotts, threatened lawsuits, and even attacked First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt for using Mother’s Day to raise funds for charities.
“In 1923 she crashed a convention of confectioners in Philadelphia,” Antolini said.
A similar protest followed two years later. “The American War Mothers, which still exists, used Mother’s Day for fundraising and sold carnations every year,” Antolini said. “Anna resented that, so she crashed their 1925 convention in Philadelphia and was actually arrested for disturbing the peace.”
Jarvis’s fervent attempts to reform Mother’s Day continued until at least the early 1940s. In 1948 she died at 84 in Philadelphia’s Marshall Square Sanitarium.
“This woman, who died penniless, in a sanitarium in a state of dementia, was a woman who could have profited from Mother’s Day if she wanted to,” Antolini said.
“But she railed against those who did, and it cost her everything, financially and physically.”
Mother’s Day Gifts Today: Brunch, Bouquets, Bling
Today, of course, Mother’s Day continues to roll on as an engine of consumerism. And Anna Jarvis, one might imagine, continues rolling in her grave.
In the U.S. alone, Mother’s Day 2011 spending will reach $16.3 billion-with the average adult spending more than $140 dollars on gifts, the National Retail Federation estimates.
Two-thirds of Americans celebrating Mother’s Day will treat their mothers to flowers, the federation reports, and more than 30 percent of the surveyed celebrants plan to give their mothers gifts of jewelry.
The U.S. National Restaurant Association reports that Mother’s Day is the year’s most popular holiday for dining out. Some 75 million U.S. adults are expected to do just that today, the association says.
As for Mother’s Day being a Hallmark holiday, there’s no denying it, strictly speaking.
Hallmark Cards itself, which sold its first Mother’s Day cards in the early 1920s, reports that Mother’s Day is the number three holiday for card exchange in the United States, behind Christmas and Valentine’s Day-another apparent affront to the mother of Mother’s Day.
“A printed card means nothing except that you are too lazy to write to the woman who has done more for you than anyone in the world,” Jarvis once said, according to the book Women Who Made a Difference.
“And candy! You take a box to Mother-and then eat most of it yourself. A pretty sentiment.”
(Also see “Father’s Day at 100: How it Began, Why Dad Gets Fewer Gifts.”)
Mother’s Day Gone Global
The holiday Anna Jarvis launched has spread around much of the world, though it’s celebrated with varying enthusiasm, in various ways, and on various days-though more often than not on the second Sunday in May.
In much of the Arab world, Mother’s Day is on March 21, which happens to loosely coincide with the start of spring. In Panama the day is celebrated on December 8, when the Catholic Church honors another famous mother, the Virgin Mary. In Thailand mothers are honored on August 12, the birthday of Queen Sirikit, who has reigned since 1956 and is considered by many to be a mother to all Thais.
Britain‘s centuries-old Mothering Sunday, the fourth Sunday of the Christian period of Lent, began as a spring Sunday designated for people to visit their area’s main cathedral, or mother church, rather than their local parish.
Mothering Sunday church travel led to family reunions, which in turn led to Britain’s version of Mother’s Day.
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Readers: Interesting read huh?
I will end with saying that I love my mother. Yes, we have had our moments as daughters and mothers usually do. When I was young my mother used to say to me when she wasn’t happy with me, “Michelle, I will always love you, but right now, I am not liking you very much.” That little comment from her told me she was disappointed in me, or angry with me or whatever with me, but knowing that she would always love me, gave me comfort and security. Now I use the same line on her. :)
But in spite of our little riffs, we have loved a lot and laughed a lot, through precious moments and challenging times. My mother is always there for me. Albeit sometimes a little too much. :) But hey, how can one complain when her children are her “everything”. I am pretty lucky and very grateful that my mother is…well my mother. I wouldn’t trade her in for any other.
Have a beautiful day with your mother. And remember, especially when you’re having one of those “moments” between you and mom, that your mother gave you life…you wouldn’t be here without her. That single thought is a reminder to love, cherish, and be grateful for your mother. I never leave the company of my mother without telling her I love her.
Because the reality is, human life is short and some day she will be gone, and you’ll so wish that you will have said, done…whatever you didn’t say or do. The good news is you can say what you wish to say now…today…and tomorrow…and the next day…
Lots of love…
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michelle
Aka BABE: We all know what this means by now :)
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