Hello Maddie:  I am assuming that you are talking about the girls in training. What do you suggest the American women do?  I’ll tell you what I suggest. Tell the girls to get over it….in an empathetic way of course. If you remember you too were once an American woman so far behind the rest of the worlds girls.  

Embarrassment is a form of self pity. If one is going to wallow in it one will not learn the lessons from the mistakes that one has made that brought on the embarrassment in the first place.  I speak this way because I recognize this behavior in myself. 

Feeling sorry for ones self is one of the biggest mistakes American women make over and over again. It not only is not empowering but it has no benefits what-so-ever. I would say to these women to look at what circumstance brought on the embarrassment, and look at it from a mature, unemotional perspective. One can not use the excuses….’Oh I was too young to know’,  or ‘I was never taught or informed.’ At some point, one has to wake up and see the accountability in the actions and take responsibility.  When the ‘poor me, I didn’t know any better’ victim attitude is buried, strength rises. And that strength is powerful.  They only need be embarrassed if they don’t learn from their mistakes and rise above. Use the embarrassments to grow and to be able to teach other women. 

Am I off base?…maybe you weren’t seeking this advice and I am just projecting and sharing my views from a recent incident in my own life. I am not immune from such lessons. I have been embarrassed and ashamed over actions that I did when I was very ‘young and dumb’.  It wasn’t until recently that I was privy to my own mistakes and how they have shaped my life.  Yes, I was embarrassed, yes, I was ashamed, and yes I was wallowing.  But all it left me feeling was helpless and out of control. Now, what good does that do me? Nothing, I was not empowered at all.  

What did I do? I had to consciously control my emotions and get present so that I could examine my actions. No crying…no ‘buts’. It was not easy. I was major PMS but again…excuses aside. If I had continued wallowing I would not have learned what I am passing along today. No one is perfect. Shit happens. Life hands us lessons, sometimes embarrassing ones, and it is up to us to learn from them and more importantly pass them on. If one can learn and be able to share by teaching with an empathetic ear, then wouldn’t you say the embarrassment was worth it? It’s not about making embarrassing mistakes it is about what you do afterwards. Put it behind you and stop being ashamed. Use your embarrassing moments to your benefit not to your detriment. By the way, this is me passing this on. 

Am I making myself clear here? I’m not sure if I have articulated my thoughts well this morning, or if you even wanted to hear all of this…..too late, it is out there now. 

Readers: Care to share? Blog me.

Hi Valerian: As I write this, I am hoping that you are safe. I have only read briefly about what is going on in your country but already I know that the death toll is high. I realize that time is of the essence here…please give me a day or two to research. Be safe. 

‘sweet pea’ and ‘sweetness’: Get a room :) 

See ya tomorrow….

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Hello Maddie:  I am assuming that you are talking about the girls in training. What do you suggest the American women do?  I’ll tell you what I suggest. Tell the girls to get over it….in an empathetic way of course. If you remember you too were once an American woman so far behind the rest of the worlds girls.  

Embarrassment is a form of self pity. If one is going to wallow in it one will not learn the lessons from the mistakes that one has made that brought on the embarrassment in the first place.  I speak this way because I recognize this behavior in myself. 

Feeling sorry for ones self is one of the biggest mistakes American women make over and over again. It not only is not empowering but it has no benefits what-so-ever. I would say to these women to look at what circumstance brought on the embarrassment, and look at it from a mature, unemotional perspective. One can not use the excuses….’Oh I was too young to know’,  or ‘I was never taught or informed.’ At some point, one has to wake up and see the accountability in the actions and take responsibility.  When the ‘poor me, I didn’t know any better’ victim attitude is buried, strength rises. And that strength is powerful.  They only need be embarrassed if they don’t learn from their mistakes and rise above. Use the embarrassments to grow and to be able to teach other women. 

Am I off base?…maybe you weren’t seeking this advice and I am just projecting and sharing my views from a recent incident in my own life. I am not immune from such lessons. I have been embarrassed and ashamed over actions that I did when I was very ‘young and dumb’.  It wasn’t until recently that I was privy to my own mistakes and how they have shaped my life.  Yes, I was embarrassed, yes, I was ashamed, and yes I was wallowing.  But all it left me feeling was helpless and out of control. Now, what good does that do me? Nothing, I was not empowered at all.  

What did I do? I had to consciously control my emotions and get present so that I could examine my actions. No crying…no ‘buts’. It was not easy. I was major PMS but again…excuses aside. If I had continued wallowing I would not have learned what I am passing along today. No one is perfect. Shit happens. Life hands us lessons, sometimes embarrassing ones, and it is up to us to learn from them and more importantly pass them on. If one can learn and be able to share by teaching with an empathetic ear, then wouldn’t you say the embarrassment was worth it? It’s not about making embarrassing mistakes it is about what you do afterwards. Put it behind you and stop being ashamed. Use your embarrassing moments to your benefit not to your detriment. By the way, this is me passing this on. 

Am I making myself clear here? I’m not sure if I have articulated my thoughts well this morning, or if you even wanted to hear all of this…..too late, it is out there now. 

Readers: Care to share? Blog me.

Hi Valerian: As I write this, I am hoping that you are safe. I have only read briefly about what is going on in your country but already I know that the death toll is high. I realize that time is of the essence here…please give me a day or two to research. Be safe. 

‘sweet pea’ and ‘sweetness’: Get a room :) 

See ya tomorrow….

Gratefully your blog host,

michelle  ?

Aka BABE: Your  ’Bad Ass Bitch Editor

For archives dated before January 17, 2008  click on my Blogroll:  

or click here: “A Day in the life of…” 

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Good Morning! 

I am so excited this morning that my husband Doug is finally coming home! He has been away on business for the past couple of weeks and this morning I am going to pick him up at the airport.  

So, I am leaving the blogging up to you my readers….chat amongst yourselves, and I’ll check in later on in the day…that is, if I am able to….who knows how busy I will be :)

Enjoy yourselves!  I know I will.

Hi ZL:  Loved reading a little bit about you!  Thanks for sharing. How is the house coming along?  Our open house went well yesterday.  Oh…I realized I never gave the MLS for our house for sale.  For those of you readers interested,  our MLS # is: 40338736 

 Happy Cinco de Mayo!

Gratefully your blog host,

michelle  ?

Good morning everyone!

I woke up this morning and my entire blog was changed; not the visual that you see but the inner workings of setting this thing up.  The layout is a bit different so later on I am going to have to reacquaint myself.  No matter….on with the day! 

Doug had a biz meeting last night so I jumped around with a girlfriend Tara and her beau Paul, our newbie friends.  Actually yesterday was a pretty social day all around…. I have been getting up at 6:30 every morning which is new for me.  Between blogging and emails and eating breakfast early, it is a great way for me to jump start my day and get the little stuff out of the way. Not that blogging is little stuff and not that I want to get it out of the way. I just know that you my readers look forward to a new read early in the morning, especially during the work week so that you can hang and coffee clutch n’ cluck  in the break room or near the water cooler.  I’m not making this up – you’ve emailed me requesting this! :)

So…my girlfriend Juls, whom I haven’t seen in about 3 years, came over in the afternoon – it was like we had just spoken yesterday. I just love when that happens.  It just goes to show you that when you have a connection with someone, time and space really doesn’t matter.  Hmmm… I just now realized that I need to remember that one in regards to another person.  Anywho, we gabbed non-stop for two and an half hours drinking tea and catching up on life.  We thoroughly enjoyed ourselves and promised to get together sooner this next time. 

Juls left just in time to watch Oprah.  Did any of you catch the show? I bet it was eye-opening for some of you.  I could never imagine having the job of choosing which dogs to euthanize – how terrible and even more so when they showed that one kennel where 40 dogs are euthanized everyday! It weighs so heavy on my heart.  My mom and I talked about this and the hardest part was not only knowing that so many dogs are put to death every year but that they seem to know from the look on their faces that it is their time to go. :(  I hope that all of you will reconsider when you are out looking for a dog – adopt and older one.  Our last Dog Vince was 10 years old when we adopted him.  Unfortunately he only lasted 2 years but I know it was a wonderful two years for him – He was extremely attached to me and he despised Doug!  But Doug was much more of a sport about it than I could ever have been -  Thanks baby for not taking his snarling personally :) 

So back to last night….Tara picked me up and we headed to Le Cheval, this fab Vietnamese place in DT Oakland,  to meet Paul for a bite to eat before we headed to Oakland’s Art Murmur. Prudy, another friend had blogged about it months ago and until last night we hadn’t gone yet. 

The murmur happens the first Friday of every month, 6-10 pm and features 17 galleries in a few blocks range. If you live in the Bay Area, it is a must – very cool vibe and some interesting artwork, especially at the Johansson Projects Gallery.  The gallery spaces are a bit crowded so seeing the art can be difficult but half of the fun is all of the people watching, and there were lots of people just hanging out in the streets. In fact we ran into about 8 or so of Tara and Paul’s friends – all super friendly. 

There was one street between two galleries that was blocked off and vendors sold a few things ranging from fresh made vegan donuts ( umm sounds good but they weren’t), to patches of fabric printed with art to sew onto a t-shirt (?).  Kind of burning man’ish with street dancers, art video splashed on an entire side of a building and a graffiti artist doin’ his latest installation on an outside gallery wall.  Lot of action and lots to see.  Tara mentioned that there was a booth last time where these people would cut up knit sweaters and plunk each piece on top of your head sewing them together, making you a personalized hat within 5 or so minutes! – cool. Unfortunately they were not there last night. Have any of you gone to the art murmur? I would love to hear your rap. 

We finished off an early evening with a drink at a local bar and I was home by eleven. A perfect evening – except for the fact that I Missed you Doug. 

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Doug and Al:  Thanks for your kind comments yesterday. If we all just do a little bit more for the things that are close to our hearts how can things not get better?  

Daphne: Just caught your comment the other day.  I know you are a big fan of Steve – so am I.  I liked the article that he wrote.  I agree with some of it, and some I have to think about some more. The only paragraph that I know I don’t agree with is:

“The irony is that those who suggest we must dissociate from the ego are still very much ego-associated themselves. They simply detach their egos from materialism and re-attach it to spiritualism. The identification with physical life becomes stronger than ever.”

My feeling is I don’t think that if you detach from the materialistic that you then attach to the spiritualism. I think for some and maybe many, this will happen. But if you truly detach, all that is left is simply: being; I am.  I have been working on this detachment of ego and just trying to be present; to create the space to be the awareness behind the ego. It is not always easy as we fall into the different roles that we play in our lives – our identities that we are attached to. There is nothing wrong with having roles as long as there is no attachment to the identity, so that being can just shine. I just keep thinking of “A New Earth” – have you looked at this book at all?  I think you would find it very interesting.  

That’s it for today….have a splendid Saturday!

Gratefully your blog host,

Michelle

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