Welcoming The Winter Solstice
Posted by Michelle Moquin on December 21st, 2010
Good morning!
I’m up early and the moon is shining through my kitchen window and it is lovely. Hey, did any of you catch the Lunar eclipse last night? Gazing at a full moon is one of my favorite things to do on a clear night. I would love to have been able to get up in the early AM and witness this once in a lifetime red gem, but an early morning meeting requires my uninterrupted beauty sleep. I HOPE some of you got to see this celestial eye candy. If not, here it is:
Winter Solstice Lunar Eclipse from William Castleman on Vimeo.
Peace & Love….
Lastly, greed over a great story is surfacing from my “loyal”(?) readers. With all this back and forth about who owns what, that appears on my blog, let me reiterate that all material posted on my blog becomes the sole property of my blog. If you want to reserve any proprietary rights don’t post it to my blog. I will prominently display this caveat on my blog from now on to remind those who may have forgotten this notice.
Gratefully your blog host,
michelle
Aka BABE: We all know what this means by now :)
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December 21st, 2010 at 9:51 am
Michelle,
Loved the short skirt. But I hope to see you in it again when you can show naked leg.
You are one beautiful girl. You are ageless. Frankly, I would do or say anything to part those beautiful legs.
Alast, I know you are too intelligent to buy my, or any horny Dude’s bullshit, as it should be for one who walks the talk of her blog.
Admiringly
Moi
December 21st, 2010 at 10:17 am
The 10-10-10 Strategy for Making Better Decisions
Suzy Welch
Most of us have trouble making decisions, especially difficult ones. And when we do make a decision, we often wonder if we made the right one.
Bottom Line/Personal interviewed noted writer Suzy Welch on her powerful new “10-10-10″ strategy for making better decisions…
WHY WE GO WRONG
The human mind is wired to be more concerned with current comfort levels than with long-term consequences.
Thus when we make decisions, we often act as if the future doesn’t exist — or at least, as if it doesn’t count for very much. Psychologists refer to this tendency as “hyperbolic discounting.”
Example: A busy man is asked to spend hours working on a project. He says yes — even though he knows that he either will have to sacrifice something more important to him or back out of this new commitment later.
He tells himself that he said yes because he wants to help. In reality, he said yes because this nets him thanks and praise, which allows him to feel good about himself right now.
Saying no would force him to endure a few minutes of guilt and discomfort.
Some people manage to overcome this tendency and focus on long-term goals — but even these seemingly responsible planners can go wrong.
The long-term consequences of our actions often are unknowable. When that’s the case, making decisions based on only the perceived long-term consequences means living life based on guesswork.
Besides, those who always sacrifice near-term happiness for long-term priorities never get to enjoy today — and there’s no certainty that we still will be here tomorrow.
Example: A man worked the four- to-midnight shift for years because it offered extra pay, helping him toward his goal of a secure retirement.
He rarely saw his family. He died before reaching his retirement age.
THREE TIME FRAMES
A better way to make decisions is to employ a 10-10-10 strategy. When faced with a crisis or decision, write down each of your options, followed by the consequences of each option in the following three time frames…
THE NEXT 10 MINUTES
Which option will make your life easiest and happiest right now and in the immediate future?
How unpleasant will the coming minutes (or hours or days) be if you choose a different alternative?
Example: Going along with your spouse’s plans avoids a fight, making the coming minutes more pleasant.
THE NEXT 10 MONTHS
This often-overlooked intermediate time frame is crucial. Ten months is long enough to be significant… yet close enough to predict with some accuracy.
Example: A man is trying to decide whether to quit his job and start a business. He knows that quitting will feel liberating in the next 10 minutes… but it’s very difficult to predict whether his business will be a success in 10 years.
This man can weigh whether the long hours and huge risks of starting a business will get him out of bed energized for the next 10 months or keep him up nights worrying… and whether his marriage and his savings will survive 10 months of long hours and limited income.
THE NEXT 10 YEARS (OR LONGER)
Which option points you toward the life you want to live? Which will stand in the way of your long-term goals?
Example: Overeating now puts you on course to look and feel worse in 10 years than you do today.
Money-wise strategy: When decisions involve spending, consider not only how much you will use and enjoy the purchase in 10 minutes, 10 months and 10 years but also how much the money spent would be worth in 10 years if it were invested.
An investment that earns 7% compound interest nearly doubles in 10 years.
If all three time frames point to the same option, your decision is made.
If not, you might have to compromise. You don’t always have to sacrifice short-term happiness for intermediate or long-term success, but you do have to be honest with yourself about what you are giving up when you choose near-term gratification.
GET HELP
When you confront major decisions, involve others in this process. Ask friends to supply their honest projections of the long-term consequences of each of your options.
Also ask if they can think of any options that you missed.
Don’t solicit input just from friends — they often think the same way you do. Also ask acquaintances who have shown that they make choices different from your own. Such people can provide new perspectives.
KNOW YOUR VALUES
To be successful, “10-10-10″ should be coupled with an understanding of one’s values. Many people have never really considered what’s most important to them… or lie to themselves about their priorities.
These people are susceptible to the two deadly G’s of decision-making — listening to one’s gut and succumbing to guilt.
The following questions can help you get to the heart of what you really want…
What would make you feel like a failure at your next milestone birthday?
Example: A woman struggling to balance a family and a time-consuming business answered, “If I let the business fail.”
Many women let guilt convince them that they must put family ahead of career. In fact, working hard is one way to set a positive example for children.
Plenty of children grow up happy and well-adjusted even though both of their parents work.
What do I want people to say about me when I’m not in the room?
Example: If you would like people to say that you’re a square dealer, you had better disclose the problems with your used car to potential buyers.
What do you love about the way your parents lived… and what do you hate?
The way we live our lives can be a reaction to the way our parents lived.
Example: A man who answers, “I disliked the silence in my parents’ home,” could make decisions in his own relationships that encourage openness.
Personal interviewed Suzy Welch, author of 10-10-10: 10 Minutes, 10 Months, 10 Years — A Life-Transforming Idea (Scribner).
She is a columnist for O, The Oprah Magazine and coauthor, with her husband, former GE CEO Jack Welch, of “The Welch Way,” a column in BusinessWeek.
Based in Boston, she is former editor in chief of Harvard Business Review. http://www.suzywelch101010.com.
December 21st, 2010 at 10:28 am
Well, you could say. Maybe? I mean lead a guy on occasionally. Give him some hope, even if it is a hopeless one.
Then, we could continue checking your blog out with the hope that ONE day you would say. “I’m going to a party at………………”
NOW that would be worth waiting for.
Seasons’ Greetings
Morris
December 21st, 2010 at 10:34 am
So, you liked that one, Michelle. Then you will positively smile at this one.
What was George W. Bush’s position on ROE vs WADE?
He didn’t care how people got out of New Orleans.
December 21st, 2010 at 10:37 am
I haven’t heard from you lately George(Our resident bigot) just wanted to extend the yule tide greetings to you and ask…
What do you call a dozen rednecks at an orgy?
Answer:
A family reunion.
Go ahead, George, laugh. It’s all in fun.
Merry Christmas to you, too.
Bob
December 21st, 2010 at 11:06 am
Peter Says:
December 21st, 2010 at 11:06 am
Hafa adai
It seems that the power of the Rump Rustling clergy of the catholic church is waning. The shit for brains outgoing governor tried to veto a bill that would force the that bunch of Butt Bandits to report allegations of child abuse or neglect.
Fortunately, the Senate over rode that veto. Now, maybe the people of Guam will begin to learn the extent the Cardinal has been going to hide his charges pedophile behavior.
He is constantly using God’s name to influence the politics of Guam. But we seldom hear the antichrist’s objection to the abuse of his fellow Ass Aficionados when they visit their evil upon the children or Guam.
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The 30th Guam Legislature successfully overrode vetoes on the following bill.
• Bill 472: Amends Guam law to require the reporting of suspected child abuse or neglect by clergy personnel of churches, or other religious organizations.
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Thank you
Guam Senate
December 21st, 2010 at 11:39 am
Michelle:
I wasn’t there but, I, like Morris, can only hope that you will be forthcoming with the 411 about the next party you go to sans Doug.
Frankly, you are just too much woman for one man! An occasional dalliance should be forgiven by Doug.
I mean, come on, Doug are you really so selfish that you would keep the entire world from appreciating such Splendor?
LLoyd
December 21st, 2010 at 4:28 pm
Will you horny men leave Michelle alone. She will never give you any play.