Men Have A Tendency To “Wander”
Posted by Michelle Moquin on May 18th, 2013
“It’s the wife’s job to focus on the positive.”
Good morning!
Ah…More words of wisdom from a girl’s fave: Pat Robertson. This ought to give you a good laugh this morning if it weren’t so sick. Aren’t you glad he’s not your daddy giving you advice. You certainly couldn’t run to mother, she married him.
Pat Robertson Tells Wife Of Cheating Husband To Be Grateful For Marriage, Make Home Enticing (VIDEO)
Pat Robertson has many opinions on subjects including homosexuality, politics and the coming of the Mark of the Beast, but it was the famous televangelist’s opinion on marriage that took center stage during Wednesday’s episode of his daily television program, “The 700 Club.”
Responding to a question from a viewer, Robertson said that married men “have a tendency to wander” and it is the spurned wife’s job to focus on the positive and make sure the home is so enticing, he doesn’t want to stray.
“I’ve been trying to forgive my husband for cheating on me,” the viewer writes. “We have gone to counseling, but I just can’t seem to forgive, nor can I trust. How do you let go of the anger? How do you trust again?”
While Robertson’s co-host hedged on the question, calling forgiveness “difficult” and spousal infidelity “one of the ultimate betrayals,” Robertson got right to the point.
“Here’s the secret,” the famous evangelical said. “Stop talking the cheating. He cheated on you, well, he’s a man.”
The wife needs to focus on the reasons she married her spouse, he continued.
“Does he provide a home for you to live in,” Robertson said. ‘Does he provide food for you to eat? Does he provide clothes for you to wear? Is he nice to the children… Is he handsome?”
Robertson also offered a little advice on the “tendency of man.”
“Recognize also, like it or not, males have a tendency to wander a little bit,” Robertson said. “What you want to do is make a home so wonderful that he doesn’t want to wander” or give in to the “salacious” magazine pictures and Internet filled with porn.
This is certainly not Robertson’s first foray into anecdotal marital counseling, however.
In January, Robertson told viewers that “awful-looking” women can cause marriages to lose their spark.
“It just isn’t something to just lie there, ‘Well, I’m married to him so he’s got to take me slatternly looking,’” he said. “You’ve got to fix yourself up, look pretty.”
Similarly, in 2010 the host advised a woman complaining about her husband’s flirtatious ways not to “hassle him about it” and just make herself as attractive as possible.
He also once told a husband upset that his wife didn’t respect him that he could always just “become a Muslim and you could beat her.”
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May 18th, 2013 at 1:25 pm
Juanita Says:
May 18th, 2013 at 9:44 am
#38:
You said it right girl. White men are no different than any of those islamic assholes. The only different is that OTWs and white women got the vote.
What do you think would have happened if OTWs and women hadn’t gotten the vote?
The mormons and the catholic church would have us being raped in marriages and forced to marry whoever the men wanted us to.
Whites are so used to accepting the abuse of others that it takes someone special to remind them they are basically monsters.
I live in a privileged family that uses racial slurs every day in private, but publicly you would think we are practically liberal.
My best friend is an ex mormon. My parents refuse to allow her into our home for fear of the retribution (dad doesn’t want to lose the mormon business) that could rain down on us here in Utah.
I don’t care what anyone says according to my friend they still practice forcing women to marry who they tell them to. It is sickening!
May 18th, 2013 at 9:37 pm
Two Guam soldiers dead in Afghanistan
Gov. Eddie Calvo has confirmed that two Guam National Guardsman have died in Afghanistan.
While providing the opening remarks at a Memorial Day vigil tonight, the governor said Sgt. Eugene Aguon and Spc. Dwayne Flores, two National Guardsmen from Guam were killed in Afghanistan.
The governor has also declared a state of mourning in response to their deaths.
No details surrounding their deaths were immediately available.
The U.S. Department of Defense is responsible for issuing all announcements regarding soldiers who are killed in action. Currently, there are no recent news releases posted on the Defense Department’s website.
Earlier this week, the Associated Press reported that three American troops died Tuesday when a roadside bomb struck a convoy in Kandahar, which is in the country’s southern region and is about 65 miles from the Afghan-Pakistani border.
NATO officials initially reported that four soldiers died, though they later reduced the tally.
On Thursday, the AP reported that a suicide bomb killed two NATO service members and four contractors in Kabul, the nation’s capital. The nationalities and identities of those people haven’t been released.
This story is developing.
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May they Rest In Peace and may God give comfort to their families.
Anna
May 18th, 2013 at 9:55 pm
700 Club issues apology on behalf of Pat Robertson
They need to put old robertson out to pasture.
http://www.examiner.com/articl…at-robertson?cid=rss
May 18th, 2013 at 9:56 pm
Can’t see anyone agreeing with the old fool about anything.
May 18th, 2013 at 9:57 pm
Robertson should know about lust and self-control (or lack thereof) as well as deception. He fathered his first child outside marriage and he lied about that for a long time before the truth was exposed:
“For decades Robertson said that he and his wife were married in March 1954, nine months before his first son’s birthday. When he ran for President, however, Time magazine dug up Robertson’s marriage license, and found that he was married in August of 1954, about ten weeks before his first son’s birthday.
Robertson said he and his wife had always celebrated their anniversary in March, on his own birthday, “because our son was conceived that day.” In more recent public biographies, Robertson’s wedding date is listed correctly, but now his firstborn son is frequently listed as having been born in 1955.”
http://www.nndb.com/people/552/000022486/
What a weasel!
May 18th, 2013 at 10:03 pm
Gwen: Can’t see anyone agreeing with the old fool about anything.
Not sure who you are talking about, but God is very clear about it…
Matthew 5:22
“But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother will be liable to judgment; whoever insults his brother will be liable to the council; and whoever says, ‘You fool!’ will be liable to the hell of fire.”
May 19th, 2013 at 9:08 am
Camilla, fool
/fo͞ol/
Noun
A person who acts unwisely or imprudently; a silly person
Synonyms
noun. simpleton – dolt – tomfool – ninny – nincom****
In this case I’m “speaking” of robertson. The word fool is a part of our language, if you don’t like it, don’t use it, but please don’t try to scare someone with your mythical hell because of a simple word.
That makes you look just as foolish as he looks. Especially when you try to use the threat against someone who doesn’t believe in your heaven/hell/skydaddy.
May 19th, 2013 at 9:10 am
Nothing truly great will happen in this country until the demographics change. As long as whites have the vote majority, we will continue to spiral down.
May 20th, 2013 at 9:24 am
Get More Money for College—Avoid These 6 Traps
To get the most financial aid possible for college, you and your child need to understand how the complicated eligibility formulas work. This applies whether the assistance is in the form of need-based scholarships or grants that don’t need to be paid back or federally subsidized loans.
This is especially important in light of the increased competition for financial aid in recent years.
Traps to avoid…
TRAP 1:
Waiting until your child’s senior year of high school to think about financial aid. During that year, you can submit the Free Application for Federal Student Aid (FAFSA), starting January 1, and possibly other forms, which may be required earlier.
But the financial criteria that determine your financial-aid package are based in part on your family’s income for the entire calendar year before your child enrolls in college.
In other words, the year that really counts is the calendar year that begins January 1 during your child’s junior year of high school and runs through December 31 in his/her senior year. This is known as the first “base income year,” and it’s critical because financial-aid officers use it as a basis for the first year’s financial-aid package.
For many people, it’s important to act in advance of the first base income year to aggressively lower the income that you will report on the aid forms for that base income year (as well as the remaining base income years that follow during college because financial-aid forms must be submitted for each year and your eligibility is reassessed each time).
For aid purposes, your income includes your Adjusted Gross Income (AGI) if you file taxes plus various types of untaxed income. For most families, income plays the biggest role in determining the amount of college costs that your family is expected to be able to pay—known as the “expected family contribution,” or EFC—under various aid formulas.
Ways to reduce income…
Accelerate sales of any stocks or property that you are ready to sell and that will have capital gains. You should do this prior to any base income year. In addition, try to offset capital gains with capital losses during any base income year.
Avoid overpaying state and local taxes in the year prior to the base income year if you are going to itemize your deductions. Reason: If you overpay these taxes in the year before the base income year, you’ll receive refunds for the overpayment during the base year—and these refunds will be considered part of your AGI.
Helpful:
It also makes sense to reduce your assets before you file your aid forms because assets are another important factor in determining financial aid.
Although you don’t want to go on a shopping spree to reduce the amount of cash you have in your bank accounts, consider paying off credit card and car-loan debt or spending money on a major purchase or project that you were planning anyway, such as buying a new car or fixing the roof on your house.
TRAP 2:
Not filing a FAFSA because you believe that your income is too high for you to qualify for aid.
There are many other factors that determine aid eligibility, including the cost of the school. In some cases, families with incomes above $100,000 or even $200,000 qualify for assistance—especially if there will be more than one child in college during the same academic year or a child is attending a private college.
TRAP 3:
Putting money in your child’s name. If you are otherwise eligible for aid—especially need-based scholarships and grants—avoid custodial accounts (UTMAs or UGMAs) and trust funds.
Reason: The federal government and colleges figure that a student should be required to spend a far greater percentage of his own money for college than his parents’ money, so student assets have a far greater impact on lowering your family’s eligibility for financial assistance.
In determining aid eligibility, up to just 5.65% of parental assets are counted in the aid formulas, compared with 20% to 25% of a student’s assets. (Retirement accounts generally are excluded in the aid formulas for both parents and students.)
What to do: Think twice before putting assets in a child’s name.
TRAP 4:
Encouraging your child to earn large amounts of money during college years. Some parents push their children to work so much to help pay for college that it cuts into their study time.
They may not realize that under the FAFSA formula, once the child’s income exceeds a certain amount in the base income year ($6,130 for the 2013–2014 school year), he may lose 50 cents of financial aid for every dollar above that. For some schools, the trigger number is as low as $4,147.
Exception: Earnings from a federal work-study program are excluded from income in the aid formulas. (For more on federal work-study jobs, see StudentAid.ed.gov. Under “Types of Aid,” click “Work-Study Jobs.”)
TRAP 5:
Letting grandparents chip in too directly. Generous grandparents can be an enormous help in funding a college education, but they also can hurt a student’s financial-aid eligibility if their contributions are not handled correctly.
For instance, some grandparents write a check directly to the school to cover a portion of the child’s educational expenses. That’s not a good idea because such payments can reduce financial aid on a dollar-for-dollar basis.
Other grandparents establish 529 college savings plans in their own names with their grandchildren as the beneficiaries. Unlike 529s owned by parents or students, the money in a grandparent-owned 529 doesn’t need to be reported on the FAFSA at all.
Problem:
Distributions from grandparent 529s are considered part of the student’s base year income, whereas distributions from parent- or student-owned 529s are not counted as income in the financial-aid calculations.
My advice:
If your goal is to maximize your financial aid, the grandparents could simply hold off on contributing to the grandchild’s education finances at all until the student graduates, then help him pay off his student loans.
Alternatively, if a grandparent already has established a 529 college savings plan, he might wait until after the final financial-aid application for the student’s college years is filed before making a distribution—that typically means after January 1 of the grandchild’s junior year of college.
TRAP 6:
Not cooperating with the student’s other parent if you are divorced or separated. Only the “custodial” parent is required to list his income or assets on a FAFSA.
That’s the parent with whom the student has lived the majority of time in the 12 months preceding the day the application is filed, regardless of who has legal custody or who claims the child as a dependent on his/her tax returns. The finances of the noncustodial parent are not considered at all by most colleges when awarding aid.
So if you are looking for the biggest aid package at one of those colleges, you may decide to have the child live primarily with the parent who can demonstrate the most need for financial assistance.
However, some colleges—primarily some very selective private colleges and some state universities—do require financial information from the noncustodial parent and his/her spouse when awarding the school’s own financial aid. (That is not the case with federal aid.)
Keep in mind that if the custodial parent has remarried, the stepparent’s income and assets must be included on the FAFSA and possibly other aid applications.
Source: Kalman A. Chany, founder and president of Campus Consultants, a New York City–based company founded in 1984 that has helped thousands of families maximize their financial aid.
He is author of Paying for College Without Going Broke (Princeton Review). http://www.CampusConsultants.com