“…Did They Live Happily Ever After?”
Posted by Michelle Moquin on April 10th, 2009
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April 10th, 2009 at 10:07 am
That little girl is so intelligent. I wish I had an ounce of her intuitiveness before I married my “priince.” We were married for 31 years before he left me for a younger “princess.”
April 10th, 2009 at 10:14 am
Whether married to them or not men can be hellish to women. This movie is based on a true story. It shows that white men are still using the law to f**k over OTWs. But it also shows that a woman can f**k back with a man if given half an opportunity.
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American Violet
In theaters: April 17, 2009Copyright © 2009 Samuel Goldwyn Films
Based on true events in the midst of the 2000 election, AMERICAN VIOLET tells the astonishing story of Dee Roberts (critically hailed newcomer Nicole Beharie), a 24 year-old African American single mother of four young girls living in a small Texas town who is barely making ends meet on a waitress’ salary and government subsidies.
On an early November morning while Dee works a shift at the local diner, the powerful local district attorney (Academy AwardR nominee Michael O’Keefe) leads an extensive drug bust, sweeping her Arlington Springs housing project with military precision. Police drag Dee from work in handcuffs, dumping her in the squalor of the women’s county prison. Indicted based on the uncorroborated word of a single and dubious police informant facing his own drug charges,
Dee soon discovers she has been charged as a drug dealer. Even though Dee has no prior drug record and no drugs were found on her in the raid or any subsequent searches, she is offered a hellish choice: plead guilty and go home as a convicted felon or remain in prison and fight the charges thus, jeopardizing her custody and risking a long prison sentence.
Despite the urgings of her mother (Academy AwardR nominee Alfre Woodard), and with her freedom and the custody of her children at stake, she chooses to fight the district attorney and the unyielding criminal justice system he represents. Joined in an unlikely alliance with an ACLU attorney (Tim Blake Nelson) and former local narcotics officer (Will Patton), Dee risks everything in a battle that forever changes her life and the Texas justice system. AMERICAN VIOLET also stars Emmy Award winner Charles S. Dutton and Xzibit.
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Robert
April 10th, 2009 at 10:52 am
Oh girl that is the one. I am teaching my little girl to that she can do anything with or without a man. Her father left me for a younger woman. He pretended to be such a prince. So good to me and my daughter. It was all lies. He was having an affair the whole time.
He waited until it was advantageous for him financially. Then he slithered off, taking the hidden assets with him. Women need to be less romantic and more alert when in a relationship.
Ruth
April 10th, 2009 at 10:59 am
Michelle, Why didn’t I see that before I met my “prince?” Here in India we women are indoctrinated with that story about a man saving us from the mean world. Men, they are the mean world.
My husband can do anything he wants. He and his fellow married men cheat all the time. If we wives do anything that could embarrass the men we are ostracized by our own mothers and families. I hate being married. It has been 11 years of hell.
There are not princes.
Malaini
April 10th, 2009 at 11:05 am
Just a shoutout to those of you who may not be familiar with he was a real fighter for Guam’s environmental integrity. He passed and he is remembered in this article.
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Guam loses Victor Wuerch: Let’s remember work of territorial hydrogeologist
BY TAMMY JO ANDERSON • FOR PACIFIC DAILY NEWS • APRIL 11, 2009
Victor Wuerch left a very real fingerprint on Guam. Many people knew Vic from his work as Guam’s Territorial Hydrogeologist.
Vic was one of the rare people who understand that Guam’s natural resources are the key to living here. He did everything he could to use his knowledge and wit to see the right thing was done.
You could always count on Vic to speak up about a project he thought might damage a watershed, or the Northern Guam Lens, for decades.
His fingerprint will be forever pressed into the numerous projects he worked on throughout his career.
He joined the Guam Environmental Protection Agency in the late 1980s. He started with solid waste and hazardous waste issues. His assistance helped negotiate the cleanup process at Andersen Air Force Base between U.S. EPA and the military. Because of his work, many contaminated sites around the island have been cleaned.
Between these meetings, Wuerch spent two decades studying Guam’s groundwater and geology. These studies were a consequence of his deep concern for Guam’s water as a natural resource. He helped lead major studies about Guam’s Northern Lens, our main source of drinking water. He assisted with the selection of a site for the new landfill.
Once I sat in his office and learned about how he used dye to see how quickly water gets from Harmon into the water lens. He also explained that rainfall can reach the Lens in a matter of mere minutes. I left the conversation wondering if people who live above the Lens knew how soon their actions could affect our drinking water.
Vic required people, myself included, to think. His intelligence and humor were key to many successful environmental decisions on Guam. His disapproval and criticism were evident at the many unsuccessful ones.
He valued clear and critical thinking, but not as much as he valued his family. Vic loved his wife, Ching, and son, Tiger, with his whole heart. They were his pride and joy.
Last month Vic’s family and the island unexpectedly lost this father and Guam lost a friend and valued scientist.
At his memorial service a letter was read from Herb Levine of U.S. EPA.
“We all remember Vic as an intelligent, kind and generous person,” Levine wrote. “As a work colleague Vic was unparalleled in his integrity and knowledge. He was dedicated towards protecting and preserving Guam’s groundwater resource. Vic always brought a clear vision, critical thinking and sound science to his work. Guam has lost a vital advocate and protector of this precious resource.”
Many professionals on Guam will remember Vic for his scientific mind. His wife and son will remember him for his love. The folks at Guam EPA will remember him for his humor and dedication to doing the right thing.
Let us all remember his life and work by doing our best to think clearly and keep drinking water safe. Rest in peace, Vic, knowing that the island was better with your presence.
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Hafa adai
Anna
April 10th, 2009 at 11:10 am
Michelle, you are so aware of what we women are going through. Here on Guam a woman is taught to define herself by whether or not she can attract a man. Like most men I have known they are opportunists. They main remain “faithful” for years, but if an opportunity that they feel they can get away with arises, they will take it.
You could die thinking that your man was a prince. But it would be a crock of s**t. Even on this small island where it is very difficult to keep a secret, men cheat at as astounding rate. They experience very little repercussions because women are taught to forgive.
Anna
April 10th, 2009 at 12:05 pm
Robert
The whites in Texas may have been temporarily (white racism never sleeps) stopped from railroading OTWs into prison, but in Riverside CA, they are alive and well.
A civil rights group has filed a lawsuit against the Moreno Valley Pollice Department, the Riverside Sheriff’s Department and a state inspection board claiming black-owned barbershops were racially targeted for warrant less raids.
The American Civl Liberties Union of Southern California said it filed te lawsuit Wednesday in federal court. It alleges officers and California Board of Barbering and Cosmetology inspectors burst into barbershops with guns and bulletproof vests and questioned clients. The ACLU also says they searched under the false pretext that the searches were part of a health inspection.
One can change the location, but if the municipal, state, or federal law is controlled by white men, there will be injustice for OTWs. That’s why the death penalty can never be condoned by OTWs. We know that it will never be administered fairly as long as most of the judges and juries are made up of whites.
Today capital punishment is just a way for white men to cover up their crimes of false indictments and lying prosecutors. Once the OTW is executed, there is no possibility that they will get caught. They are killing our children with this new legal lynching.
Paul
April 10th, 2009 at 12:16 pm
Michelle
I laughed when I first watched your video. When my girlfriend came over for her morning coffee and for our joint perusing of your blog, she saw it and burst into tears. I held her and asked what was wrong. She said that her husband who had passed away three years ago had had two children by a woman he worked with for 23 years.
I was shocked. This man was a deacon in our church. Thousands had come to moan his loss. We thought they had the perfect marriage. He was a true prince to her. He was always so attentive to her in public. She said he was the same way privately. But when he died the other woman came and told her the truth. They had had a running affair for 21 years. He had purchased her a home and left the kids an equal share with his legal two kids in his will.
She said that she had kept it secret to protect his reputation and to spare her own family any embarrassment. She said that she has been at odds with her children since because they wanted to expose the sleaze bag for what he was.
Thank you Michelle for providing a vehicle for my best friend to open up. She has been caring this burden for too long by herself.
Meka
April 10th, 2009 at 12:19 pm
Wow! What a story. Makes me wonder. I too laughed when I played your video.
April 10th, 2009 at 12:33 pm
Are You Drinking Too Many Calories?
Barry Popkin, PhD
University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill
Most Americans get more than 20% of their total daily calories from beverages — twice as many as they did 30 years ago. In fact, the alarming increase in obesity rates in the US — two-thirds of Americans are considered overweight or obese — seems to be directly related to our consumption of caloric beverages.
The dramatic increase in the typical beverage serving size is part of the problem. Bottle sizes for soda are up 65% from a century ago — and in just the 12 years from 1990 to 2002 (the last year for which statistics are available), the number of ounces in the typical soda bottle increased by 25%. Drinking just one 16-ounce cola a day can increase body weight by nearly 21 pounds, on average, over the course of a year.
The growing popularity of sports drinks and other high-calorie beverages, such as coffee drinks, “energy” drinks and sweetened iced-tea beverages, also plays a role. And even though most people are drinking more of these beverages than in the past, they are not eating any less.
Why not? Our brains do not register that we feel full when we drink calorie-rich beverages. That’s because humans have historically satisfied their thirst by consuming water — a beverage with no calories. If we felt hungry but filled up on water and did not eat as a result, our health would be severely compromised. Therefore, our brains still recognize hunger and thirst as needs that can only be satiated separately.
WHAT TO DRINK
To stay healthy, you do not have to limit your beverage consumption to water alone. Instead, you should begin by becoming aware of what you are drinking. On average, American adults consume 101.5 ounces of beverages daily.
A Beverage Guidance System, recently created by a panel of leading nutrition experts, recommends maximum intakes for each of the following beverages…
Water: Seventy-two to 104 ounces of water daily (tap or bottled).
Black, unsweetened coffee or tea: Up to 32 ounces of coffee or 64 ounces of tea daily. (Adding up to one teaspoon of sugar to each eight ounces of coffee or tea is acceptable.)
Diet soda or other zero-calorie sweetened beverages: Up to 32 ounces per day.
Skim or low-fat milk: Up to 16 ounces daily.
100% fruit juices, whole milk, sports drinks, soft drinks and other sweetened beverages: Up to eight ounces per day.
Alcohol: Up to one drink a day for women and up to two drinks daily for men. One drink equals 12 ounces of beer, 5 ounces of wine or 1.5 ounces of distilled spirits.
WHAT NOT TO DRINK
New vitamin-fortified beverages are being introduced, including Diet Coke Plus (fortified with niacin, vitamins B-6 and B-12, zinc and magnesium) and PepsiCo’s Tava (fortified with vitamins B-3, B-6 and E and chromium). Vitamin-fortified water has been available for the past decade.
Virtually all research showing that fortified beverages are beneficial — by increasing energy, for example — is funded by the beverage companies.
Many medical experts are concerned that these beverages can be dangerous if consumed in excess — vitamin deficiencies are rare in the US, so drinking too many fortified beverages could result in a toxic buildup of some nutrients.
For example, too much beta-carotene, a nutrient found in some mixed vegetable/fruit drinks, can raise heart disease risk, while high amounts of caffeine can cause spikes in blood pressure.
Better way to get your essential nutrients: Eat a well-balanced diet and take a daily multivitamin.
/Health interviewed Barry Popkin, PhD, a researcher specializing in obesity. He is the Carla Smith Chamblee Distinguished Professor of Global Nutrition at the University of North Carolina and directs the university’s Interdisciplinary Center for Obesity, both in Chapel Hill. He led a panel of scholars that developed a Beverage Guidance System for American consumers.
April 10th, 2009 at 12:49 pm
“what a pile of shit.” INDEED!!!!
I am a Aussie and I can tell you the men here are dogs. The blokes are mean as cat’s piss if you pas on em. But you have to because most around here are bludgers. I rather drink with the flies than deal with the little doodle wonders.
Me and my mates read your blog all the time. And we agree that the blokes can’t be trusted. They will marry you, and lie to you while chasing every sheila in sight.
Belle
April 10th, 2009 at 3:19 pm
I sit in Africa watching CNN. Every other word from the american announcer is “the most powerful navy in the world” and then they finish the sentence. If this is what “the most powerful navy in the world” can do in a crisis, then the rest of the world has nothing to fear from that inept group.
The French navy was faced with the same dilemma yesterday. Somali pirates had several french hostages aboard their boat. The french stormed the boat. One hostage and two pirates were killed. The rest were rescued. That is a powerful navy by virtue of its deeds.
You americans are but talk. No balls, no will. Is it any wonder you are not respected. It has been often said that american love wrestling because it is a fake sport where they can feel good about themselves. The rest of the innocent world can not depend on “the most power -fill in the blank-” to help with anything but boasting.
The somali pirates are not afraid to send their own boats out to confront “the most powerful navy in the world.” What they are saying to us is that you can not count on these braggarts to do anything but hold their balls and talk.
I am sick of this would be policeman of the world having no stomach for conflict when confronted. I hope my country puts its fate in the Chinese or Russians. They have the might and the balls to use it on their enemies and to protect their friends.
Jata
April 10th, 2009 at 3:30 pm
Thank you Michelle for playing that video. It should be played for every young woman. This myth of a prince as a woman’s need for protection and support is long over due to be ditched.
My 16 year old laughed when she saw the video. She said that she will be the princess by her own merit. I smiled and my husband said “you’re going to raise a dike.” He loves his daughter. She is much smarter than her 15 year and 22 year old brothers. He is grooming her to take over the family business to the chagrin of her older brother.
He is the typical male who thinks that it is the man’s place to be the head of the household. He has switched in college from christianity to being a mormon because he sees more financial opportunity in it. And his “wife will respect his manhood.”
Oh yeah, this is a “prince” in the making.
Karen
April 10th, 2009 at 3:40 pm
Jata, I’m American, but I’m with you. Who are those inept bunglers flying the American flag? The Captain jumped over board and swam towards the American ship. What were they doing?
If this were an american movie, the we would have blew up the three in the boat that were shooting at the swimming captain and shot the pirate that dived in to bring back the captain. ——Patriotic music, high fives, panning views of celebrating military men- end of movie.
In reality we sat on our hands and allowed the pirate to drag the captain back onto the boat. Is it any wonder that the pirates have been emboldened and they are now sending other pirate ships to confront “the most powerful navy in the world.”
Fucking shoot somebody already and stop wasting our taxpayers money on these four criminals. Where is Anonz when we need him? You may have to leave Sudan and help our leaderless boys to find their way. Perhaps you can tell “the most powerful navy in the world” to follow those pirates boats to shore and blow them the fuck up.
Frank
April 10th, 2009 at 3:50 pm
Thanks Michelle for your insightful video. I will comment later. Right now I want to mention another white boy insult to OTWs. The University of Arizona is saying they will not give a honorary doctorate to President Obama because he hasn’t done anything to deserve it.
This is an honor given routinely to anyone who gives the speech to the schools graduating class. It is another attempt for this racist state to perpetuate the stereotype that OTWs aren’t as intelligent or as accomplished as whites.
Truly racism is a neurosis with some whites. I am almost embarrassed to be one.
Sandra
April 10th, 2009 at 3:52 pm
What the hell is happening? Why do we need another war ship to handle a few burr heads? SHOOT THE BLACK BASTARDS. Then drag their dead asses aboard and hang them.
April 10th, 2009 at 4:07 pm
I wish there was the freedom to run that video in my country. Women here are forced to accept their princes. We are but chattel in a man’s home.
Shulgareh
April 10th, 2009 at 4:10 pm
speaking of Princes, where is our Anonz? What is going on Zen Lill? Have you two settled down? Is Michelle afraid to let her blog know that you have taken him off the market?
Are we stuck with the Tom’s of the world? Anonz where are you?
Shawn
April 10th, 2009 at 7:33 pm
CHECK HOSPITAL’S QUALITY RATINGS BEFORE YOU ENTER
We live in an age of increasing accountability. Safety and “on time” information is available about airports and airlines… public schools are ranked on standardized test performance and other measures… and hospitals now make public all kinds of information on medical errors, safety and infection rates that was once kept behind close doors, if it was recorded at all. The trend toward transparency in health care means consumers can — and should — look at data about a hospital before making a decision to become a patient there. The only problem is it’s hard to know where to look and what to make of the information you find. It’s easier to compare quality and performance data for cars and computers than to weigh the quality and safety of one hospital against another.
I consulted two experts in the field — Jim Conway, senior vice president at the Institute for Healthcare Improvement (IHI), a Cambridge, Massachusetts, nonprofit organization dedicated to the improvement of global health care… and Harlan M. Krumholz, MD, a professor of medicine and epidemiology and public health at Yale University in New Haven, Connecticut, for advice on how to navigate what’s available. Everyone is hard at work trying to figure out how to measure and present this information, they told me. “This kind of measurement is not easy,” Dr. Krumholz said. “As they say, we are still in the first half of the first inning. Yet we do have more information than we’ve had before.”
WHAT’S AVAILABLE NOW: NATIONAL RESOURCES FOR CONSUMERS
Thanks to assorted Web sites, we can access data on infection rates, patient experience, safety figures, mortality and how many patients with a particular condition the hospital treats each year, as well as how hospitals stack up when it comes to following recognized standards of care for common medical problems such as heart attacks, congestive heart failure and pneumonia. A tool called Hospital Compare by Hospital Quality Alliance reflects patients’ insights on their hospital care and offers quality information in a format that facilitates straightforward comparison among hospitals (www.HospitalCompare.hhs.gov). Additional options come from the nonprofit National Quality Forum (NQF), http://www.qualityforum.org and the Agency for Healthcare Research and Quality (AHRG), http://www.ahrq.gov. Some states have their own Web sites, many of which are in their very early stages.
A study at the Harvard School of Public Health demonstrated that when people go to hospitals ranked high in quality by Hospital Quality Alliance, they have a lower risk of dying than at hospitals that rank lower. Both Conway and Dr. Krumholz acknowledged, however, that it’s not easy to get truly accurate information on a particular hospital. No single set of data will answer all your questions. It’s best to look at several sources before making decisions.
In addition to those listed above, Conway recommended a few more sites that offer helpful information on hospitals around the country…
• The Joint Commission, http://www.jointcommission.org. Formerly known as JCAHO (Joint Commission on Accreditation of Healthcare Organizations), the independent, nonprofit Joint Commission is the nation’s major accrediting body in health care. Look for information about nearly 15,000 accredited hospitals, health care organizations and other health care programs in the US. Each quality report includes details about a hospital’s performance and how it compares with other Joint Commission-accredited organizations. Consumers can search for a hospital or other health care organization by name, zip code or state. http://www.qualitycheck.org.
• The Leapfrog Group, http://www.leapfroggroup.org. This not-for-profit, employer-based coalition — which includes major health care purchasers such as General Motors — tracks data on 30 safe practices (such as hand washing and the presence of specialized medical personnel in intensive care units) at some 1,300 hospitals in major communities.
STATE RESOURCES MAY BE BETTER
While inroads are being made, reliable performance data collection and comparison is spotty on the national level. In many cases, advises Conway, you’ll get better, more accurate information by checking sites that provide hospital information state by state. For example, one Minnesota Web site now publishes “never events” (the term used to describe serious adverse events that should never occur, such as surgery on the wrong body part) that have happened in the state’s hospitals or ambulatory surgical centers.
STATE WEB SITES THAT REPORT QUALITY DATA INCLUDE:
• California: calhospitalcompare.org
• Colorado: cohospitalquality,org
• Florida: floridahealthfinder.gov and floridainformedpatient.com
• Georgia: gahospitalqualitycheck.org
• Iowa: ihconline.org/iowareport/iowareport.cfm
• Kentucky: kyha.com/QualityData
• Massachusetts: paientsfirstma.org and mhap.org/quality/whatisquality.asp?nav=030000
• Michigan: mha.org/mha_app/keystone/index.isp
• Minnesota: mnhospitalquality.org and health.state.mn.us/patientsafety/
• Missouri: focusonhospitals.com
• New Hampshire: nhqualitycare.org
• New Mexico: nmhhsa.org
• North Carolina: NCHospitalQuality.org
• New York: health.state.ny.us and hospitals.nyhealth.gov
• Ohio: ohiohospitalquality.com
• Oregon: orhospitalquality.org
• Pennsylvania: phcqa.org
• Utah: utcheckpointorg
• Vermont: vahs.org/Act53/Act53Main.htm
• Washington: wahospitalquality.org
• Wisconsin: wahospitalquality.org
Other states have Web sites in varying stages of development. Most of these are still in their very early stages and therefore vary in quality. Wisconsin’s site is generally considered the gold standard, and Minnesota and Pennsylvania Web sites are also considered very good by industry professionals. If you can’t find information for your state here, go to your state’s health agency for more information. The FDA provides links at fda.gov/oca/sthealth.htm.
NOT YET TRANSPARENT
With fewer than 50% of states providing data and the national sites being somewhat inconsistent, there’s still a distance to go in creating truly transparent hospital information. The data is stacking up and steps are being taken in the right direction, such as the release last year of Hospital Compare data listing hospitals with the best and worst mortality rates for heart attack and heart failure patients. But that was just a baby step, since out of nearly 4,453 hospitals examined, 17 were ranked better than expected, seven were worse and the rest were as expected. They used “30-Day Risk-Adjusted Death (Mortality) Rates,” because this time frame is when deaths are more likely to be associated with the care from a hospital. Clearly we need numbers that are more precise than those. Transparency is an excellent goal, but translucent is a better description of how things are right now.
Source(s): ?
Jim Conway, senior vice president, Institute for Healthcare Improvement (IHI), nonprofit organization dedicated to the improvement of health care throughout the world.
Harlan M. Krumholz, MD, professor of medicine and epidemiology and public health (cardiology), Yale University School of Medicine, Section of Cardiovascular Medicine, New Haven, Connecticut.