This ‘N That ChitChat
Posted by Michelle Moquin on January 4th, 2010
Good Monday morning.
I have to admit, the holidays have influenced me in a bad way. I have been sleeping past 8 and as much as I love the extra (?) sleep, I need to get back into my routine of waking @ 6 to get my day going. Today was not the day to start, but tomorrow will be.
I blogged a little over a month ago that I needed to put my blog second behind some personal matters. I have, but the ease of the holidays, parties, and family gatherings sort of slipped in there too and occupied some time that I didn’t factor in. Such is life.
And I have to admit that trying to write my write and not connect with all of you, or give my full two, has been challenging. I am not very good at doing anything and not putting my whole heart into it. I have seen a difference in my writing as I had expected, but I have to say I don’t like it. Love is in the details, and in this case ‘good editing’. Well, it is what it is – Ugh, that sounds so 2009. Can we think of another catch phrase for twenty-ten? :)
I guess the saving grace, although not for those of you who have been trying to comment, is that it has been challenging for all of you to write in, let alone ‘see’ my blog these days so there are not many comments to respond to. That in itself gives me a break, but hey, it is not my desire. Except, of course, the lucky regulars who seem have a free pass when it comes to commenting. I’m not sure who’s got their finger controlling the flow.
Zen Lill: I wanted to make a comment back in regards to ‘happiness’. I appreciate your thoughts on this. I just want to add that I do think that happiness can be manifested. I am not saying that there are not things in life that can make someone unhappy. There are plenty. But I do find that when one is unhappy about something, one can always find something that can change their emotion instantly if one chooses.
I am not saying to not honor unhappiness, but it is easy to dwell on all that is not good, and continue down that path. I say choose happiness instead. Again, it may not be as easy as said, speaking from experience :), but it is a choice that one can choose, in my opinion. I have seen this time and time again in my own life. I can read, or even think about something sad or disappointing in my life, and find myself in tears and upset, and I can ‘switch’ to a beautiful thought, or appreciate and be grateful for something, and my emotional state can instantly change, if I chose to change. That is really the key…to choose. Sometimes I choose to stay with my unhappy thoughts and be miserable…be with it.
It is our thoughts that bring on the emotion of happiness or unhappiness. So yes I do think you can focus on happiness or plan it. Actions are a part of it, but too many people rely on an actions to fulfill their happiness. “Oh I’ll be happy when I get this new job, or this new relationship, or this (action) happens.” Thoughts precede action. And as we all know, the mind is a very powerful thing. Pleasure can be attained strictly by the power of thought, and sometimes a lot easier than by the action itself. Happy thoughts are accessible now. Happiness is a state of mind. And again, just my two. Thanks for continuing the discussion!
I would love to catch up with you live. Let’s try to talk this week -okay?
Anna: I just want to tell you that I finally did receive your DVD in the mail – thank you! That was so kind of you. Your persistency worked. I watched it and I have to say that Guam is beautiful. Of course I love the beaches, being an island girl at heart! Ritidian Beach is so appealing, and ‘lover’s point’…well what can I say, I would love to go there with my lover :). Hopefully some day I will. And the food…my kind of nibbles. It all looked simply delicious. Thank you for sharing your world with me. Hafa Adai.
Readers: I’m done for the day. If you have anything to say, blog me. Otherwise, I’ll catch you here tomorrow.
Gratefully your blog host,
michelle
Aka BABE: Your Bad Ass Bitch Editor
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January 4th, 2010 at 2:14 pm
Hi Mischa,
aaah I think I was just in a contrary mood that day : ) hee hee, just wanted to throw that out there bc a lot of manifesto-ing is just that. I do believe in thought changing, however one must have the emotional capability to do that, now that’s worth reading up on. A New Earth is a good start in that regard. Reading and writing a manifesto on happiness just won’t cut it without the ability to thought change or to look at a situation through new eyes, if you will.
Like the saying goes, when the student is ready to learn the master will appear. Many people are not in that place emotionally (to think things through differently) and they tend to ‘manifesto’ their way to a new place. while I totally agree with what you just said above, the action I meant was staying in the moment, let it in – let it flow -bring in a thought/action to partake or change what’s going on…though when something fully distressing is going on, I see no reason to snap out of it too soon either, I go with it knowing that in the grander scheme of things, this too will pass and staying with a low flow just might offer an new opportunity to seek a new path for handling a given sitch.
I hear you though…it can be simple…and sometimes I just sit and ponder the complexities too much ( a very human quality, hahaha) I just found a new way to ‘stop’ the other day, just stating what’s going round and round in my mind out loud, (bc I can tend to overthink and that takes up energy and sucks up the ability to just say stop and think that beautiful thought and I hate sharing a passing mini-issue with anyone bc I know I can sort it on my own, maybe I should change THAT?!) so whereever I wouldn’t be overheard, I found myself saying out loud, ‘why, why would so and so do that, it’s just not possible…so not like them’ etc…and sure enough it turned out to be a story gone awry in the retelling, a total misread on something but I let it hurt me temporarily, what can I tell you, I’m a sensitive chick.
Anyway, there are days when it feels like just you and me here : ) I don’t mind, I know that someday soon we’ll tune in and there’ll be 30 comments
Catching up by phone will be a good thing, Weds aft or Th/Fr work for me so let me know…have to go start up that working thing now, no mo’ holiday : (
Luv, Zen Lill