Being Jobless Can Be The Impetus To Something Great
Posted by Michelle Moquin on July 20th, 2010
Good morning.
Zen Lill: To answer your question, if one looks at all that is going on in the world, one could be so overwhelmed, that one might not do anything. I write about a myriad of subjects and issues, but that doesn’t mean that everyone needs to do something about every issue. I just HOPE that each and every one of my readers finds something inside of themselves that says, “Enough”, something that touches them deeply, and drives them to do something. My suggestion for you, is to stick with one issue, and run with it.
Readers: We all don’t have the time to do everything, but we all have a little time to do something. And some of us have more time to do more. What I find is that most people do very little or nothing, which leaves very few to do everything. But this challenging economy has changed some people.
Many people because they are unemployed, and have been for quite some time, are feeling useless. They feel like they are not contributing to their society, much less their household. I believe that as bad as unemployment is, it has been the driving force for some people to get more involved…for some people to reach out to others that are in worse financial, health or “whatever” situations.
By helping others, people gain a sense of purpose, that in turn has given them a more positive outlook. The end result is that being jobless, something that made people feel useless was now the impetus that has lead them to doing something great. A win win for everyone.
I have had this article on my blog list for a few months. In my midst of my busyness I have forgotten about it until now. It is a wonderful article that Arianna Huffington wrote; its content still valid today and possibly even more so with the unemployment rate where it is. I think it is a fantastic and inspiring read.
What Soldiers at War Can Teach Us About Surviving Financial Warfare
On last week’s Real Time, Bill Maher had a fascinating conversation with Sebastian Junger about Junger’s new book, War.
Recounting the months Junger spent embedded with a 30-man platoon in Afghanistan’s remote Korengal Valley, the book is divided into three parts. The first two deal with Fear and Killing. In the last section, Junger explained to Maher, he wanted to explore why, even after a soldier is put through “the worst experience possible,” he often misses it when he returns home. “What’s missing in society,” Junger asked, “where he would say something like that?”
According to Junger, the answer is not the obvious — that the soldiers are adrenaline junkies. The answer, in fact, is Love — the title of War’s third section.
“These guys are junkies, kind of, for the brotherly love,” observed Maher.
“That’s exactly right,” replied Junger. “This one guy said to me ‘you know there are guys in the platoon who straight up hate each other, but we would all die for each other.’ Every guy in that platoon was necessary to everyone else and that necessariness, I think, is actually way more addictive than adrenaline is. I think that’s what people are talking about when soldiers say ‘I miss it over there.’ You have an unshakable meaning in a small group that you can’t duplicate in a society.”
“Unshakable meaning.” And “necessariness.” We can duplicate both outside the battlefield. Indeed, we have to. In times of mortal danger, soldiers unconsciously create a sense of purpose and community and kinship. Right now, the perils we are facing here at home are not as tangible and immediate as those faced by our soldiers in Afghanistan. Nobody is shooting at us — and I don’t mean to draw an equivalency to the deadly threat our men and women in uniform are bravely facing every day. But 26 million people are unemployed or underemployed, with over four percent of U.S. workers having been unemployed for more than six months — nearly twice the percentage it was back in 1983. And more and more people are entering the ranks of “the 99ers” — those who have been unemployed for 99 weeks, after which all unemployment benefits end.
As Sandra Pianalto, the President and CEO of the Cleveland Fed, said on Tuesday, “our journey out of this deep recession [will] be a slow one.”
Make no mistake: though it’s not war, it is financial warfare — and there’s an enemy out there that does not wish you well. A few reform measures aren’t going to change the fact that there are hugely powerful banks looking to ensnare you and your family in a cycle of debt. Foreclosures continue to surge. Health care costs are going to continue to skyrocket — even for the insured. And long-term unemployment is going to be a fact of life for the foreseeable future.
The results of these can be deadly. “The suicide rate has already gone up, and my suspicion is that it will not go down,” said Paula Clayton, director of the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. “There are data to substantiate a relationship between unemployment and suicide.”
A 2002 study by researchers at Yale found that “high unemployment rates increase mortality and low unemployment decreases mortality and increases the sense of well being in a community.” According to M. Harvey Brenner, one of the study’s authors, economic growth is the single biggest factor in life expectancy. “Employment is the essential element of social status and it establishes a person as a contributing member of society and also has very important implications for self-esteem,” he says. “When that is taken away, people become susceptible to depression, cardiovascular disease, AIDS and many other illnesses that increase mortality.”
This economic crisis has put into question the American Dream and threatens the very survival of the middle class as the economic and cultural engine of our country.
It’s also become clear — not just in the United States but throughout the industrialized world — that we’re not going to be able to rely solely on government to fix things. Yes, we need the government to do all it can to create jobs and to wisely spend our tax dollars, but the question is, what can we do to help ourselves — and each other? How can we recreate the sense of “unshakable meaning” and “necessariness” Junger describes? How can we create our own bands of brothers — and sisters — in communities all across the country that will not only give us that sense of purpose and necessariness, but allow us to face down these threats?
The truth is, we are hardwired to seek out unshakable meaning. The longing for necessariness is in our DNA. In The Fourth Instinct, I wrote about this part of ourselves — the instinct that compels us all to go beyond our impulses for survival, sex, and power, and drives us to expand the boundaries of our caring beyond our solitary selves to include the world around us: “The call to community is not a hollow protestation of universal brotherhood. It is the call of our Fourth Instinct to make another’s pain our own, to expand into our true self through giving. This is not the cold, abstract giving to humanity in general and to no human being in particular. It is concrete, intimate, tangible.”
This is what the soldiers Junger wrote about were missing when they left the battlefield. And we can create it in our own lives. If we choose to. Evidence shows that when we look outward, reach out, and connect — especially in times of trouble — good things follow.
Take the case of Annette Arca, a Las Vegas commercial real estate professional. After she lost her job, she began to spend some of her newfound free time volunteering in her community. Even though she couldn’t afford to make the payments on her townhouse, she figured there were still people in worse-off situations who needed help, so she set aside a chunk of hours each week to help deliver lunches to medical centers and work with homeless families. “It’s a great opportunity to get involved, to help other people,” she toldthe Las Vegas Review Journal. But volunteering also lent Arca a sense of purpose and positive outlook that complemented her job search. “If I’m negative, nothing’s ever going to happen for me,” she said.
Or Seth Reams, who lost his job as a concierge in December 2008. He took an energetic approach to his job hunt, circulating his resume to more than 300 potential employers. But when he got no bites, Reamstold KOMO News, he felt useless, “like I wasn’t a member of society anymore, like I wasn’t contributing to [my] household anymore.” Frustrated, he and his girlfriend, Michelle King, who worked as an assistant administrator analyst at a health insurance company, brainstormed ways for him to stay productive during his job search. And together, they came up with We’ve Got Time To Help, an online platform for locals who have extra time — generally people who were laid-off — and want to contribute to the community in Portland, Oregon, where Reams and King live. For the blog’s first project, Reams helped a single, pregnant women, who also cared for her three siblings, move furniture into her home. And more projects soon followed: painting a room in a battered women’s shelter, teaching refugees how to drive, helping a needy family repair the roof on their home. Within sixteen months of the site’s launch in January 2009, We’ve Got Time To Help assembled more than a hundred volunteers, who’ve assisted hundreds of struggling locals.
If we’re looking to create this sense of purpose and meaning, the Internet and social media can be valuable tools to connect us. The website DonorsChoose.org was conceived by Bronx high school social studies teacher Charles Best. It provides a forum for public school teachers from all over the country to post funding requests for classroom needs. Users then browse the listings — which run the gamut from notebooks and pencils to projectors — and donate. As of this month, ten years after the site launched, it has raised over $52 million for over 130,000 different proposals.
Even more locally focused is SeeClickFix.com, started by Connecticut web developer Ben Berkowitz. It invites users to post non-emergency problems in neighborhoods, such as a broken street lamp or potholed roads. Other members then chime in with solutions, and sometimes neighbors reply with fixes within minutes.
Then there are sites like Recessionwire.com, LayoffSupportNetwork.com, LayoffSpace.com,HowIGotLaidOff.com, and The405club.com, which are being used to share tips about finding work and getting by, and also give comfort by allowing people to safely voice anxieties and fears about the future. Or the aptly named I Need A Freakin’ Job, which describes itself as “a grass roots American movement, giving voice to the millions affected by the crazy unemployment numbers.”
And in this recession, those crazy numbers don’t only represent those on the lower end of the economic spectrum. The Wall Street Journal has an entire blog devoted to the stories of those with MBAs who are unemployed and looking for work.
One thing is clear — we’re not going to be able to face the perils of this new economic landscape alone. And those of us who are under less of a threat need to reach out to those who have already been ensnared. When soldiers talk about being in a foxhole, it’s always about who they are in the foxhole with — it’s not a place you want to be by yourself. There’s not just strength in numbers — there’s purpose and meaning if we reach out and connect.
As Pablo Neruda said: “To feel the intimacy of brothers is a marvelous thing in life. To feel the love of people whom we love is a fire that feeds our life. But to feel the affection that comes from those whom we do not know, from those unknown to us, who are watching over our sleep and solitude, over our dangers and weaknesses — that is something still greater and more beautiful because it widens out the boundaries of our being and unites all living things.”
Readers: “Unshakable meaning” Love that. What gives your life “unshakable meaning”? Find it – do it. Blog me.
Doug: You have so much passion and care about so many things. What is the one thing that you will dedicate some time to help bring big change? What gives your life “unshakable meaning”? Besides me that is :)
Lots of love…peacin’ out…
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July 20th, 2010 at 10:04 am
Harris
I am not a coy woman. You can count on meeting me. I am 5’4″ tall. I weight 120lbs. You will not miss me. I am very dark and I have a short natural.
I am telling you this so that you can withdraw your invitation if those stats are not to your interest. Don’t feel you need to continue the lunch if they are not. I am a very big girl. I know that we all have our preferences.
But you do intrigue me. And I play a mean game of chess. Mom and I have been playing for chores and money for 19 years. I am 29.
My mother will be in London on the 9th. We can have lunch on the 8th in your hotel’s restaurant. Shall we say 11 AM. I love the restaurant. I eat there once or twice a week with friends.
Evelyn
July 20th, 2010 at 11:27 am
Thanks Misch, needed to hear it stated that way I guess, in which case I already do much for others, my sphere of influence at least and that’s a good beginning. I’m all about the empowerment of females and getting yourself heard in a compassionate way (even good men follow the dictates if the society and family they grew up in, not off the hook there guys, I’m just telling it as I see it…) and I’ve apparently been a rocking example of making life more than tolerable under the conditions I am in, and if my example helps someone else handle their own sitch better well then that’s fantastic. Will I do more on a larger scale, that seems somewhat inevitable : ) I’m working on bidness that would financially benefit myself and women in general (no one can have the best of me if I’m poor and scrambling to do it all), health fitness and sex (there I said it) are things I’m passionate about and those subjects exclude no one. Will I pick a more political one as well? It would seem ghat in choosing to bring awareness to women of the world and their status (or lack thereof) I will be guided into something…I’m willing to explore it without knowing right now…
Harris and Evelyn, lunch us lunch and admiring someone no matter what they look like is what keeps us feeling our humanity – hope you enjoy your tIme together.
July 20th, 2010 at 4:26 pm
Michelle I was jobless and when I began looking again after my unemployment insurance ran out I met my husband. He was looking for a job too. I got employed first and he rented me a room in his home while he was looking.
I saw his hot buns one day when he was leaving the shower and as the say the rest is history. He got employment as an computer something or other making three times what I am making. I make $60 but I only take home about $3,000 a month.
But I did meet a very nice guy. So I agree with you good things can come from looking for a job.
Rene
July 20th, 2010 at 4:33 pm
Evelyn it’s a date. I am looking forward to meeting you. It it is important I weight 248, but it is all muscle no steroids.
As for the chess game you are on. Loser pays for the next date. Before you agree, I have expensive tastes when it comes to eating out.
A heads up I favor the Queen’s pawn openings and several of the combative defenses when Black.
Harris
July 20th, 2010 at 7:16 pm
To answer your question you posited, I would say, that I wish to help to open people’s thoughts and minds to a new paradigm shift. A new means of living in thought and understanding. I will begin with this: From a previous blog post of mine.
Cogito, ergo sum…Descartes, Aristotle, Archimedes, King Solomon, Napoleon Hill, Obama, Eckhart Tolle…
The Law of Attraction swept through the nation a year or two ago with the release of the book with that same title, as well as, through the hugely successful book and video, “The Secret”, that was discussed quite a bit of “Oprah”, as well as Eckhart Tolle and his work “A New Earth”. All of this stems from the long running personal bible to many, the Napoleon Hill book “Think and Grow Rich” or the old testament biblical stories of King Solomon.
It seems that the rules do exist and are exemplified quite strongly today. Or are they? It is discussed throughout the self help world with guru’s like Anthony Robbins and others to envision your successes. Whatever that may mean to someone whether it be in love, finance, personal health or anything in life. If you can see it, you can achieve it, is a common workshop mantra.
It is also discussed in philosophy classes throughout the world that, as Descartes wrote, “Cogito, ergo sum” or “I think therefore I am”, that not only are we the creators of our existence do to that theory, but by thinking of your life and how you want things to produce themselves, it is said that you create your own life. Aristotle stated, “But if life itself is good and pleasant and if one who sees is conscious that he sees, one who hears that he hears, one who walks that he walks and similarly for all the other human activities there is a faculty that is conscious of their exercise, so that whenever we perceive, we are conscious that we perceive, and whenever we think, we are conscious that we think, and to be conscious that we are perceiving or thinking is to be conscious that we exist… (Nicomachean Ethics)
There are three important notes to keep in mind here. First, Descarte only claims the certainty of his own existence from the first-person point of view — he has not proved the existence of other minds at this point. This is something that has to be thought through by each of us for ourselves, as we follow the course of the meditations. Second, he is not saying that his existence is necessary; he is saying that if he’s thinking, then necessarily he exists. Third, this proposition “I am, I exist” is held true not based on a deduction nor on empirical induction, but on the clarity and self-evidence of the proposition.
But, as in Isaac Asimov’s principles of robotics, The Three Laws, and how they are broken in “I, Robot”, was the basis of the hit movie with Will Smith. Constantly, the robot malfunctions as a result of “thinking” about itself, its behavior, and loopholes in the Three Laws of Robotics from this quote.
Although, Descarte’s theories came from the first person perspective, we also know through emergence theory and mob mentality as a collective, that we exist albeit not in a vacuum. We exist in an ever shrinking global community of beings. The global energetic is a key factor to helping us create the world we wish to live in. As the global leaders, the press, one’s own community and familial environment show us that, as Roosevelt stated so clearly, “We have nothing to fear, but fear itself.”
We have been running or shall I say, the world has been following an administration that bred fear throughout the world to which they created a global stream of people who manifested that fear and confusion. We are in the midst of changing this energy and turning things around. As we went from positiveness to eight years of darkness and turmoil instantly, we can turn things around just as quickly and powerfully with the right global attitudes and consciousness.
Whether you believe in these theories or not, it works. This seems to be true. When people began to believe there was no way out for the economy, since that was the only topics of the water cooler discussions, the global press and the blogoshpere, the economy had no other means but to fail. This can change!
Well, can we see ourselves getting out of this global catastrophe? Can we end the occupation of Iraq? Can we put positive back into our lives? We must! Obama has shown us all that thinking positive and acting with purpose can bring one the results they are looking for. He gave us all the example that these books tout so clearly. We must begin to do as Obama has done to set the example and only think of the positive. There are solutions to any problem and we must think clearly and act with decisiveness as to our desired outcomes to reach a positive result.
In conclusion, and in the words of our modern metaphysical President elect, who said, “Yes We Can.”
July 21st, 2010 at 9:51 am
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