This ‘n That Chitchat
Posted by Michelle Moquin on October 12th, 2010
Good morning!
I really don’t like it when I can’t interact with my readers but that is how it is sometimes. Yesterday, I slept in late, and this morning, I have an early call, 7 am. Ugh. You think I’d be used to it by now…I am an early bird, love the morning light, but getting up @ 5:45 is definitely something I am not used to….and where is this light that I love so much? It is pitch dark out.
Anyway…So although I have very little time this morning, at least I will get to say hello. Keeping it brief. No write; just a hello.
G: I wish you had. It is a rarity that someone actually tells me to my face that they read my blog. All evening only one person came up to me to tell me they read my blog. I can tell you it was a thrill and even more so because she isn’t a close friend, and I had no idea she read it. I don’t know what the big deal is that my friends never discuss my blog with me. Oh well…C’est la vie.
Anon: I had to laugh at the comment your husband made. How silly is that. Did he look stupid when he said it? :)
Anonymous: Yes, I know that you know that I know. :)
Alexander Hamilton: Are you still leading that girl on? I guess the little head overriding the big head happens to the best of men. :) Although I have to say Bita may not ever have the chance to be a girlz, she certainly must be having the time of her life with you and Adam. I certainly wish I could time travel with the two of you and see history as it is happening, not to mention the future. How strange it must be for you. I have to ask…are you mostly happy that Adam has brought you out of the past to time travel with him? Kind of a silly question…we know the alternative. Still, as you pointed out, it is different for you than Adam or Bita.
As always, I enjoy hearing from you. Please give my best to Adam. I miss talking to him. I hope someday to be able to speak to you. Perhaps I already do in another time.
Bob: Naughty…naughty…
N: No doubt there was. Did you have fun and are you happy that you did?
Eve: Haha! Good one. Not much he can say there.
Melissa: Thanks for the post. I only got half way through the article but hopefully I will have time to finish it.
Darryl: Hmm…if you knew I went to LA that must mean we kept in touch after Redwood or you were stalking me. Just kidding. Yes, my excursion Saturday night was brief and time flew. I wish you had said hello. I wish I could’ve said hello to many more. Oh well…thanks for checking in with me here. (Thanks C for introducing Darryl to my blog) I look forward to you becoming a loyal fan and I hope you’ll comment again.
Zen Lill: I did thank you! I can’t believe you haven’t attended one reunion. You are missing out girl. I too keep in touch with many peeps that I want to see but it is so much fun seeing everyone together and running into those that you don’t get the opportunity to see. I encourage you to go.
Although I was a cheerleader my freshman year and I was on the track team, as far as the “jocks” being my core peeps – No they weren’t. Not at all. My core group was a mix; I had many friends in a few different groups which is part of the reason why I loved High School so much.
In regards to Doug sitting this one out, Doug has been to all of my past reunions. He knows my peeps. He decided not to go because he wanted me to have a good time just hanging and reminiscing with my old friends. Everyone knows I’m married and I had the jewels to back it. :) No mystery and intrigue there. Doug even helped me get dressed in my “you can look but you can’t touch” dress. They did…and they didn’t. :)
The blog is now open for comments. And the discussion is wide open. Take it where you want it to go.
PEACE OUT….
Lastly, greed over a great story is surfacing from my “loyal”(?) readers. With all this back and forth about who owns what, that appears on my blog, let me reiterate that all material posted on my blog becomes the sole property of my blog. If you want to reserve any proprietary rights don’t post it to my blog. I will prominently display this caveat on my blog from now on to remind those who may have forgotten this notice.
Gratefully your blog host,
michelle
Aka BABE: We all know what this means by now :)
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October 12th, 2010 at 11:59 am
Hi Misch, yes that’s what I hear about my HS reunions. I did attempt once, I made some calls and all my peeps said nah, probably going away for Thanksgiving (it’s always the sat night after) and so I didn’t book a flight, that year on an early Sun (yeah I’m 3 hours behind the east coast, hello…!) I got the ‘you should’ve been there’ call, though it did put me in touch with a long lost pal who was looking for me so I’ve had her back in my life for about 5-6 years now. I saw some pics of that reunion, most of the peeps were not recognizable to me. And oh an oppsie on my part, our reunion was so good that they still do some scattered mini-reunion happy hours for the locals and ran one for me last time I was there visiting, I told the organizer thank you and asked her if we knew each other bc I didn’t recognize her name, uh yeah, oops, she sat behind me in home-freakin-room how embarrassing, apparently I was busy with my 4 key girls and paid her no mind, oh man, hmmm, I was young and I’ve always been pretty private about what I share, I did not do it to be exclusionary…ah well, she laughed at my red face and we had a drink together and it’s all good now. : )
I think peeps probably don’t tell you they read your blog bc they might have to discuss aliens and the endless possibilities of time/space/matter/energy brought up in info they present. It’s been my experience in talking about your blog that people get a little edgy (I love edgy though, love to watch it in action, uncomfortable is good!) especially one pal of mine who really is a rocket scientist, hahaha, he clicked through from my blog on a particularly interesting day here on MM blog, there had been much comment talk amongst aliens, Anonz/Zen Lill, etc…my frined, he was just out of his element, you know, being a ‘man of science’ and all that, those MOS are the worst, they don’t get mystical/magical and/or that there just might be intelligence out there that’s so far superior and different that they cannot ‘man of science’ themselves or their craniums around it. I remember C questioning wtf an alien would write on a blog and why on Mischa’s blog, hmmm, why ask why (go have a Bud Dry, tee hee), anyway, bringing up your blog is metaphorical to opening a convo most people never have, they just look up and see stars and saw ‘nice night’ : ) they aren’t thinking about much else going on out there, not really. And for politics, well, once you’ve read Anonz’s take on things from that bils perspective, it kind of feels like there’s little one can do except trying to stop the bleeding even while you know you’ll getr fleeced no matter what…
Recently, I asked a pal who was attempting to make a case for why racism/sexism are still alive and well (not one for it but for why it still exists), and I asked, what if sudddenly an alien ship showed up and there were 3 sexes and various colors, that sure would level the playing field, now wouldn’t it? My friend looked at me and said, that’s why I love you, I can rest assured you will always say something just like that to snap me (and others) out of the usuakl train of thought. Yeah, I guess I can be relied upon for that : ) amongst other things… : )
Hey Harriet, um I didn’t find your story so funny, I found it disturbing. I assumed we all got it that you would be doing the hair thing on a male of interest (mutual interest), apparently I need to speak more clearly, sorry about that. Your bro-in-law sounds like he IS a big fat dick, who cares if he has an appendage that matches.
Caio for now, Luv, Zen Lill
October 12th, 2010 at 5:18 pm
Just wanted to share…
…clearly the universe wants me, fully and without reservation, to reset the button on my life…last week my computer crashed, lost everything (I know, why weren’t you backing up files, hmm, bc I already have a two hundred things to do that all take 20-90 minutes each but that adds up to – not enough hours to take care of it all so that flew under the radar ranking at #501 on that list), as if that wasn’t enough, today I lost my wallet after I just loaded a new (old) wallet with everything (cards, gift cards, biz cards, everything…) and the funny thing is I had it in my hand one second and the next it was gone, poof, just gone…now I just finished cancelling everything and I’m only wishing whoever found it would send me back my 3 pics of my girl and me when she was little, tehy were my faves, and how about my Sg and Malaysian money while they’re at it – oh boo – OK, think I’ll sit here and ponder what exactly the universe has in store for my new totally wiped clean slate, this oughta be good : )
Where is everyone?
Luv, Zen Lill
October 12th, 2010 at 9:37 pm
Well I know I did and I didn’t.
October 12th, 2010 at 9:38 pm
Thanks for the dance. My wife said “if you like her so much, why didn’t you ask her to dance in high school?”
October 12th, 2010 at 10:11 pm
Another reason one can say the american white woman is the dumbest creature on the planet.
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(FT) — More than half the world’s richest self-made women are Chinese, thanks in large part to Mao and cheap childcare, according to the Hurun Report, which compiles information on the wealthiest Chinese.
The world’s three richest women are Chinese — as are 11 of the top 20 — according to the Hurun List of Self-Made Women Billionaires, published on Tuesday.
Zhang Yin, 53, the Chinese head of a recycled paper company, Nine Dragons Paper, ranks as the wealthiest self-made woman on earth with an estimated personal fortune of $5.6bn. Wu Yajun, 46, of Longfor Property, comes in second with $4.1bn and Chen Lihua, 69, of Fuhua International, a Hong Kong conglomerate, ranks third with $4bn.
The richest non-Chinese is Spaniard Rosalia Mera of Zara, the fashion house, with $3.5bn, and two others who made their fortunes in fashion: Doris Fisher for Gap is eighth and Giuliana Benetton of Benetton is 11th.
Oprah Winfrey, the US television show host, ranks ninth with $2.3bn.
Video: Chinese billionaire on success, equality
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Nandani Lynton, of the China Europe International Business School in Shanghai, identified political and social factors for making a scrap paper lady from China richer than the doyennes of Zara, Gap, Benetton and Ebay.
“Mao made an incredible difference when he said women hold up half the sky, since then it has been assumed that all women in China will work,” Ms Lynton said.
Chinese women are also among the most ambitious on earth, according to a study from the Centre for Work-Life Policy in New York, which found 76 per cent of women in China aspired to top jobs, compared with 52 per cent in the US.
Working mothers in China and other Bric countries “are able to aim high, in part because they have more shoulders to lean on than their American and European peers when it comes to childcare”, the centre noted. With an average work week of 71 hours for Chinese women, cheap childcare is essential, and in China is often provided by grandparents — four for every only child.
Nandani Lynton noted that it was not just the availability of cheap or free childcare but also the absence of any stigma attached to using it that helped Chinese women dominate the global rich lists.
Still, compared to Chinese men, women still lag behind. According to Hurun, only 11 per cent of the richest people in China are women and the average wealth of China’s top 50 richest women is only a third that of the top 50 richest men.
© The Financial Times Limited 2010
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Why is the american white male so rich and his woman so damn poor. Because she supports him in his quests while he trades her in for a younger model as soon as she helps him reach it.
October 12th, 2010 at 10:16 pm
“Act” Your Way Out of Difficult Situations
Jane Marla Robbins
People’s emotions often get the better of them when they have to attend a social function alone or confront someone over a disagreement. They feel anxious, insecure or even strangely detached.
You can overcome these debilitating feelings by adopting simple techniques that professional actors use to feel instantly more relaxed and empowered…
PUBLIC SPEAKING
Secret: Breathing exercises. Before your talk, use breathing exercises to relax you and get oxygen to your brain. This will help you think clearly and find the perfect words.
First, slow down your breathing — when tense we tend to take quick, shallow breaths. Instead, inhale deeply for four counts.
Feel your abdomen expand. Hold your breath for two counts. Take another four counts to exhale, sharply blowing out the air. Repeat the sequence twice more.
Second, hum. Feel your lips vibrate with the sound, “Mmmm.”
Next make a loud, drawn out “Haaaah!” sound. Feel your chest vibrate and your confidence build. Notice how both of these exercises make your voice more resonant and impressive.
YOUR CONVERSATION PARTNER SEEMS BORED
Secret: Dramatic pauses. Pause for dramatic effect when you speak.
Example: You are telling a story. You say, “Then I realized what I had to do… ” Instead of jumping right into the next sentence, hesitate for a beat or even two.
Don’t worry that your listener will become impatient or annoyed. Just the opposite happens. As you pause to collect your thoughts and choose your words, the listener will literally lean forward in anticipation.
Watch how Al Pacino does this in his Academy Award-winning role in Scent of a Woman.
YOUR MIND FEELS SLUGGISH
Secret: Mental stimulation exercises.
Example: Add together in your head 14,231 and 28,489. It doesn’t matter whether you come up with the right answer or how fast. The important thing is to get your brain working.
Another example: Think of all the words that begin with a certain letter (for instance, “P” — palatial, pantry, pretty, etc.).
Secret: Yoga. Energize yourself with these moves…
Extend your right arm in front of you at shoulder height and shake your right hand vigorously as if you were trying to shake your hand off your wrist.
Hold your arm straight out in front of you with your fingers extended as far apart as possible. Drop your arm to your side. Now do the other arm.
Stand up with your right foot off the floor (hold on to something for balance) and try to shake off your foot. Repeat with your left foot.
MEETING NEW PEOPLE
Secret: Props. Carry any small object that you connect with emotionally so that it allows or inspires you to feel more alive and relaxed.
Examples: A handkerchief from someone you love… your grandfather’s pocket watch.
I knew a woman who went to meetings with a banana in her purse! For some reason, the fruit allowed her to see a certain ridiculous side of life, and suddenly her situation didn’t seem so dire.
Secret: “Sense memory.” If you remember something vividly enough, your body will react as if the person, place or event were really there. Draw on a memory that makes you feel confident. Use all five senses and specific details.
Example: When Sir Laurence Olivier directed Marilyn Monroe in the first scene of the movie The Prince and the Showgirl, he wanted her to enter the room sparkling and full of spunk and wit.
However, none of his directions or demonstrations seemed to help Monroe. Then, her acting coach told her to imagine that she was drinking Coca-Cola.
Monroe tasted the soda, felt the bubbles. Watch the movie if you get a chance. Monroe nailed that scene.
CONFRONTATIONS
Secret: Authenticity. Speak the truth. It always saddens me to see how uncomfortable people get because they carry unspoken sentences inside their heads, trying to pretend that everything is fine. It’s exhausting.
Better: Actors are taught to address their discomfort directly.
Example: The first time I saw the Golden Globe-nominated actress and singer Andrea Marcovicci, she was performing on a big stage.
Suddenly, she stopped and said to the audience in a little girl’s voice: “Am I doing OK? I hope I’m doing OK.” It was so authentic and real that she won over the crowd.
Often, admitting a thought out loud breaks the tension, releases bad feelings and makes the situation flow more smoothly.
Secret: Silly images. Imagine a pigeon on the other person’s head. This works well when the other person intimidates you.
By conjuring up such a silly image, you shift the internal balance of power in your favor. Now, pretend that the pigeon on your adversary’s head is doing what pigeons naturally do. Feeling less intimidated?
Bottom Line/Retirement interviewed actress Jane Marla Robbins, who has starred in Broadway plays and had roles in numerous movies and television shows.
She is based in the Los Angeles area and is author of Acting Techniques for Everyday Life (Da Capo). Robbins gives seminars at Fortune 500 corporations and top law firms around the country. http://www.janemarlarobbins.com.
October 12th, 2010 at 10:24 pm
Zen Lill
Whoever has your wallet should send it back. I for one can not understand the reason one would keep someone’s wallet that has an address on it.
Keep the money if they have to. But for sake of a little decency, return the person’s life back to them.
Larry
October 12th, 2010 at 10:30 pm
Harriet, smarriet.
I know who you are bitch. My brother told me about what you did. That dick is mine. I have two of his children to prove it.
He only married your slutty sister because she got pregnant by him. The tramp refused to have an abortion.
I see that slutty behavior runs in your family. I told him to fuck you whores in the ass to keep from impregnating and bring anymore of you brain dead bastards into this world.
If you must rub that filthy head of hair of yours on someone do it on that creep you run around with.
Stay away from my little brother.
jackie(my real name)
October 12th, 2010 at 10:45 pm
I read this on Huff and thought. Please Michelle let Madaline help us.
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Will Bunch: Palin, Beck, the Tea Party and the Big Lie About Saving “Children and Grandchildren”
AP
Will Bunch: Of course Tea Party activists are “genuinely concerned for their children and grandchildren” — anyone with a pulse wants a better world for their loved ones who come after them.
The tragedy is that their genuine concerns are being manipulated by the high-def hucksters like Beck and Palin and by billionaires like the Koch brothers who have a self-serving agenda. This radical agenda aims to bring to a standstill not just government spending but two centuries of can-do American initiative. The Tea Party Movement aims, unwittingly, to usher in a sad era of national decline for their children and grandchildren.
October 13th, 2010 at 7:30 am
A kindergarten pupil told his teacher he’d found a cat, but it was dead. “How do you know that the cat was dead?” she asked him.
“Because I pissed in its ear and it didn’t move,” answered the child innocently. “You did WHAT?” the teacher exclaimed in surprise.
“You know,” explained the boy. “I leaned over and went ‘Pssst!’ and it didn’t move.”
October 13th, 2010 at 7:40 am
Hafa Adai
Great explanation for destroying our environment on Guam
Only Two Mariana Crow Left in Guam’s Jungles
Pacific News Center
Guam – The critically endangered species of bird known as the Marianas Crow is down to only two individuals left in the wild in Guam’s jungles. …
October 13th, 2010 at 7:44 am
The link didn’t post. I’ll try again.
Marianas Crow.mov