“A dream not investigated is like a letter left unopened.”  

And I will add ‘to ourselves’ because I have been told in the few dream interpretation classes that I took, that all parts of the dream are the dreamer. Sounds a little self-absorbed to me but then when you’re taking about self indulging in self help or self growth courses like I did 20 years ago, It really is all about self….meaning ME :)

I’m done with the many years of that. Not the growth part but definitely the daily self analyzing. One can spend lifetimes trying to figure out why and still be stuck in the frustration of not knowing. But I always ask, ‘Why do you need to know why? What will you do with it then? Anytime I have figured out the ‘why’, it gives me the answer but doesn’t leave me with much else. The issue is still there, you’ve just discovered how it got there.  I say move on, delete the need to understand, and just accept it or change it. I know for some, easier said than done. 

This is not to say that I don’t believe in psychotherapy. I do for some.  For some it may be very helpful. For others, it is just a crutch to lean on for many years drudging up the same old stuff and analyzing it over and over again.  I believe therapists should help you tackle your issue(s) and then send you on your way. And the good ones do just that. Therapy should not be a codependent life long course.    

Okay, enough said on that.  I am getting a bit off topic. What I really wanted to share was my dream from last night. I dream every night as most people do but unlike some I remember my dreams very vividly and often. And as much as I like Jung’s saying, if I examined all of the dreams that I remembered I would be self analyzing all day long…and didn’t I say that that part of my life was over?  

But every once in awhile I have a dream that really speaks to me. Last night was one of those. I woke up this morning and I felt very tired, and the memory of my dream left me heavy headed.  Let me share the meat of it which is the part that I remember vividly:

I was sitting in the passenger side of the very first car that I owned in my late teens, a Mazda RX3, however, I believe I was at my present age. The car was parked at the top of a very steep hill and the emergency brake was on and the passenger door was open. Suddenly, the emergency brake no longer held the car and the car started to roll down the hill…slowly at first and then it started to pick up speed. I yanked on the emergency brake but it did nothing. My thought was, ‘The door’s open. Do I jump out of the car which may bring harm to me, possibly death, or do I crawl over into the driver’s seat and gain control?’ I decided to crawl over, gain control of the wheel and steer the car down the hill to safety. 

So that’s it. If I analyze this dream to me it is pretty self explanatory. The car to me represents my life. And it was my first car which always holds a special place in one’s life, emphasizing again the specialness of life. Because to me life is special, especially to the person whose life it is.

The emergency brake that I have always been able to count on has failed. The emergency brake is the metaphor for my safety. The brake is always there for me to use when needed. For me it is someone or something that has always been there protecting me; my safety net, or you could say the guardian angel in my life. The fact that the emergency brake is still present tells me that my guardian angel will always be there. The fact that I feel that I am in an emergency situation and my brake is not working tells me that maybe I am yanking on the brake unnecessarily. That there really is no emergency….all I have to do is have faith and take control of my life.

Hmm….have I been feeling out of control of my life lately? Have I been relying on my guardian angel too much, considering events in my life as emergencies when they are not? If so, this part of the dream tells me that the brake, my guardian angel, is always there, a little worn out maybe :) but that I need to trust myself more and not always rely on the yanking of the brake or the calling to my angel.

I see the car, my life zooming down the hill uncontrollable, with no one at the helm. I have two choices: 

I either jump out of the moving car – the door is open – how easy would that be? But to escape my life, to me, would be instant death. I mean how do I escape my own life and live? And lets say I do live. What kind of life do I have when I are not fully engaged in my life? I am scathed from the fall and my car, my life, is out of control, no one at the wheel. An accident waiting to happen. I have lost the connection – What is the point of living if you can call it living?  

Or do I fully engage in my life? Do I manage to crawl over and take control of my car, my life, and steer it in the direction I want to go?  There are no free rides and being in the passenger seat is definitely not a control position especially when there is no driver present. Truly living life to the fullest means that one is engaged in life, in the driver’s seat and in control.  Thankfully and not surprisingly, in my dream, I chose the latter.   

What I like about dream analysis is that no one can tell you what your dream means better than you. Yes, others can suggest what they think that it means but unless it resonates for you, it will not be true for you. What I said above resonates with me. When I woke up this morning and went over the details, it was crystal clear. 

To answer my own question, I don’t feel out of control in my life. I actually feel very in control and this dream was just driving the point home – no pun intended. :) To me this dream was just reiterating and showing support of what I already know about myself.  This dream says a lot to me and more than I actually wrote here. I didn’t want to be too long winded, after all it is all about ME :) All  I can say is that I’m happy I opened up this letter to myself.  

Readers: So enough about ME….Any ‘letters’ you want to share? Blog me. 

Anonz:  What a nice surprise to hear from you. I thought you were off fighting the good fight but I am pleased to hear that you are in training. I wish you luck in passing your course.

In regards to Obama and the RNC – thanks for sharing. I am looking forward to Obama in office too. He has a challenging time ahead of him. And now with the RNC pitting OTW’s against each other. Hmm…maybe he might need some help.

Madaline: Any suggestions in giving Obama a helping hand?

I’m off to the beach to walk Lucy. Have a beautiful day everyone!

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I feel bad because I didn’t put any time into Prop 8. I focused on prop 2 for the farm animals because, simply put,  I really thought that Prop 8 would not pass…not here in liberal California. Boy was I wrong.  Yeah we’re liberal here but only in the coastal cities – I forget how drastically life and attitudes change when you head inland; It’s like going to another state.

What is it with people out there who just have such an issue with other people being happy and being able to express their love and commitment, regardless of whether they understand that love, and whether they like it or not?  Why would you want to prevent people from being able to marry and form a union of love?  Isn’t love a good thing? Shouldn’t we support the act of love in any way we can? Isn’t there enough hate in this world that we should all be delighted to be proponents of love between people? Shouldn’t we cheer love in any way we can?

To all of those people out there who voted yes on prop 8:  How would you feel if someone said to you:

‘Oh..sorry, you can’t marry the one that you are in love with. The law has changed.  I know it’s not any of my business who or why you love someone, but I don’t think it’s right for you to marry someone of the opposite sex anymore. Nope, you’ve lost your privilege, you’ve lost your rights.   I don’t think your love should be recognized and honored anymore, So sorry.  I mean, divorce rates are over 50% for heterosexuals so what does it matter whether you have the right to marry anymore? – After all…you have a big chance of it not working out. Get over it. ‘  

‘But let me go and live my life married to the person that I love.  Same-sex marriages are the only marriages that are honored now.  I get to have the chance to make marriage work; I get to honor my commitment to the one I love, even if you don’t. Even though I have the freedom to marry my partner in life, sorry, you don’t get the opportunity to be married, because you don’t have the right to get married anymore.  Times have changed.  See ya. Have a good life. ‘

This fight is a kick back to the late 60′s when racial marriage was illegal in 16 states- It was wrong then to prohibit those that wanted to get married and it is wrong now.  To me marriage is a celebration of love and commitment. Sometimes it is just about mergers and acquisitions, but the point is….for whatever reason one is getting married, one should have the right to do so. And that includes everyone. 

Out of all things to fight for in this world…things that really matter, things that effect us, we have people fighting over the rights of others to seal their commitment of love, something that has no affect on us whatsoever, but has a huge affect on those wanting to seal their commitment with marriage.   How silly and even more so, how selfish. Can we just get past this? It is none of our business who the parties are that are involved. Love is love…and isn’t love worthy of supporting? 

Keith Olbermann from MSNBC said more than a few words on this worthy of listening to. 

Readers: Comments? Questions? Blog me.

Peace & Love:  Live it & give it. 

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Good morning…

I had heard about the letter that Alice Walker sent to Barack Obama, (did Obama not bring this up in one of his speeches?) but I had not read it till a friend of mine sent me a message on Facebook. I found it to be inspirational, written from the heart. I felt the care and concern, nurturing words; words that a mother might say to her son, and how appropriate since Obama’s Mother and Grandmother have passed. 

I believe them to be wise words, but are they words…words a President should heed? What do you think? Do you think Alice’s advice to Obama is worth paying attention to?  I’m not interested in breaking down the letter and telling you my thoughts; I’m more interested in hearing yours. So, I posted the letter for your perusal. What to share your thoughts? Blog me.  

An Open Letter to Barack Obama

By Alice Walker | TheRoot.com

Alice Walker on expectations, responsibilities and a new reality that is almost more than the heart can bear.

Nov. 5, 2008

Dear Brother Obama,

You have no idea, really, of how profound this moment is for us. Us being the black people of the Southern United States. You think you know, because you are thoughtful, and you have studied our history. But seeing you deliver the torch so many others before you carried, year after year, decade after decade, century after century, only to be struck down before igniting the flame of justice and of law, is almost more than the heart can bear. And yet, this observation is not intended to burden you, for you are of a different time, and, indeed, because of all the relay runners before you, North America is a different place. It is really only to say: Well done. We knew, through all the generations, that you were with us, in us, the best of the spirit of Africa and of the Americas. Knowing this, that you would actually appear, someday, was part of our strength. Seeing you take your rightful place, based solely on your wisdom, stamina and character, is a balm for the weary warriors of hope, previously only sung about.

I would advise you to remember that you did not create the disaster that the world is experiencing, and you alone are not responsible for bringing the world back to balance. A primary responsibility that you do have, however, is to cultivate happiness in your own life. To make a schedule that permits sufficient time of rest and play with your gorgeous wife and lovely daughters. And so on. One gathers that your family is large. We are used to seeing men in the White House soon become juiceless and as white-haired as the building; we notice their wives and children looking strained and stressed. They soon have smiles so lacking in joy that they remind us of scissors. This is no way to lead. Nor does your family deserve this fate. One way of thinking about all this is: It is so bad now that there is no excuse not to relax. From your happy, relaxed state, you can model real success, which is all that so many people in the world really want. They may buy endless cars and houses and furs and gobble up all the attention and space they can manage, or barely manage, but this is because it is not yet clear to them that success is truly an inside job. That it is within the reach of almost everyone.

I would further advise you not to take on other people’s enemies. Most damage that others do to us is out of fear, humiliation and pain. Those feelings occur in all of us, not just in those of us who profess a certain religious or racial devotion. We must learn actually not to have enemies, but only confused adversaries who are ourselves in disguise. It is understood by all that you are commander in chief of the United States and are sworn to protect our beloved country; this we understand, completely. However, as my mother used to say, quoting a Bible with which I often fought, “hate the sin, but love the sinner.” There must be no more crushing of whole communities, no more torture, no more dehumanizing as a means of ruling a people’s spirit. This has already happened to people of color, poor people, women, children. We see where this leads, where it has led.

A good model of how to “work with the enemy” internally is presented by the Dalai Lama, in his endless caretaking of his soul as he confronts the Chinese government that invaded Tibet. Because, finally, it is the soul that must be preserved, if one is to remain a credible leader. All else might be lost; but when the soul dies, the connection to earth, to peoples, to animals, to rivers, to mountain ranges, purple and majestic, also dies. And your smile, with which we watch you do gracious battle with unjust characterizations, distortions and lies, is that expression of healthy self-worth, spirit and soul, that, kept happy and free and relaxed, can find an answering smile in all of us, lighting our way, and brightening the world.

We are the ones we have been waiting for.

In Peace and Joy,

Alice Walker

Well?

I’m waiting….

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Good Morning everyone.

What whacko dreams I had last night.   And they left me very spacey this morning. So…I am keeping it light and just posting a little ‘peep show’ for your enjoyment. Okay…so it’s not really your typical ‘peep show’  but I know you women, and men, will get a laugh from it.  Enjoy!

Anonz: I just have to say something else before I say goodbye. I am not asking that you not go. I know you know the risk that you are taking – you have seen the atrocities and I am sure that you are fully prepared as best as you could possibly be, and  ’luck’ is on your side. I understand your need to go back and pursue those perpetrators that murdered Nia…that somehow you could not live out the rest of your life in peace and joy without knowing that those that murdered her so brutally got what they deserved. I am confident you will give them exactly that and more.

I have to agree with Wilma, in regards to you seeking help. Many have seen much less than you and have sought help. I hope that when you return you will seek some assistance should the sleepless nights continue. 

However, since it is a fact that you are definitely leaving, based on the your eulogy to Nia, it is my belief that you wish to keep your promise to avenge her. I can understand your strong desire to punish those murderers. In order to see justice done for Nia, I’m going to rescind that order that I gave Madaline.  I am going to have her protect you until you have made contact with those vile creatures who have caused this terrible thing for poor Nia. After you have made contact with those murderers, Madaline will go her own way and leave you on your own.  Lastly,  I wish you the best of luck. 

Madaline:  I am rescinding the order that I posted here on 06Nov08: The moment he steps foot onto Darfur soil, remove his protection. Instead the order will be:  Protect Anonz until he has made contact with the perpetrators who murdered Nia. Then leave him on his own.

You have your order. 21MRB.  Please confirm via here.

Hi Sherry: Happy to hear that you are taking that second chance . I wish you ‘luck’ :)

Hi Borge: Pretty much ZL said it all. Time will tell…but so far he has already moved forward in terms with agreements in Iraq that the Bushmen couldn’t seem to solidify. 

Zen Lill: Chat today?

Peace out…

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How many times in your life has opportunity walked through the door, and surprise, you were not prepared? You could not benefit from the opportunity and in fact you may have even missed  the opportunity all together because you were not ready in whatever manner would have made you successful when opportunity knocked. In fact you may have thought that you were ‘unlucky’, but the simple fact was, you were not prepared.  You have no one to blame but yourself because of your lack of preparedness. 

How many times in your life has opportunity walked through the door, and you were ready, prepared to meet that opportunity? You had all your bases covered, ‘just in case’. And when success came it looked as if it was effortless in everyone else’s eyes – they considered you ‘lucky’.  But you weren’t ‘lucky’,  you were just prepared in whatever means were necessary to reach your end result. 

In that instant, you can smile to yourself knowing that all ‘luck’ is, is when preparation and opportunity meet. Simple. When you’re prepared, your chance for success will come. You can change chance into good fortune if you are ready.

How about second chances? When opportunity knocks the second time around will you look at it differently than the first? Was it ‘luck’ or fate that blessed you with a second chance?…Does it really matter? The point is, you have a second chance – Are you prepared…fully equipped, ready for anything? Will you honor this ‘luck’ or this ‘fate’ no matter how you acquired it and recognize that second chances don’t come around too often, and maybe….just maybe, there is good reason.   

How stupid would it be if all of your efforts were for naught because you were not prepared? Don’t be stupid. Don’t blow the opportunity. Be prepared.  Because the only sure thing about ‘luck’ is that it will change.  Why take the chance? How smart it would be, to be as prepared as you could possibly be, to ensure that when the opportunity presents itself…when you have a chance to be successful and reach your goal….lady ‘luck’ is on your side.  

Readers: Are you making sure ‘luck’ is on your side?  Share – blog me. If you can’t blog me, email me. 

Unfortunately my big plans for the day were changed…I am off to work – Have a good one.  

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