“hater” by maya angelou
Posted by Michelle Moquin on February 12th, 2011
Good morning!
Ethel: This one’s for you and all of the Maya Angelou fans, in honor of Black History Month:
Hater by Maya Angelou
A hater is someone who is jealous and envious and spends all their time trying to make you look small so they can look tall. They are very negative people to say the least. Nothing is ever good enough!
When you make your mark, you will always attract some haters…
That’s why you have to be careful with whom you share your blessings and your dreams, because some folk can’t handle seeing you blessed…
It’s dangerous to be like somebody else… If God wanted you to be like somebody else, He would have given you what He gave them! Right?
You never know what people have gone through to get what they have…
The problem I have with haters is that they see my glory, but they don’t know my story…
If the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, you can rest assured that the water bill is higher there too!
We’ve all got some haters among us!
Some people envy you because you can:
a) Have a relationship with God
b) Light up a room when you walk in
c) Start your own business
d) Tell a man / woman to hit the curb (if he / she isn’t about the right thing)
e) Raise your children without both parents being in the home
Haters can’t stand to see you happy. Haters will never want to see you succeed. Most of our haters are people who are supposed to be on our side.
How do you handle your undercover haters? You can handle these haters by:
1. Knowing who you are & who your true friends are *(VERY IMPORTANT!!)
2. Having a purpose to your life: Purpose does not mean having a job. You can have a job and still be unfulfilled.
A purpose is having a clear sense of what God has called you to be. Your purpose is not defined by what others think about you.
3. By remembering what you have is by divine prerogative and not human manipulation.
Fulfill your dreams! You only have one life to live…when it’s your time to leave this earth, you ‘want’ to be able to say, ‘I’ve lived my life and fulfilled ‘my’ dreams,… Now I’m ready to go HOME!
When God gives you favor, you can tell your haters, ‘Don’t look at me…Look at Who is in charge of me…’
Pass this to all of your family & friends who you know are not hating on you including the person who sent it to you.
If you don’t get it back, maybe you called somebody out! Don’t worry about it, it’s not your problem, it’s theirs.. Just pray for them, that their life can be as fulfilled as yours! Watch out for Haters…BUT most of all don’t become a HATER!
‘A woman’s heart should be so hidden in Christ that a man should have to seek Him first to find her.’
Maya Angelou
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Readers: I think Angelou’s words are so true. And I’m not a religious girl, but that last line really moved me. You? I’ll save any comments I want to address till Monday.
However before I sign off, I did want to respond to Meymaneh and Sar-e-Pol: I too believe Obama is a gift to the world. We have no idea what the state of our country would be, not to mention the state of the world, should he not be our president. And although the racists here in the states refuse to recognize his accomplishments, his influence continues to ripple throughout our country, and the world. Obama’s influence on Egypt is another accomplishment to add to his growing list.
I wish the women of Egypt (and ALL women) the strength and power to achieve equality and rights, and all that they were naturally born to have.
Signing off…
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February 12th, 2011 at 1:40 pm
Michelle:
One of the most important things I have learned in life is that I would never want to be in anyone else’s shoes because you have no idea what problems they are having and what they are going through in life even though they might have fame, fortune and wealth.
They could be the most miserable people in existence — Never finding what really makes one truly happy.
Some of this education was learned on this very blog. I am not wealthy and have many serious health issues . . . Yet I wouldn’t have it any other way. I believe in the expression: “What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger.”
Maya Angelou has explained the basics of Haters in her article. One’s purpose in life is not defined by what others think about you, nor is it based on the material possessions you have.
Envy is a Human characteristic and the Media makes one feel inferior if they do not have all the latest and coolest possessions seen on TV. This is merely Corporate mind manipulation.
Maya has written some words of wisdom in her article. For instance: “You never know what people have gone through to get what they have” — “If the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, you can rest assured that the water bill is higher there too!”
We live in a society where we are not considered ‘People” anymore — We are considered “Consumers.” It is very cold and inhumane to compare a person’s worth by their possessions.
There will always be ‘Haters” hiding in the background of our lives. They judge us by the standards which mean nothing. One must be happy with who they are and what they have or they will be miserable human beings.
When you feel self-doubt, just think about half of the World which has less than you do, think about the people who are suffering with horrible diseases and pain every day, and go to bed hungry. Be grateful for what you DO have.
“He who lives with HATE dies being hated.” — HOWIE
George Carlin, the Comedian Died in July 2008. This is a message he wrote to the living. It has great value and reinforces what Maya Angelou has written.
The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways ,but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.
We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.
We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.
We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life. We’ve added years to life not life to years. We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We’ve done larger things, but not better things.
We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We’ve conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We’ve learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.
These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete…
Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.
Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.
Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn’t cost a cent.
Remember, to say, ‘I love you’ to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.
Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.
Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind. — GEORGE CARLIN
February 12th, 2011 at 2:30 pm
Hello Michelle;
Hater by Maya Angelou is a great little write and I enjoyed reading it very much. I admit I am unfamiliar with her work, but that could be said about many prominent writers.
Just to brush up on Black History Month, I looked to see what Wikipedia had to say. Why only one month? Black people are a huge part of American and world history year round. In fact I kind of stole that “why only one month” from Morgan Freeman, as that is one of his problems with BHM.
Being white, I am not proud of my race’s part in black history as far as slavery, lack of civil rights, and overall bigotry that my race has and continues to inflict upon people of color. Nobody should have to experience that, and I empathize for the hardships that white men have put black people through.
Me, I do not see color, mainly because it is wrong and there is no reason for it. I do not see myself as better or worse than anyone else.
I despise bigotry and racism, and as far as being a hater, I cannot think of one person who I hate. I am sure there must be some who hate me, but not anyone I am aware of.
Peace and love,
Al
February 12th, 2011 at 4:08 pm
Al
That was beautifully written. I copied and sent it to my 4 sons and 2 daughters. My husband says it shows that many whites are above the bigotry that is being portrayed everyday in the media.
Thank you for your graceful sentiments.
Renee
February 12th, 2011 at 5:41 pm
Hafa Adai
This is for all the ladies who like shopping.
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Duty free shopping in Guam — need I say more?
Guam, with its liberal tax system, could be the undiscovered haven that shopaholics are searching for.
This island getaway offers no tax whatsoever on items bought, shoppers are presented with branded items whose prices are significantly lower than other known shopping meccas anywhere in the world.
And yes, we’re talking about Chanel, Gucci, Prada, Louis Vuitton, Hermes and all the other designer brands we love!
Most of these specialty stores could be found in Guam’s premier shopping district in Tumon.
Located on the western shore of the island, this beautiful city is among the top tourist destinations in Guam as it also offers a mile long coastal playground for locals and guest who enjoy basking in the sun and partying at night.
A walk around this little city would surely entail stumbling upon the many luxury retail centers that feature most, if not all of the high-end fashion brands.
First you’ll discover the Tumon Plaza, situated in the Outrigger Hotel complex along with the Hard Rock Café and Underwater World.
Directly across Pale San Vitores Road is the Galeria Duty Free Store (DFS). Walk another hundred yards or so to the South and you’ll find the Tumon Sands Plaza.
What’s more, Tumon is also home to the largest K-Mart in the world. This 24-hour, one-stop shop offers a variety of household items at reasonable prices.
Recently expanding its inventory, K-mart now offers souvenir items for tourists in search of the perfect “pasalubong”.
But if that’s not enough to satisfy your shopping needs, then consider commuting to other mega-centers like the Micronesia Mall located in Dededo, which features local shops that offer handmade crafts and island clothing.
Western Pacific’s largest Macy’s could also be found here. It’s the perfect place to buy affordable clothes, furniture, electronics, jewelry, shoes and cosmetics.
The Guam Premier Outlets in Tamuning are popular because of the variety of items sold.
Stores include well-known brands (Nine West, BCBG, Levis and Anne Klein), perfume outlets and different types of home or office items any seasoned shopper could want.
The Agana Shopping Center plays host to the only Philippine SM department store in Guam. Because of this, tourists head for Agana in search of exotic delicacies imported from Asia.
Most centers have a large variety of stores and food courts with Korean, Chinese, Filipino, Chamorro, Italian and American fast food outlets.
Malls also have multiple movie theaters and indoor fun parks to ensure fun for the whole family.
Along with the western themed mega marts, shopping in Guam can also include trips to some of the smaller local shops and flea markets in the villages.
On Wednesdays, the Chamorro Village night market features outdoor stalls selling locally crafted handicrafts and curios, food stalls serving a variety of local and international dishes and occasional cultural shows featuring local talent.
For the early risers, the Dededo Village flea market opens at 6:00 am on weekends. Here you will find stall after stall offering just about anything you could think of — from clothing, kitchen utensils, house wares, towels, power tools, plants, jewelry and local handicrafts.
Hot snacks and beverages are available, and many people enjoy an island-style breakfast of fried rice, eggs and meat while shopping.
For those who were ‘born to shop’, it’s undeniable that Guam is the place to be.
The island satisfies everyone’s needs; as they go through items in flea markets, factory outlets and high-end malls.
The no-tax policy is but another reason for shoppers to love Guam. And if that’s not enough reason to book a flight, Google Guam’s beaches and read about the idyllic tropical climes of the Pacific.
For more information about Guam, visit http://www.visitguam.org or e-mail info@visitguam.com.ph. You may also call the Philippine office at 519-6756.
For media relations please look for Niña Ana Espiritu at 893-5642 local 140; nina@eon.com.ph. Find us on Facebook, Guam Visitors Bureau – Philippines.
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So come to our island and enjoy the shopping, the food and the beautiful beaches.
Anna
February 12th, 2011 at 7:36 pm
Nicely said Howie.
February 12th, 2011 at 8:00 pm
Natural Ways to Boost Energy — and Feel 10 Years Younger
Woodson C. Merrell, MD
Beth Israel Medical Center
Exhaustion is an underrecognized epidemic in the US. Up to 75 million Americans report feeling “extreme” fatigue at work.
Fatigue is among the top five complaints that people discuss with their doctors — even though it’s estimated that two-thirds of people with chronic exhaustion never mention it to their doctors.
Every physical activity, from the beating of the heart to running to catch a train, depends on adenosine triphosphate (ATP), chemical energy produced inside cells.
Nearly everyone can significantly increase daily energy by increasing the cellular production of ATP and reducing unnecessary consumption of ATP.
Most people know that exercise boosts energy — but you also can boost your ATP in other ways…
STRESS REDUCTION
Stress activates the sympathetic nervous system, which triggers thousands of chemical reactions that consume tremendous amounts of energy — energy that is then unavailable to the body.
People who experience chronic stress may have insufficient energy even for normal body repairs. It is estimated that up to 80% of all illnesses are due in part to stress. What to do…
Keep a stress log. Every day, write down the events or situations that put you over the edge. These might include rush-hour traffic or dealing with a difficult boss.
Once you recognize your flash points, try to eliminate them — by taking a different route to work, for example, or avoiding unnecessary encounters with difficult people.
Create the perception of control. People who feel helpless experience more stress than those who take a proactive approach — even when they’re exposed to similar stressful events.
Example: Maybe your job involves daily, high-pressure meetings. The source of stress won’t go away, but you can blunt the impact by deciding to do something about it — by taking a brisk walk before each meeting, perhaps, or simply telling yourself to stay calm.
Frequent breath breaks. Harvard mind-body researcher Herbert Benson, MD, found that the body’s energy expenditure dropped by as much as 17% during meditation.
A less formal approach, when you notice signs of stress, is to take a “breath break.” How to do it: Inhale slowly to the count of four, pause for one second, then exhale slowly and completely to the count of six. Pause for one second, then repeat four more times.
People who take a breath break every one to two hours usually notice that they have more energy throughout the day. They also have a slower pulse, lower blood pressure and lower levels of cortisol (the primary stress hormone).
HIGH-ENERGY FOODS
A Harvard study found that the majority of American adults are deficient in vitamins and minerals. These deficiencies usually aren’t severe enough to cause diseases, but they can impair the body’s ability to manufacture usable forms of energy. Helpful…
Choose a “rainbow diet” — including blueberries, broccoli, carrots, spinach, tomatoes and even dark chocolate.
A variety of colors is important because different plant pigments, such as carotenes and flavonoids, help prevent metabolic by-products from damaging the mitochondria (energy-producing machinery) within cells.
Eat fish two to three times a week. The omega-3 fatty acids in cold-water fish reduce inflammation — saving the energy that is normally needed to fight it.
To avoid the risk of excessive mercury, eat small fish, such as sardines, anchovies or trout. Large, predatory fish, such as tuna and sea bass, tend to have the most mercury.
Avoid refined carbs. White bread, sweets and other refined carbohydrates are rapidly converted to blood sugar.
This causes an energy surge that is followed by a longer-lasting energy decline. Spikes in blood sugar also cause glycation, a process that prevents cells from working efficiently.
Better: Whole grains, lentils, beans and other foods high in complex carbohydrates. These are digested more slowly and provide the materials for longer-lasting energy.
Drink water — at least six glasses a day. The majority of my patients are dehydrated. Water supports the body’s ability to eliminate free radicals (cell-damaging molecules) and other toxins that impair energy production.
THE JUICE CLEANSE
Juice fasts allow the digestive tract to rest while promoting detoxification, reducing inflammation and dramatically increasing energy.
One study even found that people who fasted once a month were 39% more likely to have healthy hearts than nonfasters.
Once a month, consume nothing but juice for an entire day. Use a juicer to combine a variety of organic vegetables, such as spinach, carrots and broccoli. Add a small amount of apples, cherries or other fruits as a natural sweetener.
It’s normal to feel a little worse during the day of the fast. That’s when the body is shedding the most toxins. Most people feel much more energized and clear-headed on the day after the fast.
Caution: If you have a severe chronic disease, diabetes or are pregnant, consult your physician before fasting.
SUPPLEMENTS CAN HELP
I recommend supplements only to patients who don’t notice significant energy improvements within a few weeks of eating a healthier diet or making other lifestyle changes. If this is the case for you, try…
Ashwagandha. It’s an “energy- balancing” herb that improves the body’s ability to metabolize sugars as well as cortisol. Standard dose: 250 milligrams (mg) twice daily.
Probiotics that include acidophilus and bifidophilus. People who take probiotic supplements have improvements in immunity and digestive function. Standard dose: One to two daily supplements containing at least 10 billion organisms per dose.
Multinutrient that includes at least 400 international units (IU) of vitamin D. People who have been diagnosed with low vitamin D need 1,000 IU to 2,000 IU daily.
Vitamin D is very important for immune strength and cardiovascular health — and is crucial for maintaining healthy circulation and energy.
Personal interviewed Woodson C. Merrell, MD, chairman of the department of integrative medicine at Beth Israel Medical Center and assistant clinical professor of medicine at Columbia University College of Physicians and Surgeons, both in New York City.
He is author, with Kathleen Merrell, of The Source: Unleash Your Natural Energy, Power Up Your Health, and Feel 10 Years Younger (Free Press). http://www.woodsonmerrell.com.
February 13th, 2011 at 9:03 am
When I watched Spartacus last night I thought about this article and I wonderer why I as a white man had become so comfortable with the portrayal of slavery of blacks on the screen and yet I could feel so much grief for the sufferings of the roman slaves
I have grown up watching slavery portrayed as just something that happened in those times. I wonder how black americans feel.
Norman
February 14th, 2011 at 10:04 am
[...] Howie: Thanks for your words. I have met wealthy people who are miserable, and the poorest of people who find joy every day. So, although we may not want to be in others shoes for whatever reason, we must step into them to understand and be sympathetic to the trials and tribulations that others go through. This is part of humanity that many have lost. Thanks also for posting Geroge Carlin’s words -I Love this – he is so right on. [...]
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All these changes in target length are reflected inside viewfinder and
on big display screen on the back of the camera.