Do You Have A Sworn Sister For Ten Thousand Years?
Posted by Michelle Moquin on July 11th, 2011
Good morning!
I do.
I have always loved my women friendships. I have quite a few, although I secretly wish that I had cultivated a tribe, like the Sex And The City girls. ( Okay I guess it is no longer a secret :). I am not complaining…oh no, I am very grateful for the female friendships that I have and the many “experiences” I have shared with some very special women in my life.
Many women value their female relationships, sexual or not. Many of us support each other, taking an oath of sisterhood, or an oath of marriage. And yet we continue to hear what has been quoted here many times….”Women are willing to throw each other under the bus”.
It begs the question, “Men do it enough to us, why do women do it to each other?”
I feel especially blessed when I have a special moment with one of my girls. It’s a very different connection with men.
Really…There is no comparison - a connection with women is like no other.
And I’ll quote Arianna Huffington because I like what she has to say too,
“There really is no substitute for unconditional female friendship.”
Any woman that denies herself this connection, and there are many out there as we all know, including some women that have blogged here, are missing out in one of life’s greatest pleasures when it comes to the gifts of the mind, body, soul….and yes, the heart, that women give to each other.
So that being said, with all of the chatter on woman to woman love ( Thanks Winter for the inspiration this morning :), sexual or not it doesn’t matter, I was inspired to post about a new movie coming out, that pulled at my heart strings when I watched the trailer.
So whether you’re straight, gay, bisexual, whatever...whether you have a sworn sister for ten thousand years, or a tribe for life….or just love women for the wonderful beings that we are, I wanted to share this with you…dedicated to all the girls…
Snow Flower And The Secret Fan
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PS: Me too – I’d love some dark chocolate with sea salt. And I’ll piggy back on Vulva’s comment…For the sexually inhibited “Chocolove” makes an excellent chocolate bar of dark chocolate and sea salt, and almonds. I recommend it – plus there’s a sweet little love poem inside each chocolate bar.
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July 11th, 2011 at 11:20 am
Prism Princess, Now that’s a SPACESHIP.
Pass the chocolate plesase.
July 11th, 2011 at 11:25 am
Hi Mischa, your welcome. I love this clip, I will go see it, love foreign films and I’m very fortunate, I have a few special friendships and treasure them very much. We are all lifers – to date : ) Luv, Zen Lill
July 11th, 2011 at 11:28 am
IS FEVER YOUR FRIEND?
It’s funny about fevers — some people panic when their temperature is only slightly above 98.6° Fahrenheit (F), while others believe that you should let your body “sweat it out” and therefore refuse to take anything at all for a fever.
As it turns out, both points of view are right… and yet neither one is correct! The research establishing 98.6°F as the correct and healthy body temperature for human beings is not only more than a century old, it was always a deeply flawed idea.
I learned this when I spoke recently with Philip A. Mackowiak, MD, infectious disease specialist and professor at the University of Maryland School of Medicine and author of Fever: Basic Mechanisms and Management.
He agreed to set the record straight for Daily Health News readers and to tell us what we really need to know to correctly care for ourselves or others who are sick and feeling feverish.
Fever Fact #1: There is no such thing as a “normal” body temperature — it varies for a bunch of different reasons.
Dr. Mackowiak recently did a study that showed that the average body temperature in healthy adults aged 18 to 40 is 98.2°F. … but, he said, that’s only an average and it is common for body temperatures to be quite different from that.
A person’s body temperature tends to decline with age, often closer to 96°F by age 85, depending on gender (women are likely to have slightly higher temperatures than men).
Furthermore, a given person’s normal body temperature varies throughout the day — it can change with the environment, the time of day or activities.
There are some people who have a wide temperature variance over the course of the day — varying, say, from 96.2°F to 98°F — while others stay within a more limited range.
Advice: Dr. Mackowiak suggests identifying your own “normal” temperature range. Using a digital oral thermometer, take your temperature four times a day, four hours apart at each measure — in the early morning, around noon, in the late afternoon and just before bed.
Do this for several consecutive days, charting your results, and you will know your personal temperature pattern, which will then help you know when you have a fever.
Fever Fact #2: Without other concerning symptoms (such as malaise, sweating, vertigo, etc.), a slight rise in temperature is nothing to fret about.
While an elevation in temperature can be taken as a sign that your body is fighting an infection, the change should be considered just one factor in the overall assessment of your condition.
Any number of serious issues may be preceded by unexplained spikes in temperature, so you should contact your physician to see if a high fever needs to be checked out.
Children can tolerate a temperature as high as 104°F briefly, but with a high risk for convulsions. For adults, a high fever can cause delirium.
Fever Fact #3: Don’t worry about a slight or moderate fever — just figure out why you have it.
Dr. Mackowiak told me that what’s important about fever is knowing why you have one. He said that high temperatures can actually be useful in disabling bacterial cells (which is one good reason why we have fevers in our body’s defense arsenal).
“However, there’s no question that a temperature is an indication that something abnormal is going on,” he notes.
Fever Fact #4: It’s OK to treat a moderate fever.
It’s true that fever has a job to do, but if you really feel miserable, take something to bring it down.
There are many good over-the-counter medications you can take (acetaminophen, aspirin, ibuprofen, naproxen and others) and doing so can be helpful in bringing down your internal temperature and thus lowering your metabolic rate.
This helps your body have more energy, which also helps you fight the infection that is making you ill.
An old saying holds that you should “starve a fever,” but Dr. Mackowiak said that as far as he knows, that’s an idea that has never been studied scientifically.
He advises that you eat according to how well you feel — and adds that, yes, just as you’ve always heard, you should drink plenty of fluids.
Source(s):
Philip A. Mackowiak, MD, infectious disease specialist and chief of the medical care clinical center at the VA Maryland Health Care System, and professor at the University of Maryland School of Medicine, both in Baltimore, and author of Fever: Basic Mechanisms and Management (Lippincott Williams & Wilkins).
July 11th, 2011 at 11:40 am
Well, Zen Lill when you put it that way? I have to accept the genuineness involved in your comment. I am not above admitting when I was wrong.
If I may paraphrase a Doc Holiday character in an old Wyatt Earp movie “I’ll be your Chocolate avec Sea Salt.”
Seriously thanks Zen Liil for providing a different perspective.
Up until your write and an intense night of discussions with friends about Winter’s post (Everybody loved it) my opinion of sex with straight women mirrored that of Vulva.
Perhaps because as she revealed many straight women “play” with us for “taste.” And I had been burned once in my naive teens by just such a woman.
Both you and Winter(You are just tooooo Sweet) have added a dimension to the weight of material discussed last night that I have neglected to think about.
An open mind is what’s needed here. Sure some, and maybe most straight women “play” with the affections of gay women for sex. But so do many gay women! Why blame one group more than the other?
Life and living it is what it is about. Zen Lill, there is no reason for you to feel that you have any more obligation when starting up a relationship with a gay woman than you would have with a man.
After all we as gay women are asking to be treated the same as one treats a straight. That should mean that we are willing to take our chances in love and or sex as any straight person. Hence we shouldn’t be asking our potential partners to give us any preferential treatment.
I’ll try Howie’s way with succinctness. Zen Lill just go for it, if you are interested in discovering what sex is like with a woman.
You have said on this blog that you have had both an uncommitted sex experience once and an on going affair with a man(FWB). Your intelligence should enable you to be able to experience that same kind of relationship with a woman whether she’s straight, bi or gay. Women can be FWB to a woman as well as a man.
You owe neither party any special treatment. I of course am assuming you would not be leading either party to believe that there was something more to the relationship than what it was.
But having read your posts to this blog and your own, I could not believe otherwise of you. So have at it Miss LIlly. If you are as good in bed as you are in blog, the lucky girl, gay or not, will have the best of it.
Oh, and I can’t depart without a shout out to you, Sweet Winter, who started it all.
Reba
July 11th, 2011 at 11:52 am
Vulva, you are so right about women being generally more emotional than men and our relationships being much more emotionally intense.
But do you think we are better served by using that as an excuse for asking for special consideration from our potential partners?
I mean would we be better off being adviced to toughen up and NOT become so emotionally committed before we give ourselves an opportunity to learn more about the partners we have chosen via the heart.
It was only a few days ago that Michelle featured two articles that explained the fallacy of allowing the heart alone to determine out choice of a life long mate.
Where were you then? You obviously have much more to contribute to this subject than I have. Or probably even Michelle in the gay arena.
When I read your comment I find myself nodding as if it were gospel. You are very persuasive and thorough. Why not use that skill to help us understand the feelings we are going through and what options we may have.
Michelle means well, but she is a straight, you speak from the gay experience. We don’t need more woe-is-us. We need sound advice. It would help if it came from someone who has walked the walk.
Yes, as you said, ” The good thing about being in the USA is we get to decide individually about what we like and how we like it. What works for one doesn’t always work for others and that’s okay.”
The other good thing about being in the USA is the availability of good advice. I have had many bad experiences with gay women. I have not been able to fine a mate that last more than a couple of years. We meet move, in together, and split.
I am considered a very attractive woman by most people I meet. I get hit on all the time by both men and women.
I think I have a pretty normal personality, but obviously not.
Although I have never had a relationship with a man, the women I have had relationships with beg me to sleep with them, beg me to move in with them, and then either leave me for another woman; or, I discover they are cheats and leave them.
I am interested in knowing if that is the experience of most other gay women or what the fuck I am doing that is so wrong that I can’t find a mate who wants to be with me alone.
Brittany
July 11th, 2011 at 12:57 pm
Winter, I would love to spend it with you. I live in Stockholm. Your words were so sweet, they made me blush.
Annika
July 11th, 2011 at 1:13 pm
If you ever wondered why the justice system of this country can’t be fixed to make it more fair to the OTWs.
Then please read this article on Huffpost. – Why ‘Caylee’s Law’ Is A Bad Idea – huffingtonpost.com/2011/07/11/caylees-law-casey-anthony-_n_893953.html?utm_source=Triggermail&utm_medium=email&utm_term=Daily%20Brief&utm_campaign=daily_brief
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Some white folk are absolutely amazing when it comes to being easily manipulated by the trivial and the stupid.
Read and thank god you were born otherwise.
Fred
July 11th, 2011 at 1:17 pm
Almost all the shoes in America are now made in China, even the brands that used to be made in USA, Italy, France, Spain.
Look at the small print. And they are made of materials that are bad for you, and when your foot heats up, the chemicals in the glues and plastics release toxic stuff that goes right through your skin.
Also, the shoes become hot, unlike shoes made of natural materials, which are still used in some of the French and Italian shoes. (Leather, rabbit skin glue, rubber.)
Sadly, when the manufactur ing of name brands went to China, the prices did not drop, yet the profits quadrupled . I will buy no shoe made in China.
July 11th, 2011 at 1:48 pm
MURDOCH vs ANONZ
There is a rumor that Murdoch may have offended Anonz by attempting to use his papers’ influence to out him. They were poised to name a certain multi-Billionaire waging his own wars across the globe and influencing Presidents and having a hand in fingering Osama bin Laden after he was no longer useful to him.
Murdoch thought he was immune to the feared “Revenge of Anonz.” The no quarter-asked and none-given that Anonz is famous for dealing out to those who get on his bad side.
Now the scuttle butt is Murdoch who has beat every Government back that has dared challenge him is in full retreat from the ire of Anonz. He may lose the deal he thought he had in the bag, BSkyB, the satellite broadcaster.
Anonz is the one now poised to reveal information about Murdoch’s news companies that could expose Murdoch to perhaps a billion dollars in law suits and advertising revenue and jail time for some of his employees.
If Anonz pulls this off, will the Chinese who have a $1,000,000,000.00 bounty on his head (DEAD or ALIVE!)
feel the pressure to back off?
I doubt it. They just may up the ante! So you mercenaries already on the prowl who are still alive, it may prove more lucrative for you to pause until this brouhaha is over.
July 11th, 2011 at 1:51 pm
Michelle:
I cannot share about your Post today: “Do You Have A Sworn Sister For Ten Thousand Years?” You have found a topic which would normally keep me from commenting. However, I read this on Huffington Post/AOL News and feel it is newsworthy for both sexes and should be shared.
Gonorrhea Superbug: First Antibiotic-Resistant STD Strain is Discovered.
Scientists have found the first “superbug” strain of gonorrhea — a discovery they’re calling “both alarming and predictable.”
Found in Japan, the H041 strain is resistant to the class of antibiotics, called cephalosporins, commonly used to treat the STD. This could transform a once easily treatable infection into a global public health threat.
Gonorrhea has become increasingly resistant to antibiotics for several years now, and the percentage of cephalosporin-resistant gonorrhea cases in the U.S. is on the rise, according to the CDC’s latest Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report.
From the CDC report: “Gonorrhea, one of the most common sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), can have serious health consequences, including infertility in women, and can increase a person’s risk for acquiring HIV.”
While antibiotics can successfully treat gonorrhea, over time the bacteria has developed resistance to several of these drugs. The CDC now recommends only one class of antibiotics, called cephalosporins. However, findings from the recent analysis signal the potential for resistance to cephalosporins, the last line of defense for treating gonorrhea.
The term superbug refers to a bacteria that’s able to survive exposure to antibiotics — most likely because it genetically evolved to resist them.
This superbug can be easily transmitted to both Men and Women and is a threat to all.
HOWIE
July 11th, 2011 at 2:50 pm
Anon#9:
The rumor here in England is that Murdoch owns David Cameron, our Prime Minster. The fix was in and Murdoch was assured the votes he needed to acquire the 61% of BSkyB he doesn’t have.
My sources tell me that Anonz maybe passed playing nice with Murdoch. If that is so, the bets as to whether Murdoch will make it to 2012 may be the hottest wagers this time next month. That just might scare the wanker into a heart attack.
Personally, I’m waiting to see who else Anonz will reveal that the wanker has spied on, maybe the Queen Herself.
David
July 11th, 2011 at 3:45 pm
Hafa adai:
It appears the bought and paid for five(STARK) on the Supreme Court have emboldened the corporations so much so that they have no fear of legal retaliation.
Here on Guam the union representing Continental and United pilots is protesting what they call a negotiating ploy that sought to by-pass the Air Line Pilots Association [ALPA] bargaining team and appeal directly to individual pilots for support.
There is definitely two sets of rules now. One for the Corporations and one for the rest of us.
Peter
July 11th, 2011 at 4:25 pm
Winter:
There is something about the way you communicate. I would like to know more about you. For the record are You really gay? I am. I had a relationship with a woman who left her husband to be with another woman then left her to be with me. I fell deeply in love with her. She moved in with me and we were together for three very good years.
Then one day she broke my heart. She said that she couldn’t live without her parents and relatives love and they couldn’t love a gay person because being gay was a sin in the eyes of God.
She left me five years ago and married a local boy. They have two children. For the last 6 months we have been having an affair.
I broke it off about a month ago because I realized it could not go anywhere and did not want to spend my life sneaking brief moments of love with someone who could never admit she was gay.
So I ask if you are comfortable being gay? I am.
Isabel
July 11th, 2011 at 4:38 pm
Hafa Adai
I hope Guamanians living off the island will write there mainland US Senators and House Representatives to express their anger about them still not granting compensation to the people of Guam for their WWII losses.
Everyone else has been granted it but Guam. Yet, we are the island expected to risk our lives again to house the US military.
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US has a moral obligation to grant war reparations: Guam governor
Posted at 02:32 on 11 July, 2011 UTC
Guam’s leaders are renewing pressure on the United States to provide compensation for losses suffered by the people of Guam during the Second World War.
A succession of bids by the US territory’s Congresswoman Madeleine Bordallo for federal recognition of war claims has met with continual resistance from the Senate.
On Thursday a House subcommitte is holding a war claims hearing as well as accepting written testimony for inclusion in the hearing record.
The deputy press secretary for Guam’s governor, Eddie Calvo, says despite dwindling numbers of war survivors the claims issue is still very important for Guam’s people.
Phillip Leon Guerrero says compensation doesn’t have to be monetary.
“Governor Calvo has always said that this is a moral obligation of the United States and reparations can come in many different forms.
There was talk at a recent community form held by Governor Calvo on this issue about maybe instead of trying to look for monetary compensation there could be a more brick and mortar solution, for instance the construction of a memorial hospital, things like that.”
The Guam governor’s deputy press secretary, Phillip Leon Guerrero.
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Perhaps, it is time Guam looked into the benefits of being Independent of the colonial attitude of the all white US Senate and the nearly all white US House of Representatives.
Guam has been regulated to a status of taxation without representation. Wasn’t that the cause of the Independence revolt by the 13 colonies?
I say, if it was good enough for white men, it should be good enough for Pacific Islanders.
Lea
July 11th, 2011 at 6:33 pm
Howie, great info to add to the mix, makes the case for keeping it simple, or being celibate – (no, it burnnnnsssss. : ) – ZL
July 11th, 2011 at 6:35 pm
Anonz, if you have someone monitoring here, I’m thinking about you, wishing you the best, as always. please watch your back. – ZL
July 11th, 2011 at 6:41 pm
Summer Strawberry Soup
Mark A. Stengler, NMD
Cool off—and boost your antioxidant levels—with this recipe for summer strawberry soup created by Jonny Bowden, PhD, and Jeannette Bessinger, authors of The Healthiest Meals on Earth (Fair Winds). It takes 10 minutes to prepare—and can be served as an appetizer or a dessert.
Why you benefit: Strawberries are loaded with anthocyanins, powerful antioxidants that help protect your cells from disease-causing free radicals.
Best: Buy organic strawberries—otherwise they may be contaminated with pesticides. Select a yogurt with active cultures, such as Stonyfield Organic low-fat plain. This will give you a dose of immune-supporting probiotics, or “good bacteria.”
INGREDIENTS
2 heaping cups of fresh strawberries (washed and stemmed) or thawed frozen strawberries
1½ cups cold water
¼ cup dry red wine (such as merlot) or pomegranate juice
¼ cup raw honey
½ cup plain yogurt (low-fat)
¼ teaspoon ground cardamom
Optional: Sliced berries or mint leaves for garnish
Put the strawberries into a blender or food processor. Put the cold water and wine or pomegranate juice into a cup, and add four ice cubes to keep it cold. Purée the berries.
Add the honey and yogurt. Pour the strawberry mixture into a bowl, and gently stir in the water/wine mixture, discarding the ice cubes. Stir in the cardamom. Refrigerate until very cold. Garnish. Serves six.
Personal interviewed Mark A. Stengler, NMD, a naturopathic medical doctor and leading authority on the practice of alternative and integrated medicine.
Dr. Stengler is author of the Bottom Line Natural Healing newsletter, author of The Natural Physician’s Healing Therapies (Bottom Line Books), founder and medical director of the Stengler Center for Integrative Medicine in Encinitas, California, and adjunct associate clinical professor at the National College of Natural Medicine in Portland, Oregon. http://www.DrStengler.com
July 11th, 2011 at 7:36 pm
Michelle,
Many thanks for your support of our cause in Darfur. Thank you Zen Lill and Christine and others for your offer of donations. This ignorant girl does not know the name of the people who handle such matters. Thank you America for being constant. Thank you for sending Anonz to be unbreakable on our behalf.
I, we, wish you all could be here in Juba for the celebrations of our independence. It is a great day for us. We dance in the streets. We thank Anonz, God, America and the many other peoples who have never stopped helping us.
Now we collect our wills, our prayers and gather to help those in Abyei and South Kordofan. They are being driven out from their homelands by the governments to make room for those who would steal what is under their land.
We pray you will stay with us to the end again. We pray that Anonz, the America who even now holds out in Abyei alone, my sisters say so they can make it to the safe side of the coming Sudanese army will be aided by the French or UN forces.
My sisters said that Anonz personally came to South Kordofan. He fought through the constant day and night bombing by the Sudanese government and lead 1600 starving and frightened women and children through mine fields that were exploding all around them. Most would have stayed stuck to the spot afraid to move but for the calm voice of the American Angel pleading with them to follow his lead through the mines. Who would not follow God’s Angel? Even the weeping children found courage as he pleaded with them to be silent so they would make through it through the night.
Anonz got them safely through, but now he is alone in Abyei someone has to help him. He cannot leave those he has pledged to help who will help him.
Nykia
July 11th, 2011 at 8:28 pm
Winter;
I am not gay. Would you still be my friend? I like Chocolate. I have visited LA California. I am studying English at home in Hong Kong. I work as a courier supervisor for a big company here. Speaking and writing English is required for promotion. I speak very good English, but have no practice writing English.
I have spell check on my Mac. But I need practice. You write beautifully. I am 34. My husband is very nice and patient. He speaks very good English, but I would like to make friends with a woman, you.
Would this be possible.
Ai-Ting
July 11th, 2011 at 8:53 pm
Reba, I’m glad you caught exactly what I meant to convey. I don’t make guarantees anymore, I’m older and wiser now and possibly just plain gun shy, I’ve always been happy alone or coupled up, my feeling is – if it isn’t going to be life-enahancing for both parties in some way, large or small, then I’ll pass…that being said, just having a new sexual experience could be very life-enhancing…
I’m concerned for Anonz, who’s going to help the helper?
-ZL
July 11th, 2011 at 11:07 pm
Brittany
You wrote :
“But do you think we are better served by using that as an excuse for asking for special consideration from our potential partners?
I mean would we be better off being adviced to toughen up and NOT become so emotionally committed before we give ourselves an opportunity to learn more about the partners we have chosen via the heart.”
I don’t understand. What do you mean by excuse? And what kind of special consideration are you asking for?
As to toughening up and not becoming “so emotionally committed before we give ourselves a opportunity to learn more about the partners we have chosen via the heart,” that rings somewhat contrary to me. Perhaps you get too emorionally involved too soon. (maybe you need a little work in boundaries)
And women have the glorious ability to open their hearts and share emotions and I don’t think it’s productive to devalue / deny / suppress the Goddess. If you have chosen via the heart it’s the right start. Just go slow. Dont bring the u-haul on the second date.
I don’t know what you meant by your first two paras but making up any excuse and asking for amy kind of special considerations doesn’t sound like a strong independent woman to me.
Giving your heart shouldn’t make you feel weak. You honor the Goddess. Just don’t lose yourself.
You write “beg me to sleep with them, beg me to move in with them, and then either leave me for another woman… ” Reading between the lines I have to ask are you living for yourself or other people?
July 11th, 2011 at 11:12 pm
ZL
“life enhancing”. Bravo! I love it!
July 12th, 2011 at 12:42 am
Isabel
Yes I am gay and very okay with it.
Winter
July 12th, 2011 at 1:46 am
It is almost 10:30 AM. My best friend calls and says “some girl with the Hot Title “Vulva” just called you an idiot on the blog. Check out #21.”
Since there is only one blog here in Johannesburg that rates that title among gay women, I scan Michelle’s blog and there is this clueless diatribe from you. I knew I shouldn’t have l stayed up late last night penning that comment to you.
Vulva, what part did’t you understand? Or is it better to pretend not to understand than to address the elephant in the room?
It is not me asking for “a special consideration.” It is you. You want to abandon the intellect and become emotionally involved without the slightest bit of caution that is your prerogative. But it is immature to advocate it for others as if it is some kind of virtue.
Then you say “Perhaps you get too emotionally involved too soon. (maybe you need a little work in boundaries)”
Hello? That was my point. If you rip your head out of your Vulva, you may be able to follow my lead.
Then you follow that caution to me with the inane declaration “And women have the glorious ability to open their hearts and share emotions and I don’t think it’s productive to devalue / deny / suppress the Goddess. If you have chosen via the heart it’s the right start. Just go slow.
Have you been paying attention to the past few days of articles. I mean the ones that suggest that following the heart leads to most divorces. “Go slow.” You say. Lady that is an option fully open to the ones who are not just following their hearts.
It’s the heart that keeps you from feeling that little something that says something is wrong here. It’s following the heart that gets the girl pregnant every time. It’s the following the heart that keeps you from seeing what is obvious to all your family and friends who can see that the thing your heart has picked is a lying sack of shit.
Which brings us to the obvious – Of course you couldn’t understand what I meant in my first two paragraphs. I was referring to your statement – “Women are generally more emotional then men and their relationships can be much more emotionally intense.”
To me the implication here is you expect that women should be given some special consideration because you say women are generally more emotional than men.
To me that simply implies that women use their brains a lot less in forming and maintaining a relationship than men do. Those same women blame men for manipulating them.
You follow up that with another bit of inanity – “Giving your heart shouldn’t make you feel weak. You honor the Goddess. Just don’t lose yourself”
Giving your heart without some serious intellectual consideration can and most probably will lead to losing yourself. That’s what makes a woman make mistakes in her judgement.
“Giving your heart” without a pause to allow your mind to get a grip on the hormones raging because of that heart is NOT honoring the Goddess as much as it is honoring the God that gives men the edge for using their intellect to guide their emotional commitments.
Don’t bother “reading between the lines,” I’ll clue you. I was living for myself, albeit using my heart because it was that silly heart of mine telling me that they’re begging was a sign of how much they loved me.
And since my heart was already lost before the begging I didn’t step back and use my head to reason. I foolishly honored the “Goddess” in me and went with the feeling.
What I am saying is you can’t have it both ways. If you are advising women to honor the Goddess in them and go with their hearts, you can’t be in the same breath be telling them to go slow.
You could if you are clueless to the fact that the heart overrides the mind when allowed to operate on its own. Women need to be advised to wait at least 18 months to allow their hormones to settle( 18 months is the average time it takes to fall out of love — i.e., about the time it takes for the fog to clear from your eyes and to see the guy for who he{she} really is. – Before you say “I do” Posted by Michelle Moquin on July 3rd, 2011).
Hello, again? 50% of all unions go awry because they are unions of the emotional Heart sans a good dose of intellectual analysis by the Brain.
Brittany
Now for that cup of coffee and back to work.
July 12th, 2011 at 4:03 am
Vulva:
And women have the glorious ability to open their hearts and share emotions and I don’t think it’s productive to devalue / deny / suppress the Goddess.
There is so much beauty in those words.
Bai