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Flap Your Lips Friday

Posted by Michelle Moquin on March 23rd, 2012

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Good morning!

I haven’t written about my four-legged friends in awhile so I thought today I would give them some blog time. I have heard of military dogs but I was not sure what positions they held, nor what duties they perform. Then I came across this article that I couldn’t resist posting. Dogs have always been considered  our “best friends”.  And it is no different at times of war. Our soldiers fighting for our country, are our heros. But so are our four-legged friends who join them.

Here’s a sweet little write that gives kudos to our friends who stand by to watch and guard, putting their lives on the line…through rain and bullets to protect those protecting us.

Adorable War Dogs and Their Stories (PHOTOS)

Military working dogs and their handlers can be together 24/7 while deployed. More often than not, the canine warriors eat and work and socialize with their handlers. They sleep in or near their handlers’ cots. Some dogs crawl right into their sleeping bags. And on long missions, they can try to catch some winks together in foxholes.

A handler’s life is in his dog’s nose, and dog’s life in his handler’s hands. The bond is deep, utterly indescribable, most handlers will tell you.

“You know this dog so well, and he knows you. The dog probably knows you better than your spouse does,” says Marine Sergeant Mark Vierig.

Master Chief Scott Thompson, the NCO in charge of dog operations in Afghanistan for a year, agrees. “The bond will pull you through the toughest situations,” he says. “I don’t think there’s anything else in the world that can compare to the bond between a handler and dog.”

My new book, Soldier Dogs: The Untold Story of America’s Canine Heroes [Penguin Group, $26.95], opens up the world of military working dogs as never before, shedding new light on every aspect of the military dog world, including these incomparable bonds

Here are some photos dogs in the book, with heartwarming vignettes about their relationships with their handlers.

Military working dog Lex L479 and his handler, Marine Sgt. Mark Vierig, would go to sleep in the foxholes they shared for a month while on patrol in Afghanistan during the cold, wet winter. Soon after Vierig fell asleep, the Belgian Malinois would crawl out from their tarp-protected foxhole and stand guard over him through the night – often in torrential rains. The dog did not sit, but stood, head erect, large triangular ears at attention and focused for sounds, eyes peering into the darkness for any sign of intrusion. His coat was soaked with rain, but he stood riveted, noble. “I’d tell him, ‘Hey you, come on in here!’ ” and he’d leave his post and go to his subterranean room – at least until Vierig fell asleep again.

Nothing fazed Patrick L722. During one firefight, Patrick lay beside his handler, Marine Cpl. Charles “Cody” Haliscak, in the tall grass as Haliscak and the rest of the squad engaged the Taliban. But the Belgian Malinois wasn’t lying there cowering. He was lying there eating grass as the bullets screamed by. One day this loyal, calm dog alerted Halisack to an improvised explosive device (IED), saving the lives of the troops who were following him. Tragically, the IED exploded under him. “I lost my best friend. He was my hero,” says Haliscak.

The formidable-looking German shepherd, Rex L274, stands guard as his soldiers take a lunch break in their Stryker vehicle. He looked the role of fearsome warrior, but Rex was actually a gentle giant. The specialized search dog did not make it as a patrol dog because he was a sweet, sensitive fellow. “If you were playing and you acted as if he bit you, he’d let go and look all sad,” Ingraham says. But she knew he would put his life on the line to protect her.

Lars J274 gets laughs wherever he shows up as a bomb-sniffing military working dog. “Fear the terriers!” a sailor cries as the little Jack Russell terrier and his handler approach a nuclear submarine Lars will check for explosives. Lars, who has a Napoleon complex, doesn’t seem to notice the lighthearted atmosphere he creates in his wake. His handler, Navy MA3 Cameron Frost, has learned to roll with the jokes. Lars is not the dog he imagined being partnered with when he became a Navy dog handler, “but he grows on you.”

Robby D131 was Air Force Staff Sgt. James Bailey’s first military working dog. Robby, however, was a veteran of three deployments, and Bailey says Robby taught him the ropes when they deployed to Iraq. Together in war, now together in peace, the two retired from the military and are enjoying life together in a leafy Virginia suburb. “It’s great to be able to give back to him and try to repay the life-long sacrifice he has given to me, his other handlers, and the country,” says Bailey.

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30 Responses to “Flap Your Lips Friday”

  1. Social Butterfly Says:

    OMG. Seriously?

    Vivian – “You aren’t that wise after all, if that’s your opinion about Doug, if you were the judge in the recent case concerning our recently elected sheriff, then you would have differed with the judge when he elected to disregard similar advice from the sheriff.”

    One thing has nothing to do with the other. And unlike you, I’m not here to judge. This “… You would have accepted that. So by your belief if the woman doesn’t mind the abuse we should just shut up.” Are you on drugs? You have no idea what I would or would not accept. I don’t appreciate you twisting my statement around to suit your own fantasy.

    Alycedale – “…it is disrespectful of both Zen Lill and Social Butter Fly to enter the fray in the guise of raising “The Main Dude” to the level of the Celebrity of this blog, who is Michelle and Michelle only.” Say what? “If Michelle was a man, both Social Butterfly and Zen Lill would have a different take. They would consider the woman pushy if she used the acronym DwkpaTMS.” Same answer to you Miss Bully, you have no idea how I might act. Its so typical of you to jump on a fragment of a comment and pound somebody over the head with the interpretation you wish to make of it. I’ve seen you do it over and over again. And where would be that respect you save you give others here and hope for in return? I’ve never seen it.

    And Anna, “…You [Doug] have no right to embarrass Michelle by your continuous use of the title TMD, or any reference to it.”

    What a bunch of a narcissists, that you all believe you have the answer for how some one else needs to live their life!

    You want to know what is wrong with the world? Look right here at your own behavior. Judgment and condemnation, no acceptance nor tolerance for letting people live their own lives as they sit fit.

    I say it again, Michelle is a strong woman. If she has issues with Doug using whatever name he wants to use, I’m confident she will address it. She doesn’t need a posse to act. The rest of you need to take a chill pill.

    /SB

  2. Zen Lill Says:

    Social Butterfly, ditto, thank you.

    And I will add only this: I know these two people personally, and as a ‘separated’ person myself I felt the need to want to protect their privacy and even though this is a public blog there’s no need to spank Doug for Mischa, nor did I feel the need to make remarks about how he should or should not behave or what to call himself. Try to remember that these two people once shared a life together and just bc you all see it as a major crash and a chance to move in on a fabulous woman, they spent 20 years together and seem to want to be friends and friends don’t immediately start bashing the other friend or ‘side’ – real friends don’t, at least.

    I didn’t take sides, reread your own comments if you want to hear who took sides and in the light of another day also, don’t ‘victimize’ Mischa – that’s pathetic, I’m sorry that latino women don’t get the same treatment as male celebs (I treated Doug as a human, not a celeb) though none of that type of commentary had anything to do with these two parties, where they are at in life, and all that goes with that separating thing, this is not to mention that I happen to care for both very much.

    I said it long ago and I’ll say it again now, I am a humanist, not a standard protocol feminist, I have a great working relationship with my estranged one, I also have great relationships with the men in my life, and the women and children as well. If you all weren’t so quick to judge, you may reap that same. Rigidity in your viewpoints will get you nowhere and the only place you come from is one of judgement and/or punishment, so I’ll ask you on this fine Friday afternoon to give yourselves permission to just let go of all the anger and judging, it will release you from the need to judge and get angry with yourselves fr doing things and saying things that are part of just being human.

    If you all want to believe that ‘we can expect that from Zen Lill’ well, you’re right, I cut women, men and children slack all the time, I am quite flexible in my ability to adapt and thrive. And no, that does not mean I don’t think there are some very bad men in the world, there are. I also believe that there are some fine men in this world. I see no need to lump them together and mow every one of them down with my anger at specific groups. If that’s a male apologist then I am one and proud of it.

    Luv, Zen Lill

  3. Vivian Says:

    That settles it Social butterfly you are a blond. Of course one thing has something to do with the other as in “case on point.” But that is probably too heavy a lift for you.

    Let me make it clearer.

    Of course you are judging if you weren’t you wouldn’t have decided to weigh in on Doug’s side. Nor would you have come back to insure that your point was made. I don’t think it sparks of narcissism but you sure are sensitive.

    There was no twist about it lady, your position was and still is if Michelle hasn’t complained about it then it must be okay. Typical. Can’t made up you mind, that is why the white males will always dominate your race. Most of you are wishy washy wannabe strong women.

    I remember my mother telling me “why We white women can’t get together to get the ERA passed.” Confused babes like you. I’ve seen your type at meetings always the most indignant but the most useless when the moment arrives to take the serious stand.

    Geez, Doug IS an asshole for not respecting Michelle in her space. This is her space. She shouldn’t have to bring it up. If he was half as compassionate as he has you typical white women believing, he would have approached Michelle about it. Why wait for her to make a comment?

    If you were actually paying attention to his excuses you would have read — “if Michelle and I had discussed what all of you seem so fucked over with, regarding any moniker I may use, you would know that she would have raised a comment as to it.
    I’ll use whatever the fuck moniker I choose, and if Michelle has an issue with it, I would venture to guess because I know her better than any one of you fucks, that she would tell me to change it…
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    Doug when I read the above explanation by you as your reason not to respect Michelle’s feelings. Simpler put, “I didn’t, haven’t and won’t bother to discuss it with Michelle.” Typical man. or is my Gay showing?

    I would have expected as much from Zen Lill, she breaths a mans bullshit. But alas, a cool name, Social Butterfly and a few brilliant observations can be but the flash in the pan.

    As for what you would or would not accept, You may not be aware of it but you have accepted that lame excuse from Doug.

    I am not Alycedale but it doesn’t take a heavy like her to call you again on your misunderstanding of what you are saying. If it walks like a duck, or quacks like a duck then, sister it is a duck.

    Take a stand on something in your life. Not everybody or everything deserves respect. I have seen Alycedale do backflips intellectually to avoid nailing some of you idiots to the wall.

    It was her patience that drove me to comment. Pathetic is a soft description of your lame attempt to cover up your condoning Doug’s typical “it’s about me behavior.”

    Believing one has the answer to how someone needs to live their lives is done by both political parties everyday. Why shouldn’t I have the right to my opinion on the matter? At least my opinions are not enforced by an act of law as they are by those other white male assholes.

    It is not as much an interest in myself as it is in those women who read this blog looking for sound reasoning in a world subliminally and overtly control my male think.

    Knee jerk acceptances of their callous treatment of the women in their world prompted you to react ego protectively, not me.

    It must take a real effort to twist Anna’s remark into narcissism. I suppose you would forgive the Ex for patting you on the ass in public, after all you once had a intimate relationship. Anna and I wouldn’t, nor would we call anyone who found fault with it narcissistic.

    Calling Anna narcissistic is an interesting choice of words to defend the poster sex for that term. But then you are a strong woman?

    Yeah, and the ERA was passed in a world of women like you who out numbered the men at the polls but you just couldn’t see that they were wrong.
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    “You want to know what is wrong with the world? Look right here at your own behavior. Judgment and condemnation, no acceptance nor tolerance for letting people live their own lives as they sit fit.”
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    Lady from were I sit, the family of Trayvon Martin, women in the middle east, any thinking woman in America and I’d wager most of the women on this blog, JUDGMENT and CONDEMNATION is in very short supply.
    We need a lot more of it!

    And you are damn right I have no acceptance nor tolerance for men who disrespect women. That includes a man who would use an acronym to brag about his past relationship with a woman. As Hiro said the relationship of the team has been redefined.

    Any further reference to it without the requested (not assumed) permission of the Ex is disrespectful to that EX.

    You know that Social Butterfly. But you can’t admit your subliminal controlled support of Doug’s narcissistic(a correct usage of the word) was ill advised.

    The next time I attempt to imagine who you are at one of our soirees in the Bay Area. I won’t have to look past the blonds.

    Vivian

  4. Brittany Says:

    Zen Lill that was a fantastic accounting of your position. I can certainly respect your wish to remain neutral between two good friends.

    I think many women on this blog beliee you are too kind to men. I don’t. I know you call them out when they are wrong.

    But I will have to agree with Vivian, we, women, can be stupid. I was at the movie “Hunger Games.” An absolutely inane movie for pedophiles and those who can sit though a movie based on children killing children.

    It was rated PG-13 with all it violence and child murder while Red Tails was given a R for what?

    Racism isn’t a hard call here. The money boys want the kids to get off on this. So now we have a bunch of -it’s okay to kill children, children- leaving the theater.

    Then we wonder why they can take a life so easily.

    More than enough reason to make a few judgment calls.

    Brittany

  5. Steve Says:

    Brittany, baby, how can you knock all that young trim rolling around in the dirt?

  6. Kate Says:

    Vivian, you and me both at the next one.

  7. Tucker Says:

    I say if Michelle felt that Doug was wrong she would have said something. She hasn’t been shy about anything else.

    You ball haters just can’t stand a man who can handle his business. I bet she still wears the wedding ring. You bitches don’t take them off when we dump your asses.

  8. Grace Says:

    So let me get this straight. I guess it would have been alright with Doug if Michelle’s ex showed up at their wedding or one of those reunions she is always talking about wearing a shirt monogramed Widely known as the Man she use to shack with.

    Would that be alright with you liberal with the feelings of others?

    Grace

  9. Dani Says:

    Yeah, couldn’t you see them squirming if their exes started showing up at their affairs with hints that they use to fuck them.

  10. Lin Says:

    I’m terrified of confrontations so I’ve allowed past lovers to take advantage of my silence. That doesn’t mean i like what they did.

    Lin

  11. Frances Says:

    Zen Lill, how will you feel if Michelle tells you that she didn’t agree with Doug’s use of the title after she publicly said they were through as lovers?

    Or have you asked her? Doug has admitted he hasn’t. Why haven’t you? And more importantly why didn’t you do it before you took Doug’s side?

    Frances

  12. Social Butterfly Says:

    What an ego Vivian! Thanks for the laughs today.

    You just dished Michelle too. Well played.

    As to “The next time I attempt to imagine who you are at one of our soirees in the Bay Area. I won’t have to look past the blonds” all I can say, “our” soirees? You wish.

    /SB

  13. Zen Lill Says:

    hahaha…I’m about to begin my weekend, but yes, thanks for the ego elevating (yours) laughs, Vivian. (I’m blond and probably get more female and male ass than you ever will, so kiss my sweet one! hahaha, god that was good, your rant must be very self satisfying).

    Frances, not taking sides, it’s personal biz, Mischa and I have been exchanging vmails, we’re both busy, did speak this aft, the woman can speak for herself on this topic if she chooses, not my place, often our calls are personal and I do not comment on any of it here.

    I’m not terified of an ex showing up anywhere alluding to anything, unlike Lin I would not be afraid to confront. Men who deal with me call me unique for a reason, I don’t hold back, why should I – man or woman, you are a friend/lover and you behave badly, I call you out, we discuss, we keep it together or we don’t, pretty simple really…nice and open…

    Brittany, thanks for getting it. I chose to remain neutral.

    Btw, ‘that other Doug’ hasn’t been here in quite awhile so do we need distinctions anymore anyway? Just a thought…

    Luv, Zen Lill

  14. Health Info Says:

    COMPULSIVE LIARS IN OUR MIDST

    Can you imagine how much richer and more satisfying life would be if you never had to hide your true feelings — not from your partner, your kids, your friends, your colleagues or even your boss?

    If you could speak honestly about your true feelings without fear of creating a rift, and you could share your ideas and insights, knowing that they would be appreciated?

    It shouldn’t sound so impossible, yet for most people it does. We “protect” ourselves by burying feelings that may be perceived as disruptive, threatening or critical by people we care about.

    We call it being polite or considerate but, really, we’re lying. And, said Lauren Zander, life coach and regular Daily Health News contributor, we all do it — it’s part of the human condition.

    “Lying isn’t a dirty, word and it doesn’t mean that people are bad,” she explained, but she wants us all to realize that we pay a price every single time that we lie.

    By definition, a lie is a form of fakery, and every lie we tell takes us that much further away from living a true, authentic life — the one I described above that we all strive for.

    LITTLE LIES AND BIG LIES

    There are different kinds of lies, and not all are whoppers — the “Big Lies” that cover up, say, breaking the law or cheating on your significant other.

    Far more common are the “Little Lies” that people tell in daily life, such as “I’m sorry I couldn’t make the party”… “I meant to call you”… and “Traffic was awful.” We all use these types of phrases to excuse slipups and avoid confrontation.

    Another type of “Little Lie” is being silent when someone’s words or actions upset you.

    Rather than asking for an explanation, many of us simply pretend that what happened was OK and say nothing.

    Then we end up rationalizing the insult by creating our own false theory about what happened and why.

    Even how we act in our own lives can be a form of lying, Zander said, including when people act as if their unhappy marriage is fine, attend a church that they don’t believe in or are horrified when their teens do the same things that they did while growing up.

    IS IT WORTH IT?

    What’s the problem with just these little lies? The truth is, all lies take their toll. Here are the most profound ways she said lying exacts its price…

    Lying fuels dysfunction and harms relationships on the deepest level.

    Afraid to speak the truth, people lie to those that they’re closest to about matters large and small.

    Zander pointed out that these lies “guarantee that nothing will change, nothing will improve and what might have been an intimate, loving relationship will have a slight distance forever.”

    Lying drains self-confidence. Every time you “fake it,” you put a dent in your self-respect and integrity.

    Lying disconnects you from your real thoughts and feelings.

    This creates numbness in your psyche and is a key reason that so many people feel bored with their lives. They’re just going through the motions.

    TELL THE (RESPECTFUL) TRUTH

    Being honest doesn’t have to be painful — for you or the people in your life. The problem is that few people understand how to do it well.

    Truth telling should be done with grace and kindness, in a way that’s respectful of the person you are talking to, Zander said.

    She noted that the goal should be to learn how to tell — and receive — the truth in a way that is emotionally safe for you and those with whom you interact. Here are the three steps:

    Identify the areas in your life where you’re telling lies.

    For example, maybe you told your son last night that you “don’t mind” when he doesn’t help do the dishes after dinner — when deep down it drives you nuts.

    But don’t beat yourself up about what you’ve been doing, because you’re on the way to fixing it.

    Pay close attention to what goes on in your head and what comes out of your mouth. Then evaluate how well they match up. You will probably be surprised to find that they often don’t!

    Think about it — do you ever tell yourself that you’re sticking to your diet because you had a salad for dinner?

    But in reality, you canceled out the nutritious benefits of those greens with loads of high-fat dressing — and then washed it all down with three glasses of wine?

    Focus on learning to tell the truth in all areas. And remember — exaggerating is a form of lying.

    For instance, if your sister or friend asks you how much you paid for your shoes and you find yourself giving her the retail price — even though you got the pair off a sale rack — then train yourself not to inflate how expensive your wardrobe is to try to impress others.

    There’s nothing wrong with saying, “I got a great deal!”
    When you’re telling the truth to someone, do it carefully so you don’t hurt their feelings.

    For example, try saying: “When you say _(fill in the blank)_, it makes me upset, because _(fill in the blank)_. And I don’t want to be upset with you, because I care about you.”

    Keep in mind that not all lies are malicious — sometimes we tell a lie to avoid sounding mean.

    For example, telling a subordinate at work what we think he or she wants to hear (even if we don’t mean it) — like “Good memo!” — when instead honesty would actually help the employee improve.

    You could say: “Sending out a memo with typos in it makes it seem like you’re not as smart as I know you are.”

    And lying to your partner about how great last night was may make pillow talk less awkward in the morning, but it won’t enhance your relationship.

    Next time, try to open up in a loving way by saying what would really please you. Not only will it bring the two of you closer, but what might it do for your love life!

    THE TRANSFORMATION OF TRUTH

    “To be a truthful person, you have to accept how much you lie — we all do it,” said Zander.

    But once you face your lies and start to transform yourself into a truthful person, then you won’t waste any energy covering your lies.

    Plus, your confidence will swell and life will become richer and more exciting.

    “Once you understand how to be truthful, your vitality will return and you will feel so much better,” she said. “You will be on your way to becoming who you really are.”

    Source(s):

    Lauren Zander, cofounder and chairman, The Handel Group, New York City. http://www.HandelGroup.com.

  15. Carla Says:

    I hope those of you who really enjoy the wonderful medium Michelle has provided us here will slack off this topic.

    It has gotten way out of hand. We all know that Michelle is a take no prisoners woman when she is confronted with an issue that requires action.

    Perhaps she has decided to allow it to play out here in the hopes that we will tire of her and focus on something else.

    I, for sure, love this blog. It has literally changed my life. I am more confident and I have learned so much from all of you.

    It is like I have a window into the thoughts of the world. I like to think many of you are my friends. I know that I am not an American, but I feel I know America so much better now.

    When my husband and I make our first visit in June I will feel like I am on familiar soil. We changed our destination from New York to the “Bay Area.”

    I want to walk the streets that Social Butterfly, Vivian, Michelle and so many others that have become part of my blog family does.

    Perhaps I will pass you on the street. I will be looking for signs that say, we are women of Michelle’s blog, We are proud. We speak our minds.

    That’s me, a woman of Michelle’s blog.

    Carla

  16. Stacy Says:

    Loved your dog story Michelle. I have only owned cats. But you story lightened my heart.

    Thanks

    Stacy

  17. Paula Says:

    Howie, my little brother who is fascinated by the stories I tell him is in need of something new for me to tell him. He is a 6 grader, going to be an astronaut when he joins the air force.

    He thinks I have this psychic connection to some friendly alien who tells me these things in my sleep. His idea not mine.

    But I will run out of stuff soon. I break your stories into separate mini ones( I embellish a little) so they last longer and I have a lot to tell.

    He has completely changed since I started telling him your tales. He studies more. His grades are now A’s from C’s. He wants to go to a military college so he listens when I tell him he has to have good grades.

    He is much bigger than his class mates. He is already 5’9″, but his bullying has stopped and he is not just the jock any more.

    He is pretty famous because of his athletic skills. Coaches come from far and wide to watch him play football, basketball and hockey. He is a star in all of them.

    The new Great White Hope, I am told. Everyone wants to coach him. Dad says that he is the true Aryan man.

    Mom and I are really impressed with his home behavior he dose his chores with more attention to detail now and he hardly complains.

    I feel we owe it to you and your wonderful stories about your alien adventures. I hope you will return soon with more of the same.

    Paula

  18. Xhevahire Says:

    I live in Tirana. But I feel like I am a part of everything that happens on your blog. I have been on other blogs but yours is so much more close to my needs.

    I really made the effort to learn english because when I started reading your blog it made me feel that women can be important too.

    I hope your blog lasts until I can come to your country.

    Xhevahire

  19. Human Events Says:

    What’s the difference between AMAC and AARP??

    The Constitution… they think it is out of date….We think it is the greatest document ever devised by man for the governance of man.

    Big Government… they are for more government…..We think there is too much government and wasted spending.

    Social Security… they are scaring older people to get members……..AMAC has brought to Congress a solution to keep Social Security Solvent!

    ObamaCare… they pushed for it and stand to gain millions from their insurance sales……..We know it will result in rationing and are fighting to repeal it.

    Our National Debt… they are ignoring it… We are pushing to reduce spending, cut departments and getting our fiscal house in order.

    They are part of the Liberal Media… AMAC publishes a national magazine that prints both sides of an argument in a fair and balanced way.

    If you want an organization that will speak out for the values you believe in, Join AMAC today!

    What has AMAC done so far?

    • Proposed a simple common sense solution to solve the Social Security Crisis. It has been reviewed by experts and hailed as a “no brainer.”
    • AMAC is meeting with staffers of key legislators of both the Senate and the House to explain our proposal and gain support.
    • Roll Call, the influential Washington Newspaper has published an Op Ed by Dan Weber, outlining AMAC’s Social Security solution.
    • AMAC has started a petition to “Save Social Security Now.”

    What else has happened?

    AMAC’s president, Dan Weber, spoke at the 9/11 Rally against building the Mosque at Ground Zero.

    AMAC has started a protest to have Bill Maher’s TV show cancelled after he used the F word in describing the reaction of Jesus to Tim Tebow.

    The House Ways and Means committee held hearings about how AARP stands to make hundreds of millions of dollars in royalties from their support of ObamaCare.

    AMAC has sent out millions of letters/emails calling for the Defunding of ObamaCare and its ultimate repeal.

    And “You Ain’t Seen Nothing Yet!”

    If the Association of Mature Americans- AMAC sounds like the kind of organization you like… If you agree that we need someone fighting against Big Government, High Taxes, a Huge Deficit and a National Debt that could plunge us into another Great Depression…

    Dan Weber has spoken on over 120 radio interviews in 2011 talking about AMAC, but he can’t do it alone!

    Help us reach the goal of 1 Million members by this November!!

    For only $16/year you will also be entitled to membership discounts and save on auto insurance, health coverage, life insurance and on line shopping.

    We promise we’ll work for you to protect the good old fashioned values of Faith, Family and individual Freedom.

    You and thousands like you must stand up for our country – the larger AMAC becomes, the more positive influence we’ll have.

    There is power in numbers!

  20. Zen Lill Says:

    Oh, I want Rex and that Jack Russell to come live with me, but only after my own doggie is gone.
    My girl is getting very protective of me in her dotage, it’s adorable though some find it threatening, she barks her fool head off when a stranger is near me until I reassure her I’m OK with it. I don’t mind it when a strange male comes to the door, not at all, it lets them know that their cajones could be at risk if they even think about harming me, she doesn’t look her age so it’s effective : )
    I’m out of here early, so I just want to say: Carla – cheers to that thought above and I hope the US is good to you and your family when you arrive here.
    Luv, Zen Lill

  21. Lara Says:

    Zen Lill

    I have a very old poodle. She’s a mix, but like your dog(what breed) she barks her head off when males come to the door.

    It has always been a mystery to me why she never barks when a man comes. If she were male maybe I could understand.

    But she has been with me for 11 years so I’m used to it. I’ll admit I don’t like everything you write but for the most part you are my favorite.

    I read everything and then I wait for your feelings on it. Yours is usually the balanced one. My father was a cop too. But unlike yours he was a total a-hole. He used it to make money.

    The family won’t admit it but we got our big start from the drug money he and the rest of his “elite” drug unit made by stealing huge sums of the moneys they confiscated or by selling the drugs themselves after they took it form the drug dealers.

    Their justification was they only sold to niggers and spics. The lower races in their minds.

    Mom, refuses to believe she lives in a $2 million dollar house because of that. We lived in a excluded community(no blacks allowed). I never had any “race” friends. We were proud whites.

    It wasn’t until Obama got elected that I made friends with blacks. My father was watching the election results drinking and swearing at the TV as the results came in.

    He got so excited he had a heart attack and passed away before he could see the results. My brother frank who is gay and was always afraid that my father would find out laughs and jokes about it.

    He says dad always said that no nigger would get elected in his life time and he was right, thank God.

    I thought he was the only sibling that hated father for obvious reasons. But in the past three years that my father has been dead I’ve learned he was equally despised by the other three as well.

    They regularly make jokes about his dying before learning about the election of Obama. Now they all support Obama but they hide the fact from mother. She is still a republican.

    We all are but us siblings vote the democratic ticket for the most part. I wanted to write in before but something always stopped me. Now I can’t stop.

    a fellow blond

    Lara

  22. ‎Ula Says:

    Howie:

    How are you? I go on watch in three hours. As usual I check this blog for a comment from Israel’s favorite son. I hope you are doing well.

    אנא הודיעו לנו אם אנחנו יכולים להיות לעזר.

    חברים שלך Isael

    אולא

  23. ‎Renee Says:

    Vivian you are as nasty mouthed as ever. I saw you cruising as usual at Borders. Why a beautiful woman like you feels she has to act like the boys I can’t imagine.

    One would think that a lawyer could find better things to do with her time. Ellie told me to check out your rant on this blog.

    I see you are trying to bully your way into controlling a blog discipline. I think this may be your water

    Come see me. You’ve been missed.
    Renee

  24. Bernie Says:

    Vivian, I throughly enjoyed your short dissertation. I am now a committed reader of this blog. You have ostracized yourself for too long from the group.

    Nan is marrying Lucy in Boston in April. She really wants to make up with you before the big event. No one knew how to approach you, so we let it go.

    If you are still planning to come to Bodega Dunes in May(saw your name), if you bring the bbq., I’ll bring my famous sauce you raved about last year.

    Miss you, too.

    Bernie

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