Sex Is Good
Posted by Michelle Moquin on May 9th, 2012
Good morning!
It’s “hump day” - what better topic to write about than SEX.
Sex Is Bad
Violence > Sex.
Google the words ” Go ahead, I’ll wait. Do you notice something odd about the results? When you search for World Peace online, the first TWO pages of results are for The Artist Formerly Known as Ron Artest, and his now infamous andegregious elbow.
That’s right, for the foreseeable future, the phrase World Peace has been ruined for all of us by one of the craziest men to ever play professional basketball (and that’s a high bar). Because one nutty thug could not contain his emotions after dunking a ball through a hoop, when young kids search for something as innocuous as World Peace, they will be treated to images of senseless violence and aggression.
Two weeks ago, the Philadelphia Flyers and the Pittsburgh Penguins faced off in a playoff game that became the most watched non-finals hockey broadcast in a decade, and the most watched since NBC bought the NHL rights six years ago. The reason? It wasn’t the 8-4 score. No, it was due to the sheer in the game, including a raging brawl between the two teams’ captains and 148 combined minutes of penalties.
Last week, 38 players, including Hall of Fame defensive lineman Randy White, filed a lawsuit against the NFL, accusing the league of negligence and material misrepresentation, fraudulent concealment and conspiracy. They claim that the NFL knowingly failed to protect players from brain injuries and dementia, resulting from repeated blows to the head. Earlier this year, much of the coaching staff of the New Orleans Saints was suspended for creating a system of bounties for players who intentionally injured their opponents. The coach responsible for this system had apparently done the same thing on his previous teams.
Yes, there have been suspensions and fines. Yes, we hear that the leagues in each case take these issues “very seriously.” Yet we hear no outcry from family councils or congressmen about showing the successive games from these leagues or these teams on national TV. As I wrote this, I watched an NHL playoff game on national TV that made my daughter say, “Why is it so violent?” It was 4 in the afternoon.
Due to the great ratings and sheer volume of money connected to TV sports, there have been NO discussions about taking these games off TV until the level of violence has been addressed. And while the leagues are left to deal with troublemakers in their own kangaroo manner, there has been zero talk about criminal charges against the Saints who knowingly, with forethought and malice, planned to attack and injure members of their own league, union and brotherhood. I know I may sound hyperbolic, but just think for a second: if someone paid someone else to attack another player in a playground pick-up game, isn’t it likely that someone would be taken away in cuffs?
On the other hand, two weeks ago, the Justice Department felt compelled to appeal theof the United States – eight years after it happened (I can’t even remember what it looked like!). That’s right, when World Peace gives an unprotected bench player a concussion, he gets suspended for seven games; but when Justin Timberlake exposes Ms. Jackson’s right breast, the FCC issues CBS the largest fine in TV history and the case winds up in the highest Court in the land.
Welcome to TV in America, where violence, no matter how malicious or senseless, is just fine — no matter the context or time of day — but sex is decried, maligned, protested and verboten in all but the most secure corners of the schedule or dial. Programs that are intentionally violent appear in every part of the TV schedule — primetime, daytime, weekends — but TV’s ban on sexuality not only covers scenes of nudity or sexual acts, but our very language itself. Since , when the Supreme Court decided that George Carlin’swas too much for sensitive ears, enormous fines have been issued for uttering the word “fuck” on TV, even during live events.
A few years ago, I executive produced a film called This Film Is Not Yet Rated. In it, director Kirby Dick showed how the ratings system in America allows — even encourages — extreme acts of violence in our popular entertainment, while censoring seemingly innocent depictions of sex or even uses of language. The latest dust-up over the film Bully is a good example, but so is last year’s The King’s Speech, which received an R rating because it used the word ‘fuck’ too many times (when the producersthe rating was lowered to a PG-13).
The film posits a theory — that the permissiveness of our nation’s censors (appointed and otherwise) towards violence, and their outright derision of sex and sensuality, has helped make our society more belligerent and less tolerant, more prone to conflict than to acceptance.
Look, I am a BIG sports fan. Many times each season; I travel more than two hours to attend Philadelphia Eagles football games (making me the sickest kind of masochist). And I am not for blatant nudity across the primetime schedule. However, I firmly believe that our tendency to overregulate sex and underregulate violence in our media sends a mixed and misguided message to our children. Any scan of the TV dial seems bears this out. Violence of all kinds (see CSI, the NFL, WWE and the UFC) is free to roam all times of day, while sex is most often relegated to Pay TV or after 10pm.
That 2004 Super Bowl is a great example — how many players from that game are today dealing with their injuries in silence, while Janet’s halftime nipple remains held up in court? And, if you need more proof, Google World Peace and note that his team played on national TV this past weekend, at 3:30 in the afternoon.
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Readers: Sex is good yes? Yes, and only yes, when both (or more) parties are consenting. I find it so disturbing when you can take one of life’s most beautiful things two people can engage in together, and make it something bad. Violence is never good but sex is good (see above) and yet we can’t view this beautiful act of love in its entirety, but it is okay to view violence in its worst forms.
We can’t even utter the sexual words that so many us love to say, me included. When words such as “fuck” are censored and yet, extreme violence on TV and film that is so prevalent, is accepted. What harm can words do? Nothing, and yet violence, horrific acts by people done to other people is extremely damaging in so many ways, yet runs rampant in the media.
The message is “violence is okay and sex is not”.
And…I haven’t even broached the issue of those in control wanting to continue to control women’s bodies, etc. Your turn to talk. Blog me.
Scott: I am digging it myself.
Jorge: I find that once a LSOS, most likely always a LSOS. In my experience, people who lie and do it often, it eventually becomes habitual and they don’t know the difference between their truths and their lies. And they are excellent at convincing themselves and others that their lies are the truth. But then when you read the comment from anonymous…and I’ll repeat the question: Is it any wonder that Mitt can lie with such ease? Nope.
AA: Nicely said and that is the truth.
Me: I came to the same conclusion. Why there are so many people out there that don’t see that…well, I know why they don’t see that, because they don’t want to. They would rather our country go down into the proverbial shithole than see a black man become the greatest president this country has ever seen. Racism and greed, as Robert, RT stated, “Gold over people” – trumps all.
Robert, RT: To me the real problem is two words: “penis envy”.
Anonz: Thanks again for always providing and illuminating this sick behavior that is getting sicker by the minute.
Alycedale: Just read your comment and you made me laugh. I was going to address Al as well in my above comment to Robert, RT, but you beat me to it. However I do agree with your sentiments; it is no consolation. By the way, how are you?
Peace & Love…
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May 9th, 2012 at 8:57 pm
What’s up? I keep trying to get in but hey all I get is the not available jargon.
I just want to say that Robert, rt has covered that above topic so many times or so my sons say.
Hey, Robert,rt think you could tell two mid twenty young men that it would be better to respect their white dad than to try too hard to identify with a black pro race baiting slick talker.
Lance
May 9th, 2012 at 9:13 pm
Involved in a Lawsuit? Watch Out for These Attorney Tricks
If you are ever involved in a lawsuit, you likely will be asked to give a deposition. Exception: Depositions usually are not taken in small-claims court cases.
Giving a deposition means answering questions posed by the opposing counsel prior to the trial in the presence of your own attorney and a court reporter who transcribes the proceedings.
The primary purpose is to record your version of the facts in advance of trial so that it can be used to challenge a change in your testimony.
The opposing lawyer also tries to trick you into saying things that work against your interests or make you seem dishonest.
The lawyer might try one or more of the following…
Remain silent and stare at you after you answer a question. Long silences make people uncomfortable. The attorney is hoping that you will fill this awkward silence by saying more than you should.
Remind yourself that it’s a trick, and keep your mouth shut once you’ve said what you need to.
Ask questions subtly different from what you expect. If you fail to pay close attention, you won’t notice these subtle differences and will damage your case by providing answers that don’t fit the questions in crucial ways.
Example: A lawyer asks, “Were you driving at the speed limit when you went through that red light?” If you’re not paying close attention, you might not realize that answering yes makes it seem that you’re admitting to running a red light.
Insist that you answer certain questions either “yes” or “no.”
You are not required to follow this yes-or-no-only instruction. You can respond, “That’s not a question that can be answered with just a yes or no.”
Ask what you have done to comply with the lawyer’s request for documents and e-mails relevant to the case.
If your response seems vague or unusual, an attorney might decide to dig deeper into your affairs. If you answer, “I handed everything over,” this could be used to make you look dishonest if there’s something you accidentally forgot to provide.
The best response is to very briefly discuss your process.
Example: “I searched my e-mail files for your client’s name, printed out every-thing that came up and gave the printouts to my attorney.”
Cut you off with a new question during your response. Insist that the lawyer give you a chance to finish answering the previous question.
Frame questions in a way that you must choose between making statements against your interests and being dishonest.
When you feel trapped between hurting your case or lying, consider whether it’s appropriate to answer, “I’m not certain.”
If the attorney follows up by asking for your best guess or estimate, repeat that you don’t know—do not guess.
Try to make you angry. This could include baiting you with sneers or a patronizing tone. Deposition transcripts include only what is said, not how it’s said. If you get mad, you might say something that will make you look bad during the trial.
Alternative: The opposing attorney might instead be very friendly. This also may be a trick. He’s hoping that you’ll let down your guard and say something that you shouldn’t.
Ask you if you spoke with someone other than your lawyer to prepare. Don’t say anything about the case to anyone prior to your deposition. This person might be subpoenaed.
Source: Dan Brecher, JD, counsel to the New York City and New Jersey law firm Scarinci Hollenbeck, LLC. He recently obtained eight-figure judgments in two separate cases based largely on information obtained during depositions. http://www.ScarinciHollenbeck.com
May 9th, 2012 at 9:18 pm
What is happening to your blog? I post and it takes it but when I go back to it it says No comments and my comment has been removed.
May 9th, 2012 at 9:21 pm
Today, I was asked a direct question and gave a direct answer:
I believe that same-sex couples should be allowed to marry.
I hope you’ll take a moment to watch the conversation, consider it, and weigh in yourself on behalf of marriage equality:
I’ve always believed that gay and lesbian Americans should be treated fairly and equally. I was reluctant to use the term marriage because of the very powerful traditions it evokes. And I thought civil union laws that conferred legal rights upon gay and lesbian couples were a solution.
But over the course of several years I’ve talked to friends and family about this. I’ve thought about members of my staff in long-term, committed, same-sex relationships who are raising kids together. Through our efforts to end the “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy, I’ve gotten to know some of the gay and lesbian troops who are serving our country with honor and distinction.
What I’ve come to realize is that for loving, same-sex couples, the denial of marriage equality means that, in their eyes and the eyes of their children, they are still considered less than full citizens.
Even at my own dinner table, when I look at Sasha and Malia, who have friends whose parents are same-sex couples, I know it wouldn’t dawn on them that their friends’ parents should be treated differently.
So I decided it was time to affirm my personal belief that same-sex couples should be allowed to marry.
I respect the beliefs of others, and the right of religious institutions to act in accordance with their own doctrines.
But I believe that in the eyes of the law, all Americans should be treated equally. And where states enact same-sex marriage, no federal act should invalidate them.
May 9th, 2012 at 9:45 pm
This hispanic wants to address the hypocrisy of those who are rushing to join the bandwagon of those accusing Obama of bragging about killing Bin Laden.
Do you really believe this conversation would be occuring had it been Bush, Clinton, or Gates that ordered Osama killed?
Really, all those who praise those that find fault with Obama for taking pride in bringing to justice a person responsible for so many american deaths.
They would be singing a different tune altogether if this deed was accomplished by a WHITE man. Their would be a universal sigh of relief.
Now aside from those that want to credit Bush (who was long gone and “not concerned with Bin Laden”), there are those who argue that Bin Laden should have been captured.
NO WAY – would that be the case had it been one of three mentioned above that gave the order. Instead they would be calling for a national holiday to celebrate Bin Laden’s demise.
The hiprocracy and bigotry of the white race knows no bounds. While they are voting away the rights to equal justice of those of their fellow citizens they will look one or two of those individuals and say but I still want you for a friend.
Emilia
May 9th, 2012 at 9:46 pm
Frankly, what I would like to know is when are those who had relatives and friends in the towers and the Pentagon and in a field in PA going to stop using 9/11 as a point of reference about everything in their lives? I don’t want to sound callous although I suppose I am, but enough of this. It was no more and no less a horror for everyone, just as Pearl Harbor was to those whose relatives and friends never again saw those they cared for. That is war.
And Obama is not bragging about killing a man. He didn’t just have a man’s life end, but he had an organization crippled and shown to be as vulnerable as we were that day. FDR did not live to see the end of WWII, but he would have had a right to be proud of what he did to bring a monster to his death.
Enough. Let’s move beyond this petty political pandering that everyone does using 9/11 and that goes for everyone, period.
May 9th, 2012 at 9:48 pm
One more thing…it would be very nice if we lived in a political world in which both sides agreed to take the moral high ground, but we don’t.
John Kerry didn’t fight back because he thought he shouldn’t have to, that the facts would speak for themselves, and we know how that turned out.
When Democrats have a chance to exploit their own military courage and success, they must take it, because they have to overcome the backlog of damage that has already been done by Republicans karlrovean liars. IMO.
May 9th, 2012 at 10:14 pm
I am a mother of 7. My children spent most of their lives feeling left out of the american dream because they were latinos.
The election of Barack Obama gave them hope. The white bigoted backlash has almost brought them back to those bad ole days.
Most of white america is a cesspool of narcissism, hatred and greed. As a mother that fears for her children every time they leave home, I am getting tired of their insensitivity to the rest of us.
Rosa
May 9th, 2012 at 10:30 pm
Robert,RT has said here often that the reason the white boy claims to stand for States rights is because they know that they have the votes if done by state.
Civil rights of individuals shouldn’t be up to a vote by the majority. If whites today could vote on whether OTWs should have the same rights as they do, we would be regulated to second class citizens in a NY minute.
And any, who would deny it, are truly LSOS.
Chong
May 9th, 2012 at 10:31 pm
Let’s get right to it.
The tea party last night sent a message to Dick Lugar in the Indiana Senate primary race. With a 63 percent American Conservative Union rating, questionable votes on TARP and the START treaty, and 36 years in Washington, voters felt it was time for Lugar to go.
Make sure to read John Hayward’s analysis of the race here.
A funny story out of West Virginia. A federal inmate serving 17 years for extortion managed to garner 40 percent of the vote in the Democratic primary against incumbent President Obama. I saw tweets last night basically saying what John Gizzi saw when he was in the Mountaineer State last month: People are very angry at this administration’s war on coal, and are taking it out on the president in any way they can. Sen. Joe Manchin may be re-elected this November, but don’t count on Obama.
While Gov. Scott Walker handily won the Republican primary race in Wisconsin Tuesday, his Democratic opponent has been revealed: Milwaukee Mayor Tom Barrett. The only thing you need to know from that primary, is that Walker alone won more votes than the two leading Democrats combined. Expect a bloody battle up to the June 5 vote, with tons of special interest money pouring into Barrett’s coffers.
That’s all from me today. For all those who wrote in asking, my arm is feeling much better today. Thanks for the support!
-Adam
May 9th, 2012 at 10:35 pm
We have a history of voting against others getting the benefits we take for granted because of the color of our skins. I didn’t realize how much I took for granted until I gave birth to three lovely children.
The two that can pass have no problems. But my sweet little Amy has to defend herself constantly from the bigotry of the cruel world out there.
Her father and I try hard to see that she has the same feeling of she can do whatever she wants but those out there that continue to remind her every day that she is black make our work so very difficult.
Lisa
May 9th, 2012 at 10:43 pm
The most disgusting thing about this video is that no one was trying to get the cops to stop. They were just sitting there watching Kelly Thomas choke on his own blood.
They did not even say anything. I hope those cops get life in prison. He was a defenseless, homeless man.
May 9th, 2012 at 10:45 pm
Police Beating of Kelly Thomas in Fullerton, CA
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1ljYNgLnpxM
May 9th, 2012 at 10:59 pm
Americans often come here bragging about how their constitutions say every one is created equal, they never tell us that they often mean every body but gays, or latinos, or, etc, etc. …..
Calling them hypocrites is one thing. Me, I just piss in their food.