Wonderful Women of The World
Posted by Michelle Moquin on January 25th, 2014
Good morning!
I find it interesting (perhaps it is the law of attraction at work :), that when I am drawn to a particular subject, articles seem to show up supporting that subject. Wonderful Women of the World show up too.
To keep the conversation going, here’s a video from TedxYouth:
The Sexy Lie: Caroline Heldman at TEDxYouth@SanDiego
A leading advocate for spotlighting how the mainstream media contributes to the underrepresentation of women in positions of power and influence in America, Caroline Heldman offers straight talk and an often-startling look at the objectification of women in our society. She illustrates how it has escalated, how we have become inured to its damaging effects and what we can do individually and collectively to demolish the paradigms that keep us from a better world.
Chair of the politics department of Occidential College in Los Angeles, Dr. Heldman appeared in the acclaimed documentary, Miss Representation and is co-editor of “Madame President: Are We Ready for a Woman in the White House?” She is a frequent commentator on radio and television and a regular contributor to Ms. Magazine.
In thespirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TEDx event, TEDTalks video and live speakers combine to spark deep discussion and connection in a small group. These local, self-organized events are branded TEDx, where x = independently organized TED event. The TED Conference provides general guidance for the TEDx program, but individual TEDx events are self-organized.* (*Subject to certain rules and regulations)
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Helen: I think these are good questions to ask. And Dr. Heldman posed some additional questions for all of us to think about as well. How will we create and build a new paradigm for women in our society? I loved some of her examples.
Thoughts? Blog me. Happy Saturday!
Peace & love.
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January 26th, 2014 at 5:13 am
we need physicists to research stuff we don’t know how to do, we don’t need sociologists do “begin to explore the powerful influences that affects us all (and then make individual choices
January 26th, 2014 at 5:21 am
whilst i really agree her, but why does she think men can’t don’t understand? I’m a man and body monitering really applies to me
January 26th, 2014 at 7:12 am
Michelle, I wish that posters would take your request seriously and make their comments on the appropriate blog day.
My comments are to Bee #3 on yesterday’s blog.
Bee it is not about any double standard, mainly because there isn’t any standard double or otherwise. Ask yourself who would benefit from “lets not play a waiting game.” Have you ever met a man who would ask you to wait if you wanted to fuck him?
That should put the lie to the “playing games” line. The game for men is to fuck the woman as soon as he can. So you are living up to the “standard” men are trying to project when you play their game.
January 26th, 2014 at 7:14 am
Bee, go ahead fuck all the men you want as fast as you can. That will leave the ones that have fucked you to my doorstep when they are considering a partner for life.
January 26th, 2014 at 7:17 am
Bee, how has that attitude worked out for you? I sense a tone of bitterness in you posts. Has it turned out badly for you. Do men and women look down on you because of your behavior. If some do, You may have judged them harshly by believing they did it because of some “double standard>’
It may just be they think you are stupid for not being more circumspect in an area that is so intimate.
January 26th, 2014 at 7:25 am
Bee, I may be wrong or out of place for getting in here. But I have three sisters and two teenage daughters that I love very much. In as much as they have introduced me to this blog and I have been reading it for 3 years, I don’t feel that my first urge to opine should be ignored.
Bee, you will have to face the fact that because men and women are different physically(men are usually more powerful) there is a different dynamic occurring when the two decide to become sexually intimate.
A man can force a woman to do his bidding sexually in most sexual situations. For that fact alone, a woman should be more cautious who she takes to her bed. It can turn violent and dangerous. Therefore WHEN you decide to have sex with a man does matter.
I’m not saying that waiting 90 days is the answer. But I can say that the more time she puts between the time they meet and the time she allows him to become that intimate with her the safer she will be.
January 26th, 2014 at 7:36 am
Why are so many comments directed towards what that idiot Bee Says: January 24th, 2014 at 5:45 pm? Any woman that buys into that breaking the “double standard” bullshit or the “stop playing games” line men use to pressure women into having sex with them is either a blond or just simpleminded.
Today’s woman knows better. She is no more likely to be friends with a man who has a reputation of sleeping around than she is with a woman. Easy is easy, there is no way to disguise it as anything else unless you are trying to make the standard “not playing games,” meaning, “let’s just meet and fuck because we are animals that obey our urges not our intelligence”, something to live by.
The woman, if it is a female, is soft in the head. And only an immature female or and old bonehead woman would find any morsel of credence in her utterances.
January 26th, 2014 at 7:37 am
Actually Bee is my kind of liberated woman.
January 26th, 2014 at 7:53 am
Bee, there’s one problem with the double standard if you fuck whoever you want without vetting properly you end up with whatever you get, which often is not what you really wanted.
Having said feel free to carry-on in whatever manner you want. I believe we should all have that freedom if we choose it knowing what the consequences are.
Luv, Zen Lill
January 26th, 2014 at 8:03 am
When I think about the discussion about this BEE. What comes to mind is I’d fuck her, but I wouldn’t take the slut home to my mother. I been there done that. I married a woman I met and fucked on the first date. We lasted 39 years until she passed away. I love her to this day as much as I did then.
I never felt good about that fucking her on the first date. I later came to love and respect most of her beliefs and attitudes, but that first was just a fuck, my first lucky first day.
I was always uneasy when the subject came up around our 8 children about when and how I met their mother. I wouldn’t want my daughters to emulate their mother’s behavior. I confess, I wouldn’t care if my three sons got lucky on their first date.
To me it is not about the women being sluts as it is about the trust in the faithfulness that woman would bring to the relationship later on. In the first three to five years of our marriage I never doubted that if she found a liking to any of our male friends, anything would prevent her from fucking him on the side.
Yes, I loved her but her sexual history was always there, reminding me that her body wasn’t all that special to her. I secretly felt that anybody she liked could fuck her. I had 4 children by her before I was able to feel safe. I mean that it was my pussy.
I know it sounds sick. But she was the first woman that I had been lucky enough to fuck on my first date. I fell in love with her despite her letting me do so and the advice of my mother that only sluts have sex so freely.
I can’t say if she was a slut, but she was the woman I loved and a great mother, wife and partner. But reading the comments to bee woke up those old anxieties. Now that I think about it. I never got over it. And I don’t think I ever thought her as trust worthy sexually as I do of many of the women I met after her passing away.
When she and I were together, I looked at a lot of women, but I had made a wedding pact with her so I never cheated on her sexually or otherwise. I loved our time together. But I realize now that I am relieved that I don’t have to harbor those negative thoughts about her any more.
I was 58 when she passed away. All our children were grown and we had several grandkids. But I never felt comfortable when I was asked how I met their mother or grandmother. The lovely lady I keep company with today, makes me feel much more comfortable when I leave her in a room of men, and I am delighted to tell how we first met.
It took 4 months and a few days to convince her to have sex with me. I know she values herself as much as I do. I haven’t asked her to marry me because I still love my first wife. But every day I re-evaluate that commitment to Trish.
January 26th, 2014 at 8:57 am
I suppose………… But my question is if one truly understood the dire consequences of a particular action why would they choose that particular action. If someone told you that running a red light could result in an accident or your death. Would you proceed in that action?
And even more incredible to me if someone else realized those dire consequences why would they recommend to others to “feel free to carry-on in whatever manner you want.” i.e.
Playing russian roulette with a gun could result in an accident or your death. “Having said(that, sic) feel free to carry-on in whatever manner you want. I believe we should all have that freedom if we choose it knowing what the consequences are.”
Yeah, that’s very good advice. 24.Jerri Says: January 26th, 2014 at 7:06 am – Jerri your uncle had a point.
January 26th, 2014 at 8:59 am
Zen Lill#9, saying that’s a problem is like saying the hole in the Titantic was a problem.
January 26th, 2014 at 9:11 am
Bee, have you considered that the fact that a man refers to having sex with a woman a “playing a game” the objectification of a woman as something he plays at?
Why would you want to play his game with the simple rule that you allow him to fuck you immediately or you lose. What exactly are you getting out of it other than a feeling of being liberated from the “double Standard” that men set up in the first place?
Oh, yeah, you get an Orgasm, maybe.
January 26th, 2014 at 9:38 am
So smart you are Kali;
The woman gets an orgasm, maybe, from being objectified by the man.
The man gets something for free, that he would have to pay for from a woman who gets paid to be a sexual object from a man.
January 26th, 2014 at 10:29 am
Bee, you make such a big argument just for a chance to orgasm. American women are so dumb. We are forced to be chaste less we are killed. You have the option and you choose to be tricked into giving yourself easily so you can be like a man who takes advantage of women however and whenever he can.
You are breaking a standard, the one that implies that intellect separates us from the instinct of animals.
January 26th, 2014 at 10:31 am
A mature woman doesn’t play games. She fucks who she wants when she wants. I’m looking for a mature woman providing the wants to fuck on the first dates. -(:
January 26th, 2014 at 2:53 pm
I wouldn’t recommend for anyone to run a red light however people do it every day, and by choice, and often there’s no consequences but often there are, I’m just saying we should be free to choose to be smart or to be dumb. Just to clarify. That’s what being free is about. -ZL
PS do I recommend to my friends to sleep with someone within the 90 days. No, but yes sometimes they do it anyway. Live and learn…
January 26th, 2014 at 3:20 pm
Morris, I luv your story, it also illustrates perfectly (for me) another thing, if a man even suggest going to bed on date one I pass bc he’s just playing a numbers game (ask enough women and someone is bound to want just the orgasm) yes, that may be true but it won’t be with me. Lovely and poignant anecdote, thank you.
If it sound like I’m too casual about it for Bee or anyone else, it’s just bc I do not like the IDEA of the double standard either and yet I acknowledge it exists and work with it, if someone else chooses to work against it I just feel that they wll likely learn based on natural consequences from either their own internal barometer (feel used, etc…) or from outside influences (dumped by dude shortly after penetration day) and so why not allow someone else to learn from their own mistakes. With freedom comes responsibility and they will certainly learn a bit about both.
-ZL
January 26th, 2014 at 3:21 pm
Pass on seeing him again (just to be clear)