My Version Of A ‘Dear John’ Letter:
Posted by Michelle Moquin on January 3rd, 2009
You know I usually address my readers in the order that they comment but this time I had to jump ahead to john.
Dear John:
You are a typical male and most likely a white one. Most men are all about themselves, while women are team players who think of others first. Women are the caretakers of this planet, not men. Women have the tendency to find the good in others even if they have to dig through the shit to find it. They search for the shining jewel that has yet to be carved out of the dull rock…the lotus flower that blossoms out of dung.
So when women speak loudly as they have here, you should shut up and listen. They have looked for the brilliance in their men to shine, and after carving away layer after layer looking for the jewel they find that all they can uncover is a dull rock.
These women aren’t bitching. (They aren’t asking you to take out the garbage…and so what if they are. Just do it and the ‘bitching’ will cease.) How narrow-minded you are that you see the plight of these women and their expression of their controlled lives as ‘bitching’. I have no idea what these women endure on a daily basis. I can sympathize on one level but my empathy only goes as far as my own experiences, which are nothing compared to these women. And, I highly doubt that any man could even come close to understanding. In fact I am sure that if the roles were reversed, you would never last one minute let alone a lifetime. I do know that men are babies and when they don’t get their way they throw a tantrum and the fight begins. War is started. Men use their brawn and women use their brains. It is as simple as that.
So to answer your question, ‘Why is it always time to dump on the men?’ Because men keep taking the same action over and over again. And women are sick of it. They want out. Yeah these women may be fed by their husbands – yeah ya got to feed them so they have the energy to wait hand and foot on their ‘masters’. But don’t say that these men are protecting these women or dying for them – let’s be real here. John, are you not listening to these stories? These women have no support of their men masters – hell they get left in a room alone with another man and it is instant death – where is the protection? And if they’re going to war it certainly isn’t to protect their women and children. No, it is to ensure the continuation of their own kind. It is to protect their rights that they have over their women so that they can continue to enslave them and use them as they see fit.
So don’t give me this crap about all that you do for women. It’s BS. If you truly did care, if you truly did give a shit, you’d be making changes and supporting the women of this world instead of crying like a baby and feeling unappreciated.
As far as anonz…Again, you are being so small minded. I do not need to back anonz. He needs no one in that arena. But I do feel the need to play the other side and question ….look at the big picture and see past my own little world. Are you not looking at the big picture? Obviously not.
You should be grateful that if it were not for him we would not know the truth about our government. We would still continue to believe that they had the people’s best interest at heart. We would not know the extension of their greed. Yes, he has been a major player but if you were in his shoes what would you do differently? Would you turn it all down or would you gather up as much as you possibly could – remember my question awhile back: ‘If anyone could have all of the control who would it be?’ Maybe Anonz says, ‘I want to be in control; I trust myself more than I trust anyone else to have the control. He knows these players that he is up against much better than we do. I’m not saying he is a saint – far from it, but what I am saying is that he is the only one ‘spilling the beans’ and he continues to keep us informed even when his life is being threatened as it is today. Is it not possible that he has bigger plans that we are just not privy to?
As I said earlier, women look for the jewel beneath the dull surface. It is our nature to want to see the good. Anonz is shedding his layers and we are all hopeful that there is a brilliant jewel underneath.
Goodbye John.
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Hello Chaghcharn: You are so correct. I have wonderful close female relationships. It has been challenging lately only because of my circumstances, but I know that I would never be betrayed by them in ways that you speak of. I can not imagine. The women in your country endure so much together yet you are really alone when you can not trust and confide in each other. My hope is that we are on the road to change.
Bost, Tarin Kowt, Meymaneh, Kushka, Anjali: Thank you for writing in to Dapne, and sharing with us, ‘woman to woman’. The more that I an exposed to through stories that are written here, the more determined that I am to continue doing what I need to do to help. All I can promise is that whatever way I benefit by whatever comes my way in life will be passed on…women of this world will benefit too.
Peace out…
Gratefully your blog host,
michelle
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January 3rd, 2009 at 12:02 pm
How Many of These Deadly Fairy Tales?Do You (and Your Doctor) Still Believe?
CAUTION: IGNORANCE MAY BE?VERY HAZARDOUS TO YOUR HEALTH
Why has the number of heart attacks increased by 27 percent over the past 20 years? What’s going on here?
Don’t we know more about how to prevent heart attacks than ever?
Haven’t we been swallowing our statins, lowering our cholesterol, and eating fat-free foods?
Could we be mistaken about some things?
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Word is getting out. But the medical community is slow to change.
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THE 10 BIGGEST AND DEADLIEST HEART MYTHS
Myth #1—Heart disease and heart attacks are an inevitable part of aging.
Myth #2—Cholesterol is the main cause of heart disease and heart attacks.
Myth #3—Blood pressure drugs help you avoid heart problems and live longer.
Myth #4—Aggressive, “type A” behavior increases your risk of a heart attack.
Myth #5—Low-fat, low cholesterol diets are good for you and your heart.
Myth #6—Any exercise is always good for your heart.
Myth #7—There are two kinds of cholesterol: Good and bad.
Myth #8—You should eat less salt.
Myth #9—You should lose weight if you’re “overweight.”
Myth #10—There’s no way to absolutely, positively avoid a heart attack.
If you believe any of these outdated fairy tales, this Special Report will be a real eyeopener. And possibly a real lifesaver.
BECAUSE THE TRUTH IS…
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Truth #2—Most people who die of heart disease have low or normal cholesterol levels. Focus on cholesterol and you can easily overlook much more important risk factors.
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Truth #8—Only some people benefit from eating less salt. Eating too little salt can actually be harmful.
Truth #9—Likewise, only some people considered “overweight” really need to lose weight for their heart health. It depends on one factor.
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Get yourself a glass of water.
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Women water-drinkers had up to 35 percent fewer.
Water seems to dilute your blood a bit and makes it less prone to a clot, which can trigger a deadly heart attack.
And the calcium and magnesium in the water don’t seem to hurt either.
Now… care for a refill on that water?
January 4th, 2009 at 2:53 am
Dafne
I am one of the women CNN has been asking to comment on what is happening in Gaza. I hope the world is not fooled by by pleas for the men here in Gaza.
These cruel men are forcing the women to speak to the media about what is happening in Gaza. They have warned us not to comment when we are asked about their sending rockets into Israel. We are told that if we embarrass Hamas we will be beaten. Our families may be killed and their deaths will be blamed on the jews.
These men are only concerned about what they want. The plight of the women and children that they force upon us is irrelevant. They force us to store all sorts of armaments in and under our homes. They expose those of us who they suspect of choosing another political party over them into harms way to increase the casualty number so that the outside world will be outraged.
They refuse to agree to a cease fire because they want to make it difficult for Mr. Obama to gain more status in the arab world. Israel is not totally blameless. But Dafne I understand why you wrote. I would not like to awaken with this terror raining down on me and my family.
It is true as you stated that our men started it. I hope your men will be humanely restrained from harming those that are not part of this madness. I know that it will be difficult for them under the circumstances. I pray to Allah to guide them and to put mercy into their hearts.
I ask no clemency for our men who perpetrated this madness for political gain for themselves. Madaline had the right idea about them. Oh, if only I could beseech Michelle to loosen her Girlz on these evil men.
There are a lot of good arab people in Gaza who would like nothing better than to live side by side with Israel as citizens or with a cooperative autonomous government. But the hate mongers will have none of it.
If we both and the rest of the women of the world pray to our Gods, and if those Gods are not men, maybe in our lifetimes we will see peace.
Mazar-e Sharif
January 4th, 2009 at 3:09 am
Dafne
The deafening noise and the suffocating smell of gun power is so overwhelming here. I can barely think. I write this because the ignorant men around me can’t read. Why have they brought this upon our heads. Did they think the jews would just sit by and allow them to shoot into their citizenry without shooting back into ours? Did they even care. I think not. They are just trying to get the rest of the world to weep for them.
Mark my worlds, these cruel men will scorn that same world opinion if it asks why they refuse to give equality to their female population. Yet, they beg for that world to come to their aid. I hope the world allows the jews to kill them all. i hope all the women and young girls who have been murdered by these men sit up in their graves and applaud.
Even now they take the women who look good for the camera and who can speak well and force us to dress so as to not embarrass them and say how terrible the jews are for invading Gaza. We are threatened with beatings and death if we acknowledge that they are bombing Israel’s civilians with rockets. We are told that if a news caster ask us about the jews retaliating because of Hamas’s attacks upon Israel’s civilian population to just continue crying about the suffering of the people of Gaza because of Israel’s invasion.
Aybak
Aybak
January 4th, 2009 at 3:16 am
There is no end to the suffering. I have lost my will to live. smoke, bombs, crying, death, its smell, its cold eyes, Why are we asked to bare the result of Europe carving our world up to suit them. ?????????? When will God say ENOUGH?
THERE IS NO EVIL BUT MAN. Women are but temporary useful commodities to them.
January 4th, 2009 at 3:24 am
We can read and you will be caught