Making Love With Music
Posted by Michelle Moquin on February 19th, 2009
I needed to unwind last night, cut loose…get my ya ya’s out in the form of dance. I love to dance and it has been awhile since I have. Ever since my girlfriend and I have gone dancing with our men (we always have so much fun), she has been inviting me to go with her to her Wednesday evening dance class. She knows how much I love to dance and thought I would love this atmosphere. So last night I decided to join her and another good friend.
I was so looking forward to great music and a cool space to just get down and dirty.
When I arrived, I paid my 10 bucks and entered this candlelit room, which is actually a fellowship hall for a spiritual congregation. It was a good size space with a cool vibe and I was excited to be there. I met with my two friends who introduced me to a few others. We chit chatted for a few minutes until the music began to play and everyone started warming up.
My body was stiff – I hate to admit it, but I can’t remember the last time that I did my yoga, let alone any type of stretching. It felt good.
Three songs later everyone was up and dancing and I was still on the floor. Why? Well, to be perfectly honest, I was not inspired to get off of the floor. The music so far was not my kind of music. My girlfriend had warned me that the regular person spinning the tunes was not there for a few weeks and that this person had a bit of a different take on music. Uh…ya got that right.
Let me just say that I am one who loves music but I am not one that needs to listen to it all of the time. I don’t like having music on just for the sake of having it in the background. Music needs to do something for me to appreciate it.
For instance, when I go to the Symphony, I love the way the music moves me, the feeling that I get as it enters my body and my mind. I could just close my eyes and lose myself in it and be perfectly happy. It is an orgasm of the mind. Of course, not every symphony has that effect on me. It may just bring out the joy in me or the child in me depending on what I am hearing and what the music evokes in me.
But, when I go dancing, I want the music to hit me so hard, to inspire me so much…that I can’t contain myself and I must get off my feet. I want to feel the beat, the pulse of the music enter my body…to move me in a tribal way…I know it sounds cliché, but I want to be one with the music. I want to feel as if the music is making love to me. And when the music is right, I can make love for hours. It is truly a sensuous, and yet very primitive dance between me and the song. A good dance partner can inspire me even more so, but at times it matters not whether I am dancing with someone or not. My relationship is with the beat of the music. And like making love with the one you are in love with, and you lose yourself in the act, I too can lose myself in the music. Now…that to me is dancing.
This class was not that for me, unfortunately. The music didn’t necessarily have a beat to connect with. It was Greatful Dead’ish in slow mo, if you know what I mean. Movements were very animated, and very playful for some. Others floated around the room in their own world, and some just rolled around on the floor. No judgment, it just was what it was.
I believe this class is for people who want to connect with their bodies and emotions through music, which is fine. However, I am not one who needs music to connect me to my body. I am very connected to it. I did this type of dance many years ago when I was seeking to connect with myself. I did this mostly in workshops that were of the ‘self help’ kind, and I totally got that this was probably what this class was about for some.
Minutes later when I finally picked myself up off the floor and became a wall flower for the first time in my life :), my instinct was confirmed. A woman walked over to me and said, ‘I know this is a bit weird, being this is your first time, but we try to keep moving even when we are standing.’ I smiled and said, ‘Oh this is not weird (and I thought, I go to Burning Man – this is mild!), I am just not inspired by the music yet.’ Her reply was, ‘Oh, well in spite of not being inspired, you must dance to what does not move you.’….or something like that. And she walked away. Oh Okay. And I thought, ‘I came here to dance my ass off, I paid my 10 bucks, the music isn’t inspiring me, and now I have someone telling me that I must move and dance to music that doesn’t move me.’
Being the open-minded person that I am, and since I was already there, I decided to take her advice. Fortunately, the next song did inspire me…well sort of. I floated around the room for the next 2 or 3 songs hoping that the music and I would at least start dating. We did for a song or two but I knew the relationship wouldn’t last. The chemistry was not there. We never did make love.
I said my goodbyes and walked away relieved that I was out of this uninspiring relationship. And yet I was smiling knowing that true love was always around the corner just waiting for me…and I knew exactly where to go.
Readers: What is your relationship with music like? Are you making love or just dancing through the motions? Blog me.
I have read all of your comments this morning and I will reserve my thoughts till tomorrow. Until then…
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February 19th, 2009 at 12:58 pm
Hi Michelle, This is Howie. In regards to your topic today I would like to share about my relationship with music and dance. I have a special personal relationship with music. I want the music to hit me hard too. To make a connection to my emotional brain and bring back feelings I have felt in the past. I usually listen to music when I feel like a good cry because although I am in Nirvana having orgasms, I am in my emotional brain as well. While listening to certain music I find myself tearing, sniffling, and even crying sometimes when the music touches my heart. This is not a bad thing or a sign of weakness. Real Men are not afraid to cry. I just can’t seem to contain myself either, but It feels good afterward.
I am not, nor have ever been a dancer. I have been shy since childhood and felt awkward getting up and dancing, although I have tried to slow dance many times and enjoyed that. I just don’t have the rhythm. I usually listen to music alone on one of my stereo systems or with headphones on so I do not disturb anyone. I am a bit of an audiophile so I appreciate a flawless recording, hearing every little nuance, every piano key hit or drum beat. I shake my head, sing along, tap my feet and shout out after a great guitar solo but do not dance. Also, my degenerative spinal condition isn’t conducive to shaking my butt.
My point is that I love many varieties of Music from Classical to Reggae, to good old Rock ‘N Roll. I prefer feel good music (what feels good to me) because it really can change my mood for the better. I really do make love to my music.
Perhaps one day in a new ‘suit’I will love to shake my ass, I can’t wait to find out. I hate being a Linear Being. Waiting takes soooo long.
Howie
February 19th, 2009 at 3:53 pm
I know that you love to dance and I know that there was some disappointment when you came home. But, there is another dance groove going somewhere that can inspire you if not that one!
After spending so many years being a musician, I still enjoy having music going nearly all of the time. Regardless, if it is playing or only in my head, there are tunes going always for me. I am now more prone to listen to jazz more than anything else. There is the morning “Blues Drive” beginning at 8am, “Mozart in the Morning” at 9am, “10 at 10″ at 10am, and the Latin music begins at 11am and the day goes on as I find my normal shows on various stations.
When I am on the computer I listen a lot to SOMAFM.com . This is a great internet radio network of various kinds of music which began from some Burning Man people! I recommend it to everyone to check out!
I feel, whether it is through dance or simply freeing the spirit, music is the ONLY universal language. It is an acquired taste like anything, I’m sure Azza, Zmiv and others would attest, but for those that know and can understand the language of music, I would think that this would be a universal means of learning about another society, culture or being.
I hope you are well Howie, it is good to hear from you again.
February 19th, 2009 at 4:20 pm
Zen Lill
I love the way you have with the gentle egos of men. I can see why Anonz finds you so attractive. I just can’t wait until Michelle says something that pisses me off so you can apply your special kind of balm to my ego.
Levi
February 19th, 2009 at 4:21 pm
A NEW HOSPITAL EPIDEMIC: C. DIFFICILE BACTERIA
Last spring I covered new findings on how antibiotic overuse continues to spur the emergence of “superbugs,” drug-resistant microbes, such as methicillin-resistant Staphylococcus aureus (MRSA), that seem to defy modern medicine. Now we have another one to worry about — Clostridium difficile (C. difficile), a toxin-producing bacterium long associated with elderly folks in hospitals and nursing homes that has now morphed into a virulent epidemic strain, threatening people of all ages. C. difficile can range from an annoyance, causing mild symptoms such as watery diarrhea, fever, nausea and cramps, to more severe troubles including inflammation of the colon, sepsis (blood poisoning), kidney failure and, in the worst cases, death.
As its name suggests, C. difficile can be difficult to treat. It is a real challenge to control in hospitals, since it produces spores that are difficult to eradicate and are easily passed from one person to another. And, as with MRSA, its antibiotic resistance has led to the selection of more virulent strains of C. difficile, leading to hospital outbreaks all around the United States.
IS IT AN EPIDEMIC?
For insight into C. difficile and how we can protect ourselves, I spoke with Cliff McDonald, MD, chief of the Prevention and Response Branch in the Division of Healthcare Quality Promotion at the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). “C. difficile has been known about as a cause of human disease for 30 years,” said Dr. McDonald. “It was previously uncommon, but it has now reached epidemic proportions.” He estimates the number of C. difficile cases may reach 500,000 annually (including up to 30,000 deaths), reflecting approximately a five-fold increase since 2000.
The cause of the C. difficile epidemic is a newly identified strain called NAP1, which, when tested in the laboratory, produces 16 times more toxin A and 23 times more toxin B than other common strains. NAP1 is more resistant than other strains to the fluoroquinolones, a group of antibiotics that are commonly used to treat pneumonia in hospitals. “The overuse of antibiotics and the general resistance to fluoroquinolones has given NAP1 C. difficile a one-up on other strains,” said Dr. McDonald. “Because it had a selective advantage over susceptible strains, it quickly spread and became epidemic in health care facilities.”
ARE YOU A CARRIER?
About 3% to 5% of healthy people actually carry C. difficile in their large intestines, Dr. McDonald explained, but typically without symptoms — it is held in check by the “good” bacteria that we also harbor, at least optimally. Ironically, this is often disturbed by the use of antibiotics, leaving some people vulnerable and allowing C. difficile to flourish.
Typically cases of C. difficile originate in hospitals, spread unwittingly by healthcare workers as they handle infected patients and then touch other patients and medical equipment or other surfaces. C. difficile spores are unaffected by most hospital disinfectants… nor are they inactivated by alcohol-based hand sanitizers commonly in use. Special measures are required in hospitals to keep C. difficile infection from spreading.
Making matters worse is that C. difficile has a high recurrence rate. One out of five (20%) patients who get sick with it experience a recurrence and the chances increase following subsequent recurrences. Some cases are so severe that the only option has been removal of the affected part of the colon. “People can actually have a mild infection the first time and then die of a recurrence,” said Dr. McDonald.
TIPS FOR CONSUMERS
We can do our part, suggested Dr. McDonald, by keeping our antibiotic usage to a minimum. “As a society we need to rethink the way we approach antibiotics,” he cautioned. “People need to understand that antibiotics are not vitamins and they are not sugar pills — they can carry some very significant risks, and C. difficile is one of them. Don’t push for a prescription when you don’t really need one.” In addition…
Wash hands after using the bathroom and before eating or touching your face — C. difficile must be ingested in order to cause disease. Dr. McDonald notes that it’s important to remember that alcohol-based sanitizers don’t work against C. difficile, so it may be better to wash with soap and water at these times.
Keep your household clean. If you are exposed to C. difficile, or indeed to any individual with diarrhea, scrupulously clean all exposed surfaces in the room and/or that you or that person may have touched. Use a solution that is 1/10 household chlorine bleach, 9/10 cold water… made fresh daily… and scrub thoroughly to effectively kill C. difficile spores.
Realize that not all cases of diarrhea are C. difficile. However, if you have severe diarrhea that occurs several times a day for two or more days, see your doctor immediately. A stool test can confirm the presence of the disease.
Remember, the drugs many people take in order to feel better — including antibiotics and, as DHN readers have heard before, proton pump inhibitors (PPIs) — alter the natural composition in the body in many different ways, making it vulnerable to disease. Though drugs can play an important role in medicine, in the end, less medicine is often the best medicine.
Source(s): ??Cliff McDonald, MD, chief, Prevention and Response Branch, Division of Healthcare Quality Promotion, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Dr. McDonald is a former officer in the Epidemic Intelligence Service.
February 19th, 2009 at 4:29 pm
I love music when i am making love. I love music when I am putting the moves on that special lady. I love music when I feel the need for hot all day sex. I love music when I’ve cleared the house of everybody and I can gyrate without being conscious of my moves. I love music when I am driving at break neck speed safely along some deserted highway. I love music when I didn’t get lucky and have to beat it in a frenzy before I get company.
The type of music I need at the moment depends on one of those circumstances. When I am just into self introspection it has to be jazz.
Craig
February 19th, 2009 at 4:34 pm
Michelle
I used to be gay. That was until I found a man who put on Let’s get it on by Marvin Gaye and proceeded to eat my pussy like no girl had ever before. We have been married for 14 of the best years of my life. We still dabble when I bring home the sweet thing or two. He loves to watch will I fuck their brains out.
He refuses to join in. He says I’m plenty enough for him. Silly, I know, but it keeps me hot for him. Oh, I did say I used to be gay, didn’t I. I guess I meant I’m bI.
February 19th, 2009 at 5:18 pm
Hey Craig and Zelda, that may have been just too much information. I like music too, but I wouldn’t go that far in describing it. My 17 year old daughter told me to check out this site. She says Michelle is the Bomb. Isn’t that old?
February 19th, 2009 at 5:24 pm
You tell them Howie. I like you believe that we have too many problems to be focusing on little penises. That”s why I only mess with the big ones.
Zen Lill you already have Anonz, Leave Howie to one of us. You want all the good ones. I may not have your writing skills or thinking power, but I can make Howie a good blog buddy that could develop into something if you give me a chance.
I have been reading this blog for over a year. I know most of the players and I have always liked Howie’s sense of humor. He speaks in plain language that we all can understand.
Anonz racks my brain. I don’t know if he is a good guy or a bad guy. There is no doubt about Howie. He is thinking about the country first.
Patricia
February 19th, 2009 at 7:48 pm
Hi Michelle, This is HOWIE and I was finally appreciated for my being myself. I want to thank Patricia for appreciating an individual who really7 does care about important issues. I really do not need to stroke my ego, that is not me. I try to look at things humorously and always speak in plain language so everyone can understand me unlike some commentators who write as if this were their College Thesis and it goes through my ears but I forget what was just read. I want to be understood by all.
As far as Anonz, I am not sure of his motives except he admits enjoying ripping off the Government, the People and anyone else. It is some sort of game to him who already has all the money in the World. His great grandchildren couldn’t possibly spend even a fraction of it if they tried to every day until their deaths. He is certainly greedy, even if he has done one or two nice things in his life.
He does have a soft spot for Zen Lill which doesn’t fit with the rest of his greedy personality. He will be judged one day by his Creator. Can you imagine a man like him begging for forgiveness?
Anyway, thanks for the compliments.
HOWIE
February 19th, 2009 at 9:50 pm
Hi Zen Lill, It’s HOWIE not ignoring your comment to me yesterday. At first I missed it because it came in as the last comment and I was already reading today’s stuff.
I appreciate that you consider me a “real man among the others” out there. I also thank you for your sincere apology. You really do have a sense of right and wrong. Why do you think you keep the name/title of “Zen Lill”?
I am sure you will not knowingly do it again.
I think you are perfect just the way you are and simply wanting and trying to better yourself is the secret to achieving that goal. Every time I try to change for the better and do the right things, it magically happens. This is not really magic, but the power of positive thought. It is powerful just as the power of negative thought. Some people only see the negative side of things and dwell on them. They reap the negativity they have put out into the atmosphere. You can call it karma or any name you choose, but that is how it works and I am sure you have witnessed it in action.
Belittling a man’s penis is cruel. Doing it on a daily basis is wrong and childish, so I felt I had to comment about it. It is just another form of prejudice akin to racism and even repelled me from the Blog. Most decent people find racism repugnant on this Blog. It has been a major topic when aimed at Men abusing Women all over the World.
I agree that White Men have kept Women and OTW’s down for centuries in the USA and Worldwide for millennia. Why do you think it is called “HIS -TORY” instead of HER – STORY? Why is God portrayed as a Male? He really has no gender, He is God – a being beyond our comprehension.
He chooses the Male form when He visits Earth because He knows the advantages of being Male. Don’t you think He can be, and has tried living as a Female when He desired it? There is an imbalance of power on this Planet which has evolved over Millions of years. Perhaps it was necessary to protect Females from the many danger of life in the prehistoric era. Now is the time for Women to even things out. We are equal and made to compliment each other – not to fight over who is the boss.
There has been much injustice over time and this is one of them. It needs to be addressed and solved. Women are just as capable at any job as any Man and eventually will win back the power they deserve simply because they are equal. The same goes for OTW’s who have been immigrating to this Country. The new ones are at the bottom of the totem pole until they reach equality through hard work.
Finally, you are wonderful just the way you are. Why change. Just keep doing whatever it is you do.
This is strictly my opinion although many probably agree.
Sincerely,
HOWIE