Clinton Confronts The Crisis In Congo
Posted by Michelle Moquin on August 17th, 2009
I am blown away that it will be a year ago tomorrow that I first wrote about the plight of women in Congo. Five months later I wrote about what is fueling this war against women. And sadly today, not much has changed. I still think about the women quite often but it wasn’t until I read about Hillary’s past trip there that I knew that I needed to address this very serious issue once again. And because of Hillary, the Congolese women have renewed hope.
When Clinton ignored security advice and flew to Goma, in the east of the Democratic Republic of Congo, her focus on the region’s rape crisis resonated with some of the continent’s most powerless people: women.
It wasn’t just that she was the first top-level American official to go to the epicenter of one of the world’s deadliest wars, nor even the U.S. aid money she promised. It was her reaction to victims’ stories of rape — and the hope that she might do something about it.
The conflict in eastern Congo is a toxic mix of jostling militias, ethnic tensions, greed for resource wealth, a tragic colonial history, a predatory army and opportunistic neighbors. Rape is commonly used as a weapon in this war. Although reliable statistics are difficult to come by, it’s estimated that close to 200,000 women have been raped since the conflict began 13 years ago.
In a recent upsurge in violence, an estimated 3,500 women and girls are estimated to have been raped since the beginning of the year. Men and boys also are increasingly victims of sexual assault.
In America, Clinton might have been portrayed as a bit of a shrew in her sharp reaction to a Congolese student’s question about her husband’s thoughts on an issue — a momentary loss of her usual steely control that got so much media coverage that it became the single moment some people remember about her trip.
But women’s rights activists in eastern Congo weren’t talking about that. They were talking about the tears they saw glistening in her eyes Tuesday as she talked to rape victims and heard their horrendous stories of suffering, including a woman who was raped while pregnant and who lost her baby.
Clinton was so warm and compassionate, activists said, they felt they could almost call her Hillary.
“For the first time in a decade, I have hope again. The message I gave her first of all, as a woman, not as secretary of State, is that a woman can feel the pain all these women feel.”
-Christine Schuler Deschryver, a prominent Congolese activist with the organization VDAY,
Robyn Dixon, Los Angeles Times
(To read the article in its entirety click above)
The Numbers:
1,050,000
Number of Congolese forced to flee their homes in eastern Congo due to violence.
46
The average life expectancy for a woman living in the Democratic Republic of the Congo.
15,000
The number of pregnant women displaced in eastern Congo due to the escalation in violence over the last 6 months.
1,100
Number of rape cases reported every month.
2
Number of hospitals in eastern Congo that are able to perform surgeries to repair fistula.
1300
Number of Congolese that continue to die each day as a consequence of war.
22
Number of armed groups at the table when ceasefire agreement was brokered in 2008.
1
Number of times women are mentioned in the ceasefire agreement.
0
Number of times the epidemic of sexual violence and rape is mentioned in the ceasefire agreement.
$144,000,000
The estimated profits made each year by armed groups from the trade in eastern Congo’s minerals.
These numbers are horrific. And even more disturbing is the lack of attention in regards to the Congolese women, and lack of available health care in regards to their plight, and recovery. This way of life for these women has got to be put to an end. We, along with Hillary, need to continually push the issue if we are to make a difference in these women’s lives.
“If the U.S. has the will and if they give a very strong warning and say first of all we want to stop the violence, it can have a big impact,” Deschryver said. “I hope that was her aim in coming here. Otherwise in 100 years, we will still be here, beggars depending on other countries.”
-Christine Schuler Deschryver
Still want to learn more about the crisis in Congo? Click here for the key facts of the casualties of conflict minerals.
It is one thing to be informed of the casualties but as I mentioned, we must do more to stop the atrocities. Hope For Congo needs our help. If you can give a little, give a little. If you can’t give, one small thing you can do right now, and it only takes a minute, is to endorse the conflict mineral pledge.
The conflict in eastern Congo, the deadliest in the world since World War II, is being fueled by a multi-million dollar trade in minerals that go into our electronic products from cell phones to digital cameras. The Enough Project has worked with other like-minded groups to create a conflict minerals pledge that commits electronics companies to ensure their products are conflict-free. We need your help, as consumers of these electronics products, to let the biggest companies know that it matters to us that our purchases don’t fuel this ongoing tragedy.
Readers: Just remember…every time you have to have the latest and greatest in cell phone or computer technology, think about the women, old and yes even the very young, in the Congo….We are indirectly financing armed groups, supporting the war against women, and aiding in rape as a weapon of war. Transparency in regards to the mineral supply chain is a must so that we can make conscious choices when we purchase our electronic devices. Once again, thank you for all you do.
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August 17th, 2009 at 2:34 pm
DOCTORS EMBRACING PREVENTIVE MEDICINE WITH THERAPEUTIC LIFESTYLE CHANGE
“Therapeutic lifestyle change” is the new $10 term that describes medically based, structured, supportive programs to help people change lifestyle habits to lower their risk of life-threatening conditions such as diabetes, hypertension, heart disease and stroke… whether it be improving their diet, exercising, losing excess weight, managing stress or quitting smoking. I’m glad to hear this concept is gaining traction in the healthcare community — TLC programs aim to prevent or reverse disease and disease-related complications. It’s the same sermon we’ve long preached here at Daily Health News, but one that has been largely ignored by mainstream medicine, where it’s arguably easier to get an insurer to pay for bypass surgery than, say, nutritional counseling that might prevent heart disease from developing.
Though we talk constantly about the rapidly escalating health care costs, in this country less than 3% of our total annual health care expenditures is directed at preventing the chronic diseases that account for most of the spending, pointed out Neil Gordon, MD, PhD, chief medical and science officer for Nationwide Better Health, a health and productivity management company. “It’s unfortunate that we pay to treat a condition once it has developed, but not for TLC programs, which could prevent them,” he said.
A LITTLE TLC CAN GO A LONG WAY
Dr. Gordon, a board-certified preventive cardiologist, knows firsthand that this approach can really work. He was lead author of a 2004 study, published in the American Journal of Cardiology, reporting the effectiveness of 12 weeks of participation in a community-based lifestyle management program in helping patients who had hypertension (high blood pressure), abnormal cholesterol, or pre-diabetes or diabetes, to bring down their risk without the use of medications. Dr. Gordon and his team found that after completing the program, many patients achieved their goal. Specifically…
• 67% of participants with an elevated baseline diastolic blood pressure achieved their goal level value.?
• 64% of participants with elevated systolic blood pressure achieved their goal.?
• 39% of participants with an elevated fasting glucose level achieved their goal level value.?
• 21% of patients with elevated LDL cholesterol level achieved their goal level value. ?
• Of those with baseline fasting glucose levels compatible with a diagnosis of diabetes, 37% normalized their blood glucose level values.
WHAT TLC PROGRAMS DO
The programs that tend to be more effective are comprehensive, flexible and personalized, I was told by David A. Alter, MD, PhD, a cardiologist at St. Michael’s Hospital, senior scientist at the Institute for Clinical Evaluative Sciences (ICES) and associate professor in the department of medicine at the University of Toronto. Dr. Alter wrote a research commentary on the subject, published last year in the Canadian Medical Association Journal.
A good TLC program begins with an assessment of the patient’s health status and his/her risk for disease (such as heart disease or diabetes) … the establishment of realistic behavior modification goals (such as losing weight, exercising or quitting smoking) … followed by an action plan (such as adopting a low-calorie diet or an exercise schedule) … and providing the patient with supportive tools to help achieve these goals (such as educational materials and counseling). “The programs should be personalized and tailored according to the patient’s own biology and behavior, since we are all dealing with a unique combination of environmental factors and genetic traits,” said Dr. Alter. Ultimately though, what all TLC programs must rely on is the patient’s willingness to change behavior — and therein lies the challenge.
BARRIERS TO SUCCESS
It seems obvious that working to improve health rather than just to manage symptoms would be better all around, but a major barrier is over-scheduled physicians. Managed care is largely responsible for this problem — doctors now must see larger numbers of patients in order to meet their costs, let alone make money — and like it or not, medicine is a business. As a physician, Dr. Gordon acknowledges that “it’s a whole lot easier to write a prescription than it is to counsel the patient about the importance of therapeutic lifestyle changes… then again, if more people practiced therapeutic lifestyle changes, it’s likely that fewer people would need doctors’ services each day.” Increasingly hospitals and large corporate employers are establishing TLC programs in collaboration with physicians to provide the structure for patients to get healthier. “The good news is, doctors are beginning to refer patients to these programs,” says Dr. Gordon.
Still many TLC programs are not covered by insurance — though that, too, may be changing, says Dr. Gordon. He said that employers are beginning to focus on the benefits of disease prevention. “They realize that prevention is a key to reducing unnecessary medical expenditures,” he said. Dr. Alter noted 54% of US corporations currently offer TLC programs.
IS IT A GOOD PROGRAM?
If you’re considering a TLC program for yourself or a loved one, evaluate it by asking the right questions…
• How credible is the sponsoring company or medical center providing the service? ?
• Does the staff working directly with patients have appropriate qualifications? ?
• Are they certified or trained in the appropriate modalities? For instance, nurses and dietitians should be certified health care professionals.?
• What mechanisms are in place for communicating with the primary care provider? There should be a formalized system to allow your health care providers to be kept aware, involved and updated on your progress. ?
• What is the goal? Some programs are focused on a specific goal — such as lowering blood pressure — while others are more encompassing, for instance, preventing or reversing heart disease. Be wary of programs that boast about results but have never been subject to a formal evaluation.
YOU CAN DO IT YOURSELF TOO
TLC programs are a means to an end — the result of a successful program is that you’ve learned how to take charge of your own health. Some people benefit from the accountability and structure of such programs, but others can succeed with a do-it-yourself approach, using educational tools, health risk assessments and health coaching on many US government or other health organizations’ Web sites including Medline Plus (www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/healthyliving.html), the American Heart Association (www.americanheart.org), the American Diabetes Association (www.diabetes.org) and the American Cancer Society (www.cancer.org).
“TLC programs are really vehicles to empower patients to take better care of themselves,” said Dr. Alter. “It’s putting the responsibility to take charge of your health back on your shoulders — which is where it belongs.”
Source(s): ?
David A. Alter, MD, PhD, is a senior scientist at the Institute for Clinical Evaluative Sciences, Division of Cardiology and the Li Ka Shing Knowledge Institute of St. Michael’s Hospital, associate staff physician with the secondary cardiac prevention program at the Toronto Rehabilitation Institute, and an associate professor with the department of Medicine at the University of Toronto. Dr. Alter is the chief scientific officer of INTERxVENT Canada. He has authored nearly 100 scientific peer-reviewed manuscripts in the areas of health services, population health and epidemiology research.??Neil Gordon, MD, PhD, is the chief medical and science officer for Nationwide Better Health. He has authored more than 100 published scientific manuscripts, eight books and numerous scientific abstracts in the area of preventive medicine.
August 17th, 2009 at 2:40 pm
A hole has been found in the nudist camp wall.
The police are looking into it.
August 17th, 2009 at 2:51 pm
Hafa adai
I’m a big chess fanatic. Some of my best opponents left for the mainland about 3 years ago. Well, here’s a delight for you. One of Guam’s own is the top young chess player in the USA.
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By Jeff Marchesseault
GUAM – He beat his first Grandmaster in 2006 when he was about 11 or 12. Ray Robson was born on Guam at the tail end of the Ada Administration and has been playing chess since he was three. By the time he’s old enough to vote he’ll already have a decade and a half of experience capturing kings. And apparently he wastes no time ensnaring the most powerful man at the table.
The Saturday edition of the Boston Globe says that in his recent match against last year’s U.S. Junior Closed champion Maxx Coleman, Robson was already positioning to overthrow his majesty by move number seven. Not surprisingly he defeated the incumbent and kept his king. Now if we could only find a way to reduce local politics to a game board, Robson might find himself a plush temp job on Guam in the off-season.
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Peter
August 17th, 2009 at 2:58 pm
Hafa adai
That was just a taste and a brag. For those of you true chess fanatics here’s the article detailing the exploits of the youngest International Chess Master in US history.
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Ray Robson, originally from Guam, moved to Florida with his parents at the age of 3. In 2007, at the age of 13, Robson became the youngest International Master in US history and is certainly one of the rising stars of American chess. In a sense, he trails Robert Hess and Hikaru Nakamura as one of the young Turks of this country’s chess. Recently, he won the 2009 US Junior Closed title with a convincing score of 6-1.
Robson Coleman Sicilian Defense 2009 US Junior Closed
Robson Coleman Robson Coleman
White Black White Black
1. e4 c5 26. Qxf6+ Kg8
2. Nf3 d6 27. Qxe6+ Kf8
3. d4 cxd4 28. Bxc6 Qxc6 (g)
4. Nxd4 Nf6 29. Rf1+ Kg7
5. Nc3 a6 30. Qf7+ Kh6
6. h3 e6 31. Rf6+ Qxf6
7. g4 Be7 32. Qxf6+ Kh7
8. Bg2 Qc7 33. Ne4 Be3+
9. Be3 Nc6 34. Kb1 Bf4 (h)
10. f4 h6 35. Qf7+ Kh6
11. Qd2 Bd7 36. Qe6+ Kg7
12. O-O-O Rc8 37. Qd7+ Kg6
13. Qf2 b5 38. Qg4+ Kh7
14. g5! (a) Nh5 39. Qd7+ Kg6
15. gxh6 Rxh6 40. Qxb5 Rcd8
16. Nxc6! Bxc6 41. Qxa5 Kf5
17. a3 (b) Rh8 42. Nf2 Rd2
18. Rhf1 Qb7 43. Qc5 Rg8
19. f5 Nf6? (c) 44. Nd3 Rgg2
20. fxe6 fxe6 45. a4 Rd1+
21. Qg3! a5 46. Ka2 Rh2
22. Qg6+ Kf8 47. a5 Rhh1
23. e5! (d) dxe5 (e) 48. a6 Ra1+
24. Bc5!! Bxc5 (f) 49. Kb3 Rxh3? (i)
25. Rxf6+ gxf6 50. Qc8+ 1-0
Here is a game from that tournament: Robson vs. Maxx Coleman of Kansas, winner of last year’s title. Robson signals attack as early as the 7th move. His opponent keeps his king well fortified in the center. Robson tucks his king away on the queenside, and assaults his opponent’s fortifications. The key moves that expose Coleman’s position begin with move 22, in which Robson gives up a pawn, a bishop, and then the exchange. The Black king is helpless as Robson gradually takes back the sacrificed material and pushes a pawn toward the queening square.
a) Wasting no time! Now 14. . .hxg5 15.fxg5 Nh5 16.Nxc6! Bxc6 17.Rhf1 is problematic for Black.
b) White has secured an edge. Black’s counterplay on the queenside is stalled (e.g. 17. . .a5? 18.Bb6), his pieces are somewhat scattered, and his king is stuck in the middle of the board.
c) I think this is a misjudgment and 19. . .e5 was correct, with a tough fight.
d) Black appears to have miscalculated the consequences of this sequence.
e) Or 23. . .Bxg2 24.exf6 Bxf6 25.Rxf6+ gxf6 26.Qxf6+ Kg8 27.Qxe6+ etc. and White’s attack is obviously crushing.
f) Or 24. . .Bxg2 (note that 24Rh6?? loses to 25.Rxf6+ gxf6 26.Qxh6+) 25.Rxf6+ gxf6 26.Qxf6+ Kg8 (26Ke8 27.Qxh8+ Kf7 28.Qh5+ quickly wins a piece by pushing Black’s king to the right square and then capturing on e7 and forking the bishop on g2) 27.Qxe6+ Kf8 and White has several ways to win, e.g. 28.Bxe7+ Qxe7 29.Qxc8+ etc.
g) Not 28. . .Rxc6? 29.Rd8+ Kg7 30.Rd7+ and the roof caves in.
h) While the position requires some care, it is clearly winning for White with accurate play.
i) A blunder, but it doesn’t matter.
Annotations by grandmaster Patrick Wolff, a two-time US champion who offers chess exercises and more at http://www.wolffchess.com.
© Copyright 2009 Globe Newspaper Company.
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Peter
August 17th, 2009 at 3:27 pm
Oh, Peter, you’r too much some times.
August 17th, 2009 at 4:37 pm
Michelle
I blew that picture of you in your bikini top HUGE! And I still couldn’t see your face clearly.
What’s up?
I hope you are not letting a bunch of jealous wrenches prevent you from showing what god gave you.
Rick
August 17th, 2009 at 7:15 pm
Not my real name. My wife had sex with a man she met the day before we were to go see a marriage counselor. We made an appointment with one out of state because we didn’t want the gossip hounds to get wind of it.
We had been in marriage counseling for three years because she had no desire for sex. She’s beautiful. I’m a fairly gooding looking guy. At least my fans think so.
We get to talking with the counselor and she opens with well my draught is over, I fucked a perfect stranger earlier today. I yelled you said that you were going to an audition. I know it sounds stupid, but at the time I couldn’t think of anything else to say.
We fly back home. She attacks me in bed. Sucks my d**k while showing two or three fingers up my ass. She does it so good, I could give two shits who she fucked earlier that day.
But now that I have had time to reflect. I am mad as hell. Sure the sex is now Wonderful! But she f**ked a perfect stranger. I asked her if she used protection. She said that did until he ate her ass out.
I think that is slutty. Why didn’t she use a dental dam? Hell, why did she do it in the first place. Sure I know she f**ked a lot of people to get her parts, but that is part of the business. I’ve s**ked my share of dicks for parts too.
I just don’t know if I can stay with her, now. If it got out that my wife wasn’t satisfied with me in bed and she had to f**k perfect strangers to get off, my movie career could be over as a leading man.
As it is I am reduced to exercising my demons on your blog rather than discussing them with a professional person who might be able to help me.
Being famous isn’t all that it seems.
Herbert
August 17th, 2009 at 7:49 pm
You’re fucking stupid. for someone to be married and be disinterested in sex for THREE years and then cheat on her husband is completely grounds for divorce. It’s pretty clear that she’s not interested in you anymore. You should ditch her ass and leave her with nothing.
August 17th, 2009 at 7:51 pm
Herbert
At least you got to have sex. Maybe all those marriage counseling sessions started to work. Some things are worth working out you know? Ask her why she did it.
Mildred
August 17th, 2009 at 7:52 pm
I don’t agree. She cheated on him while probably lying about the fact she has no desire for sex… with HIM. That’s messed up and is a good reason for a divorce.
August 17th, 2009 at 7:55 pm
Mildred #9
Are you fucking crazy? That’s a load of bullshit. Yes, some things are worth working out. The “Aw, honey, what’s the matter?” is not something you use to resolve someone blatantly cheating on you WHILE you’re trying to work out the problems with an already sexless marriage.
The notion that cheating is anything but the cheater’s fault is disgusting. Loveless marriages are ended, not merely used as an affiliation to another person while you commit adultery.
August 17th, 2009 at 7:57 pm
I’m with you Gill. Working out? They already tried to work it out obviously, which is why they resorted to counseling. The fact of the matter is that his wife is just a selfish slut who wanted to fuck on the side and still get the full benefit of being married. There is nothing to work out.
Steven
August 17th, 2009 at 8:19 pm
Yes there is…as a matter of fact I know 3 couples that worked things out after major issues and cheating. In two cases the man was cheating in the third case it was the woman.
Of course it’s mainly the wife’s fault for cheating, but chances are there were other things majorly wrong in their marriage for her not to want her husband anymore and seeking attention from another guy. Chances are that it wasn’t until talking to the counselor that she realized she’s extremely unhappy with her marriage overall, not just the no-sex part.
I’ve seen it happen plenty of times. Of course she still shouldn’t have cheated…but even though she did that doesn’t mean things can’t be worked out.
So many people on here always scream divorce even though they’ve never been married and aren’t even close to being married. If Herbert and his wife were just dating I’d agree that breaking up could be an option…but they’re married.
Marriages take a lot of serious work on both ends. If the wife had not cared about the marriage she would not have agreed to counseling. That’s why I think it WAS the counseling that made her really see what all is wrong in their marriage…which is why she cheated DURING counseling, and not in the three years prior…
Still, not an excuse to justify the cheating, but his behavior may have been the reason and he just never saw it.
August 17th, 2009 at 8:25 pm
Sorry I put the Mildred in the wrong slot. But my assessment is still valid.
Paula,
The guy put THREE years into working out their marriage problems. Showing that much dedication and having her throw it into his face pretty much proves the marriage is a sham and it’s her fault.
August 17th, 2009 at 8:27 pm
Herbert, you are some wimp. That is your wife. You should have given her booze or drugs and fucked her when she was knocked out.
August 17th, 2009 at 8:42 pm
I do believe you mean YOU went three years without sex. She, however, was gettin her puss pounded the whole time. They’re all whores. Bang every one you can and forget about marriage.
If she wasn’t fucking a nigger or one of those muds, keep the slut. Divorce is expensive. Just fuck around on her. Don’t rub her nose in it–let her think she’s still got your balls in a jar.
Hell, from now on, when you want it, take it. Tie the bitch down and fuck her for a week if you have to. What I don’t understand though is why didnt you drop her ass after no sex for two months? She cant be that special.
George
August 17th, 2009 at 8:49 pm
I’m sorry your wife is a slut and a bitch. Let her go, and I don’t just mean divorce her, but all out forget her. I hope you don’t let what happened leave a permanent scar on your heart and leave you mistrusting in whatever relationships you may have in the future because I promise you there are plenty of women that would appreciate such a loyal, rich husband.
I know i would. I am a very attractive woman who is pursuing a movie career. I would love to meet you. Say the word and I will give Michelle my email address.
I will be honest up front. I have been married for two years. His family disinherited him for marrying me. They hate actresses, especially the adult film business.
He is very loyal but he has never had to work so consequentially he can’t hold a job. We have spent most of his annuity by the middle of the month. I will be available between the 17th and the end of most months.
Joan
August 17th, 2009 at 8:50 pm
Theres probably a reason that you aren’t mentioning. She didn’t lose desire to have sex, she lost desire to have it with you. The relationship was over 3 years ago, and counseling doesn’t help. Divorce and move on.
August 17th, 2009 at 8:53 pm
Aside from cheaters and spineless dogs, there is also the category of quality men, who don’t need to be assholes and cheaters because they are well aware of their self-worth and who find quality women who can appreciate that rare quality and live up to their mutual high standards. Difficult to comprehend, huh?
August 17th, 2009 at 8:54 pm
OMG, Joan, you are a slut and worse than the woman he is with.
August 17th, 2009 at 8:55 pm
No offense dude, but I can sort of see two things interconnected here:
1- You aren’t strong with a relationship, and you don’t have the upper hand. You are clearly needy, clingy, weak, give in alot, aren’t strong, DON’T flirt or talk to other women, DON’T make your wife jealous, DON’T therefore turn her on, and thus leads me to number two…..
2- You don’t have sex with your wife (and don’t ask her or convince her enough)
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A person who had the complete opposite of #1 (aka an alpha male) would have done something about #2 EVEN IF the wife didn’t want sex!
He would have basically said, “we’re married, jesus christ we havent had sex in 4 months. lets give it a try. if you dont even want to, im going to leave you, because then it wouldnt even be love so i wouldnt want to live a lie.”
A man who knows how to gets girls has to be able to take risks, take chances, don’t be afraid of rejection, and most importantly MAKE HER FEEL LIKE SHE NEEDS YOU MORE THAN YOU NEED HER!!!
I’m guessing she ignored you, right? Well you should have ignored her back all those times, instead of finding reasons to get close or talk to her. THEN when she eventually got needy and lonely and went to talk to you, your engaging fun sexy active exciting self should have capitalized and eventually talked to her (reluctantly at first), but then thrilled her to where she wants to talk to you again!
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However, this is all for the future. This girl is done. You, through your mishandling of the relationship, have actually turned a semi-bitch into a coldhearted, hate-your-guts-and-want-to-destroy-you kind of sick bitch. You need to leave her IMMEDIATELY, start seeing other women IMMEDIATELY AFTER THE SEPARATION, and get a new life NOW!!!!!! The cheating will just continue!!! she has lost all respect for you now!
August 17th, 2009 at 8:58 pm
Herbert
I can’t believe you put our personal business on the blog I introduced you to. And that choice of names. At least the guy who I fucked picked a better alias.
Fuck all you bastards who are advising Herbert to divorce or cheat on me. He is a good, loyal man. Do not try to corrupt him with you vile suggestions.
Nell
August 17th, 2009 at 9:00 pm
Joan
You are a disgusting whore. I hope your husband leaves you. It seems that his family had you pegged.
August 17th, 2009 at 9:01 pm
Know what I love? In reading through these comments and from past experiences with people’s attitudes toward cheating I get the general impression that a lot of people (usually women) think that when a woman screws around it’s because she’s unfulfilled and the guy should fix the relationship.
But these same people are usually the first to throw a wild badger at any guy who dares to so much as spank it to some internet porn, let alone withhold sex for two years while (at least) having sex on their COUPLE’S THERAPY GETAWAY.
August 17th, 2009 at 9:04 pm
Sorry I did the same thing the other guy did. I meant to end with. Dump that fucking useless cheating cunt.
not Ellen
August 17th, 2009 at 9:05 pm
it doesn’t get much worse than that, does it? cheating is unforgiveable on normal grounds but THIS…is horrendous. nobody deserves that. i don’t care if you’re the biggest asshole in the world. if your spouse is that unhappy, she should have left a long time ago. there’s no excuse for what she did.
August 17th, 2009 at 9:14 pm
Fuck you Ellen, both of you. I am not a slut or whore. I don’t give it away. I want something for this fine body.
I have never cheated on my husband before. I have fucked other men. But I am an adult film actress and was one when he met and married me. I fuck men for a living. Not as a prostitute it is part of the role requirement.
That slut fucked had no right to fuck another man. I do it every day four to ten different men. If I choose to add one or two others like Herbert, it will be my choice and I will be acting.
Herbert
I live in LA and I am available. Pay no attention to these sluts. You need a real woman.
Joan
August 17th, 2009 at 9:23 pm
Michelle,
Now I’m confused. Do we put the name of the commenter we are addressing in the top box or do we address that person in the body as I am doing you?
My comment is to Anon18.
They may have tried other things first…no desire for sex can also be due to physical reasons…like hormones. I had that issue after I switched birth control…and if you don’t know about it you’re not gonna suspect that your BC makes you not want to have sex…it also took us like 6 months to figure out what was wrong. I switched BC again and then it was all good.
But I do agree that two years does seem like an awful long time…one year I’d understand…but not three.
Beth
August 17th, 2009 at 9:26 pm
Excuse me. There is a rape crisis going on in the Congo and you insensitive bastards are debating this shit. I don’t want to say how horrendous it is that assholes like George is suggesting rape, but he is.
Where the fuck are your meds? If I could I would help you find them and shove the and the bottle up your ass.
Gloria
August 17th, 2009 at 10:30 pm
thanks, Gloria! I am also amazed at the lack of attention the readers give to the women of the Congo and the information at hand.
The banter attached to today’s blog entry of empathy and compassion perhaps show the large populace of the United States is egocentric, self absorbed, and suffers from self esteem issues.
George’s fucked up statement is par for his course and is nothing new and we all know about his issues and intelligence factor. We have come to expect that from him. I think you will find his bottle of meds on the third shelf down on the left side, right behind the untouched shaving cream…
August 17th, 2009 at 11:33 pm
WHICH STENT FOR WHICH PATIENT? — PROS AND CONS OF STENT OPTIONS
What’s a heart patient to do? There seems to be no easy answer to the question of whether it’s better to have your arteries propped open with a bare metal stent or a higher-tech, drug-eluting one… or none at all. The former carries a risk that the blockage will recur… the latter brings an increased risk of blood clots… and there are some cases in which stent placement actually worsens outcomes, though clearly doing nothing at all can be dangerous as well. The answers to these complex questions are continually revised as medical research keeps evolving. I wrote about it here in Daily Health News two years ago, in fact. Stents themselves represented a real breakthrough in cardiovascular medicine — they’re faster and less invasive than bypass surgery at opening a blocked artery when a person is having or is at severe risk for a heart attack. However, attempts to refine the technology have failed to produce a clear-cut advantage either way.
So I turned to Harlan M. Krumholz, MD, professor of cardiology, epidemiology and public health at the Yale University School of Medicine and director of the Yale-New Haven Hospital Center for Outcomes Research and Evaluation, for an update on the latest thinking for people with heart disease. According to Dr. Krumholz, both types of stents are viable options, since doctors have learned how to minimize the risks associated with drug-eluting ones — and he agreed that there is always some risk involved with any intervention. The best answer ultimately depends on the priorities and risk profile for each patient.
IS IT STILL A CONTROVERSY?
Though it stirred up the cardiology world at the time, Dr. Krumholz told me that the controversy about the propensity of patients to develop blood clots after insertion of drug-eluting stents has calmed down, since patients who get this higher-tech medical device are now routinely prescribed anti-clotting medications. Proper therapy mitigates the risk, Dr. Krumholz said. Discuss the particulars of your situation with your doctor.
When it comes to cost, however, the questions sort out differently. The costs associated with drug-eluting stents are significantly higher than bare metal stents, which means patients (and doctors) are often faced with trying to decide the most cost-effective form of treatment. Those individuals at lower risk for re-narrowing of the blood vessels may do better with the bare metal stent, while others who have difficulty taking the medication and/or are unlikely to take it for the necessary 12 months may need to weigh that as a factor. These issues can only be resolved by asking the right questions and getting honest answers.
A SOFTWARE SOLUTION?
One hospital group in the Midwest has found a solution. Dr. Krumholz told me about a new and innovative Web-based program now in use at the Saint Luke’s Mid America Heart Institute in Kansas City, Missouri. It is software designed to be used as part of the decision making process. Cardiac patients and medical staff work through the program together — it creates a customized risk assessment for each type of stent with clear explanation of the risks that accompany each. Called PREDICT and initially designed as a way to improve the informed consent process, the program personalizes the risks in a way that makes it very easy to understand. A study of the system, published in the September 2008 issue of Circulation: Cardiovascular Quality and Outcomes, a journal of the American Heart Association, focused on how helpful patients found these individualized risk-assessment/consent forms. Researchers reported that patients who used the PREDICT system understood their risks better, had better recall of the details of the procedure and less anxiety about the treatment process.
Such tools may well represent a new direction for helping to make medical decisions that match patients with the procedure most likely to be successful in their particular case.
Source(s):
Harlan M. Krumholz, MD, professor of medicine and epidemiology and public health (cardiology), Yale University School of Medicine, New Haven, Connecticut.
John Spertus, MD, professor, University of Missouri — Kansas City, director of Health Outcomes, Mid America Heart Institute of Saint Luke’s Health System, Kansas City.
August 17th, 2009 at 11:54 pm
I heard this “People you don’t expect to love are the hardest ones to forget.”
for me it is so true.
May 22nd, 2010 at 10:49 am
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