Flap Your Lips Friday
Posted by Michelle Moquin on February 5th, 2010
Good morning.
How about a little fun? I mean it is Friday, and if you don’t feel like flapping your lips, I can tell you this one in the video has a set and he’s doing quite the flappin’. This is hilarious humor and, the commentary is even better. Check it out:
Ahaha! I am still laughing. I love the guy commenting, “I wonder why he’s doing that?” ‘Duh…Because he can.’ He was into it.
Al: I know you have something funny to say. Bring it on…
Anna: That is a great way to learn from and look at your mistake. No one is perfect – myself included. I too have gone through that kind the anxiety when I have realized that I have given incorrect information about something. When you know that many people are reading, one has to be very responsible what they put in writing. But with a savvy group that I have here, you won’t get very far before someone brings it to light. As you said, “…I feel real good that you out there are paying such close attention to what I write.” That’s the good news. :)
Glen: I thought I would chime in and respond to your comment. I think your wife is too thin myself. I am the same weight and 4-5 inches smaller, and presently I think I’m too thin so I can imagine what she must look like even if she is, as you say, ‘muscled, tight stick’. My cousin has a name for very skinny women -’stick chic’. He likes his women stout too. And by the way, I checked out that click over myself: No comment but I will say one thing ‘she has something to hold onto.’
But back to you and your wife. Perhaps there can be a compromise here. It sounds like you and your wife have a good relationship. Perhaps adding back on the 40 lbs won’t be happening but could both of you be happy if she put on 20? I think life is all about balance so enjoying a sweet thing on the side now and then…oh and I’m talking ‘chocolates’, not ‘sweet young tenders on the side’ :), is perfectly okay. Have you tried talking to her, telling her how much you miss her and those ‘shopping dates’?
Speaking of ‘sweet young tenders’….I know you don’t want to cheat. And I know you are not asking her to cheat on you. I know that is not your desire; you just want her body to be appreciated by someone who loves her body and is turned on by it, and you’re not it. I get it. My sense is, if she loves you as it seems she does, and wants you to be ‘into her’, maybe she’ll give a little. Feeling good about yourself is one thing but having your man ‘into it’...desiring it’…well…there’s nothing like it. That is just the icing on the cake and deserves a good lickin’ – know what I mean? I definitely think you can work it out. Good luck.
Faatin: You are one brave girl. You have acquired some very valuable information. Trust Obama – he will honor his word. Madeline is aware of your circumstances. – Wait until you get a notice from her, or someone Madeline sends. Be safe and don’t worry. You will be taken care of.
Mary: To answer your question: ‘Yes.’
Ruth: I think you’re on the right track. I live on nuts and fruits. Say hello to the girls for me.
Thanks Evelyn: A wonderful reminder. Love to you too.
I have more to say but no more time…except for this little reminder:
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February 5th, 2010 at 7:44 am
The Three-Sentence Secret to Resolving Your Differences with Anyone… Yes, Anyone
Lee Raffel, MSW
am often amazed at the lengths that my patients will go to so that they can sweep conflict under the rug — they’ll tiptoe around difficult issues and people for years, playing the martyr and hoping that change will occur all by itself.
Examples: Your spouse’s family criticizes you, but your spouse says nothing… you find out that a friend has been gossiping about you… you send your grandchildren gifts but never receive any acknowledgment from them.
My patients suffer emotionally because they’re afraid that confrontations will cause more pain and stress and will jeopardize their relationships.
Good news: There are ways to defuse tense situations and to shape conversations in order to create satisfying resolutions.
You won’t have to sweep conflict under the rug. In fact, you’ll likely experience a renewal of energy and more peace from speaking up. The best strategies…
ESTABLISH GROUND RULES
To better resolve differences with your spouse or someone close to you, tell him/her that you want to try something new the next time that you have a disagreement — each of you will take turns speaking, saying what you need to in no more than three sentences. Having rules to play by alleviates anxieties during fights.
The three-sentence technique prevents both parties from making long-winded complaints and forces you to focus on what really matters. It also encourages better listening — most listeners tune out after hearing three sentences and start preparing their replies.
Helpful: If you think that the other person isn’t paying attention, stop talking. Eventually, he will notice the silence. At that point, say, “I just wanted to wait until I had your full attention.”
MAKE COMPROMISES
Think about the compromises that you’re willing to make to resolve an issue before you start discussing it. As soon as an argument begins, most people focus on their desired outcome, convinced that they are 100% right. They are annoyed and indignant to learn that the other party also feels 100% right.
Example: You and your spouse plan to go on vacation. You want to visit a European city, but your spouse prefers a beach resort in the Caribbean. Every conversation you have deteriorates quickly because you try to convince your spouse to see more cultural places while your spouse says that you need to learn how to relax.
Better: Before you talk the next time, list the specific concessions you might make (for instance, you would go to a European city on the Mediterranean… go to the Bahamas this winter, but Paris next summer).
AVOID ESCALATION
Certain “loaded” words raise the tension and alienate each side in a disagreement…
Starting sentences with the word “you.”
Reason: It’s accusatory. “You won’t give me a definitive answer”… “You keep attacking me.” Better: Begin sentences with “I.” It’s less inflammatory and makes the other person more empathetic because you’re describing how his behavior is affecting you: “I would really appreciate a firm yes or no”… “I’m upset by your repeated verbal attacks.”
Using the words “always” and “never.”
Reason: They are inaccurate, simplistic absolutes — “You never listen to what I say”… “You’re always so picky.” These words sidetrack you from the issue that you’re discussing. Inevitably, the other person responds by defending himself and presenting evidence of all the times when he did listen or wasn’t picky.
Saying “I don’t know.”
Reason: It’s so vague that it leads to misinterpretation.
Example: Someone asks you to volunteer to serve with her on a committee. It’s for a good cause, but you really don’t want any involvement with this person — nor do you want to offend her. If you say, “I don’t know,” it could mean “I honestly don’t know”… “I don’t have enough information”… “I actually do know, but I’m not telling”… “I’m lying, but I don’t want you to know.” Instead say: “I wish I could help you, but I just don’t have the time to do it.”
KEEP YOUR COOL
If the other person yells, loses control or speaks rudely and inappropriately, this is your cue to stay in control of your behavior. If you retaliate in kind, the bickering will escalate, making resolution very unlikely. What to do…
Acknowledge his frustration. Say, “I can see that you’re upset.” This makes him feel like you are making an effort to understand his point of view.
If the other person continues with an emotional and/or nasty outburst, say, “Stop.” If he presses on, then loudly and firmly repeat, “Stop.”
“Stop” is a good word because it’s not particularly offensive, so it doesn’t turn up the heat in the discussion. In fact, the other person is usually so surprised by the word, he stops escalating the argument. Next, take a few minutes apart to cool down, or tell the other person that you need to continue the conversation later.
APOLOGIZE EFFECTIVELY
Even if a conflict is ultimately resolved, a hurtful statement made when you argued can trigger bad feelings that lead to more disagreements later. Solution: Apologizing is a powerful act that can help both parties heal. But to work, it must be done well…
Be direct and specific about what you did that was hurtful. Say, “I’m sorry for snapping at you in the car when we got lost.”
Tell the person how you believe that his actions offended, and check in with him to see if you’ve interpreted it correctly. Say: “When you try to help and I raise my voice, you feel anxious and belittled. Is that right?”
Explain what you’ve learned from this experience and what you’ll do to address your bad behavior. Say: “I know I have a sharp tongue when I get frustrated. I need to be more careful and tone it down.”
PUT AGREEMENTS IN WRITING
We are most likely to honor the written word, which leads to more long-lasting results. A written agreement can be about how to conduct discussions (“I promise to avoid distractions like getting on the computer or answering the phone when we are having a conflict”). Or it can be about what you’ve concluded from your discussions (“I will not buy anything on late-night infomercials without checking with you”). Date the document, and have both parties sign it. This is an effective way to ensure that there are no misunderstandings in the future.
AGREE TO DISAGREE
In my practice, I’ve found that about one-third of major conflicts are nonnegotiable. Neither partner will change his mind about the issue because each feels it’s an integral part of who he is.
Example: An elderly parent who can no longer take care of himself refuses to move into a nursing home. In such cases, it’s often best to yield to the person’s wishes, but to ask him to make a concession to you in some area that’s less threatening. For instance, the elderly parent doesn’t have to give up his home, but he must accept a day nurse. This is the simplest way to compromise without getting bogged down in useless arguing.
interviewed Lee Raffel, MSW, a practicing psychotherapist for more than 35 years in Port Washington, Wisconsin. She is author of I Hate Conflict: Seven Steps to Resolving Differences with Anyone in Your Life (McGraw-Hill). Raffel is a clinical member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy and a board-certified diplomate in psychotherapy and behavioral medicine.
February 5th, 2010 at 7:47 am
Hafa Adai
To the youths of Guam:
This is a fight for the future and it is a fight we must win — to fight for a Guam that is defined by a deep and meaningful equality, from civil rights to labor rights and from Chamorro rights to gay rights. From ending discrimination and the ability to self-determination, this is the story of Guam, of men and women who defy the odds. We are Guahan — we’re not big on quitting!
Derick B. Hills is the speaker of the 27th Guam Youth Congress.
February 5th, 2010 at 7:49 am
“In good faith, the Department of Defense needs to be as transparent with the people of Guam as it has not with terrorism in the Middle East.”
I think the Military is quite clear as to their objective with the military buildup on Guam . . . westernmost U.S. military outpost. Pretty transparent to me. All decisions, negotiations, comments, and concerns on the military buildup will come out of Washington, D.C. not Adelup.
That’s where you need to go if you want to make a statement. Our local DEIS meetings are a note taking exercise as a formality so to speak.
Santos
February 5th, 2010 at 7:51 am
Derrick – with young people like you speaking their minds, I have confidence in the future of the island. Stay focused on the needs of all of Guam’s people, stay away from the ‘fringes’ of all arguments, and stay involved. We will be relying on young people like you to make changes in the current social/political structures that will benefit all Guam.
Manachang
February 5th, 2010 at 7:56 am
An older gentleman was
on the operating table
awaiting surgery
and he insisted that his son,
a renowned surgeon,
perform the operation.
As he was about to get the anesthesia,
he asked to speak to his son.
‘Yes, Dad, what is it? ‘
‘Don’t be nervous, son;
do your best
and just remember,
if it doesn’t go well,
if something happens to me…
your mother
is going to come and
live with you and your wife.’
February 5th, 2010 at 8:23 am
My husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer three years ago. He was advised to have surgery to save his life. He had the surgery. We moved across the country to the West Coast last year.
During a routine examine, it was suggested to my husband that he have a prostate test . We later learned that he never had prostate cancer. We are suing. Since then I have been collecting everything I can find on the subject. I found this. I hope it helps someone else.
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Cancer myths crumbling
It’s been a rough few months for anyone who makes a living off cancer fears.
You’ve probably seen the headlines by now… breast and prostate cancer screenings can do more harm than good. That used to be a radical line of thought–but it’s quickly becoming the mainstream.
And now, the latest research out of Europe finds that one in every eight men who undergo a prostate cancer screening test positive… but don’t actually have the disease.
Not a hint of it!
That’s not just a high false positive rate–that’s a test that needs to be scrapped.
The problem is not just the one in eight who test positive and may undergo life-altering treatment for a cancer they don’t have… it’s also the ones who test positive for a cancer they DO have–but don’t need to worry about.
Prostate cancer is a slow-developing disease that usually strikes late in life. Many of the people who have it will die of another condition–even old age–long before the cancer has a chance to do its work.
A study published last year in the Journal of the American Medical Association found that 85 percent of all prostate cancers will never spread. Another recent study found 1 million American men have been treated unnecessarily for prostate cancer.
The lesson here is this: Question anybody who seems to be in a hurry to get you under the knife. If there was ever a case for second and third opinions, this is it. And whatever you do, don’t trust most of the tests they’re constantly pushing.
PSAs aren’t the only ones you have to watch out for–one new test is supposed to help determine who is most likely to get the more aggressive forms of prostate cancer. It’s a nice theory–it could help determine who really might need surgery, right?
Wrong.
The patients identified by this genetic test are only 26 percent more likely to have those aggressive tumors. That means nearly three out of four who have this gene actually may have nothing to worry about.
Helpful? Not really. Not for you, anyway–I expect it’ll help a lab somewhere make a few extra bucks.
The best way to lower your risk for prostate cancer is to keep yourself healthy– especially by eating right.
One new study published in Ethnicity & Disease finds that men who eat the most omega-6 fatty acids are more prone to prostate cancer, while men who eat the most omega-3 fatty acids may be less likely to get it.
Ideally, we should be getting them in roughly equal amounts. There’s a little wiggle room – you can safely get between two and four times as much omega-6 as omega-3. But most people today get between 15 and 20 times as much omega-6 as omega-3.
You can restore your balance by switching to grass-fed meats, fresh fish and adding a good omega-3 supplement. Then, cut back dramatically on foods rich in omega-6, such as grain-fed meats (that’s the bulk of supermarket meat) and seed oils.
Whether you’re worried about prostate health or not, that’s good advice for anyone.
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Wilma
February 5th, 2010 at 8:37 am
Hafa Adai
I’m still up waiting on my husband who had his night out with some of his pals who got orders to ship out. It is after 2:30 in the morning.
Anna I heard that at least two of the fires have been determined to be arson. For those of you off the island and on like me here is the latest.
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GUAM – Two of five fire scenes now under investigation on Guam are on the same block in Hagatna and occurred just a day apart.
Last week Thursday (January 28) firefighters were hosing down an abandoned home between the Bahai Faith Center and the Chode commercial building near Julale Center.
But the day before, a blaze further damaged a structure of distinct historical significance.
It’s an unassuming abandoned house on a corner lot in Hagatna that caught fire for the fourth time. But what many don’t know is that it’s the childhood home of Guam’s first Archbishop — Felixberto C. Flores.
After suffering a series of damaging fires, what’s suspected of being Ifit wood timbers are now charred to a crisp, further compromising the skeletal framework of the home.
At his passing, the late Archbishop deeded the property to the Archdiocese. And the Guam Historic Preservation Trust is seeking to have it designated an historic site — and restored to its original condition.
Yet, for Monsignor James Benavente, the building represents much more. Benavente says if the building is not designated an historic site, the Archdiocese will use the property to expand Guma San Francisco to provide more services to the homeless.
But for now the childhood home of Guam’s first Archbishop sits gutted, burned and abandoned.
The home sits in an historically significant block of Hagatna near Julale Center.
Just around the corner on Padre Palomo Street? Pakito’s place. And the 1911 Lujan Home, now under renovation by the Preservation Trust. Until more of Guam’s historical buildings can be properly restored and maintained, they will continue to be exposed to the elements, undue mishap, or, worse, arson.
Story credits: Writted by Jeff Marchesseault and John Dela Rosa, Videotaped by David F. Macaluso and Eli Sommerfleck, Video Editing by Eli Sommerfleck and Bobby Bonifacio, Jr.
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I’m mad but I’m happy he didn’t get orders to leave.
Ligaya
February 5th, 2010 at 8:49 am
“The time has come,” the Walrus said,
“To talk of many things:
“Of giving head to oneself–and sealing-wax–
“Of cabbages–and kings–
“This is why the sea is boiling hot–
“And why the pigs need wings.”
I was a teenager once, but I can still do that………
Al
February 5th, 2010 at 9:04 am
We love you here in Washington D.C. Al. Can’t think of anything better than hunkering down waiting for the snow and taking in your humor on the blog.
I would love to meet a man who can toot his own horn. I may not be that deep, but I am that sweet-:).
Kristi, Marci, and Joan
February 5th, 2010 at 9:38 am
Hello Michelle;
I can not believe that you took the time to reply to my husband. I am so excited I have been your fan since the beginning. I remember crying when you had your family trouble and when that horrid man said the mean things on a dirt bag of a man would say to a woman.
You are my heroine. I know that you are always on the side of the woman first, but that you are fair minded and can see the merits of both sides. So I guess you are right I am too thin.
Glen is a good man, but I take a little credit for that. I get my back up courage from you and your blog. Women shouldn’t be anything less than equals in a relationship. I love Glen dearly but I keep that in the back of my mind.
Like any spouse who makes the most money, i check on my stuff. so believe me if he were cheating on me I would know. And he knows what i would do if I caught his ass.
He is fine and the women are always making overtures. It is surprising how so many women are willing to accept advances from a married and even make them themselves. I would never consider a married man as a sex partner.
I saw that big ass show off that he was admiring. I told him if he craves that much butt, lets hire a professional hooker one that gives good head to me with a huge butt she can stick in the air for his admiration while she is doing me. That will be as close as he will ever get to butt that big if wants to continue to be my man.
I do have (maybe did) a great ass. I asked my children if they thought I was too skinny. They quickly piped in “yeah mommy you need your butt back.” Where did you get that I asked my oldest. She said I heard daddy say it over the phone and Jorge( he is the 19 year pool boy), and Uncle Mark(brother-in-law).
I have scheduled a night out with my handsome man this evening. Just us and the town. Oh, and that quip about allowing me some bed time with another man. Macho bullshit!
He has been smelling behind me since before I was legal. He was my first and only. I know that is ridiculous. Many of my male co-workers in a last ditch effort to get me in bed has used the line “do you want to die having experienced only one dick?”
My thoughts on the subject is that this one gets me off every time. So why should I risk my marriage on one that may not or may not as well. Glen sends me in and out of bed.
He has integrity, manners, brains and he is a very loving father. My daughters dote on him. Rather they spoil him. He comes home and runs the house while I am away. My job requires lots of travel. He keeps a spotless house and always remembers to keep the lid down and has instructed our sons to do the same. They too dote on their father. For them he can do no wrong.
Now, I know he is reading this and getting the big head so let me say that for 7 years of our marriage I put up with a pot bellied flabby man. Now that I have had him sculpted into the man of my dreams, he had better be patient until I put back on 20 lbs. or so.
Love you Sweets, too
Grace
P.S. I can not thank you enough for taking the time to give us your advice. As soon as my girls are old enough they will be introduced to your blog.
February 5th, 2010 at 9:40 am
The President’s budget builds on the success of the steps taken in the Recovery Act to create good-paying jobs, spur investment in small business, and get our country on the path to economic growth. We have seen many of these benefits in more than 250,000 jobs the Recovery Act has already funded in California.
In the President’s budget, California will be provided with: $6.3 billion for education, $6.1 billion for roads and infrastructure, and $4 billion for housing assistance. His request also includes $3.9 billion in new funding for Pell Grants to help families pay for college, as well as tax cuts for 12.6 million families in California.
President Obama has approached this budget with equal commitment to economic growth and fiscal responsibility. I look forward to examining the President’s proposal to freeze spending and believe waste can be found in all departments and agencies — including the Defense Department. We will continue to fully support our veterans and our men and women in uniform and their families, but curbing military contractors’ wasteful practices must be part of our efforts to restore accountability, transparency, and fiscal discipline to the federal budget.
On Thursday, the House passed statutory pay-as-you-go legislation to strengthen the American economy and restore fiscal responsibility. In 2007, one of the first actions Democrats took when we assumed the majority was to make pay-as-you-go fiscal discipline the rule of the House. Now, with President Obama’s signature, it will be the law of the land. I support the President’s call for a bipartisan fiscal commission that will put forth our best ideas on how to rein in our deficits and avoid saddling our children and grandchildren with an unsustainable national debt.
The President’s budget embodies our shared vision of progress and prosperity for every American. Moving forward, Members of Congress will work closely with the White House to ensure that our budget lays the foundation for growth for all families.
Hearing on “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell”
This week, Secretary of Defense Robert Gates and Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff Admiral Mike Mullen testified before a Senate Armed Services Committee hearing on the long overdue need to repeal ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell.’ As a long-time advocate of equal rights, I am pleased that Admiral Mullen and two former Chairs of the Joint Chiefs of Staff, General John Shalikashvili and Secretary of State Colin Powell, called for the repeal of this policy. We want to replace ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’ with a policy of non-discrimination so that all who want to serve in the military can do so. We look forward to the results of the Pentagon’s review and the model they suggest to support the many lesbian and gay service members who serve honorably in our military, and wish to do so openly.
Earthquake in Haiti
For more information on the earthquake in Haiti, including information on locating missing relatives, you can visit the State Department or the American Red Cross web sites.
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Sincerely,
Member of Congress
February 5th, 2010 at 9:47 am
Tomorrow morning at the Democratic Party’s Winter Meeting, President Obama will address Democrats across the country — and we’ll be broadcasting his speech live on our website so you can join in.
The President will talk about how far we’ve come since his election, the challenges we still face, and our path forward together in the months to come.
The speech will start Saturday morning at 10:30 a.m. Eastern Time. Click here to watch and sign up for a reminder before he starts:
http://my.democrats.org/WinterMeeting
We’ve got a lot of hard work ahead of us — preparing for the 2010 elections, finishing health insurance reform, getting Americans back to work with a strong jobs-creation program, and much more. But Democrats have rallied together when the nation needed us before, and we’re fully prepared to do it again.
The President will make sure we’re all on the same page and ready for the fights ahead, and we’ll also hear from DNC Chairman Tim Kaine and Congresswoman Eleanor Holmes Norton.
Please RSVP now to receive a reminder for tomorrow’s speech. Then tune in at 10:30 a.m. Eastern Time tomorrow morning to see the President live:
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Thank you,
Jen
Jen O’Malley Dillon
Executive Director
Democratic National Committee
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February 5th, 2010 at 10:03 am
Hafa adai
Anna I saw you in Agana last Wednesday night. You were having a ball. I sat up top looking down on your dancing. You are as fine as ever. Who was the houlie?
I read that four of those five fires you talked about were ruled arson.by the GFD. Here is the flash.
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All 4 Fires Arson, GPD Asks for Help Finding Suspects
Guam – Guam Police Spokesman Officer Allan Guzman has confirmed that all of the 4 recent fires over the past week and a half were arson.
In a release, Guzman states that: “Four buildings were deliberately set on fire during the hours between 4 and 6 pm. Three of the home fires occurred within the Hagatna area and the fourth happened in Piti by the Fisheye Park.
Of the four homes, 3 were abandoned and Guzman says they were being used by homeless people.
Several witnesses report seeing at least two males in the area of the homes prior to the start of the fires. No suspects have been identified
Guzman says that Guam Crime Stoppers is asking for the public’s assistance.
If you have any information about this crime, or any crime, please call Guam Crime Stoppers at 477-HELP (4357) or * HELP on your Do-como Cell Phone.
Remember you can receive a cash reward of up to $1000.00 for information leading to the arrest of the person, or persons, responsible for committing this crime, or any crime on Guam. You do not have to give your name, and Guam Crime Stoppers does not use caller-ID.
I don’t think a thou is going to get any information in. But I would like to ask anyone who knows anything to let someone know.
Peter
February 5th, 2010 at 10:23 am
Wilma I had a similar experience not with prostate but breast in my sister. Have you read this?
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Cancer screening gets a smack
Cancer screening, cancer screening, cancer screening, cancer screening…
For years, that has been the relentlessly wrong public message. You can’t even turn on a TV or radio without hearing some celebrity, athlete or other public figure lecture you about the supposed importance of getting screened for breast or prostate cancer.
Now, the same people who started beating that drum have finally realized they’re playing the wrong tune. The American Cancer Society is revising its position on screenings, admitting that recommending them for everyone has led to over-treatment. It’s about time.
The problems with these screenings are so well-documented that only severe denial has allowed them to go on for so long… that, of course, and the rising fees collected by hospitals, clinics and doctors that do the screenings and carry out the surgeries.
You see, if cancer screenings worked, then each early treatment would be matched statistically by one fewer cancer death down the road in long-term studies.
But… whoops. That hasn’t happened.
Instead, the long-term studies show just one half of that equation: A big jump in cancer treatments, but only a slight drop (if any) in cancer deaths later on.
So the American Cancer Society has finally opened its eyes and recognized the elephant in the room, and the New York Times reports that they are crafting a new policy on screening that all but admits they were wrong.
“We don’t want people to panic,” Dr. Otis Brawley, the organization’s chief medical officer, told the New York Times. “But I’m admitting that American medicine has overpromised when it comes to screening. The advantages to screening have been exaggerated.”
Bravo to Dr. Brawley for some rare honesty… but he’s a few years too late. Cancer turned into panic when everyone started getting screened and found out that, in many cases, they had cancer.
Too often, those were cancers that people have always had, but didn’t know about. These cancers grow so slowly or have such a slow risk of spreading that they rarely put anyone at risk. What the patients didn’t know, didn’t kill them.
But now, an entire generation of men and women have had to live with the trauma and side effects of cancer diagnoses and surgeries that they never needed to begin with. That’s not a mistake. That’s a shame.
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My sister went through hell before she discovered it was a false positive.
Shaun
February 5th, 2010 at 12:13 pm
The right is all about the money. When they are not cozying up to Wall Street or special interest for millions they go after their stupid flock with scare tactic that if they don’t get their monetary support the republic will go down in flames.
Check this scare tactic out from Human Events to get donations.
Dear Friend of HUMAN EVENTS:
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These guys are pros. Anywhere you click takes you to a donation page. Who are the idiots that buy this crap?
Mike
February 5th, 2010 at 12:23 pm
Hafa adai
It’s a little after 6 AM Saturday here in Guam, but I want to let my fans on the mainland and otherwise off the Island who have been accusing me of letting them down that I am on the job. You can slow up the emails. They are causing me to have to pay more for email service.
The topic today is my efforts to protect the rights of Guamanians to keep the military from taking their property whenever they want to by using a legal tactic called “eminent domain.” Seems I have an ally, Guam Delegate Madeleine Bordallo.
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Bordallo opposes use of eminent domain
BY GAYNOR DUMAT-OL DALENO • PACIFIC DAILY NEWS • FEBRUARY 6, 2010
Guam Delegate Madeleine Bordallo’s opposition to forced land acquisition for the military buildup through the exercise of eminent domain has roots from the Guamanians’ wartime experience more than half a century ago.
Today, some of Guam’s landowners believe they haven’t been fully compensated for land the military needed when Guam was a major World War II outpost.
“Guam has a history of land condemnations after World War II that affects how people today view this issue,” Bordallo said. “I have opposed the use of eminent domain to acquire land should private landowners not be willing to lease or sell their land.”
The Defense Department has assured the local government that if it does need non-military land for the buildup, it will negotiate with landowners to acquire the land.
Bordallo’s stance is along the lines of local government sentiment on the issue.
“The governor and the Guam Legislature are stewards of public land on Guam. If they are not willing to lease or sell public land, then I will also oppose any effort by (the Defense Department) to acquire that land by eminent domain,” according to Bordallo.
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It would seem that a Madaline /Madeleine, however her name is spelled kicks ass.
Peter
February 5th, 2010 at 1:37 pm
Michelle
Thank you for insuring that Faatin and my family and I got out of Pakistan successfully. We are presently headed for the US of A. Faatin is headed for Guam where she will stay and will identify some of the players who have been arrested there.
From what I got form the documents the players were not americans. They were filipino and taiwanese.
Faatin was not allowed to communicate with anyone until she completes her part of the bargain. But she asked me to thank you and to tell all her friends that she is ok, and very happy to be free of her brother’s rule.
Changez
February 5th, 2010 at 1:46 pm
The Tea Party folks are using a page for the republican book they are scaring the whites into believing that socialism is right around the corner. To us whites that means having to share with the poor white trash and the OTWs the wealth and opportunities and the benefits this country has to offer.
To share that’s racist white socialism. No way can they allow that to happen. That’s the definition, here’s the pitch.
Dear Fellow Conservative:
Ronald Reagan’s birthday gives us all the perfect opportunity to reflect on our personal commitment to Liberty, and to Life.
Socialism’s defeat in the Massachusetts Senate race is a welcome sign that freedom-loving Americans are finally rising to the challenge put forth by Ronald Reagan in 1986 – in what were his final words on the campaign trail:
“There are really no ‘last campaigns.’ Each generation must renew for itself the precious gift of liberty and the sacred heritage of freedom.”
It is in this spirit that I have created an archival video tribute to that final day. It is called “Reagan’s Last Campaign.”
The video reminds us that as Tea Party conservatives, we are literally fighting to preserve the very foundation of our country. And we are winning.
In the latest poll I am crushing Harry Reid by 14 points, but the battle is not over.
In Nevada, Harry Reid and the bailouts have their establishment apologists – even in the Republican party.
Establishment candidate Sue Lowden justifies her thousands in contributions to Harry Reid by calling him: “a Reagan blue dog Democrat.”
And Sue Lowden defends the taxpayer-funded bailouts “It’s easy to say I would have voted no but I can’t do that.”
Sue Lowden’s defense of Harry Reid and his bailouts leave many in the Tea Party movement wondering if she even understands what this year’s elections are all about.
And that’s why I lead the Republican primary – because I am proudly defending our Constitution.
Glenn Beck and Human Events have taken note of my grassroots conservative candidacy. Sarah Palin’s family has campaigned for me in Nevada. Hugh Hewitt has launched “Ten Bucks for Tark” and Robert Stacey McCain has called me “Harry Reid’s Armenian Nightmare.”
So watch the video and I hope it will inspire you to make a very generous contribution today. Together we can defeat Harry Reid and his Republican apologists.
And we can win again for the next generation what Ronald Reagan called “the precious gift of liberty.”
Yours Truly,
Danny Tarkanian
PS: Please watch this special tribute video I have created from archived video and newsreel from the last day of “Reagan’s last campaign.”
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Actually under these people’s extremes, Reagan would not have qualified. He would have been thrown under the bus with the other moderate republicans.
Maggie
February 5th, 2010 at 1:59 pm
For Curious Minds: I have written about this once before. It is a true story of Aliens living on Earth.
The Underground Coal Mine Fire which began in Centralia, Pennsylvania in 1962 is really a community of Aliens living there with the Government’s knowledge. They breath fire and have a colony living here under the Earth in the United States at this very time. The coal town whose population fled a so-called underground mine fire that began in 1962 and continues to burn.
The State is now trying to complete the demolition of Centralia, a town northeastern Pennsylvania that all but ceased to exist in the 1980s after the mine fire spread beneath homes and businesses, threatening residents with poisonous gases and dangerous sinkholes.
More than 1,000 people moved out, and 500 structures were razed under a Federal Relocation Program.
The fire continues to burn uncontrolled and could for hundreds of years, until it runs out of Coal. The Government has posted signs that Centralia is a danger to tourists who often visit the vents to see the fire and brimstone venting from the Great Coal Mine Fire.
This is a very real Alien colony living on Earth at the present time. There are more in different Countries throughout the World. They have come up with a peace treaty. They will not harm Earthlings and we will allow them to live in peace.
Centralia can be Googled and you will see how mysterious the place really is. Tourists are discouraged from visiting because it is a dangerous place, however the curious come to witness it firsthand.
ZEN LILL: I do not know what is going on there. I do know that Guam sits next to the Mariana Trench which is the deepest trench in the pacific Ocean at about 35 thousand feet. It would make a good place to hide. If I hear more about what is going on, I will post it. O.K.?
What do you think about the walrus doing his thing on Michelle’s video? Doesn’t he look like he is trying to hide and find a private spot in the aquarium to play with his giant shlong? The look on his face is precious. He is busted. Animals can be fun to watch, and educational too.
HOWIE
February 5th, 2010 at 2:11 pm
Michelle
That is not what I wrote. That is an edited version or my comment to your blog. I will try to get my true comment in again.
I am so happy for you Faatin. It is so terrible to be afraid of the males in your family. I live a life racked with fear. My father, brother, uncles, cousins, and any other male in my environment can have me sentenced to death for looking at a boy or allowing a boy to look at me.
They are always reminding us of what will happen to us if we step out of line. I was shown this article by brother with the quote “God gave us absolute power over you because women are inherently evil.”
The ignorant bastard can’t read. He was told what was in the articles by someone who could. I know this because I have tested him and he hands me the wrong articles. He hates the fact that our parents wanted me to have a college education.
This is an example of what islam is about. Women who profess love of Islam are afraid to speak otherwise. If they bury us alive for looking at a boy, imagine what these animals would do to us if they heard us say islam is for the pigs.
it is a cult for men who will do anything to keep their women in slavery. Allah never meant to have one sex of his creation subservient and enslaved by the other.
Michele when you are ready to send Madaline to kill all these bastards, suit or no give me a knife with the dullest blade. I have some of their god’s work to do.
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Turkish Girl Buried Alive For Talking To Boys
The body of a 16-year-old girl who police say was buried alive by relatives in an “honor” killing carried out as punishment for talking to boys has been discovered in Kahta, Turkey.
Turkish police discovered the body after acting on an anonymous tip. The tipster told police that the girl was killed after a family council meeting, and had been buried under a chicken pen. Police say that the girl had complained two months earlier that her grandfather beat her for talking to boys.
The girl, identified by police only by her initials M.M., was said to have a large amount of soil in her stomach and lungs, indicating she had been buried alive.
“The autopsy result is blood-curdling. According to our findings, the girl – who had no bruises on her body and no sign of narcotics or poison in her blood – was alive and fully conscious when she was buried,” one anonymous expert said.
The girl had been reported as missing by her family. Police have arrested her father, mother and grandfather. Her mother has been released but her father and grandfather are awaiting trial.
The case is expected to bring further attention to the issue of “honor” killings in Turkey. Official figures indicate that more than 200 “honor” killings take place each year – almost half of all murders in Turkey.
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How disgusting that these animals call what they do “honor” killings. The so called good men debate the magnitude of “honor” killings as if on some level it is okay to kill a female to preserve a male’s honor. They mean vanity don’t they. And isn’t vanity a sin?
Why am I even discussing this. Just give me the dull blade and march the bastards before me one by one. I will take their tiny little balls first, then their even tinier penises, and then the fun will begin. They do not deserve a easy or quick death.
I have an imagination coupled with the anger that has been blossoming in my bosom for 19 years now. I am ready to be a Girlz.
Jameela
February 6th, 2010 at 10:33 am
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