Wall Street CEO’s = Reckless Gamblers
Posted by Michelle Moquin on February 16th, 2010
Good morning.
So many comments coming in these past two days, all I want to do is respond. And when I get to the end maybe I’ll have something more to say in the form of a write…but then, maybe not.
Rose: Well I’d say you handled the situation with your husband and the $$ generator very diplomatically. It rarely, or should I say “it never” serves to say, “I told you so”, although it can be so tempting. :)
Thanks for the Vit D article and the compliments. It always makes me especially happy when I and others encourage women (and men!) to see another point of view…to question what ground they have been standing on for all these years: Is this really me or someone else’s thoughts, ideas, etc., that I have taken on as my own? And then…the best part? When those that have changed and decided to stand up, think for themselves, and get some ‘backbone’ as you say, turn around and inspire and persuade others…oh the ripple effect…change can happen one person at a time.
Lastly, I am so moved when I hear that people feel my blog has been so great for them. It has been great for me too. I have always loved inspiring people in any area that I am passionate about. Never in my life did I expect this would be my main venue. Thanks for tuning in…your daughters as well. :)
Bob: That one doesn’t work for me – I loved algebra. Numbers have always been my thing. Now history…ugh – hated it – I had such a dry teacher. I have learned more history, or should I say more truthful history on my blog than any school could have taught me. I like yesterday’s quote though. So far the only thing that leaks or dries up is supposed to. :)
Kay: Loved it.
Suz: I like both of those. Here’s a good one and dedicated to those in the Bay Area, and everywhere else the earth shakes. THE EARTHQUAKES. When rearranged: That Queer Shake
Kaylani: I am thinking of you. I hope that your Valentine’s Day wasn’t too lonely for you. I wish for your love to contact you so that you can start to heal and move on in your life.
Helena: Thanks for taking time to check in with us – sounds like you have a busy schedule -congrats to your sister and her new born. You are obviously a very caring sister.
As far as the LA fashion school chum – I wish she/he would chime in and say hello. My curiosity is peaked, and I would love to know who it is. Shy? Me? Hmm…I wouldn’t ever call myself shy, but I was definitely not as outgoing living in LA. My mind was on school and elsewhere. Say hello to my friend, and if you’re reading, ‘friend’: Why not comment and say hello?
Liz: All I can do is laugh. When I said, “If you can’t be with the one you love…..love the one you’re with”, I wasn’t promoting infidelity, but evidently you and a few others took that as an okay to do so? Maybe, maybe not – I don’t know your relationship rules with your man. So…I’m not judging – just noticing :) Peace girl, and may your man be safe and come home soon.
Anon: So…you were checking out my ass eh? Too bad I didn’t notice you, noticing me; I would’ve bent over a little bit further so you could just get a glimpse where the top of my thigh meets the curve of my ass – that’s the sweet part. Ahhaha…don’t get me going…just having a little fun with you. :)
Frances: Again, I can only laugh. Happy to hear you enjoyed your valentine, and she enjoyed you. :)
Will: I was looking forward to responding to your comments when I read what you wrote. If I am correct, we had another gentleman reader of my blog, BTK, who had the same experiences as you have had on the Huff Po. It seems even the Huff Po, which I love to read, disapproves of the content that readers want to express when the brutal truth isn’t what they want to hear. So much for freedom of the written word. BTK and Robert, another reader, got on their soap box and flapped their lips quite frequently here. And now that I think about those two, I really miss their presence and input. Guys are you still reading?
Anyway, welcome to my blog Will. Feel free to stay and say whatever inspires you to write. I look forward to hearing more from you. Guaranteed you will be greeted with applause from some, and nasty remarks by those that oppose. Ah..and yes, I can see in the later comments, we have been invaded again by the ‘little penis’ men. Oh…I haven’t referred to the less-endowed white man like that in a very long time. It feels good to hit ‘em where it hurts, but sadly it doesn’t hit hard enough to stop ‘em.
And please, Charles, Jack, Larry and Edward – come up with a different tag line “I want my country back” – boo hoo…. – it is soo 2009. Shouldn’t you all be hitting on some birthers at some picnic tea party down south? Off you go…shoo now!
Yes Thomas: They do believe they are better than the rest of the world because they are white. Sick and sad isn’t it?
Zuvan: The Sun. I love that. I worship the sun. I wish I could see your wooden ship. I bet it is fantastic. You seem young or maybe just young at heart. Either…doesn’t matter. Your write for some reason makes me feel maternal, like I want to sweep you away and take you and the rest of the girls to my great ship in the sky. There is always room for more girlz. :)
Anonz: When I saw the headlines yesterday on the Huff Po, my first thought was, “Hmm….why is he quitting?” And now, your comment. I went back and perused an article briefly this morning: “…a two-term Indiana Democrat who has never lost an election either on the state or local level, leaves a gaping hole for national Democrats to fill. A top operative in the party told the Huffington Post that the decision was “last minute” and “personal,” seemingly not driven by prospects of defeat.” No he was driven by dirt digging republicans.
What can I say? Why is it that when I think the republicans couldn’t get any worse, (silly optimistic me) there always seems to be evidence that they can? Thank you for enlightening us once again. And once again, our work is cut out for us. If you have any ideas on what more I/we can do here, blog me. I hope that you are hanging in there…where ever ‘there’ happens to be.
Brenda: Ain’t that the truth.
Zen Lill: The Starlight Room is a fun place. Next time you’re in town we’ll go. So sorry the poison oak has got you. I hope that it leaves soon so you can enjoy the stellar weather – we’ve had a taste of it up here too, and I am loving it.
Hi Al: Thanks for the update. Keep us posted as things progress. I hope you are okay.
Doug: Don’t you have more to say?
Okay…we’ll I’ve said enough for the day, so I will leave you with this ad video:
Titled “Casino,” the spot is the latest in a series of regulatory reform ads put out by Americans United For Change, a progressive organization that has become the tip of the spear among groups advocating for Democratic-authored legislation. Joining AUC this time around is American Family Voices, an organization designed as a lobby of sorts for working class interests.
Lastly, greed over a great story is surfacing from my ‘loyal’(?) readers. With all this back and forth about who owns what, that appears on my blog, let me reiterate that all material posted on my blog becomes the sole property of my blog. If you want to reserve any proprietary rights don’t post it to my blog. I will prominently display this caveat on my blog from now on to remind those who may have forgotten this notice.
Peace out.
Gratefully your blog host,
michelle
Aka BABE: We all know what this means by now :)
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February 16th, 2010 at 10:47 am
Amazing Remedy Halts Cataract Progression ?in 97% of People Tested
Over 20 million Americans have cataracts, the filmy deposits that lead to blindness. The usual treatment for cataracts is eye surgery. But you don’t have to go under the knife. In fact, you can stop cataracts in their tracks — simply by combining 2 inexpensive remedies available at any health food store.
This was proven in a double-blind placebo study done by Italian researchers. In the study, patients taking bilberry and vitamin E were able to prevent the progression of cataracts a whopping 97% of the time!
If you have early stage cataracts and would like to avoid surgery, I urge you to take these 2 nutrients. The recommended dose is 100 milligrams of vitamin E and 360 milligrams of bilberry per day.
You may have heard of bilberry as a remedy for poor night vision. During World War II, British fighter pilots learned that they could see better at night if they took the herb or even if they ate bilberry jam.
But bilberry works for tired eyes, too. Why? Because it strengthens capillaries in the eye and improves circulation.
In one study, researchers tested bilberry on a group of people suffering from eyestrain and other eye problems. Half the group got bilberry and the other half got a placebo, or dummy pill.
At the end of the study, 22 of the 30 people taking bilberry showed improvement on various measures of eyestrain… while only 1 out of 30 showed improvement in the placebo group!
I’ve been giving bilberry to my patients for years. They tell me their vision improves, their eyes get less tired and bloodshot, and they are less prone to headaches.
February 16th, 2010 at 10:52 am
The right never gives up or it knows that its followers are basically brain dead. They continue to plug Sara Palin. Every time she does something that would lead anyone with an ounce of brains to say that horse is dead. The right brings her back. Here’s the one they sent today.
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February 16th, 2010 at 11:09 am
Hi Mischa, exact ditto on your comment to Anonz, although, these days whenever I hear anything that sounds questionable I always think there’s got to be a back story (and probably a large check) to that one…sad but true…what do we do? Friends are complaining, if they hear me say I’m bookin’ it to Bali one more time they’re buying the ticket – I’mmmm waitinnnnggggg!!!
Sun worship is helping the poison oak sitch but my left arm is still swollen and angry looking, and I cringe everytime something touches it, the highlight: Elke is getting long walks along the cliffs of Palos Verdes, the bad news: she gets so tired now I have to coax into the car, getting old is a bitch.
…I laughed out loud at how ‘take back our country’ sounds ‘sooo 2009′ hahaha…yeah, get a new line, this one is F’in tired and worn out. Hate to wear out the old viagra thing and little dick thing again also, but wow when they show up its in droves, I like the idea of getting letters form at least 3 women who want to fuck you in order to get that Rx filled. That ought to lighten the fills and refills : )
Doug, ditto to both your comments yesterday as well.
Will, I certainly hope you won’t let the ‘in need of meds’ boys deter you from speaking here. They really need to pipe down and go watch a shoot em’ up flick together.
I’m working at home today till that dang doc calls, which means I’m up for some banter here : ) bring it on…!
Women of MM blog, I have a new stretch for you, a pal who is into fencing showed me this one, I call only say – try it – and do it everyday – prectice makes perfect and this one is a perfect example of using patience with yourself. here it is: stand upright, shoulders rolled up and back, ta’s up, step your right foot to your right as far as you can and maintain balance, now take your right elbow and lean over and touch your left ankle with it (you will need to bend your knee to get there) and hold for 5 count, then touch your left elbow to your left ankle and hold for 5 count, then hahaha hold both arms back and touch your chin to your left ankle for a 5 count, repeat sequence 2 x’s on each side.
Yep…I’m getting better at this one everyday, it’s tough but it’s been a month for me…the first time I looked up and said ‘my chin?! are you serious??’ and you’ll want to say the same thing…try it…I’m going for a 6 month build up for my chin to the ankle part : ) see how easy I am on myself, you do the same, it’s a great stretch in the meantime and your side benes are: your legs are shaking when your finished so you know your thighs are feeling this, the waist (oblique muscles) are toning instead of building, very slimming in torso area…and your elbows are better off touching your ankles than lifting cocktails into your face : )
…and that’s my two or three for now, Love, Zen Lill
February 16th, 2010 at 11:49 am
Good one Michelle
GEORGE BUSH:?When you rearrange the letters: ?HE BUGS GORE
February 16th, 2010 at 12:03 pm
Thank you Zen Lill for your comments. I am a retired realtor. I retired officially 3 weeks ago. Now I just collect rents. Times are hard so I try not to be too hard on the late payers.
I live in the South so I don’t have a thin skin. Black mothers back in the day would tell their sons that if they were stopped by the police to just say “yes sir,” and make it home safely.
Unfortunately for those whites still living we don’t feel that we have to do that any more. I’m not crazy, I have been in plenty of situations in which my mother’s admonition was remembered and used.
White cops seldom hesitate to use their badge to practice a little racism. I drive a mercedes or a Bentley not because I particularly enjoy spending so much money for cars that are clearly not worth it, but because it says to the thug-with-a-badge that stops me, he will be held accountable for his actions.
It’s shame that black men are forced to waste money to feel safe in a country that I served in the military as well as any man. But that is the way for the majority of whites in america. It is not enough for them to be successful, the rest of us must be destitute.
Those good ole boys emptying their spleens don’t bother me. If Obama gets elected a second I think you will see the frustration of working in a world run by bigots come to a head. He will speak more of his mind.
As I am not running for anything, I intend to do it now.
Will
February 16th, 2010 at 12:35 pm
Michelle
I am going to have to agree with you on that point about learning a lot from this blog. I have become way more informed than I would have from the stuff I picked up in school.
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One of the many things ?no one tells you about aging ?is that it is such a nice change ?from being young.
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Bob
February 16th, 2010 at 12:53 pm
I’m certainly glad you didn’t notice me noticing you. Oh to view the top of your thigh, middle of you thigh, I will settle for seeing any part of your thigh unless the choice is to see the curve of your ass.
I’ve seen it in a bathing suit. But one could never see that pretty ass too many times. OH but to see it in such a risque way would be sooo exciting.
OOOOOH to just get a glimpse.
Anon
February 16th, 2010 at 1:03 pm
I am so full of happiness to have my name in print by you Michelle. My village is calling my name. The girls are laughing and calling me the next girlz. i am 16. Here that is two years past my marrying age.
I don’t want to get married. I want start a business with my sister. We want to start a net shop. That would be a place for people in my village to come to watch the web. My family now has one of the 6 computers in our village. I know how to use it so I get to be on it much.
I can’t believe my name is on the top of this page. I am living for ever on the minds of those reading the web.
thank you
Zuvan
February 16th, 2010 at 1:10 pm
Will, I am from Nashville, Life here is still rather separated. Whites on one side and blacks on the other. I live on a street that used to be white that sold out in the 60′s and 70′s to blacks.
We started taking it back in the 90′s and except for two or there homes we are practically all white again. The shame is the measures that have been taken using municipal and state money to insure that blacks do not get a chance to frequent the area(we cut out bus service to the area) much less to live here.
Why we whites are so racists I can not say Will. All I can say is that not all of us are. Maybe that is not enough to make a big difference. It certainly is not in Nashville.
Thomas
February 17th, 2010 at 1:54 am
Please, I am tired of getting the latest bimbo story of what she did while fucking Tiger Woods. All this says is that men will cheat and famous or rich men will cheat more.
So sister if you think YOUR man is above getting some nookie on the side if he feels he can get away with it, then good for your dumb ass cause ignorance is bliss.
I have been married for 43 years. 7 grown children later, I still have no reason except common sense to think my loving husband didn’t ever cheat on me. I say didn’t because he is 77 too old to get it up much less cheat on me now.
Me, I finally found a man I would cheat on with my husband. It happened 10 years ago about the time my husband became totally uninterested in sex any more. He couldn’t get it up and refused to try viagra. My hormones were still raging.
Frankly, I needed dick. It became an obsession until I found the man I could trust and felt comfortable enough with to break my marital vows with. It was well worth the angst. I finally found out how good sex could be with a man who knew what he was doing in bed.
Since then I have had the pleasure of a dozen or so different men and one woman. I am a devout practicing Christian. But I have told all my daughters that God never intended a person to have on one sexual partner his or hers entire life.
That doesn’t mean, He didn’t intend for us to keep our marital vows, it just means that if your husband is the only sex experience you have ever had, you will probably have to spend some time in purgatory, or some place getting some good sex before you can apply to heaven for occupation.
I am 62 and way to young to pack it in.
Wilma
February 17th, 2010 at 1:58 am
Retire Abroad… and Make Your Dreams Come True
Barry Golson
ForbesTraveler.com
ynthia and Ian are retired Americans who live in Bandol, a small Mediterranean town in southern France. A typical day includes breakfast in the sunshine, a hike or game of tennis, socializing with friends and enjoying a bottle of wine with dinner. “We belong to [the club] Bandol Loisirs et Culture,” Cynthia says, “which offers many cultural activities, including bridge, hiking, cooking, computer help and much more.”
For Cynthia, Ian and thousands of other Americans, retiring overseas can have big advantages — adventure, a chance to make interesting friends and often a lower cost of living and a smaller US tax bite. (If you live overseas for 330 or more days in any 12-month period, you may not have to pay taxes on the first $91,500 of your income in 2010.)
Every year, thousands of Americans try retiring overseas — only to return home when it doesn’t work out. But if opening a new chapter in your life sounds appealing, you can make it work if you do it right…
DON’T RUSH IN
Jane, a former attorney, moved to Belize about six years ago. She regrets not looking more deeply into the beautiful, English-speaking Central American country before moving there. “On the surface,” she says, “it looked like home.” But she soon missed the changing seasons, old friends and certain things that Americans take for granted, such as a readily available variety of fresh fruits and vegetables and paved roads.
The cardinal rule: No matter how inviting a country looks on your first or second trip, make several more visits — preferably at different times of the year — before putting it on your short list for retirement.
When you’re in the country, talk with members of the American community. (Most US consulates provide the names of expatriate organizations.) When you speak with members, ask what problems they’ve encountered… and how they solved them or could have avoided them.
Example: Dealing with bureaucracy is often difficult in foreign countries, and many expats will tell you that they should have hired an attorney to handle red tape, such as registering a deed. To find an attorney experienced in helping Americans, ask for recommendations from members of the expat community.
Also ask about expenses that might not be obvious at first. For example, in Costa Rica — a popular retirement destination — eating out is cheaper than in the US. But what looks like an incredible bargain on the menu isn’t so great when you get the bill — with 23% in taxes and tip added.
Also look into government-sponsored retiree programs that many countries — particularly in Latin America — have adopted to attract residents from wealthier countries. In many cases, to be eligible, you aren’t required to be retired but only to prove that you have a minimum monthly income, usually $500 to $2,000, depending on the country.
Retiree programs have big benefits. In Panama, for instance, members get 20% off medical bills, 25% off domestic air travel and up to 50% off movies and other entertainment. For more information, contact the country’s embassy in the US.
CHOOSE PROPERTY WISELY
Americans retiring abroad often buy the first attractive and affordable real estate that they see — a house in a charming village or an ocean-view apartment. All too often, however, they discover a major flaw in their decision. The house, for instance, may have structural problems, or the apartment could be too many miles from public transportation.
Best strategy: Rent before you purchase. Live for six months to a year in an area you like so you can sample the lifestyle and talk with the local residents about transportation and other important features. You’ll also have an opportunity to ask Americans in the area to recommend a trustworthy real estate agent or construction company if you choose to build your own residence.
Caren is an American in San Miguel de Allende, Mexico, who wishes that she had contracted with a more honest builder. The first one she hired cheated her out of $30,000.
Maybe you’ll even choose to keep renting instead of buying property. There’s nothing wrong with that, especially in countries where political stability is uncertain and renting is inexpensive.
Example: Nicaragua, where you can rent a nice two-bedroom apartment in a good area for as little as $400 a month.
LEARN THE LANGUAGE?
Douglas has lived in Spain for 33 years. “I speak Spanish conversationally. But it isn’t absolutely necessary… most of your friends will speak English anyway.”
Fluency in a country’s language is a shortcut to enjoying its culture, making friends and dealing with a wide range of people — from plumbers to tax collectors. Still, some retirees get along fine without speaking the language very well. They socialize with other English speakers, phone friends back home and watch English-language television, which is now available throughout much of the world.
If you’re learning a language for the first time or need a brush-up course, it often makes sense to take lessons while you’re renting and considering buying.
CALCULATE HEALTH COSTS
Although Medicare doesn’t pay for health care outside the US and its territories — except for certain limited services in Canada and Mexico — medical facilities are excellent and inexpensive in many other countries, especially those in Europe. In Latin America, most large cities have good-to-excellent health-care facilities with prices that are one-tenth to one-third of what you would pay in the US.
Living abroad doesn’t disqualify you from Medicare benefits, so many overseas retirees who aren’t satisfied with the local health care go back to the US for periodic checkups as well as for any emergencies that may occur. Some also buy international medical insurance, though it is expensive — about $2,000 to $3,500 a month for a 68-year-old couple living in most Latin American or European countries.
STAY ACTIVE
Far from home with lots of idle time, it’s easy to fall into a lifestyle where you drink and eat too much and become inactive.
Answer: Retire in an area where you can easily keep up with pursuits you enjoy. If you owned a business in the US, consider starting a company in the retirement country. Thanks to the Internet, many Americans set up Web-based businesses, such as consulting. Other expats operate small hotels.
Before opening a business overseas, talk with successful Americans in the country. Find out how they solved start-up problems, and ask them to recommend an attorney with a track record of helping Americans set up companies.
Volunteer work is another way to stay active while also helping locals and broadening your understanding of the country. Major international volunteer organizations include Cross-Cultural Solutions (800-380-4777, http://www.crossculturalsolutions.org), Habitat for Humanity (800-422-4828, http://www.habitat.org/ivp) and the International Executive Service Corps (202-589-2600, http://www.iesc.org).
Bottom Line/Retirement interviewed Barry Golson, coauthor with Thia Golson of Retirement Without Borders and author of Gringos in Paradise: An American Couple Builds Their Retirement Dream House in a Seaside Village in Mexico (both Scribner). He is based in New York City and is the editor of ForbesTraveler.com.
February 17th, 2010 at 2:08 am
Hafa adai
Looks like there will Guam will be getting its original name Guahan back. Even the Governor is calling for it.
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amacho wants Guam renamed “Guahan”
Posted: Feb 16, 2010 10:42 PM
Updated: Feb 16, 2010 10:42 PM
by Mindy Aguon
Guam – Governor Felix Camacho is requesting for the island of Guam to now be called “Guahan”. The chief executive transmitted Bill 331, which would change the official name of Guam to its name in the Chamorro language. Guam was predominately referred to as Guahan from 1521 until 1898.
Guahan means “a place that has”, for example, a place of resources. Camacho noted his desire to change the name during his State of the Island Address on Monday.
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It’s about time
Peter
February 17th, 2010 at 2:29 am
Wilma:
Your comment struck a fond chord with me. I, too, have had to wrestle with whether I should go outside my marriage for sex. I have been married for 19 years to a very sweet, and loving man. But he stinks in bed. This blog, especially Michelle(love you girl) has opened my eyes to the possibility of what I have been missing.
I have never had an orgasm. My husband is the only man I have ever had sex with. I have turned down more than a few opportunities to cheat on my husband. All four of our children are at least 18. It is time I started thinking about myself.
I have no reason to suspect my husband of infidelity. He is 5 years older than me and has admitted to having had several sex partners before we were married. I don’t know if he has cheated on me. He has given me no reason to think otherwise. But he is rich and quite handsome.
All I know is I have been missing something in bed. I am not satisfied. I have learned from this blog that if I am to do it, it is imperative that I practice safe sex. My husband did not bargain to get AIDS or some other STD or whatever from his marital partner.
As the saying on this blog goes “No Glove, No Love” will be my motto and creed. Now I have to find a man who I can trust not to embarrass my husband, family or me. I have no problem finding men who want to have sex with me, I get propositioned all the time.
My question, to those of you out there who have successfully done it, is what are the signals that may indicate that a man can be trusted not to blab about the woman he is having sex with? Is there such an animal or am I being too naive?
Joan
February 17th, 2010 at 2:36 am
Zen Lill
I am being transferred to San Francisco from New York in three months. Let us know on the blog when you will be at the Starlight Room. I have googled it and am looking forward to checking it out. Michelle, I will be looking for your picture and perhaps the vision of the lady herself. I will be polite and observe from a distance.
Looking forward to a dance.
Burt
February 17th, 2010 at 5:52 am
Wilma:
Thank you for writing in and talking about something that has been on my mind for years. I have been married for 22 years and I have been with only one man my entire life. I, also, have had many opportunities to have an extramarital affair. I always declined because I believe in the vows I took before God.
But your statement that God would not have wanted a person to have only one sexual partner his/her entire life has gotten me thinking. This is not the first time I have questioned the bible.
Michelle and Zen Lill both of whom I have come to respect and admire have inspired me to read that book written by men to enslave women and keep them thinking of themselves as something God made to be subservient to men.
I don’t encourage my daughters to read the bible anymore. I used to read that thing from cover to cover every year. I blindly accepted the words in it as scripture from God. Now when I read it my mind is very critical of the words that put women down or make no sense because they contradict themselves.
I still refrained from cheating on my husband because I believed in my vows. Now I feel that even there I was taken advantaged of. My husband has like yours did Wilma admitted to several sexual encounters before we got married. I am 40. He is 47.
Our sex life if pretty good. But what am I comparing that to? Yes, I have orgasms, but as compared to what? I feel that all these years I have been cheating on myself. So here I sit planning to have sex with someone other than my husband. The only two things I know is that I will not have sex without a condom.
But I don’t even know what a condom looks like. Do I buy them? Does he buy them? Where does one go Michelle to discover what dating and having sexual is all about. I’m not talking about extramarital sex. I’m talking about when do I give it up?
I am so anxious, I could give it to the first man who makes a play for me. I get propositioned every where I go. I wouldn’t do it with someone that could hurt my husband. He is a very good father and husband. He is getting a bit on end about be taking exception to his being the de facto head of the household.
I work and bring in almost as much money as he does. Yet, he has always been the one to decide how the family money is spent. I never questioned that until I started reading your blog about a year ago Michelle. Your sharing your sexual past and its acceptance by Doug told me that a woman does not have to be a virgin to have a man feel that she is special.
Your frankness about everything sexual made me feel that I had nothing to contribute in that category. I had no sexual life before my wedding night. I did some petting but that was it. I gave no head, held no penis in my hand and bared no breast to a boy.
Men stare at me even when my husband is present. When we go out, they ask me to dance. I had never accepted until I started reading your commentary. I was being faithful to my husband. I only got to dance when he felt like it. He is a good dancer, but sometimes I like the beat of records he doesn’t.
Now I dance whenever I feel like it. I have noticed that we leave earlier than we used to and that we don’t out as often. I encourage him to ask other women to dance, but he is content to dance only with me. I sense that he is not too pleased with me dancing with other men.
I don’t know why, I don’t allow men to dance too close to me or put their hands on me. I never dance more than two dances with the same guy. I always return promptly to be with my husband. I never allow the other man to say more than a few words to me after the dance. I just enjoy dancing to the tunes I like.
So, Michelle, what is your advice. I am not asking you whether I should cheat on my husband, that would be rude and tacky. I have decided that it would be cheating on me not to experience sex with someone else. Therefore that will be done.
What I am asking you is about the dating aspect. I have never dated a man up to the point where I went to bed with him. Just how does one get to that point?
Miranda
February 17th, 2010 at 6:16 am
Michelle, can you honestly say that you are comfortable with that boy in the White House? Can you honestly say that white men didn’t make this country what it is today? Yes, I am a conservative republican, but I have been a steady reader of yours since a friend told me about Mike putting down conservatives. I wanted to see what it was about.
You do make some good points. But the women on your blog except for Zen Lill are too shrill. I can tell that she was brought up right by a strong father. I can also see that she must have picked a daddy image for a husband and for some reason she has strayed from his lead.
I tell my daughters to look for strong man. One that is grounded in his belief in God and who loves his country. I guess it goes without saying that you know that i am against mixing the races. My family knows the importance of keeping this country God’s country.
I would not allow my daughters to read your blog because the women on it are bound for hell. They blaspheme at every opportunity. And the non whites feel free to say whatever pleases. How I long or the 50′s when they knew their place or we showed it to them.
Jack