Ready To Date Again?
Posted by Michelle Moquin on November 22nd, 2010
Good morning!
Well, after reading many of the comments yesterday, it seems that many of my women readers are not only fed up with their man cheating, but in how he goes about it, and understandably so.
At some point you may be ready to trust and date again, and possibly remarry (or NOT! :) But if you are at least ready to date, there is enough to worry about in the real world, on-line dating is a whole other world.
Here is an article from Scambusters to assist:
10 Ways To Skip Online Dating Scams
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Online dating scams have been hitting the headlines with increasing frequency recently, causing not only heartache but a pain in the pocket.
In earlier issues, we explained how scammers try to strike up online relationships then, claiming to be stranded in another country or in desperate need to visit a sick relative, ask the victim to help pay for an airplane ticket.
Other tricks include scammers creating a false identity when they’re already married, or simply trying to get information from you that may eventually lead to identity theft.
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In addition to the tricks reported in those issues, the current crop of online dating scams includes some cunning new ways of trying to fool victims in search of companionship.
Claiming to be a soldier serving in Iraq or Afghanistan is a particularly common online dating scam at the moment. These con artists often use the real rank and name of an active (or even deceased) service member and go on to ask for money to buy items like laptop computers or international cellphones.
The really worrisome thing, though, is that organized crime syndicates, chiefly in Russia or the Philippines, run many of the latest sweetheart scams.
This enables them to pull together some convincing ploys to fool their targets, for instance, using teams of young female students to make authentic sounding phone calls. They’re usually Russian but speak good English.
In another instance, victims are encouraged to send explicit text or photographs, then either blackmailed or threatened and “fined” by bogus police officers.
Crooks get contact details from numerous sources including hacked dating club accounts and social network listings, like Facebook, in which people “advertise” their “available” relationship status.
In other cases, the crooks simply establish bogus online dating clubs for which they charge a membership fee, sending out fictitious photographs and biographies to keep victims on the hook, paying their monthly fees.
There’s no doubt that online dating has helped many people find friends and life partners. It can be a great way of finding the right match and discovering compatibility.
To do this safely, check out the guidelines in our earlier issues and note the following additional 10 action points:
1. If a would-be dater gives you their email address upfront, without even knowing you, chances are it’s a scam.
And don’t give out your email address too easily or quickly — better yet, set up a separate email account for your dating activities.
2. Ignore any unsolicited calls or messages from someone seeking a date, claiming they saw your name, phone number or photo and want to start a relationship.
3. Be wary about announcing on a social network that you’re seeking a new relationship. Almost certainly you’ll get more than you bargained for.
4. Beware of people who are vague about themselves or chop and change the stories they tell you.
5. If their use of English is poor — bad grammar and spelling – be skeptical. Okay, so not everyone is an English major but some language abuses, such as flowery prose or use of religious phrases, are a dead giveaway for a Nigerian online dating scam.
For examples of what we mean, check out this earlier Scambusters issue on scammers’ language.
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Here’s the wording of an email received recently by Scambuster
Keith:
(begin message, exactly as received)
Hello,
Nice meeting you,how are you? Hope you are alright.my name is doris!i am sorry to bother you, I have interest in you that makes me leave a massage for you and also I wants you as a friend also want you to write me through my [e]-[mail][address removed] tell me were you leave and also send me your pictures; I will also send my picture to you.. Is my plesure to meet you here in this site. Yours sincerely Miss doris!
(end message)
Love those exclamation marks and the offer to leave a massage!
6. If you’re seeking a genuine relationship, give a wide berth to any site inviting you to “chat right now” with potential dates.
Authentic would-be daters aren’t just sitting by the phone waiting to talk to anyone who happens to call in.
They may use premium-charge phone lines. If not, sooner or later you’ll be asked for money.
7. If someone with whom you’ve struck up a relationship asks you for money, just don’t give it, no matter how plausible their story seems. Say you don’t have it.
Even if you’ve met and think you know your new partner, be ultra-cautious and don’t part with large sums of money. Newspaper columns are full of stories of people who’ve been conned this way.
8. If you’re thinking of joining an online dating club, stick with some of the established big names. For example, although we can’t vouch for the site’s accuracy, check out Consumer-Rankings.com or search online for “top dating sites.”
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If you really must use a little known service, or want to use a specialist agency (such as one specifically linked to your interests or profession), use Internet security software to check the legitimacy of a site and do an online search on the name of the service to see what others are saying.
9. If a potential date claims to be in the armed forces, check out these anti-scam guidelines issued by the US Army Criminal Investigation Command:
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10. Finally, of course, just use your common sense. Photos of stunningly beautiful women or handsome hunks, much as you might be attracted to them, are a red flag. So are outrageous claims of wealth or high-flying jobs.
If you don’t fit any of these categories yourself (and, in all honesty, most of us don’t!) why would these people be interested in you?
If you’re looking for friendship or a new partner, we wish you good luck. Just don’t be too trusting. Make sure, using our guidelines, you can identify those devious characters who run online dating scams, and then stand them up!
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Wizz: Bummer, missed it again. I am not on my e-mail everyday and definitely not on the weekend, but I am always on my blog everyday. The best place to chat with me is here. So I hope you’ll do so. Take care.
Patricia: It’s called “cock blocking” and men don’t do it. They will most always be supportive to each other by lying for each other.
On another note, I had no idea that one could sue their significant other for contracting a disease. Now that’s probably what it takes for some men to get into the habit of putting a jacket on it, instead of indulging in “extreme sex”. Hey it’s sick enough if he won’t do it for her safety, not to mention his safety. But any man who cares about himself, (and what man doesn’t?) will think of his own self preservation. I don’t care how good the sex was, I doubt any man would say it was good enough to go to jail for it. Thanks for enlightening me and my readers.
Alley: You may be correct. I’m sorry to hear about your cheating husband. I just like to HOPE that not every man is like that.
Sara: What a story. Consider yourself lucky. Not all women have been able to dodge the bullet.
Harmony: Sorry for laughing, but I can’t even imagine. In your own house with a guest while you are sleeping! That’s another version of “extreme sex” to say the least. Interesting that your girlfriends thought you should take him back. I am assuming that he was donning a condom otherwise why would they encourage you?
Jodi: I don’t know. Perhaps if the hair rises on the back of your neck. That’s what I pay attention to. Women are very intuitive. I would tap into that. You may be one of the lucky few. Or perhaps, he’s gay. Sorry to make such a suggestion, but I couldn’t help but think that since you stated that his male friends are always so quiet when they come over. Why? What are they hiding? But really, with so little info, I could be way off base and he is a just a loyal husband, nothing more. They are out there. I like to think I am one of the lucky few too. :)
I have more to say, but it is time to end, so that I can play. Have a great Monday!
Peace & Love: “Live it, Give it!” (But please put a jacket on it! :)
Lastly, greed over a great story is surfacing from my “loyal”(?) readers. With all this back and forth about who owns what, that appears on my blog, let me reiterate that all material posted on my blog becomes the sole property of my blog. If you want to reserve any proprietary rights don’t post it to my blog. I will prominently display this caveat on my blog from now on to remind those who may have forgotten this notice.
Gratefully your blog host,
michelle
Aka BABE: We all know what this means by now :)
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November 22nd, 2010 at 9:18 am
Hi. I wrote a lengthy response yesterday and then my battery died and it was gone by the time I plugged in. Damnit.
Ah well I won’t repeat that…
I’ll say that Stephanie, I have no idea why you would think I’m not a womans woman but you like everyone else, are entitled to your opinion, and I can handle opinions. Not everyone likes my MO and frankly my dear I don’t give a damn : ) I live it out note than I rant about men bc I like real works results and ranting makes me feel a certain hatred and I’d prefer to be the change I want to see. I think people in general could take more responsibility for their actions. Do men cheat more than women, hmmm, I’m beginning to wonder – I know several that are married to doting type hubbies and yet they are partaking…maybe it’s with condoms I don’t know I dont ask…
Carla, your Jorge has a good sense of humor ; )
Ma Qin, it’s my pleasure to serve you and all the others that are feeling healthy and at optimum weight, now I’m suggesting more sex but use condoms if it’s going to be with someone your not deeply involved with ok?? Seriously there are many health benefits to regular sex and it’s good for emotional and hormone balance. On they note gotta go my bodyguard has arrived : ) yes I use one to get my car fixed at the right price ; )
Caio, Luv, Zen Lill
November 22nd, 2010 at 11:28 am
Is Pomegranate Your Perfect Health Potion?
Steven Pratt, MD
Scripps Memorial Hospital
Pomegranate juice is healthier than the fruit itself.
Reason: Most of the fruit’s antioxidants are found in the inedible rind of the fruit — but the rind is typically used to create the juice.
Pomegranate juice helps protect the heart and prevent arthritis and gingivitis. Best: Choose pure pomegranate juice with no added sugars or fillers (such as apple or pear juice).
Bottom Line/Personal interviewed Steven Pratt, MD, ophthalmologist, Scripps Memorial Hospital, La Jolla, California, and author of SuperHealth (Signet)
November 22nd, 2010 at 11:40 am
Jodi
Michelle is so on! My husband of 32 years and 8 grown children has asked me to accept the fact that he is gay.
The children, him and I have had a good cry and I sent the sweet man on his way. I was not angry until he informed me that Mark our neighbor for 17 years and him have been having an affair for 14 years.
Mark is married and has 3 grown children. He wanted to continue living a lie with Jessica. I told her because these two men have been shoving the penis we have been sucking up each other’s butts for more that half her marriage.
Jessica has sued for a divorce and now the two of them are angry with me. The same two macho bastards that used to go hunting together every year with their pals.
The other guys are swearing that they know nothing about them being gay. I think the whole bunch are a lying cabal of fags.
I am not against gays. But a man living a lie with his wife is doing it for his on selfish purposes. He does not have the guts to live gay openly so he hires on to a family and lives a lie.
Don’t bother asking him. He will lie until it is in his interest to come out.
Carmen
November 22nd, 2010 at 11:54 am
Michelle:
I can’t believe that you would comment. I had known I would have used my real given name.
Yes, a condom fell off his little wacker. It always does when he finished doing me in the ass. That is the only place I can feel him.
His brother confronted me about talking to his wife about anal sex. I said LLoyd how do you know that Tim and I do that. He said that Tim is always raving about how good my ass is.
Well I called him as soon as I discovered Tim and asked him if he wanted to find out how good my ass was for himself.
At first he declined, but when I reminded him how June was always calling me the a face but no brains, he laughed and said okay so you want revenge.
Actually, I did. And this was an opportunity to fuck both of them with one dick.
Later when Lloyd found out what his brother did, he told me that his wife had told him that Tim had been hitting on her and she thinks he is the father of one of their children.
Men, are dogs!
Harmony
November 22nd, 2010 at 12:02 pm
Jodi
I am a gay man and I have been living your “lie” for 7 years with a woman that I love very much. I just don’t love her that way.
She has been after me to marry her for the last 4 years. I was going to give in until I read Carmen’s post to you.
I have decided to tell her that I am gay. I hope it doesn’t cause her to break off our friendship. She is my best friend. We have sex, but I always us a condom, with men and her.
She is the only woman I have had sex with because she is the only one that I can feel a sexual urge for. I could settle down and make a family with her, but I know that I am gay.
Carmen, it is not as black and white as you have made it. But I do agree that the gay partner owes the truth to his/her potential spouse.
Let them decide if they wish to enter a union with a gay partner.
Thank you for that Carmen.
Simon
November 22nd, 2010 at 12:05 pm
Jodi
Tell them you are leaving and sneak back into the house. My brother’s best friend told me to try that. I did and discovered that my husband sucked better dick than I do.
November 22nd, 2010 at 12:10 pm
Geez, Zen Lill I said “for a moment or two.” I didn’t say it was my lasting impression.
November 22nd, 2010 at 12:40 pm
oh man, my computer just blanked again…but I’ll give you the one liner, why not just be straight about the expecvtation of monogamy being difficult and come up with ways to make non-monogamy work, seems there’s a lot of hurt feelings and they all revolve around ‘cheating’ why not be more open – difficult as those convos may be it might serve better in the long term, no?
Stephanie, moment or tow or lasting impression, either you believe in my woman’s woman thing after 3 years or you do not…or would you rather play it gray area? Wjatever suits you : )
ZL
November 22nd, 2010 at 2:05 pm
Misch, I have 2 new words for you made up by my offspring : )
healthyatized – when you can buy ‘baked’ doritos…the healthier version of garbage food : )
and – stition – much like superstition, though no supernatural quality I would probably just say ‘quirky’ or ‘iodisyncracy’ but stition it is…kinda like not walking on the cracks but way more personal : )
ZL
November 22nd, 2010 at 6:49 pm
Michelle you are one HOT babe.
November 22nd, 2010 at 7:16 pm
Hello Michelle:
Get ready for the royal wedding.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1331790/Kate-Middleton-given-counselling-avoid-depression-Kings-wife.html
November 22nd, 2010 at 8:10 pm
Hafa adai
It never fails to amaze me to discover how low the human race can stoop while claiming to be civilized.
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Guam – The Guam Police Department reports that over the weekend thieves stole Thanksgiving turkeys & hams from J.Q. San Miguel Elementary School.
GPD Public Information Officer A.J. Balajadia reports that 2 other schools were also broken into but the accounting of what was stolen is still on going.
Those 2 other schools are George Washington High School and St. Francis.
Officer Balajadia reports that the individual or individuals who broke into J.Q. San Miguel, stole the Thanksgiving Lunch meantt for the children at the school.
In all he reports that 3 turkeys, an un-named number of hams and other items were taken from the schools freezers.
Classrooms were also broken into but the details on what damage was done and/or what was stolen from those classrooms is pending.
Anyone with information on the school thefts are asked to call Guam Crime Stoppers at 477-HELP.
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With all the opportunities to steal, why steal from the families of the most needy on Guam?
The real heart breaking truth is the ones who will buy from these thieves knowing where they got the loot from. Those are the real bastards.
Peter
November 22nd, 2010 at 8:39 pm
It seems once again God is on our side. When I read this article about an interview with the Pope as to whether it is ever morally okay to use a condom I thought about the discussion here.
It seems that we men can fall back on the advice of our religious leader, the Pope if we get caught not using a condom.
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In an interview with German journalist Peter Seewald for the Pope’s upcoming book Light of the World excerpts of the interview were posted by the Vatican’s L’Osservatore Romano, causing the media frenzy.
The New York Times quotes the interview with the Pope: “There may be a basis in the case of some individuals, as perhaps when a male prostitute uses a condom, where this can be a first step in the direction of a moralization, a first assumption of responsibility.”
Local Catholic Tim Rohr tries to put the Pope’s quote into perspective, “In this case the Pope is actually saying — look if a person is diseased already rather than spread the disease…it’s better for him — it’s a lesser of two evils to use the condom…
He chooses a homosexual relation where…one of the men — one of the partners is diseased — rather than infect somebody else,
it’s a higher moral response, you might say, some sense of responsibility is I think how he phrases it — for taking the responsibility of not spreading the disease.”
Rohr doesn’t believe the Pope’s statement is an endorsement of contraception as a means to prevent procreation.
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Now, I know you bitches aren’t expecting us religious men to risk excommunication for your personal safety.
Which is more important the immortal soul of your mate or you getting a STD?
Catholic women please back me up. After all most of you have baby after baby because you won’t let us use a condom on your ass and you won’t consider an abortion.
Bitches and their double standard
George
November 22nd, 2010 at 8:51 pm
Hafa adai
How about those howlies? They are using our Chamoro names to get elected. Sick!!!!!!!
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GUAM – On Friday, Sen. Judith Guthertz will convene the Committee on Ethics and Standards to hear Committee attorney Anthony Camacho’s initial screening report of the legislative ethics complaint filed by Harold Cruz on October 20th against Senator and Lt. Governor-Elect Ray Tenorio.
The lt. governor-elect’s name legally changed from Raymond Waddey, Jr. to Raymond Tenorio, Jr. via a court order issued on June 3, 1997 by Superior Court Judge Alberto Lamorena.
However, in the ethics complaint Cruz alleges that Tenorio, as a police officer and prior to his legal name change in ’97, “falsely represented his true identity during office governmental actions, and therefore committed fraud and perjury in police and court matters.”
The Ethics Committee is chaired by Sen. Judith Guthertz and vice-chaired by Sen. Jim Espaldon. Other committee members include Senators Rory Respicio, Tina Muna Barnes, Adolpho Palacios and Ray Tenorio himself.
Tenorio’s office provided News Watch with a comment on the issue from attorney Tom Fisher, Legislative Minority Legal Counsel saying,
“Lt. Governor-elect Tenorio obviously will not participate as a member of the committee during the discussion regarding the spurious complaint against him.”
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Whites don’t want OTWS to be a part of their government on the mainland but they are using every devious method to take over the governments of our island. We will end up like Hawaii.
White women will be representing the state in our pageants an white men will be our government representatives.
Wake up people. Stop the invasion by illegals. Just because they make themselves legal by the control they have over our government doesn’t change the fact that they not from Guam.
Lea
November 22nd, 2010 at 8:55 pm
Nice try George. But did you notice the pope did imply that if a diseased mother was about to fuck him in the ass, the diseased stud should use a condom to prevent the pope from contracting a STD.
Like all men, if it is self serving they will consider it. But if it is about protecting their wives or significant others from inflectional risk they are taking, f**k’em is their opinion.
If I were a woman who contacted a STD from my male companion, I would wait until he were asleep and I would cut the f offending appendage off and finish it off in a m;y garbage disposal.
I would hope that I would have a jury that included women that would not agree with the men on the panel and send me to jail. That would have to mean that I would have to remove the Zen Lill thinking women from the panel during Voir Dire.
On offense meant Zen Lill, but in this instance I would not want to take the chance that you would see the man’s point in this.
Aa acquittal would send a message LOUD and CLEAR to the selfish assholes that women will not stand for being exposed to their reckless sexual behavior.
Larissa
November 22nd, 2010 at 9:03 pm
With all the groping going on at Airport inspections and x-rays that could give you cancer or be sold on the net, I am proud of the woman on Guam who is standing up for us.
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Guam – Congresswoman Madeleine Bordallo is calling or “less intrusive” screening of passengers at a.b. won pat guam international airport.
Bordallo says the October bomb plot against a UPS plane and last year’s Christmas bomber plot are “reminders of the on-going terrorist threat to the nation.
And while the Congresswoman says in a written statement she backs TSA’s “need to protect passengers,” she adds: “I believe it’s important to find a balance between passenger safety and privacy concerns.”
Bordallo concludes that TSA must continue to “invest in new, less intrusive, screening technologies” to enhance security, while “reducing the need for random pat-downs.”
A ‘dear colleague’ letter is circulating in the house, complaining Americans are “outraged” at the ultimatum they’re being given at airports.
The choice between a “virtual strip search,” or an “over-the-top” pat-down—it reads—“is no choice at all.”
Pennsylvania Republican Tim Murphy wrote Bordallo and others that new TSA-administered policies are being “derided from Americans everywhere, as a violation of privacy.”
A full-body scanner was just recently installed at Saipan’s Francisco C. Ada International Airport and one will reportedly be going in at Guam’s Airport, soon.
But Murphy’s apparently heard enough already and points out, the U.S. House voted “overwhelmingly, 310-118, as part of a TSA re-authorization bill to prohibit TSA’s use of full-body scanners as a primary screening method.”
Murphy charges TSA has “ignored this” and plans to deploy over 1-thousand machines at airports across the country by the end of next year.
Just under a million passengers went through Guam’s airport in the past year.
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Get behind her folks. Don’t be like the scared at anything white people on the mainland. Refuse to be scared into giving up your basic rights or health concerns.
Hafa Adai
Anna
November 22nd, 2010 at 9:05 pm
Zen Lill
You gotta love that child of yours. She is precious.
November 22nd, 2010 at 9:07 pm
Larissa ditto.
November 22nd, 2010 at 10:39 pm
I want to thank everyone for your concerns. I don’t think my husband is gay. But he does spend an awful lot of time on my tush.
He is very fond of anal sex. And he likes me to do him there too. We have several large size strap-ons that cause him to have extremely powerful orgasms.
We have been using them for more than 10 years. Some of my girlfriends that I have shared this with say their husband like a good f**king in the rear too from time to time.
We have on occasion compared techniques and devices. They have never indicated that they thought their husbands were even a touch gay.
No, I am more worried about him finding a woman with more daring while making love to him. Sometimes he wants me to do things to him I don’t have the stomach for or the strength to hit him hard enough.
Maybe, I’ll take your advice Nora and sneak in and spy on them. I don’t know if I have that kind of courage, yet though.
I’m actually interested in what Zen Lill would do. She has the kind of openness about relationships with men I would love to have.
Michelle, you and Doug are too perfect for me to relate to. But I am so excited about you taking the time to respond to my post that I haven’t come down yet.
Jodi
November 22nd, 2010 at 11:15 pm
Jodi
You need a reality check! Your man enjoys a hard stiff dick up the ass. You better believe he is enjoying the REAL thing on his own.
November 23rd, 2010 at 6:26 am
Hafa Adai
I’m about to go to bed. It is almost 12:30 AM here. But I am interested in how you mainlanders feel about the full body scanners you have encountered at the airport.
Full body scanners aren’t on Guam yet but they’re coming and soon. According to the TSA, Guam will will have two Advanced Imaging Technology scanners or full body scanners at the Guam International Airport come next year. Guam will join 68 other airports nationwide.
The installation of Guam’s full body scanners is slated for the first quarter of 2011. Until then Guam will be able to see how the use of these new scanners play out in other airports across the nation.
Yvonne
November 23rd, 2010 at 6:53 am
Vinegar to Lose Weight (Lower Blood Sugar, Too)
Mark A. Stengler, NMD
La Jolla Whole Health Clinic
Vinegar has been used as a folk medicine for such things as headaches and indigestion. Now several studies reinforce its benefit for weight management and blood sugar control.
Researchers believe that it is the acetic acid in any type of vinegar (apple cider, balsamic, white or red wine) that produces this effect, interfering with enzymes involved in the digestion of carbohydrates and those that alter glucose metabolism (so that insulin does not spike).
One recent study found that mice fed a high-fat diet — and given acetic acid — developed up to 10% less body fat than those not given acetic acid.
Another 2007 study found that having small amounts of vinegar at bedtime seemed to reduce waking blood glucose levels in people.
More studies need to be done on vinegar, but it does seem that people can benefit from sprinkling vinegar on salads… adding a teaspoon to marinades… and adding a few drops to mustard.
For blood sugar balance (for those with diabetes or on diabetes medication) or weight loss, dilute one to two tablespoons (some people start with teaspoons) in an equal amount of water — and drink it at the beginning of a meal.
Source: Mark A. Stengler, NMD, a naturopathic medical doctor and leading authority on the practice of alternative and integrated medicine.
Dr. Stengler is editor of the Bottom Line Natural Healing newsletter, author of The Natural Physician’s Healing Therapies (Bottom Line Books), director of the La Jolla Whole Health Clinic in La Jolla, California, and adjunct associate clinical professor at the National College of Natural Medicine in Portland, Oregon. To learn more about his work, visit http://www.drstengler.com.
November 24th, 2010 at 8:59 am
Zen lill:
I know you can handle the jealousy and pettiness that some on this blog throw your way.
But I want you to know that your fans are behind you.
Chloe