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#WhitePrivilegeMeans

Posted by Michelle Moquin on 25th July 2016

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Good morning.

In light of yesterday’s comments on the shooting of another black man.

From the Huff Po:

13 Tweets Explain The Deadly Impact White Privilege Has On Black People

“#WhitePrivilegeMeans always getting the benefit of the doubt.”

Since last week, we’ve learned the names of  several black men who were killed by cops across the country including Alton SterlingPhilando CastileAlva Braziel and Delrawn Small. The details and implications have been tough to process. One thing that can’t be ignored, however, is that if these men were white, they would very likely still be alive today.

On Friday, Twitter user Matt Edelstein revived the hashtag #WhitePrivilegeMeans(first tweeted in 2014) to educate and call out the ugly realities that people of color deal with every day that white people don’t have to.

“I decided to resurrect the tag while the topic was being made hot by the Alton, Philando and Dallas horrors,” Edelstein told Mic. “I felt it was a splendid teaching moment and that tag simply had to be resurrected right now, while the topic was very germane. Especially since the Dallas shooting was giving the #bluelivesmatter crackpot police apologists a chance to seize the narrative.”

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Other tweeters, both white and people of color, followed suit uncovering the struggles people of color face that white people are immune, and sometimes blind, to. Their tweets are chillingly accurate.

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Readers: “White privilege means getting away with murdering black men.” White privilege means being able to run down the street without a cop stopping you thinking you did something bad.” “White privilege means not needing a reason to shoot a black man.”  #WhitePrivilegeMeans.

What are you tweeting?

Blog me. 

Tim: I know exactly what she’ll do if she becomes president. All I know is she will be president of this United States…..way!!!Deal with it.

Reza: Ahaha! Every time I read these Melania quotes I start cracking up. Yours was no different. Thanks.

Helena 1: Always nice to see you here. I echo your words. Thanks.

Hilary: Thanks for posting about our Hillary. I’m thrilled too.

Bill: I couldn’t agree with you more. Love the Warriors. Can’t wait till the season begins!

Dafne: Love it. Madaline came to mind as I watched the trailer. She was a kick ass Girlz just like Wonder Woman. I sure miss her and her cadre. I look forward to seeing it on the big screen. Thanks for posting.

Carlos: That news doesn’t surprise me. Sickening to protect the murderers.  It may mean we need to spread the word through social media, and hope the videos go viral if the media opts to censor. I’ll do my best to post it here.

✌🏽& ❤️

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Having A Breakdown After Being Raped And Choked Could Land You In Jail

Posted by Michelle Moquin on 22nd July 2016

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Good morning, everyone.

Yes, I’m sure many watched Trump’s speech. Me, I’ve had enough. I’ve got something else I want to bring up today.

From Daily Kos:

Rape victim thrown in jail after breaking down in court

A Houston woman in her 20’s who is called “Jenny” was raped and choked by a convicted serial rapist Keith Hendricks. While testifying against him in court, she had a breakdown, became incoherent, and ran out of the courtroom saying she’d never return. The prosecutor in the case had her arrested and put in jail for threatening not to show up to testify. Her mother and her attorney thought “Jenny,” who suffers from bipolar disorder, was put into a psychiatric hospital, when if fact, she was only hospitalized for a few days then then transferred to the Harris County Jail and put into the general population. The jail staff received erroneous reports that said Jenny was the sexual abuser rather than the abused victim. While incarcerated she was beaten.

It’s one of those stories that sounds and feels surreal, yet it happened. Jenny’s attorney filed a lawsuit against the Harris County sheriff, the jail guard who allegedly hit Jenny while in jail, and the prosecutor who requested she be jailed. Jenny’s attorney says a rape victim should never be put into that environment. He adds she was put in jail without due process — without committing a crime.

Click2Houston’s Legal Analyst Brian Wice stated:

“It’s astounding to me that could have happened,” said Wice. “At the end of the day she received less due process, less protection than the rapist did.”

At one point while in jail, Jenny was so frustrated with her situation, she “came out of her cell with fists swinging.” She hit a guard who in turn uses a closed fist and hit her. So she was charged with assault while in jail — were she should never have been placed. The prosecutor later dropped the charges and she was released after spending a month in jail.

Former prosecutor Kim Ogg, who is running against Harris County District Attorney Devon Anderson in November, believes, like many, that Jenny’s treatment was wrong.

“Putting a witness in jail on a material witness bond is highly irregular and reserved for the worst of the worst witnesses, maybe gang cases,” Ogg said. “They can be protected by placing them in a hotel, you can place them with family, you can keep in contact.”

“In 30 years of practice, I’ve never heard of a rape victim being jailed and so mistreated.”

One especially sad and disturbing part about this case is that it will give rape victims one more reason not to come forward to report their rape and/or press charges.

It’s not clear why no one has attributed Jenny’s breakdown to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), which is common with rape victims and would cause a breakdown and erratic behavior. It’s what can happen when you’re choked and raped.

If you or someone you know is, or has ever been, a victim of rape/sexual assault, it’s never too late to seek help. You can find free support via the National Sexual Assault Hotline: 800.656.HOPE (4673) and/or by visiting the Rape, Abuse Incest National Network/RAINN.org website online. If you are in immediate danger, please call 911. You do not have to live with horror, guilt, and/or shame. If you can hold on to one thing, remember this —It. Was. Not. Your. Fault.

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Readers: Can  you imagine? A month in jail. This is just horrific. Once again the woman, the victim, is getting treated as if she is the bad guy, only in this case it is so much worse.

The forum is open. Talk about anything that’s on your mind.

Blog me. 

Mike, TM: Exactly. That is what I read and my thoughts are with you. The supposed speech writer took the fall for Melania.

Judy: I agree but it’s never going to happen, and people will let it slide and use the excuse that “English is not her 1st language…blah…blah…blah.” Which brings me to Shelia: My thoughts are the same. We all know, as Elanor stated, that it was a made up story. If Melanie gave those “words as inspiration” as McIver claims, then Melania would without a doubt recognize those exact words as they were placed in her speech. Period. She plagiarized big time. But Trump had to do something to save his wife’s ass.

On the other hand, if it was true, Trump and his clan would’ve had that story out within minutes of this debacle. And Trump would’ve said to the girl, “You’re Fired!” for making such a huge mistake. Regardless….all of this means absolutely nothing because in either case Melania spoke Michelle Obama’s exact words and knew exactly what she was doing, and hoped no one would notice. Oops. We all noticed.

Notice how now Melania hasn’t said a word? At least nothing I’ve heard.

Peace out. 

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Black Republican Senator Says He’s Been Repeatedly Stopped By Police In Last Year

Posted by Michelle Moquin on 20th July 2016

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From Think Progress:

Black Republican Senator Says He’s Been Repeatedly Stopped By Police In Last Year

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Speaking on the Senate floor Wednesday, a Republican senator took 18 minutes to describe his own experiences as a black man profiled by police. He also recounted the seven times he’s been pulled over by cops in the last year, explaining that his profession isn’t enough to shield him from racist policing.

Following a Senate discussion about the need for criminal justice reform, Sen. Tim Scott (R-SC) got candid about the reality of being black in America, the second of several speeches on race he’s planned for this week.

“In the course of one year, I’ve been stopped seven times by law enforcement officers. Not four, not five, not six, but seven times in one year as an elected official,” he said. “Was I speeding sometimes? Sure. But the vast majority of the times, I was pulled over for nothing more than driving a new car in the wrong neighborhood, or some other reason just as trivial.”

Scott detailed several times he was followed by police for reasons he couldn’t deduce. He also admitted that he’s been questioned and profiled by police on Capitol Hill.

“I do not know many African American men who do not have a very similar story to tell, no matter their profession. No matter their income. No matter their disposition in life. Imagine the frustration, the irritation, the sense of a loss of dignity that accompanies each of those stops,” Scott said. “I have felt the anger, the frustration, the sadness, and the humiliation that comes with feeling like you’re being targeted for nothing more than being just yourself.”

Click here to watch the speech.

Scott’s remarks came nearly one week after Philando Castile was fatally shot in St. Anthony in front of a 4-year-old girl and Dallas police were gunned down by a sniper — two tragedies the senator brought up in his speech. Like Scott, Castile was stopped numerous times by officers before he was killed — 52 times since 2002, according to the Associated Press. But Scott also spoke on the Senate floor about the Dallas shooting on Tuesday, urging the country to have a “family conversation” about the challenges the country experienced last week and condemning the massacre.

“Our nation is experiencing turmoil we haven’t seen in generations,” he said. “There are wounds that have existed for more than a generation, and it’s time for the American family to work together to heal some of these wounds.”

Scott has been outspoken about race and policing in the past. Last year, he criticized the fatal shooting of Walter Scott, who was shot in the back while fleeing officer Michael Slager in North Charleston, South Carolina. Scott’s also been a vocal proponent of police body cameras, and introduced a bill to allocate $100 million to police departments, annually, in order to equip more officers with them.

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A Wake-Up Call for White Progressives

Posted by Michelle Moquin on 18th July 2016

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From Talk Poverty:

A Wake-Up Call for White Progressives

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A woman holds a sign as she and hundreds of other protesters march against the recent fatal shootings by police of black men in San Francisco. (AP Photo/Noah Berger)

The night after Alton Sterling was killed by police, I got home from work late.  When our three children were asleep, my wife and I finally had a moment together.

The first thing she said, as if she had been sitting on it all day, was: “I feel like we need to get a Black Lives Matter sign for our yard. I know it would be unusual in our neighborhood.”

We live in Chevy Chase, D.C., in one of the wealthiest zip codes in the city. There are about 30 houses on my block, and only one African-American family that I know of. But it didn’t surprise me that my wife wanted a public display of solidarity.  In 1990, when she was 16, her classmate Phillip Pannell was shot in the back and killed while fleeing police at the elementary school they had attended in Teaneck, New Jersey.  It molded her thinking on race and justice.

I was non-committal on the sign—not opposed, I just hadn’t thought of it before.

I had always considered myself a good ally on race: I was born in the nation’s capital on one of the worst days in American history—the day after Martin Luther King, Jr. was assassinated—when the city was burning, the National Guard was deployed, and a curfew was imposed.  As far back as I can remember, I have thought about what the man—and the movement—have meant to our nation, and the connection between the pogroms my family experienced in Europe and the African-American experience here.

So why, then, the hesitation on the sign?

Exhausted, I drifted off picturing it in our front yard: Who would we be speaking to?  What would the sign achieve?  Would it cause people to target my home or my children? How would I explain the sign to my 3- and 6-year olds?  (My 10-year-old could probably get it, and maybe that conversation was overdue.)

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I woke to the news of Philando Castile—shot dead in his car in front of his girlfriend and her 4-year-old child as he reached for his license and registration.

I came to work not wanting to continue business-as-usual.  Instead, I joined a gathering of about 50 of my colleagues to talk about the killing of black people.  I didn’t talk, myself. That’s what many white allies think we should do when people of color are suffering: shut up, listen, and be supportive.

When will you get as angry as I am? Which killing will be the one that finally does it for you?

My black friends and colleagues expressed anguish, anger, hopelessness, hope, and sheer exhaustion.  But what stuck with me the most was when a black male colleague asked his white coworkers, “When will you get as angry as I am?  Which killing will be the one that finally does it for you?  I feel hopeless.  And nothing changes in this country unless white people want it to.”

I left looking for a way to take action. The news cycle will move on from these killings, but my colleagues and I can make sure TalkPoverty doesn’t.  I reached out to some folks who had shared powerful reflections during the meeting and asked if they were interested in writing.  You will likely hear from some of them in the coming days.

But one friend emailed me, “I’m not in a place where I can write yet. If you want to get the ball rolling, it’s a great act of allyship to know you don’t have all the answers but want to show support when your peers are hurting, especially when you have a platform.”

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I woke up Friday morning to the news that five police officers were killed in Dallas. I was hit with shock and sadness—and then the realization that people will try to blame the Black Lives Matter movement.  I checked Twitter and Facebook, and sure enough that narrative had already emerged.  I’m not a huge fan of tweeting, but the message I received from my colleagues the previous day was that white people need to speak up.

So I did:

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I went downstairs and asked my wife if she had heard the news.  She hadn’t, and when I told her, her jaw dropped.  My 10-year-old daughter noticed.

“What?” she asked.

My daughter and I walked out of earshot of her younger siblings.  We sat down and I told her what had happened in Dallas, and also what the people had been demonstrating about: You know how if Mommy or Daddy were driving too fast a policeman would stop us and give us a ticket, and then we would drive away?

From there I struggled through what she has learned in school about racism in the past—slavery, segregation, civil rights—but also what she didn’t necessarily understand yet: that racism isn’t gone.  I told her that some people think that black people aren’t as good as other people, or they are afraid of them, or both, and it has led to things like black people getting shot (my daughter winced) when they should have just gotten a ticket, or not even that.  So now there are a lot of us saying “Black Lives Matter” to fight against racism that has never gone away.

I’ve been in a slumber, because I could be, without even knowing it.

I told her if we were black we would have had this conversation when she was younger and it would have been very different, something like: “If a police officer ever talks to you, listen to whatever he says, you can’t talk back, you can’t make any quick movements, because some of them might be prejudiced against you just because you are black and hurt you badly.  People even get killed.”  I told my daughter that black parents have to worry about their children’s safety in ways her mom and I don’t, simply because of skin color.

She got it much better than I explained it, I think.  Just as she thought it absurd when she first learned there was never a black president before Obama, and literally laughed aloud, incredulous, when I told her there has never been a woman president.  Because in her world, there is no room for these injustices—just as there is no room for a parent needing to have a conversation with their child about the life-and-death stakes of their interactions with police.

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My wife and I are getting the Black Lives Matter sign. We’re posting it in our lily-white neighborhood, which is exactly the kind of place where we need to start these long overdue conversations.

I used to think I was very progressive on race.  But I’ve been in a slumber, because I could be, without even knowing it.

No more.

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Readers: Like this writer who writes, “…when a black male colleague asked his white coworkers, ‘When will you get as angry as I am?  Which killing will be the one that finally does it for you?...’” I get what he is saying. Because I think the same thing when I see men stand by and say nothing when a girl or woman is molested or raped.

It’s never enough to just not commit the atrocity. It’s never enough to say, “I don’t treat women that way…I would never rape a woman.”

It’s never enough to just not commit the atrocity.  It’s never enough to say, “I’m not a racist…I would never murder a man because of the color of his skin.”

It is wrong to turn a blind eye, when sicko men are preying on young girls and women, and when cops are committing racist behavior, and murdering innocent black men, and remain silent when you know what is happening.

We as a society are responsible for doing something, for being a part of the solution, or we are just as bad as the accomplices. We can no longer be just  innocent bystanders when we can do something. Men need to stand up for women by joining women in the fight for equality, rights, and stronger laws to protect women and harsher laws to convict rapists.

And whites need to get out of their slumber, wake up, and get pissed off enough to do something. Unfortunately, even in light of this positive write I don’t have much faith many whites will wake up because blacks are being murdered. This has been happening for a long time and nothing has changed to protect blacks from the rabid racists in this country. Will it now – now that cops are being killed? –  Will their murders piss off enough for people to actually do something? Time will most certainly tell.

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Just Noticing: Observations of a Blogger

Posted by Michelle Moquin on 17th July 2016

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Good Sunday morning!

From Vanity Fair:

Is It Wrong to Work with Woody Allen?

Kate Winslet and Justin Timberlake just signed onto the filmmaker’s latest project.

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From left, by Gisela Schober, by Steve Granitz/WireImage, by Luca Teuchmann/WireImage, all from Getty Images.

If you’ve been waiting for Hollywood’s casting gods to unite a scandal-plagued filmmaker, an Oscar-winning English actress, and a former boy-band member, you’re in luck. On Thursday, in a Mad Libs-style casting announcement, Woody Allen confirmed that he has cast Kate Winslet and Justin Timberlake in his upcoming film, along with Juno Temple and James Belushi.

Allen has a habit of keeping details about his upcoming projects close to the vest, and this untitled feature is no different. The only additional details a press release allowed were the city where the film will shoot—New York—and the producers of the project.

It may be surprising to see Winslet and Timberlake’s names together in a casting report, but the actors’ partnership with Allen should not come as a surprise for the following reasons:

  • In 2008, Allen revealed that he and Winslet had originally planned to make Match Point together—until Winslet’s exhausting schedule required her to bow out of the role that would ultimately go to Scarlett Johansson. As for Timberlake, Allen recently revealed himself to have a soft spot for Disney-bred actors/mainstream musicians when he cast Miley Cyrus in his upcoming Amazon series. And with regard to the sexual-abuse allegations that seem to follow Allen wherever he goes, remember that Winslet chose to partner with another professionally esteemed filmmaker mired in decades-old controversy when she made Carnage with Roman Polanski, the filmmaker who pleaded guilty to unlawful sex with a 13-year-old decades ago.

While promoting that film, Winslet said she had no doubts about working with the Chinatown visionary.

“When Roman Polanski invites you to join him in any project you really don’t say no,” she said, per The Telegraph. “I felt extremely fortunate to be included.”

At the time, though, several asked why Winslet and her co-star Jodie Foster might work with the filmmaker in spite of his personal history. While the answer might seem obvious—great filmmaking is not mutually exclusive from personal flaw—The Atlantic’s Alyssa Rosenberg offered her own hypothesis:

Ultimately, I’ve come to believe that actors and actresses don’t keep working with Polanski because they believe art is a higher imperative or because there’s some kind of kinship between artistic spirits. Rather, I think famous actors and actresses can justify working with Polanski because they’re privileged enough not to see him, and people like him, as a threat. 

The latest Allen casting news arrives only months after Allen’s estranged son Ronan Farrow called out Allen’s collaborators for continuing to work with the 80-year-old filmmaker in spite of the sexual-abuse allegations that have plagued him for decades. In an essay published this past May, Farrow wrote:

Actors, including some I admire greatly, continue to line up to star in his movies. “It’s not personal,” one once told me. But it hurts my sister every time one of her heroes like Louis C.K., or a star her age, like Miley Cyrus, works with Woody Allen. Personal is exactly what it is—for my sister, and for women everywhere with allegations of sexual assault that have never been vindicated by a conviction.

In 2014, Ronan’s sister Dylan Farrow penned an open letterdetailing the alleged sexual abuse she says she suffered as a child at the hands of the filmmaker. Like Ronan, she also called out some of Allen’s young creative partners.

What if it had been your child, Cate Blanchett? Louis C.K.? Alec Baldwin? What if it had been you, Emma Stone? Or you, Scarlett Johansson? You knew me when I was a little girl, Diane Keaton. Have you forgotten me?

Woody Allen is a living testament to the way our society fails the survivors of sexual assault and abuse.

Afterward, as Blanchett sailed towards her Blue Jasmine Oscar win, the actress was asked about the essay.

“It’s obviously been a long and painful situation for the family,” Blanchett said, “and I hope they find some sort of resolution and peace.”

Her co-star Alec Baldwin took to Twitter to offer his own unfiltered explanation for why he would not be commenting on the essay.

“So you know who’s guilty? Who’s lying? You, personally, know that?” Baldwin responded to a Twitter user badgering him for comment. “You are mistaken if you think there is a place for me, or any outsider, in this family’s issue.”

Earlier this year, Kristen Stewart, who co-stars in Cafe Society,adopted the same strategy in an interview—separating the actor’s work from the personal rumors. “We don’t know any of these people involved,” she told Variety. “If we were persecuted for the amount of shit that’s been said about us that’s not true, our lives would be over.”

Even Lena Dunham, who has said she is “decidedly pro-Dylan Farrow and decidedly disgusted with Woody Allen’s behavior”—suggested to Marc Maron that she can still appreciate his films for their artistic merit. “I’m not going to indict the work,” she said.

Sarah Silverman similarly shared her own internal conflict when Tweeting out Ronan’s essay earlier this year. “My comedy hero Woody Allen, and his untouchable P.R. machine and our not wanting it to be true,” Silverman wrote. “But it is.”

Allen, meanwhile, has a foolproof strategy for separating the allegations and controversy from his life. When we sat down with the filmmaker at the Cannes Film Festival this year, he did not seem to be bothered by the negative press. The reason?

“I never read anything about me, these interviews I do, anything,” Allen told us. “I have moved so far past it. I never think about it. I work.”

If the allegations don’t seem to bother Allen himself, then why might they concern the actors on the other side of his camera?

In 2014, author and screenwriter Rafael Yglesias offered a rare perspective on this moral gray area, writing an essay for Slate about his decision to write a screenplay for Allen’s fellow-in-controversial-filmmaker-arms Polanski, in spite of the fact that Yglesias was molested himself when he was 8 years old.

“Roman Polanski was, and is, one of a handful of directors who have made movies that deserve to be called great works of art,” Yglesias explained, adding that he was so eager to work with Polanski that he even accepted a lower rate for the collaboration than he usually does.

He described the partnership as “an opportunity that was too rewarding to my artistic aspirations as a writer” to turn down. But perhaps the sharpest line, that might explain the rationale of Winslet, Timberlake, and the hundreds of others who have appeared in Allen’s nearly 50 movies, arrives towards the end of the essay.

“Working with a rapist is not the same as condoning rape,” Yglesias wrote. “Actors, writers, and producers are not cops, judges, or jurors. In the work they choose to do, writers, actors, producers, and directors can be held accountable solely for its quality and its ideas.”

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Readers: I’m not surprised that men wouldn’t skip a beat to work with Woody. But the women…I would think (HOPE) they would react differently. But then, he is a white men and these are white women. So much more to say here about the article, so I’ll open up the forum and invite you to do the talking.

What do you think? Is it wrong to work with Woody Allen, (the LSOS)?

Blog me.

PS: I’ve had family in town since Tuesday and birthdays all around, so my time has been limited here. But anxious to catch up with you all and respond to some comments.

✌🏽&❤️

 

Lastly, greed over a great story is surfacing from my “loyal”(?) readers. With all this back and forth about who owns what, that appears on my blog, let me reiterate that all material posted on my blog becomes the sole property of my blog. If you want to reserve any proprietary rights don’t post it to my blog. I will prominently display this caveat on my blog from now on to remind those who may have forgotten this notice.

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