We Are Not ‘Worsening’ Things, We Are ‘Waking’ Things Up.
Posted by Michelle Moquin on 25th February 2009
I had wanted to write about something else today but when I woke up, I felt that this conversation from yesterday needed to continue. I have more to say on the subject. I just have to add an observation that has come to my attention. I find it interesting that the male commentators (not ALL of them) get so offended when the women say, ‘Oh…let me guess…you have a small penis”…or ‘You’re letting the little head overrule the big head’, when women are speaking from a defensive position.
As the writer of my blog, I will say that I don’t make a comment or write an article taking an offensive position in regards to men and their genitals. No, in the contrary. When I make a comment that feels heated or ‘shrill’, it is coming from a defensive position as a rebuttal to another commentator, a man. And I think that I can safely say that this applies to most of the women commentators also.
I find it interesting that Al made a comment, ‘ …have always been in favor of your cause, but we may have a disagreement on some of your methods.’ My answer: My method, my defense, is in direct proportion to the offense. Let me clarify. Men come onto my blog and make harsh racist remarks towards Obama and any other OTW. I don’t need to list the name-calling that has been prevalent in the comments. Men come onto my blog and make harsh sexist remarks towards women, calling us not only second class citizens; our place is behind our men, but that we are nothing more than baby machines. In both cases, these men deprive women and OTW’s of equality and do everything in their power to maintain that status quo.
Men (once again not ALL) have rarely come to the defense of women by going off on these atrocious men who act and say such horrific things. Their silence tells us that they are either in support of these men, or they’re just too lazy, they don’t care, to take part and do anything in support of women or OTW’s.
Women on the other hand, and I brought this up yesterday, realizing that they are not physically capable of forcing men to accept us as equals, resort to competing psychologically. So when a man comes onto my blog and posts a racist or sexist remark, some women may feel that they have no choice but to respond in a defensive way….hit the man right in the psyche, or ‘square in the nuts’, since they can’t slap him in the face.
And when this happens, watch out…the men that were silently hanging in the sidelines are now out in the field. Where were you when women needed you to defend them? And yes, I will say that women do need the ‘real’ men out there to defend them. We need all of the help we can get because we are loosing big time! Yes, now they are out in the field, but who’s side are they on? Are they lashing out toward the men who initially made the cruel and disgusting remarks? No, they don’t come out to defend us…No, they (you know who you are) come out to serve another round of tongue lashings…more verbal abuse towards the women who are simply acting in defense of those initial offensive cruel and disgusting remarks. Some of the men, and you know who you are, adding to the cruel remarks, actually get pleasure from doing it. Sickening.
FYI: The shit is thrown in direct proportion to how it is dished out. I’m sick of men thinking they can continually abuse women verbally and physically and we are supposed to act like ladies and silently take it up the ass, or accept an apology, like it’s enough. Women have been gentle for too long and where has it gotten us? More oppressed and abused and it’s getting worse. Rape is now being used as a weapon of war – sickening. Our so called ‘name calling’ isn’t worsening things…it’s waking things up.
And I’m asked to change my method. Why? Are the men changing their methods? Yeah they’re changing all right – they’re getting more abusive.
It seems the only reaction we get out of men is when women react in direct proportion to the abusive delivery we receive. Until then, men (not ALL) basically do nothing. If men don’t like the methods I and women use then start changing your ways. Don’t be verbally abusive one day and apologize the next day and expect it to be enough. It isn’t. Start treating women and OTW’s as equals…start respecting them and honoring the differences, and you will receive the same treatment. If you aren’t racist or sexist, then support women and OTW’s. Do something. Until then, don’t expect my methods to change.
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Anonz: It is hard to read your write and not feel compassion for what you must be going through. I know it is your choice, and even though you are committed to the task, you sound tired…and your desire to return to your beloved country is apparent. I wish for you and your men, all the strength, energy, and courage that you can muster, to defeat your enemies, avenge Nia’s murderers, and complete your mission quickly and successfully. In regards to your personal task: “Better honor than accolades.” May peace come soon.
Lora: I am not surprised that you are not happy being back here. No one who leaves seems to want to return, but it is part of the deal.
In regards to that Nuclear “accident” that you spoke, of we’ll handle this via comunication 27.
Barbara and Melinda: Thank you!
Caroline: It is a continual quest to get them to ‘get it’. Keep trying.
Qalat: Thanks for your confidence and no worries. As long as I have a venue I will continue to write, inspire and encourage hope.
10:23AM: I just saw Melvin’s comment on yestersay’s post. A perfect example for my post today. Now…what method do you think would be best to use for my defensive rebuttal? Since I am done posting for the day, I’ll look forward to someone else’s comment. ‘Real’ men: Here’s your chance. Do something.
Peace & Love: Live it, Give it!
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