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Wonderful Women of The World

Posted by Michelle Moquin on 25th January 2014


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Good morning!

I find it interesting (perhaps it is the law of attraction at work :), that when I am drawn to a particular subject, articles seem to show up supporting that subject. Wonderful Women of the World show up too.

To keep the conversation going, here’s a video from TedxYouth:

The Sexy Lie: Caroline Heldman at TEDxYouth@SanDiego

A leading advocate for spotlighting how the mainstream media contributes to the underrepresentation of women in positions of power and influence in America, Caroline Heldman offers straight talk and an often-startling look at the objectification of women in our society. She illustrates how it has escalated, how we have become inured to its damaging effects and what we can do individually and collectively to demolish the paradigms that keep us from a better world.

Chair of the politics department of Occidential College in Los Angeles, Dr. Heldman appeared in the acclaimed documentary, Miss Representation and is co-editor of “Madame President: Are We Ready for a Woman in the White House?” She is a frequent commentator on radio and television and a regular contributor to Ms. Magazine.

In thespirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TEDx event, TEDTalks video and live speakers combine to spark deep discussion and connection in a small group. These local, self-organized events are branded TEDx, where x = independently organized TED event. The TED Conference provides general guidance for the TEDx program, but individual TEDx events are self-organized.* (*Subject to certain rules and regulations)

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Helen: I think these are good questions to ask. And Dr. Heldman posed some additional questions for all of us to think about as well. How will we create and build a new paradigm for women in our society? I loved some of her examples. 

Thoughts? Blog me. Happy Saturday!

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Flap Your Lips Friday

Posted by Michelle Moquin on 24th January 2014


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Good morning!

Since this writer (Gotta love this girl.) received many comments from so many of you, I wanted to post a follow-up. I think you’ll like it too.

Lacking Liberation: On Conflating ‘Sexual Objectification’ with ‘Sexual Empowerment’

January 23, 2013 | by Melissa A. Fabello

Recently, I made a video – called, appropriately, “Party Girl Pop: Empowerment or Sexism?” – wherein I question Ke$ha and Katy Perry lyrics, the messages that they present to mainstream culture, and whether or not one can be sexually empowered if the sexual expression being presented is commodified.

That is, if the sexuality being sold by the media is one that subjugates women and pushes willing objectification off as sexual ownership, then when we buy into and mirror it, are we really experiencing liberation?

Or are we still caught in the clutches of patriarchal ideology, participating in the reworked script of what womanhood means?

Soon after the release of my video, I found in my e-mail inbox a link to a Cameron Diaz quote where she purports: “I think every woman does want to be objectified,” adding that it’s healthy for at least some part of you to feel that way. It’s, apparently, “empowering.”

Sigh. Thank you, pop culture, for proving my points for me, as you so aptly do, again and again.

And while I understand what she was getting at (I think – I hope – that she meant that it feels good to feel sexually desirable), it’s dangerous for people to be further exposed to this myth that being objectified and autonomous can not only coexist, but are one in the same thing.

Inherent in the very words and their respective definitions is a disparity.

Sexual empowerment is active. It’s ownership. Autonomous. Self-serving.

Objectification, on the other hand, is a passive relenting of control. It’s powerless. Self-sacrificial.

And while there is absolutely nothing wrong with power play and feeling objectified, it is another thing entirely to be actually thought of as a sexual object.

It’s the difference between the delicious hunger in my partner’s eyes when my bra comes off and the disgusted, dejected way that I feel when a construction worker tells me that he wants a piece.

The problem with the conflation of “owner” and “object” is that it perpetuates the idea that female sexuality is for everyone except the woman in question. It gives cadence to the bullsh*t social myth that powerful female sexuality equals pleasing partners, rather than knowing and pleasing oneself.

It’s why I, as a teenager, measured my being “good in bed” by having boyfriends bragging in locker rooms about my wild ways.

It’s why it never occurred to me before I was older that being a good sexual partner meant being versatile and flexible, communicative and compassionate, that it meant having agency and demanding respect.

Because all around us is this idea that we, as women, gain sexual respect by being the most innocently seductive or by giving the best blow-jobs – sexual acts that have little-to-nothing to do with our own physical pleasure and satisfaction.

This explains why recently on my sex advice blog, a young woman wrote in, describing that she’s “okay” with and has “gotten used to” the fact that her boyfriend never even touches her.

“When I asked him about it,” she went on, “he said it ‘just doesn’t occur’ to him to touch me.”

Well, why would it? If society tells him that a woman’s satisfaction is based entirely on how well she (or you know, her body) satisfies a male counterpart, it wouldn’t occur to him.

And apparently it doesn’t occur to Cameron Diaz either.

The thing is – the façades of empowerment and liberation that the media puts forth – and questioning whether or not they’re legitimate, or just sexism presented in a shiny new package – can be difficult territory to navigate.

On the one hand, we want so badly to believe, for instance, that the Spice Girls really did represent girl power and celebrate individuality.

On the other, as grown adults and self-identified feminists, though, we also have to recognize the way that they were caricatures of types of womanhood, pushing outdated stereotypes themselves – and oh-so-conveniently doing everything in short skirts and hot pants.

And therein lies the problem. Because it’s not that short skirts and hot pants (as symbols of an unbridled, honest, if-you’ve-got-it-flaunt-it brand of sexuality) can’t be feminist or empowering. Because they can!

The questions though, in regards to the Spice Girls or any pre-packaged variety of sexuality, are – who produced this? And why do they want me to consume it?

And when it comes to the popular notion that powerful female sexuality is found in wielding sexualization and reveling in objectification, I’d argue that it’s being force-fed to us to keep us in our place.

Because the only thing that’s changed in regards to culture’s rules governing how and why women should be sexual is that we’ve been convinced by the powers that be that being objects (of the male gaze, of course) is what we, women, want.

It sounds a lot like an “if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em” mentality to me.

Because are we really being empowered if we’re subscribing to what’s still the patriarchal ideal – a new-and-not-so-improved script for what a woman’s sexualityshould be?

I think not.

This brand of faux-empowerment, the kind that Cameron Diaz is referring to when she suggests that within objectification can be found autonomy, isn’t revolutionary.

It’s commodified. And in the words of Jessica Valenti in her book, Full-Frontal Feminism, “Selling a commercialized sexuality to women…as a way to be ‘liberated’ is pretty lame.”

Melissa A. Fabello is a Contributing Writer for Everyday Feminism, a feminist blogger and vlogger, as well as an online peer sex educator, based out of Philadelphia. She is a second-year graduate student, working on an M.Ed. in Human Sexuality. She can be reached on Twitter @fyeahmfabello.

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Readers: I guess I don’t need to tell you what day it is…or what to do. :) All I can say is I am soo happy it’s Friday!

Peace & Love.

Lastly, greed over a great story is surfacing from my “loyal”(?) readers. With all this back and forth about who owns what, that appears on my blog, let me reiterate that all material posted on my blog becomes the sole property of my blog. If you want to reserve any proprietary rights don’t post it to my blog. I will prominently display this caveat on my blog from now on to remind those who may have forgotten this notice.

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michelle

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What Would Martin Luther King Jr. Say?

Posted by Michelle Moquin on 20th January 2014

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Good morning!

It wasn’t enough for the republicans to push legislation requiring women to purchase “Rape Insurance.” Well, it doesn’t end there. The misogynistic, I-will-control-your-body repubs are now pushing for a bill that would force the IRS to audit rape victims.

This is really getting to be ridiculous. Our rights over our bodies are getting trampled on. Women…ladies…girls…sisters…we have got to ban together and get these men out of our panties. What is it going to take for the sisters of the world who support these sick men to get over it and think for themselves and for their sisters? Really. I am just beside myself with the abuse that we are putting up with. And we really don’t have anyone to blame but ourselves.

What is wrong LADIES?! When are we going to get pissed off enough to DO SOMETHING?! Because it is getting bad. 

House Republicans Are Pushing A Bill That Would Force The IRSTo Audit Rape Victims

 

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House Republicans are currently advancing the “No Taxpayer Funding For Abortion Act,” or HR 7, a measure that would impose sweeping restrictions on abortion coverage that could make the procedure less affordable for Americans across the country. In addition to preventing low-income women from using their Medicaid coverage to access abortion, HR 7 could also have dramatic implicationsfor the tax code and the private insurance market. One of its most controversial provisions could actually require the Internal Revenue Service to conduct audits of rape victims.

Why? Because HR 7 eliminates medical-expense deductions for abortion care, essentially raising taxes on the women who opt to have an abortion. Like many abortion restrictions, this provision includes an exemption for victims of rape and incest, as well as women who encounter life-threatening complications from their pregnancies. But in order to enforce those exceptions, the IRS would have to verify that the women who are claiming a medical-expense deduction for an abortion fall into one of those three categories, to ensure they’re not committing tax fraud.

Essentially, that would empower the government agency to have the final say over what “counts” as a sexual assault or a life-threatening situation. And that, in turn, would force victims to prove their case.

“Imagine having to recount a sexual assault — a horrifyingly painful, personal experience — to a tax collector,” NARAL Pro-Choice America says in an action alert to its members to encourage them to mobilize against HR 7. “An anti-choice bill in Congress would do just that. It could force sexual assault survivors who access abortion care to prove the assault occurred.”

That certainly sounds horrific. However, it’s important to remember that HR 7 is hardly the only piece of anti-choice legislation that sets up this dynamic.

The biggest political controversies over abortion policies throughout the past year have centered on rape victims, highlighting the anti-abortion laws that don’t extend any exceptions to them. It’s easy to see why the pro-choice community focuses on leveraging the outrage surrounding rape and abortion. Voters overwhelmingly favor legal abortion access for individuals who have become pregnant from rape, and policies that don’t fall in line with that seem especially callous.

But even when abortion restrictions do include some kind rape exception, as HR 7 does, the issues don’t end there. Exceptions for rape victims have some unintended consequences. They require some kind of system to separate the women who have become pregnant from sexual assault from the other women who want to end a pregnancy for a different reason. They essentially necessitate “rape audits.”

And in states across the country, that’s exactly what’s already occurring. The audits aren’t being conducted by the IRS, but they are being conducted by state officials.

Medicaid coverage for abortion services provides the best example of this. The Hyde Amendment, the policy that currently forbids low-income women from using their Medicaid coverage to help pay for abortion services, includes the same exceptions as HR 7 does. Thirty two states and the District of Columbia follow that federal standard for their local Medicaid funds — so, if the women who live there want to claim one of those exemptions, they already need to sufficiently prove why they deserve it. Some states require more proof than others. In 22 states, low-income rape victims who want to use their Medicaid coverage to pay for their abortion need to present a doctor’s note. Eleven other states require them to file a report with law enforcement or a social services agency. Last year, Iowa approved a law that requires the governor to personally approve each woman who’s seeking an exception to the Medicaid coverage ban.

Studies have found that these exceptions don’t operate as intended. Most rape victims who rely on Medicaid don’t actually end up getting reimbursed for the procedure, largely because of all the red tape. “Basically these exceptions don’t work. It’s really a myth that there is coverage that is still provided,” Stephanie Poggi, the executive director of the National Network of Abortion Funds, told the Washington Post.

Nonetheless, that hasn’t stopped state legislatures from moving forward with similar restrictions in other areas of the insurance industry. Outside of Medicaid, several states have already imposed abortion restrictions on the private insurance market that are similar to HR 7. And the health reform law has given states an opportunity to impose coverage bans on the procedure in their new insurance marketplaces.

We already live in a world in which navigating insurance coverage for abortion is so complicated that many women simply assume their insurer won’t pay for it, and end up financing the entire cost out-of-pocket. And we already live in a world in which victims of sexual assault are forced to prove the validity of their experiences to a skeptical society that doubts they’re telling the truth. We certainly live in a world that’s enacted nearly as many barriers to abortion accessas humanly possible. Abortion restrictions that assume that some women’s reasons for terminating a pregnancy are somehow more valid than others exploits all of these dynamics. HR 7 fits neatly into this worldview — but it’s a continuation of a trend, rather than a brand-new outrage.

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Ladies: If come November you don’t take your lives on and vote in your own best interest, you will be bending over and kissing your rights goodbye, because the repub men are going to go at it even stronger if they have the opportunity.

Additional side note: In the above statement, I say “you” and not “we,” because there are many women who do vote their own minds, including myself. I am mostly speaking to those who don’t. Time to step up, and woman-up ladies. You know who you are.

Readers: I wonder what Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. would say about all of this? Well, in honor of his day, I am about to tell you that he was an advocate of contraception and the basic human right of women and couples to decide for themselves the number of children they wanted and were able to care for.

Family planning, in other words. And yes, we are still discussing this same topic almost 50 years later. I found this excerpt that I wanted to share with you.

In 1954, King began his ministry career at Dexter Avenue Baptist Church in Montgomery, Ala. The post-war baby boom was picking up speed. Oral contraceptives weren’t yet available. Griswold v. Connecticut — the Supreme Court case that ruled people have a right to privacy and a state can’t ban contraception — was more than a decade away. The average American woman had nearly twice as many kids as she does today, and it wasn’t always easy to get by, especially for women and families of color. As one mother wrote to King in his December 1957 “Advice for Living” column, published in Ebony magazine:

Mother: We have seven children and another one is on the way. Our four-room apartment is bursting at the seams and living space in Harlem is at a premium. I have suggested to my husband that we practice birth control, but he says that when God thinks we have enough children, He will put a stop to it. I’ve tried to reason with him, but he says that birth control is sinful. Is he right?

Dr. Kings Answer: I do not think it is correct to argue that birth control is sinful. It is a serious mistake to suppose that it is a religious act to allow nature to have its way in the sex life. The truth is that the natural order is given us, not as an absolute finality, but as something to be guided and controlled. In the case of birth control the real question at issue is that between rational control and resort to chance. Another thing that must be said is that changes in social and economic conditions make smallerfamiliesdesirable, if not necessary. As you suggest, the limited quarters available in our large cities and the high cost of living preclude such large families as were common a century or so ago. A final consideration is that women must be considered as more than “breeding machines.” It is true that the primary obligation of the woman is that of motherhood, but an intelligent mother wants it to be a responsible motherhood-a motherhood to which she has given her consent, not a motherhood due to impulse and to chance. And this means birth control in some form. All of these factors, seem to me, to make birth control rationally and morally justifiable.

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Readers: “…when God thinks we have enough children, he will put a stop to it.” Dream on – that is such a line of crap. Men haven’t changed much have they?

Dr. King pretty much said that her husband was wrong.  Thankfully he had his head on straight when it came to women. “…women must be considered as more than “breeding machines.” Amen Dr. King.

I’m not sure how Dr. King would respond to all of the sick stuff that our politicians are pushing to get passed, but I sure wish he were alive today so that I could hear his thoughts. I suspect it would be wise words like the above.

What do you think he would say? Blog me.

Mike, TM: How are you doing?

Peace out. 

Lastly, greed over a great story is surfacing from my “loyal”(?) readers. With all this back and forth about who owns what, that appears on my blog, let me reiterate that all material posted on my blog becomes the sole property of my blog. If you want to reserve any proprietary rights don’t post it to my blog. I will prominently display this caveat on my blog from now on to remind those who may have forgotten this notice.

Gratefully your blog host,

michelle

Aka BABE: We all know what this means by now :)

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Sunday Rap

Posted by Michelle Moquin on 19th January 2014

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Good morning!

Well, I had it in my calendar to wish FLOTUS, Michelle Obama, a very Happy 50th Birthday, but with all that has been going on with my blog, I got a bit sidetracked and forgot to mention it here this past Friday. However, considering it is her birthday weekend, and no doubt the partying is still going on strong, it is never too late to send good wishes to our fave first lady! Happy Birthday Michelle!! No doubt our beloved president is making your 50th memorable!

Lois: :) When I first heard this, I thought this girl is right on.

Brittany: My pleasure. Thanks so much for your suggestion that I print the text from Fabello’s video. I love the written word because it allow me to pause and ponder at points that I want to think about more deeply.

So for those of you who enjoy that too, here are “the words.”

Video Blog: Party Girl Pop – Empowerment Or Sexism?

Written by MissRep on Sep 19, 2012
Posted in MediaPop Culture

[TEXT: Melissa A. Fabello; Philadelphia, PA, USA] So, after my three-part mini-series on the relationship between men and the media – which, by the way, was super successful (thanks, Upworthy!) – I’d like to come back to talking about the media’s influence on women with a vengeance by discussing the girliest contemporary trend in popular music right now. And no, I’m not talking about really adorable, simple lyrics thrown against ridiculously catchy melodies [TEXT: See: Carly Rae Jepsen’s “Call Me Maybe” and Taylor Swift’s “We Are Never, Ever Getting Back Together”]. I’m talking about party girl pop music — the anthems to pre-gaming and morning regret – and more specifically, analyzing the façades of empowerment and liberation that they put forth and whether or not they’re legitimate — or just sexism presented in a different package.

[GRAPHICS. Melissa for Miss Representation. Party Girl Pop Music: Empowerment or Sexism?]

Disclaimer: I am not opposed to the listening to and enjoyment of vapid pop music. It’s entertaining. That’s what it’s supposed to be. Anything that makes me want to sing and dance in the car (to the amusement of the other people waiting at the stop light) is, in my opinion, awesome music. I love the stuff. I own Ke$ha underwear, for God’s sake. What I am opposed to is not using your all-powerful critical thinking skills to analyze what you’re enjoying and what effect it might have on society, as well as what effect society might have on the music industry.

[GRAPHICS. Media Literacy: What It Is – And What It Isn’t]

Let’s review. “Media literacy” is not a scary concept. Contrary to the beliefs of some of my beloved YouTube video commenters – [black and white] “You are a socialist, Marxist drone, and feminism is ruining everyone’s lives” – media literacy isn’t about telling people that what they’re consuming sucks and that they need to be more intellectual in their choices. And it’s not about banning and outlawing any- and everything that upholds patriarchal ideals. Media literacy advocates – like myself! – are not trying to create a warped, feminist version of Fahrenheit 451 – censorship, what!? – but instead, are trying to educate the masses about what it means to think about what you’re consuming. [TEXT: Media literacy is a repertoire of competences that enable people to analyze, evaluate, and create messages in a wide variety of media modes, genres, and forms (Media Literacy).] Think of media literacy as reading nutritional information on a box of packaged food. When you see things like “high fructose corn syrup” and “[word that can’t be pronounced],” you – as an educated individual – know that putting that product into your body is probably not the best idea, that there are better, more nourishing choices out there. But hey. If you know it and want to eat it anyway, more power to you! The important thing is looking, understanding, and making informed decisions. Similarly, when you consume your media diet, you should ask yourself: “What is the content of this product? Is it really selling what it’s advertising? Who made this? And why do they want me to consume it?” Then, proceed accordingly. [eating] Mmm. Delicious.

[GRAPHICS. A Lesson in Faux Empowerment]

In her 2005 book Female Chauvinist Pigs, Ariel Levy writes that “women’s liberation and empowerment are terms feminists started using to talk about casting off the limitations imposed upon women and demanding equality” and suggests that we have since “perverted these words” by applying them to contexts that are undeserving of them (p. 44). That is, because we (as a society) believe on a whole that women have gained equality with men, we’ve started calling things “empowering” when really, they’re actually very limiting. But because we’ve been conditioned to think of them in terms of liberation, rather than sexism, we’re unlikely to analyze them. A simple way to exemplify this is to look at strippers. Many of them (as well as other women in the adult entertainment industry) claim that what they’re doing gives them a sense of empowerment. Now, I’m not saying that they’re wrong or that I whole-heartedly disagree with them. But the question to ask is: Are they really being empowered if they’re subscribing to what’s still a patriarchal ideal, a new-and-not-so-much-improved script for what a woman should be? There is no right or wrong answer here. It’s just something to think about.

Take, for instance, The Spice Girls. In her 2010 book Enlightened Sexism, Douglas discusses a cultural phenomenon (which she dubs “enlightened sexism”) which The Spice Girls (and, God, I love The Spice Girls) manifest: “feminist in its outward appearance (of course you can be or do anything you want), but sexist in its intent (hold on, girls, only up to a certain point, and not in any way that discomforts men or pushes feminist goals one more centimeter forward)” (p. 10). Outwardly, The Spice Girls were all about “girl power,” spreading the idea that women could be anything that they want to be – sporty, posh, scary? – and kick ass doing it. But what my twelve-year-old self didn’t take into consideration was that The Spice Girls were, in and of themselves, caricatures of themselves, each of them representing a “type” of woman, falling into stereotypes themselves. And they did everything in short skirts and hot pants. Not that short skirts and hot pants can’t be feminist, but—[eyebrow]. “Thus, enlightened sexism takes the gains of the women’s movement as a given,” with the media suggesting to and convincing us that internalized misogyny [TEXT: “Internalized misogyny” is defined as misogynistic behavior committed by women (internalized misogyny).] can’t exist, since sexism is irrelevant in 2012, “and then uses them as permission to resurrect retrograde images of girls and women as sex objects” (p. 10). And in the words of Jessica Valenti (2007), “[s]elling a commercialized sexuality to women…as a way to be ‘liberated’ is pretty lame” (p. 42).

[GRAPHICS. Who Owns the Media – And Why Does It Matter?]

“Many producers insist that the mass media are simply mirrors,” Douglas explains, “reflecting reality, whatever that is, back to the public. Whenever you hear this mirror metaphor, I urge you to smash it. Because if the media are mirrors, they are fun house mirrors” (p. 19). The media often claim that they’re giving us what we want, that they are allowing art to imitate life the way that we expect and want them to.

Now, the easiest way to dismantle this myth is to take into consideration that 97% of decision-making clout positions in the media are held by men (Pugh Yi & Dearfield, 2012). Ninety-seven percent. That means that the media that are produced – yes, even (if not especially) the ones that feature representations of women – are produced by people who have no personal stake in making sure that women are represented well. If anything, [TEXT: “Men” as an institution, not necessarily as individuals.] men actually benefit from the misrepresentation, objectification, and sexualization of women: it asserts their position of power. Because if you convince women, by way of manipulating the media, that what’s normal, average, ideal behavior is to drink enough to lower inhibitions and then become a sex machine, who benefits?

So if we take a song like Katy Perry’s 2011 hit “Last Friday Night (T.G.I.F.)” and consider the lyrics “There’s a stranger in my bed / There’s a pounding in my head” combined with “It’s a black-out blur, but I’m pretty sure it ruled,” we also have to take into consideration that she didn’t write that song. Just like Ke$ha doesn’t write her songs. Or Dev, her songs. Or Rihanna, her songs. And on and on and on. The people who are writing those songs? Who are producing those videos? Who are scouting, signing, and representing these artists? Are men. And so it’s men, in turn, as representatives of the media at large, who are also selling us the idea that this is what we want to see, that this stuff is relatable, that this is what’s ideal. That’s a lot of power to have over society.

[GRAPHIC. Party Girl Pop and the Politics of Empowerment]

If you look closely at this new musical trend – which includes young, pretty, mostly white women singing the praises of drunken debauchery and questionable sex acts [TEXT: “Questionable” because of the circumstances surrounding them, not because of the acts themselves.] –what you notice is that the “empowerment” that it is selling (that women have gained sexual equality with men) might not be so empowering if women actually have nothing to gain from it. Although the media try to convince us that party girl pop is a simple reflection of art imitating life, it might really be just a fantasy of power.

“[The media] assure girls and women, repeatedly, that women’s liberation is a fait accompli and that we are stronger, more successful, more sexually in control, more fearless, and more held in awe than we actually are” (Douglas, 2010, p. 5). Think about it: a social stigma still exists that says that promiscuous women (or, really, just any woman who is control of her sexuality) shouldn’t be respected and shouldn’t be trusted, whereas (ohh, double standards) promiscuous men are generally considered to be—well—just men being men. Where’s the equality in that? Where’s the liberation in that? There isn’t any. Women aren’t sexually liberated in a societal sense. We’re sexually oppressed. And pretending otherwise, by buying into this bullshit, bubblegum notion of empowerment, is kind of irresponsible. Valenti posits that perhaps “the joke is on us, and that we’re really just fooling ourselves” (p. 47).

[GRAPHIC. Implications]

Now, I’m not saying that female empowerment and liberation don’t exist. I’m not even saying that they don’t exist in the very songs and genre that I just ripped apart. It’s not that sex can’t be empowering, or that adhering to these new “party girl” social norms can’t be liberating. The problem is when we assume that we actually came to these conclusions on our own, without the influence of the media telling us what we should believe and accept as truth. And that’s what media literacy is all about – reading between the lines (or, in this case, the lyrics) to find what’s there for us – and what isn’t.

In Douglas’ words, “Something’s out of whack here. If you immerse yourself in the media fare of the past ten to fifteen years, what you see is a rather large gap between how the vast majority of girls and women live their lives, the choices they are forced to make, and what they see – and don’t see – in the media” (p. 4). And I don’t think that it’s a coincidence that what we’re being shown in the media about women is a sort of faux empowerment revolving around a freedom to express our sexuality. Because we’re not being shown how to have healthy sexual relationships, how to make sure that we’re experiencing pleasure, how to love and accept our bodies – hell, even how to make sober decisions when it comes to sex. And all of that? Would be liberating. Would be empowering. Instead, we’re being thrown the same old boring stereotypes and contradictions about the relationship between sex and power. Levy asks, “How is resurrecting every stereotype of female sexuality that feminism endeavored to banish good for women?” (p. 4). And maybe it’s about time that we actually stop and think about it.

So, do I think that this nonsense is the devil, that it should be avoided entirely, or that we’re brainless drones with no ability to think for ourselves? No. Not at all. What I think is that it’s important for us to use our powerful critical thinking skills to analyze something really worthwhile – ourselves. And while I don’t agree with everything that Levy or Douglas says about their respective theories, I do think that it’s food for thought. So the next time that Ke$ha comes on the radio, should you shut it off? No. But you should listen responsibly.

[GRAPHIC: Connect with Melissa. Twitter @rev_melissa. Tumblr fuckyeahmelissafabello.]

*****

Jenny: So sorry about your husband, and happy to hear that you have “resolved not to compromise.” Yes, it does only benefit the man when you give in too easily and quickly. Be proud of that pretty, precious, pussy between your legs. It is a coveted gift that should not be given so easily to any man or they will most likely not see the great value that you are. Keep persisting and good luck!

Helen: I agree with ‘Olina- So true. Loved the way you expressed it.

Thanks to all the girls who posted lyrics from your favorite empowerment songs, and shared your stories too. I am familiar with some and some, not so. I really enjoyed your comments.

Victor: Thanks for sharing yours from a guy’s point of view too.

Ellen: Like, you I am in the dating scene myself, and I am really enjoying just dating – whatever happened to the romance of courting? I am loving this part. Before I give myself up to him I want to know all about him…including, is he worthy of me? What qualities does he have that I want in a man? So many questions need to be answered. And…Does he value me or does he just want to get under my skirt like most men?

To me it is a game of discovery, and I love being the woman in this game. Unfortunately I haven’t gotten much past the first date with very many men. But when I do, I get to discover a lot about the man, including if he feels I am worth it to wait? I can tell you one thing, if he doesn’t, it means nothing to me, and I have lost nothing. In my opinion, it is his loss and my gain. Just like if I sleep with him before 90 days, it is my loss and his gain, because most likely, my giving in too early means my value, in his mind,  has just been diminished drastically.

To me the dating process is pretty simple, and can be very illuminating. The words that I said to Jenny, I echo to you. :) I wish you the best of luck in finding your mate.

Shannon: That’s a hard lesson to learn. I wish all women felt the same way. Men would not be able to cheat on their wives if it were not for the women who said yes to them. Please don’t continue to beat yourself up though. Be gentle with yourself. We all make mistakes and it seems you are making up for it in so many ways that are supporting women. Thanks for all you do. And for being here with me for 4 years.

Steffi: :) I don’t have one fave song (see below), but I am certainly learning about a few more that I am liking. Thanks for sharing yours.

Jane: I have no idea who you are but I want to say thanks for all you do in the political world. I wanted to give a special shout out to you for posting your fave. – “Shaking the Tree”  - amazing song –  it is one of my faves too that I had forgotten about till you brought it up. Thank you!

Thana: That’s a good one. I’ve always liked the lyrics.

Social Butterfly:  Thank you! I was in SF yesterday and was loving it!! I HOPE you are enjoying your Sunday as well.

Happy Sunday to everyone else too! I am not a huge football fan but I do want to say to those that are, “GO NINERS!”

Peace out. 

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Looking Back On The Year For LGBT Progress

Posted by Michelle Moquin on 29th December 2013


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Good morning!

Since we are days away from the new year, I am reading more writes that are focusing on the good things that have happened around the country. The past two days it was about women’s health heros. Today the focus is on LGBTs. And I am so happy to also feature these good happenings in 2013. There were a few drawbacks but most of the news was good news.

Here’s the write that caught my eye:

2013: An Historic Year For LGBT Progress

2013 will no doubt be remembered as a truly historic year for LGBT equality. Both in terms of visibility and access to government services, people who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or any other label under the queer community’s umbrella saw a huge expansion of their freedoms and protection under the law. Here’s a look back at some of this year’s many milestones:

The End Of Marriage’s “Defense”

Edie Windsor and Thea Spyer

No victory was as monumental as the Supreme Court’s ruling overturning Section 3 of the Defense of Marriage Act in United States v. Windsor. In an instant, all same-sex couples in the country had their marriages upgraded, allowing them to claim federal benefits even if they live in states that still do not recognize their unions as valid. Though various departments are still working out the kinks, benefits such as filing taxes jointly, claiming a spouse for immigration purposesSocial Security spousal benefits, and other protections are available to married same-sex couples for the first time.

The decision has already had ripple effects. Though it did not automatically establish marriage equality throughout the entire country, Windsor certainly set the stage for that eventuality. Indeed, 2013 is ending on a cliffhanger , with landmark decisions in both Utah and Ohio taking the next legal steps toward nationwide marriage equality. In a narrow ruling Monday, Judge Timothy Black declared that Ohio must recognize same-sex marriages solemnized in other states for the purposes of death certificates just as it does other marriages that would not have been valid if performed in Ohio. In a broader decision Friday, Judge Robert Shelby declared Utah’s law and constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriage unconstitutional, opening a window for same-sex couples to begin marrying, at least until the Tenth Circuit imposes a stay on the decision. Both cases directly citedWindsor, and with multiple lawsuits advancing in other states, one is bound to arrive back at the Supreme Court sometime soon.

Windsor also had significant political implications outside the courtroom. As the Supreme Court was mulling their decision, many Senate Democrats spoke out for marriage equality for the first time ever. In fact, there is actually now a 54-vote majority in the Senate in favor of allowing same-sex couples to legally marry.

At the center of the case, of course, was Edie Windsor, whose poignant story, loveable personality, and fierce determination led to the victory that will forever bear her name. A rightful finalist for Time Magazine’s Person of the Year, Edie Windsor has secured a monumental place in the history of LGBT equality.

The United States Of Marriage Equality

Neil Abercrombie Signing Marriage Law

While significant advances were taking place at the national level, a cascade of marriage equality was also unfolding across the country, with the number of states welcoming same-sex couples to marry nearly doubling.

The year began with marriage equality taking effect in Maine (technically December 29, 2012) and Maryland, both of which successfully approved of their laws through a 2012 referendum, along with Washington. From there, legislatures and courts in eight more states would legalize same-sex marriage before the year was out:

  • Though the Colorado constitution prohibits the recognition of same-sex marriage, that didn’t stop the state from finally advancing civil unions instead. Gov. John Hickenlooper (D) signed the bill on March 22, and it took effect May 1.
  • Putting an end to its unsuccessful watered-down civil unions, the Rhode Island legislature finalized its marriage equality legislation on May 2.
  • Delaware followed suit with the same upgrade just days later, becoming the 12th state to legalize same-sex marriage on May 7. During the debate, Sen. Karen Peterson (D) came out publicly for the first time and declared, “If my happiness somehow demeans or diminishes your marriage, you need to work on your marriage.”
  • 2012 had been a significant year in Minnesota, with voters not only defeating a constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriage, but also electing a Democratic majority to the legislature. Lawmakers took advantage of the new legal landscape and passed marriage equality on May 13, and Gov. Mark Dayton (DFL) signed it into law a day later.
  • After DOMA was overturned, it became quite clear that New Jersey was no longer providing equality to same-sex couples with civil unions. In September, a state judge agreed, declaring that New Jersey was “harming same-sex couples” by not allowing them to marry. The state Supreme Court opted not to intervene, and marriages began taking place on October 21.
  • Though opponents waged what some called a “citizens’ filibuster” by testifying for days on end, and despite an openly gay legislator voting against her own rights for the first time on record, marriage equality prevailed in the Hawaii legislature. After an epic-long debate and many frivolous amendments, the House finalized passage of the bill on November 9, and Gov. Neil Abercrombie (D) signed it into law on November 13.
  • Some had been discouraged that the Illinois legislature failed to take up a vote on marriage equality before recessing in June, but they made up for it during a special session in November. Gov. Pat Quinn (D) signed the bill into law on November 20, and it’ll take effect June 1, 2014. In the meantime, several same-sex couples who are facing terminal illness have been grantedpermission to marry ahead of time.
  • New Mexico, unlike any other state, had never stipulated whether same-sex marriages were banned or legal. As of September, eight counties in the state were offering licenses while the rest were not. On December 19, the New Mexico Supreme Court weighed in on the question and ruled that the LGBT community is entitled to equal protection under the law, establishing it as the 17th marriage equality state.
  • As noted above, the year ended with significant court victories in Ohio and Utah. Couples cannot yet marry in Ohio, and the window may soon close in Utah if the Tenth Circuit imposes a stay. Both rulings lay the groundwork for future victories across the country.

Only four states remain that do not have constitutional amendments banning same-sex marriage: Indiana, Wyoming, Pennsylvania, and West Virginia. The other 29 states have such amendments, meaning only the federal courts or a new amendment could change the law. Oregon is pursuing such a referendum in 2014, and Ohio may as well. Meanwhile, Republican lawmakers in Indiana are hoping to pass an amendment banning same-sex marriage, which could make it the last state ever to do so. Lawsuits advancing in most of the remaining states could create a situation similar to Utah, with judges in Michigan and Pennsylvania set to hear arguments in the new year, but ultimately, the Supreme Court will have to weigh in again before there is marriage equality in all 50 states.

A Transition To Less Discrimination

Coy Mathis

Though marriage stole the spotlight, 2013 also offered many important developments for protecting LGBT people from other forms of discrimination, including some policies that had never been seen before.

For the first time in the legislation’s 20-year history, the Senate passed the Employment Non-Discrimination Act (ENDA) in an historic 64-32 vote in early November. Unfortunately, House Speaker John Boehner (R-OH) refuses to allow a vote in the House because he believes the bill isn’t necessary. In reality, it remains legal for people to be fired for their sexual orientation in 29 states and for their gender identity in 34 states. The new movement on ENDA has helped others appreciate this reality, including Pennsylvania Gov. Tom Corbett (R).

There were previously 35 states where it was legal to fire transgender people for their identities, but Delaware stepped up and narrowed that gap this year. In Delaware, it is now illegal to discriminate on the basis of gender identity in employment, housing, public accommodations, public works, contracting, and insurance. Expressing his support for the bill, Gov. Jack Markell (D) hoped to create a Delaware that is a “safe and welcoming state for all to live, work, and raise a family.”

Groundbreaking new protections for transgender people also expanded in California through a new law that ensures transgender students have equal access to school facilities and activities. Conservatives have responded with a referendum effort to overturn the law and a media campaign to vilify transgender students. Even if a referendum delays (or prevents) the bill’s implementation, trans students have also found protection through the courts, such as Damian Garcia in California and Coy Mathis in Colorado.

Young people also got a boost in the form of laws that prevent minors from being subjected to ex-gay therapy. California’s law, which passed in 2012, was upheld in court, and New Jersey passed its own law, which has also been upheld in court. Though profiteers of the harmful, ineffective treatment continue to advocate on its behalf, a new survey of ex-gay survivors revealed this year that 92 percent experienced harm, and many were guilted into the therapy by friends, family, or their community.

Discrimination against LGBT people very much still occurs, and 2013 provided numerous examples — the most visible being bakeries and other artisans refusing to provide services to same-sex couples in relation to a a commitment ceremony. In many of these cases, marriage equality is not even legal in the state, but the refusal of service is still a violation of the state’s nondiscrimination laws. A bakery in Oregon, for example, refused to bake a cake for a same-sex couple’s wedding, while a florist in Washington refused to provide flowers. Despite conservatives’ claims that “religious liberty” is at stake, the courts have been ruling in favor of protecting LGBT people. Most notably, the New Mexico Supreme Court ruled unanimously that a photographer broke the law when she refused to photograph a same-sex commitment ceremony, and a Colorado judge similarly ruled against a baker that did not want his cakes used to celebrate a same-sex marriage. There are more tests to come, but justice seems to be favoring equal treatment throughout society.

Steps Forward And Backward Abroad

New-Zealand-MP-Metiria-Turei

Internationally, there was incredible progress for LGBT equality as well, though there were also some setbacks.

Several countries legalized same-sex marriage, including UruguayFranceNew ZealandBrazil, and theUnited Kingdom. When the law takes effect in England and Wales in 2014, it will bring the total to 16 countries that allow same-sex couples to marry. The fight in France this year was particularly hostile, with anti-gay groups — encouraged by U.S. groups — rioting in the streets. Some members of Parliament even received death threats, but ultimately, equality prevailed.

Other countries took steps to better respect and recognize people who are transgender. Both Swedenand The Netherlands updated their laws so that trans people no longer have to undergo sex reassignment surgery (SRS) in order to obtain legal recognition as their identified gender. This was a significant step for Sweden, which has an infamous history of forcing sterilization upon citizens during the middle of the 20th Century. Given that SRS comes at the price of one’s reproductive ability, the new law ended the requirement that trans people be sterilized in order to finally be recognized as full citizens.

LGBT equality was under watch by European Courts as well. The European Court of Justice ruled that gays and lesbians who live in African countries with laws that punish homosexuality may seek legal asylum in Europe. It also asserted that same-sex couples in civil partnerships deserve the same benefitsas married couples, ensuring that international contracts don’t cause some couples to be treated differently. Similar to the rulings in the United States, the European Court of Human Rights found thatreligion does not justify discrimination against the LGBT community, a sentiment also expressed this year by United Nations Secretary General Ban Ki-Moon.

But internationally, there were also some setbacks. The people of Croatia voted to ban same-sex marriage in their constitution, though lawmakers may now consider civil unions. India’s Supreme Courtreinstated a colonial-era law criminalizing same-sex relations, a decision the government hopes the Court will review. And both Uganda and Nigeria have passed bills criminalizing homosexuality and imposing extreme punishments.

And of course, there was Russia, which took multiple steps to roll back civil rights for LGBT people — and it isn’t done yet. One of its most draconian actions was passing a law censoring anything that could be considered “gay propaganda” — imposing a “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” invisibility upon the country’s entire LGBT community. With the help of anti-gay influence from the U.S., Russia also passed a law prohibiting the adoption of Russian children by couples living in countries with marriage equality. As a result of this and other restrictions, Italy is now the only country in the world where families can adopt Russian children. Two other bills have been proposed that will be debated in 2014, one that would disqualify gay and lesbian individuals from being granted custody of their own children and one that would ban same-sex surrogacy. One lawmaker actually said that he believes children are better off in an orphanage than being raised by a gay parent.

On a more hopeful note, Russia’s efforts to stigmatize and silence its LGBT community have provoked a global conversation about LGBT issues because of the impending Olympic Games in Sochi. Some world leaders are openly boycotting the Games because of Russia’s poor human rights record, and President Obama is sending a delegation with several openly gay athletes that will force visibility to the issue. Though Russia may symbolize the antithesis of the U.S.’s momentum toward LGBT equality, the international awareness raised by the Winter Games could result in a net positive worldwide.

Coming Out On The Court

Jason Collins

Coming out of the closet is a phenomenon not likely to go away anytime soon, and 2013 had a number of notable coming out moments, including various lawmakershigh school students, and of course, celebrities. But this year will no doubt be most remembered for the incredible new visibility for LGBT people in athletics. In fact, Outsports has already declared 2013 “the year of the out athlete.”

Robbie Rogers told a poignant story about the way he had to hide his identity, then returned to the soccer field with the Los Angeles Galaxy to become the first openly gay male to play on a professional American team sports.

Jason Collins became the first player in one of the four major American professional sports leagues to utter the words, “I’m gay.” No team in the NBA has signed him this year, but his visibility has nevertheless made a lasting impact on the culture of the league.

Brittney Griner’s coming out was not only a monumental moment for the WNBA, but also an illuminating look at the homophobia still present in college athletics. Griner shared how conservative Baylor University allowed her to play, but urged her to keep her identity secret.

Olympic athletes have also helped create LGBT visibility in the world of athletics, including snowboarderBelle Brockhoff, speed skater Anastasia Bucsis, and of course, diver Tom Daley. Some individuals without worldwide notoriety made an important impact as well, like Gabrielle Ludwig, a transgender college basketball player, and transgender high school coach Stephen Alexander, both of whom helped pave the way for other gender nonconforming individuals to find a place in athletic competition.

These stories have by no means erased homophobia in sports, but 2013 has at least significantly dented it. With new programs underway like the NFL’s new partnership with the You Can Play Project, that momentum is sure to continue in the years to come.

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Readers: Do you think any of this would have happened under the leadership of a different president or under a dominant republican power? Maybe some, but not like this Historic year. Thank you president Obama and all of those in support of LGBT rights!

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