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The Revolutionary Image Of Iran Is Different…She Is Young, Educated, And Modern

Posted by Michelle Moquin on 24th June 2009

I was listening to NPR yesterday and of course the topic was the much talked about, Iran. I didn’t get the chance to listen to much of the interview and honestly I do not know who Terry Gross was interviewing; I just know he was some political analyst. But really, who he is, is not that important for what I want to say.

He did bring up something interesting, and I wanted to share it with you. Maybe you have heard or thought about this before…maybe not.  I know I have been focusing much more on the post election happenings, as before this revolution I had known only very little about Ahmadinejad and even less about Mousavi.  In fact I was more inspired by Mousavi’s wife than Mousavi himself, which is the reason why I know anything about Mousavi, period.

Anyway what this analyst said was that this revolution has given much power to the Iranian people…it has inspired the desire for more change than if Mousavi had won to begin with.  Without this analyst saying that Ahmadinejad stole the election,  his point was basically that Mousavi has more power with the people now, post election, than he did when he was running, pre election.

It wasn’t that the people supported Mousavi as their new president, it was just that they so passionately did not want Ahmadinejad in the presidency anymore. And if Ahmadinejad really stole the election, (which I believe he did), he basically shot himself in the foot because Mousavi has more of the people supporting him than he did previously.  The people are outraged and the horrific violence against them is adding even more fuel to the fire in their bellies.

Do you agree?

As I read about Iran, even the revolutionary image of Iran is much different than 30 years ago. Then,  revolutionary Iran was all about the middle-aged bearded men – that was the image. The revolutionary image today is very different, and Neda is the face that inspires them. I can’t help but think of Neda Soltani, still.  She is the symbol of women in Iran: young, educated and modern.  From the stories that we have read…from the images that we have seen….from the Iranian women who have written in here,  women are playing an incredible role in the streets. And thankfully Madaline has been there to support them in their desire for equality.

So check this out: Sixty percent of university students In Iran are women. It is the women who are leading  the path to change. Since the 1979 revolution, women have really been stripped of their rights, and they have suffered the most.  Women are considered and treated as second class citizens. This we know.  Yet ironically because of the Iran / Iraq war, where many young men spent their lives on the battlefield instead of in school, women became more educated than the men. They are far more advanced because of their schooling. and yet they are considered inferior to men and as we all know, they have less rights than men.

This revolution, in my opinion, is their chance not only use their brains, and it seems their brawn as well is needed to bring about the change that they so desire.  As I write this I am so inspired by their strength and courage. This stealing of the election was probably the best thing that could’ve happened for the Iranian women. If Mousavi had won fair and square, changes may have been made but would women really get the chance to express their real need for change…would their hope for equality be  within reach?

Thoughts? Comments? You know what to do.

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Peter: Sorry for the late reply. If you want to e-mail it to me, I would be happy to post it for you.

Emma: I’m not sure if some people see my blog differently than others. Obviously you have experienced that. I have been informed that my blog is being messed with, which is why I have to be careful of what I write, or who knows if it will be shut down. I don’t want to lose this connection to and for everyone.  However, I did find two comment that were waiting for moderation, and I was able to post them yesterday ( sorry forgot to mention that)

Readers: Take note:  As I have mentioned before, if you have more than One (1) url attached to your comment it will go into moderation. And if I am at work all day it will not get posted until the evening.

Zen Lill: I agree with you too. I have never had a desire to meet the president. But it would be one of the greatest highlights of my life if I could meet president Barack Obama. I would just love to sit and chat with him about everything and nothing. I love his sense of humor.

Nikki: My pleasure. :)

Anonymous and A:  The Iranian men are going to have to change in order for Madaline to help them. It is plain and simple. Everything that Madaline says makes sense right? Of course men would not feel that death is preferable to the life they have – they have a good life. Now it is time for the women to feel the same way. The fact that they don’t says that they are willing to die than to go back to being second class slaves to the men.

Peace out…..

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Neda – The Angel Of Iran

Posted by Michelle Moquin on 22nd June 2009

The Iranian people have such interesting names. In the last few days I have heard from so many of the women that I decided to find out what some of their names meant. I mentioned a few that I discovered yesterday. Then I stumbled upon this article of a young girl named ‘Neda’ meaning ‘voice’.

Neda was brutally killed this past Saturday in her fathers arms; her death, a symbol of rebellion for the Iranian people.

As I began to write my write this morning, I hadn’t even perused my blog since last night and there were only two comments posted. I decided that before I write, I had better see if anyone commented on anything that I might need to include in my write this morning. It was then that I discovered that a commenter had written one sentence: “Neda Soltani was shot in the chest from a rooftop by the Basiji.” I knew that she was the very same young girl that inspired my write today.

So…I’ll take that as a sign to continue….

I watched the video of Neda dying and I could not post it. I have never seen anyone die and I broke out in sobbing tears.  Her eyes in the video looked so innocent….scared…and yet so peaceful as she laid there. I could not take my eyes off of her.  Here is her story:

Her name is Neda, which means “voice” in Farsi, and her death has become the central rallying cry of the Iranian rebellion.

The fresh-faced teenage girl killed by what appears to be a single sniper shot on the streets of Tehran Saturday is now a potent symbol for Iran‘s pro-democracy protesters.

Her shocking and quick death in the arms of her howling father was captured on closeup video, posted to Facebook and came to life on computer screens across the globe.

“RIP Neda, the world cries seeing your last breath,” was one of a flood of messages on Twitter.

“They killed Neda, but not her voice,” read another. “Neda is everyone’s sister, everyone’s daughter, everyone’s voice for freedom,” said a third.]

Within hours of her death, posters of the girl’s face, open-eyed and bloody, were being brandished by demonstrators in Los Angeles and New York City.

The graphic video was originally posted to Facebook by an Iranian expatriate in Holland who said it was sent to him by a friend in Tehran, a doctor who tried to save the girl.

He identified her as Neda Soltani, a 16-year-old philosophy student.

A Facebook group created to mourn her calls her “The Angel of Iran.”

In Tehran on Sunday, the streets were quiet for the first time in a week, but the city was bracing for more unrest today when thousands are expected to mourn the girl’s death.

“To protest against lies and fraud is your right,” opposition candidate Mir Hossein Mousavi told his followers in a statement.

“Be hopeful in exercising your rights and do not allow those who try to instill fear in you to make you angry.”

An ABC reporter in Dubai said she was told the girl was rapidly buried to forestall a funeral rally.

In the holy city of Qom, turmoil was reported among the ruling clerics. There were reports that some dissident clerics were trying to replace the supreme leader Ayatollah Ali Khamenei.

The regime is under threat after President Mahmoud Ahmadinejad won a suspiciously huge landslide in the June 12 election, sparking accusations of vote rigging and days of mass protests.

Saturday’s brutal crackdown, in which at least a dozen people were killed and hundreds wounded, hardened opposition to the supreme leader as well as Ahmadinejad.

In apparent retaliation, the daughter of powerful former President Hashemi Rafsanjani and four of his other relatives were arrested and held for a day, according to state TV.

State radio said Monday that 457 people were arrested in the clashes.

Rafsanjani’s kin were held for a day for their own protection, but it was seen in most quarters as a clear warning to curb his support for Mousavi.

Rafsanjani, 75, is chairman of the Assembly of Experts that has the power to remove the supreme leader and is Mousavi’s most powerful ally.

Reporters Without Borders said 33 Iranian journalists and bloggers have been arrested even as the foreign press was barred from the streets .

“The regime has been visibly shaken by its own population. That is why the media have become a priority target,” Reporters Without Borders said.

State TV blamed “terrorists” for the street violence.

BBC Persia aired extraordinary video of a crowd of stone-throwing youths on Saturday slowly advancing on a cadre of well-armed police with riot shields, finally forcing the security forces to turn tail and run.

BBC’s lead reporter in Tehran was subsequently told he had 24 hours to leave the country.

A Life.com magazine photographer was missing, and a Newsweek reporter arrested.

Germany called for a revote, and French President Nicolas Sarkozy called the crackdown on peaceful protest “inexcusable.”

As the Neda video ignited fury and tears, several new Twitter accounts were opened dedicated solely to insisting the video was fake. The posters were roundly shouted down as tools of the Iranian regime.

One of the many other videos of the Tehran protests uploaded to YouTube captured the girl in the last moments of her life, standing on a curb with her silver-haired father, watching the protesters go by.

In a country where martyrdom is a matter of great import and mourning marches often mix with protests, the girl’s very public death has the potential to be a galvanizing event.

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Thomas: I hear ya. It is okay to  dump billions into the Iraq war to make our country feel safe and protected, but not okay to dump billions into our healthcare system to insure those same people that we are trying to protect, are well taken care of.

Anna:  First, I have to say, excuse for my brain freeze in the past week. I am well aware that you and Peter live in Guam and you were just visiting the mainland. I have got a lot on my  mind these days, but no excuse. Secondly, thank you for the quarters -that was so nice of you to send them to me! I finally went to my PO box and there they were. Thank you…Thank you!

Pan: As much as I’m sorry to hear that racism has been rearing its ugly head where you are too, we don’t need that kind of attitude here either. What can we do to work to eliminate it together?

Iranian Girls and Readers: Just as you have communication problems with the government spying on you, I too have to have some restraints with what I say on my blog, or my blog may not be accessible  anymore. Rest assured, things are going as they should be. My thoughts are with you.

Gratefully your blog host,

michelle

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Simple Basic Needs…We All Deserve Them

Posted by Michelle Moquin on 19th June 2009

I was beat last night when I got home from work @ 7. I had such little energy to make myself some dinner and then I barely ate it, as all I wanted to do was shower and go to bed. Too tired to shower, I checked in here, and then went straight to bed.

This morning I woke up, took a hot shower, and perused the web.  I came across an article: 12 Of The Most Iconic Photographs Ever Taken. The one that I posted of the lynching  a few days ago was one of them. Many I had seen before, and a few I never had.  The one I posted below is in the latter category.

This example of emotive imagery is of child in Uganda holding hands with a missionary. The stark contrast between the two people serves as a reminder of the gulf in wealth between developed and developing countries. Mike Wells, the photographer, took this picture to show the extent of starvation in Africa. He took it for a magazine, and when they went 5 months without printing it, he decided to enter it into a competition. However, Wells has stated that he is against winning a compeition with a picture of a starving boy.

I am not naive about the impoverishment in Third World countries; I have traveled to quite a few.  But no matter how many times I see people living under such conditions, I feel as if it is my first. My heart feels heavy and I am reminded just how blessed I am.  And then my mind shifts and I start to think of how I can’t believe that I am living in such a modern world, that can’t seem to take care of all of its people. (I won’t even go there today in regards to some people who could care less about taking care of some of the people we share this planet with.)

I almost posted the Pulitzer Prize photo of the small child from Uganda who is alone and starving, barely moving, while a vulture patiently stocks him. But I just didn’t want to go there. it makes me feel hopeless and I don’t want to feel that way. This photo above shows care and hope, and these days, for me, that is what it is all about.

So, yeah, I went to bed slightly hungry last night, but nothing I couldn’t live with, or I would’ve simply ate more. But too tired to eat, I undressed and crawled into a warm and comfy bed. There was no doubt in my mind that when I woke up in the morning, I would always have food in my plate. The thought never even enters my mind that I wouldn’t.

And, then I find this photo and it touches me….it evokes thoughts of….”We are such a rich society with so many resources. Why is it that every child, every person in this world can not feel the same way as I do? Why can they not know that when they wake up, there will be food for them to eat? Why do they find that they can not rely on the simple, basic needs in life such as food, water, shelter, and clothing?” Simple, basic needs…we all deserve them.

Readers: What does this photo bring up for you?

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Zen Lill: You shocked me about what you said about your mother. Mothers can say shocking things. I know; my mother has let a few slip but I love her anyway.

Anna:  You sent me some quarters? When did you send them? How sweet of you! I am so delighted. I have not been to my PO Box in weeks but I will look out for them. I am excited – thank you! Oh and about that Interesting write. I have to admit, I write like that all of the time and I don’t consider myself uneducated or mixed up and unpredictable. Although I don’t see much wrong with a little unpredictability every once in a while – surprise is good. I actually think the technique of my script is creative and whimsical….a bit messy I’ll admit. I never was one to have beautiful handwriting. Hi Peter!  Got to run..

Yeah, it’s Friday and it’s a beautiful day. Go out and enjoy it!

Gratefully your blog host,

michelle

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A Conversation With Mom

Posted by Michelle Moquin on 18th June 2009

Hello…

I love conversing with older people. They speak with such wisdom and knowingness,  and when one gets to a certain age, they either get crotchety and cranky or they let nothing bother them. My grandmother and great aunts were pretty much the latter. And I was blessed to have a few special times when all of them were together and we would just chat it up. I would sit listening intently to all of their stories, of course interjecting with questions as I always wanted to know more.  I could kick myself to this day that I never brought a recorder to one of our coffee clutches.

Now my grandmother, who is in her 90′s just isn’t the chatterbox like she use to be; I miss talking and seeing her eyes light up when she was remembering special times…but thankfully my mother is a chip off the ‘ol block…she loves to talk…and I suppose I do too :)

I went out to lunch with my mother yesterday and as usual we were talking away, switching from subject to subject, much like one flips through the television channels. It is just how my family is and I love it.  If you’re new in the family you either jump into the flow of conversation or you sit there dumbfounded because just when you are ready to say something we are off on another subject. It takes work to keep up with my family, but as I said, I love it. The conversation is alive and passionate, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Anyhow….Somehow we got onto the subjects of sexism and racism…who knows how we got there….probably my own doing as I am so absorbed in those subjects. My mother being part Filipino, personally experienced racism  when she was growing up in North Beach, known as the Italian section of San Francisco.  My mother was very different and exotic looking and no one could quite figure out what she was, so they would stare at her which left her feeling uncomfortable many times. She was beautiful too, but at a young age, sometimes all you want is to blend in and be accepted.

We chitchatted a bit more on the subject. I have heard her talk about growing up many times but  what I learned next she had never mentioned before.  I brought up the fact that racism is a pretty hot topic  on my blog. That is when my mother interrupted me (we do that a lot in our family)  and told me of a time that her and my father had planned a weekend get-a-way with another couple. No big deal right? Wrong. The other couple was black and they had a tough time finding a hotel that would accept black people. This was in 1969.  As much as I know that the Civil Rights movement was in affect, many people still did not want to accept…obviously racism was hanging on then as it still does to this day. As my mother told me this story, I could not help wondering how they felt being turned down and I got a sick feeling in my gut.

So moving on as we do from subject to subject…I learned something else very interesting.

Thirty Five or so years ago my parents were looking to buy some property.  They were both working and they both had good credit so they went to the bank to check some things out. The banker told my mother that although she had good credit and an income, they would only be interested in my father’s income and credit.  “Why?”, I asked, not knowing where she was going with this.  My mother of course asked the same thing 35 years ago and this is what the banker told her. “Mrs Moquin, you are still at a child bearing age, therefore if you decide to have children, you may quit your job and that would be too risky for us so we can only consider your husband for the loan.” (!)  You’ve got to be BS’ing me, I said to my mother.  “No”, she replied, “He said that to me.”

I never got her to tell me how she reacted further or what happened next, as she had already switched to another ‘story’….

When my parents  got divorced around 18 or so years ago,  all of their credit cards were labeled Mr & Mrs RA Moquin.   My mother went to the bank to get her own credit card with just her name on it and they told her “No”. She didn’t understand. She said, “I am Mrs. RA Moquin. My husband and I are getting a divorce and I just want to get a card in my own name. What the bank said to her next just blew me away.  My mother could not get her own credit card with her name on it until she got a ‘note’ from my father saying it was okay!  My mother said, “I am Mrs RA Moquin and I pay all of the bills. I am signing the checks.”  They still refused her. Sorry , you need a ‘note’. She then said, I’m just going to close the account then.” Nope, can’t do that either. “Your husband has to be the one to close the account.”

My mother left livid, and I am sure words came out of her mouth. My mother is not one to be silent. I guess fruit doesn’t fall too far from the tree. :)

The next day the bank did call and apologize, and offered her a credit card. But still…can you imagine them asking my father to get a ‘note’ from my mother so that he could get a credit card?  No, it never would’ve happened in a million years.

This was only 18 years ago. Yes, women have made progress especially in this country, but even here, and without doubt outside of the United States, we have so much further to go.

Readers:  Any family stories you would like to share? Blog me.

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Zen Lill and Pearle:  Oh…whoever was sending out those racist e-mails are lucky they didn’t send one to me – I would’ve railed on them as I’m sure you did.  Pearle – get on that soapbox and vent if you so desire.

And ZL:  I know that you mentioned that calling it a ‘buy in’ was not the right verbiage.  But your painting, ‘A day in the life of…”, (thanks for the nod:) I can understand why the readers were a bit confused. I have to admit I was a little confused where you were going with it. However, that being said, I know you well enough to speculate your intentions, where others might not.

Anna: Are you still in Guam? I thought you had left already. Anyway, enjoy the food frenzy – it sounds simply fun and delicious! Hafa Adai.

Charles: I think many of us have been guilty of complacency. You have asked the same question that I ask. Now, is time to change and start looking after and standing up for one another.

Hey Peter:  I have no idea. Are there blog sites where people can download a picture? I don’t think I am aware of that.  Clue me in. And thanks for the video. The documentary looks very interesting. Is it only airing in Guam? I couldn’t find if it is being shown here.

Readers: I’m looking forward to your words of wisdom, your vitriolic vent, your soap box sermon…whatever. Blog me.

Gratefully your blog host,

michelle

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Credit Card Industry Aims to Profit From Sterling Payers

Posted by Michelle Moquin on 16th June 2009

Good  morning!

I found this article that I think many of you would be interested in reading. It is a long article but there is a lot of good stuff here.  Let me know your thoughts – blog me. And if not….then blog me something else you want to say…..

The forum is now open :)

Credit Card Industry Aims to Profit From Sterling Payers

Published: May 18, 2009

Credit cards have long been a very good deal for people who pay their bills on time and in full. Even as card companies imposed punitive fees and penalties on those late with their payments, the best customers racked up cash-back rewards, frequent-flier miles and other perks in recent years.

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What Does Your Credit-Card Company Know About You? (May 17, 2009)

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Should responsible card users be penalized for paying off their monthly balance?

Now Congress is moving to limit the penalties on riskier borrowers, who have become a prime source of billions of dollars in fee revenue for the industry. And to make up for lost income, the card companies are going after those people with sterling credit.

Banks are expected to look at reviving annual fees, curtailing cash-back and other rewards programs and charging interest immediately on a purchase instead of allowing a grace period of weeks, according to bank officials and trade groups.

“It will be a different business,” said Edward L. Yingling, the chief executive of the American Bankers Association, which has been lobbying Congress for more lenient legislation on behalf of the nation’s biggest banks. “Those that manage their credit well will in some degree subsidize those that have credit problems.”

As they thin their ranks of risky cardholders to deal with an economic downturn, major banks including American ExpressCitigroupBank of America and a long list of others have already begun to raise interest rates, and some have set their sights on consumers who pay their bills on time. The legislation scheduled for a Senate vote on Tuesday does not cap interest rates, so banks can continue to lift them, albeit at a slower pace and with greater disclosure.

“There will be one-size-fits-all pricing, and as a result, you’ll see the industry will be more egalitarian in terms of its revenue base,” said David Robertson, publisher of the Nilson Report, which tracks the credit card business.

People who routinely pay off their credit card balances have been enjoying the equivalent of a free ride, he said, because many have not had to pay an annual fee even as they collect points for air travel and other perks.

“Despite all the terrible things that have been said, you’re making out like a bandit,” he said. “That’s a third of credit card customers, 50 million people who have gotten a great deal.”

Robert Hammer, an industry consultant, said the legislation might have the broad effect of encouraging card issuers to become ever more reliant on fees from marginal customers as well as creditworthy cardholders — “deadbeats” in industry parlance, because they generate scant fee revenue.

“They aren’t charities. They have shareholders to report to,” he said, referring to banks and credit card companies. “Whatever is left in the model to work from, they will start to maneuver.”

Banks used to give credit cards only to the best consumers and charge them a flat interest rate of about 20 percent and an annual fee. But with the relaxing of usury laws in some states, and the ready availability of credit scores in the late 1980s, banks began offering cards with a variety of different interest rates and fees, tying the pricing to the credit risk of the cardholder.

That helped push interest rates down for many consumers, but they soared for riskier cardholders, who became a significant source of revenue for the industry. The recent economic downturn challenged that formula, and banks started dumping the riskiest customers and lowering their credit limits in earnest as the recession accelerated. Now, consumers who pay their bills off every month are issuing a rising chorus of complaints about shortened grace periods, new hidden fees and higher interest rates.

The industry says that the proposals will force banks to issue fewer credit cards at greater cost to the current cardholders.

Citigroup and Capital One referred comments to the A.B.A. Discover and American Express declined to comment. Bank of America intends to “provide credit to the largest number of creditworthy customers possible, while also remaining prudent in our lending practices,” said Betty Riess, a spokeswoman. Together with JPMorgan Chase, which has said the changes will force it to limit credit availability and raise fees, these banks account for 80 percent of the credit card industry.

Banks are not required to publicly reveal how much money they make from penalty interest rates and fees, though government officials and industry consultants estimate they constitute a growing portion of revenue.

For instance, Mr. Hammer said the amount of money generated by penalty fees like late charges and exceeding credit limits had increased by about $1 billion annually in recent years, and should top $20 billion this year.

Regulations passed by the Federal Reserve in December to curb unexpected interest charges would cost issuers about $12 billion a year in lost fees and income, according to industry calculations. The legislation before Congress would build on the Fed rules and would further squeeze banks’ revenue when they are being hit with a high rate of credit card charge-offs. The government’s stress tests showed that the nation’s 19 biggest banks will take on $82 billion in credit card losses in the next two years.

A 2005 report by the Government Accountability Office estimated that 70 percent of card issuers’ revenue came from interest charges, and the portion from penalty rates appeared to be growing. The remainder came from fees on cardholders as well as retailers for processing transactions. Many retailers are angry at the high fees and plan to pass them on to shoppers once the Congressional legislation takes effect.

Consumer advocates say they have little sympathy for credit card issuers, arguing that they have made billions in recent years with unfair and sometimes deceptive practices.

“The business model will change because the business model doesn’t work for the public,” said Gail Hillebrand, a senior lawyer at Consumers Union.

“In order to do business under the new rules, they’ll actually have to tell you how much it’s going to cost,” she said.

With many consumers mired in debt and angry at what they consider gouging by credit card companies, the issue of credit card reform has broad populist appeal. Members of Congress and the Obama administration have seized on the discontent to push reforms that the industry succeeded in tamping down when the economy was flying high.

Austan Goolsbee, an economic adviser to President Obama, said that while the credit card industry had the right to make a reasonable profit as long as its contracts were in plain language and rule-breakers were held accountable, its current practices were akin to “a series of carjackings.”

“The card industry is giving the argument that if you didn’t want to be carjacked, why weren’t you locking your doors or taking a different road?” Mr. Goolsbee said.

Ron Lieber contributed reporting.

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Lara: I was literally blown away by your comments the other day. You are a young girl who has so much to offer. I only wish I could’ve been as intelligent and intuitive, not to mention very articulate at your age. You are years beyond and as much as I am touched by you wanting to become a woman like myself…at your age, you are already a woman that anyone would be proud of. I am sure your parents feel they have been blessed.

Congratulations for making it into Stanford. I look forward to seeing what you end up doing with your life. And yes, San Francisco is close to Stanford – about and hour or so away. I would love to meet you sometime.

Robert: What’s going on with the two girls: Euna Lee and Laura Ling?

Thais:  Well I guess I should called yesterday’s post…”…Let Them Vent”, as that is truly what it is about. And vent you did. You gave us a ton of information…And those of you who question the stats – google it – Ain’t it just grand that we have such access to so much information? There is no excuse anymore to say that you are uninformed. I just call it plain Lazy.

On another note…your story was so disturbing I can’t get it out of my mind. I can just imagine how degrading it must’ve been for you. The cops actions are just sickening. And how painful for your brother. It is just so not right.

Your story is reminding me of an experience I had. Along time ago I was in downtown SF walking with my boyfriend late at night. We were stopped by the police on the street.  What was the reason? He said that my breast was hanging out and I was exposing myself. This was not true at all. I thought he was joking but he continued to question us and ask for ID. Then he arrested my boyfriend. He supposedly was similar in looks and build to some guy they were looking for. They took him away right there leaving me in downtown SF all by myself. It was about 2 am….The story continues but not worth the right. My point being that I felt so degraded. The cop was looking at me as if I were a whore, and when he told me that I was exposing myself I just didn’t know what to say except ‘No’ – my blouse was not open anywhere but he kept saying that he saw my breast. What a complete ass. I haven’t thought about that story in years but it still makes my skin crawl.

Anyway….thank you for sharing and venting….It is my pleasure to provide the space to do so…so vent on….

Doug:  Thank you. I so hope you are right.

Mark:  Thank you for recognizing and admitting your struggles of racism. And your attempt to be open minded and willingness to change. If only more whites out there would just acknowledge their bigoted ways, and realize that it is time to let the old beliefs die.  I am delighted that bigotry is no longer invited in your home. It is a step in the right direction. I am inspired by you and your wife and I hope that your new outlook is infectious to those that surround you.

Zen Lill: The most shocking thing is that no one….absolutely no one did, anything about it. There was no uprising. Sure, maybe some wanted to, but look how long before Civil Rights came about that was supposed to outlaw racial discrimination.  As we all know, racial discrimination has still not come to an end.

Hines: Thank you. And no, I don’t either. Who knows?

Maria:  That video clip is a prime example of the men in blue…’our heroes’ taking advantage of their uniform by needlessly harassing so they can express their racist ways on innocent people.  Take away their badges and these bigots wouldn’t be so bad-assed anymore. All I can say is thankfully we have cell phones that can capture these racist cops.  Now more needs to be done than just a slap on the wrist…in this case the cop got a paid leave.  Gee…he gets time off and he still gets paid. Does that sound like punishment? I guess in a racist mind, it may, because that means he can’t hide behind his uniform slingin’ his gun and intimidating OTW’s.

Liz: My pleasure. I just wish it were never in our history for me to want to show it.

Lois: Thank you and thanks for blogging the article too.

Hey…I’m off to enjoy my java before work. Have a good one.

Gratefully your blog host,

michelle

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