How Big Is Big?
Posted by Michelle Moquin on June 28th, 2011
Good morning.
Walmart’s How Big? What the Huge Numbers Really Mean
When it comes to companies, it can be hard to get a feel for their size. They may say they’re “big,” but what does that actually mean? Consider Walmart (WMT), for example. This year, for the seventh time in the past decade,Fortunemagazineawarded the retailer the No. 1 slot on its annual list of the 500 largest American companies, as measured by revenues (a.k.a. gross income or sales).
That’s also just about the same amount of money that the United States spent in 2009 for the entire year’s worth of Medicare, the government program that provides health insurance to senior citizens and younger Americans who are permanently disabled. That $421.8 billion is also about $9 billion less thanTaiwan’s 2010 gross domestic product– the total value of the country’s goods and services in a single year — and $7 billion more thanNorway’s 2010 GDP. In other words, if Walmart were a country, it would be the 25th largest economy in the world.
Speaking of countries, let’s talk population:Fortunereports that2.1 million people work at Walmart, which means there are about as many Walmart employees sprinkled across the globe as there are people living in the African country of Namibia (yes, that Namibia,where Angelina Jolie gave birth). There are another95 countrieswith populations smaller than the retailer’s sprawling workforce, including Botswana, Kosovo, The Gambia, Trinidad and Tobago, Bahrain, Cyprus, Qatar, Luxembourg, Belize, Iceland, The Bahamas and Greenland.
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June 28th, 2011 at 8:01 am
FAUCETS THAT CAN TURN ON TROUBLE
Life is funny… for instance, just when you think you’ve seen the introduction of a nifty technological advance, like automatic water faucets to reduce wasted water, along comes a glitch.
I’m sure you’ve seen these futuristic faucets in airports, shopping malls and big office buildings. In theory, they’re quite brilliant. You don’t need to touch a thing. Just place your hands under the faucet and warm water comes out. This means no more leaving the water running while you scrub… and no germs from other people who’ve touched the faucet. But, it turns out there’s a catch.
The faucets are made up of a complex array of parts. These provide a perfect breeding ground for germs to flourish.
For most of us, this is not a huge issue. If we have healthy immune systems, whatever germs may be lurking inside these faucets are not likely to set us back.
On the other hand, because of the faucets’ sparkling reputation for being germfree, hospitals, nursing homes and other health facilities have been installing them to help reduce the threat of infection. And in that case, there is indeed a problem.
Like many other hospitals, Johns Hopkins had installed automatic faucets in a number of its patient rooms. Some public health experts, however, suspected that these fancy faucets might harbor bacteria in a way that manual faucets don’t, and a recent study at Johns Hopkins Hospital confirmed their suspicions.
The faucets are “germ farms.”
To talk more about what attracts bacteria to automatic faucets, I contacted Emily Sydnor, MD, the lead researcher in the study that went so far as to persuade Johns Hopkins to stop using automatic faucets in patient rooms altogether.
She confirmed that inside automatic faucets are multiple filters and valves made of rubber and plastic. Most manual faucets are constructed primarily of metal.
Many of these traditional faucets contain copper components — copper has certain antibacterial properties.
Dr. Sydnor said that she and fellow researchers took apart four automatic faucets and cultured the internal components.
“We certainly found that the cultured samples grew bacteria — indicating that the bacteria was present in the components,” she said.
Traditional manual faucets offer far less surface area for bacteria and viruses — which are not killed by water treatment in the public water supply — to colonize.
Also, the water-saving feature of automatic faucets might contribute to the problem — reduced water flow means less force as well as less water sweeping out bacteria with each use.
THE WORST POSSIBLE PLACE
The big concern at hospitals is Legionella, the bacterium that causes Legionnaires’ disease, a lung infection. Healthy people usually recover from Legionnaire’s disease after being treated with antibiotics.
It’s far more serious in hospitals, where it can contribute to pneumonia in chronically ill or immune-compromised patients, including those who are undergoing chemotherapy, are taking antirejection drugs after a transplant or have diseases such as HIV/AIDs.
Bacteria are normally present in the water supply throughout the country — that is the reason some hospitals, including Johns Hopkins, treat water from public utilities with chlorine dioxide and other chemicals.
Johns Hopkins found, however, that the water treatment did not kill all the Legionella in the more complicated automatic faucets. They are simply too hard to disinfect.
That was more than enough to persuade the hospital to replace existing automatic faucets with manual ones and to cancel plans for automatic faucets in patient rooms in the new Hopkins hospital wing scheduled to open in 2012. The hospital still will have automatic faucets in the public bathrooms.
Though Dr. Sydnor wouldn’t speculate on the subject, it’s almost certain that other hospitals will follow Johns Hopkins’ lead.
That’s because Johns Hopkins — often named the country’s best hospital by US News & World Report — is considered a trendsetter in the health-care industry.
The next step will be for researchers to work with manufacturers to see if they can redesign the automatic faucets more effectively.
What we need is a solution that saves water — and lives as well. As for me, I must admit that I’ve been fascinated with the faucets when I encounter them in malls and airports, but I will be waiting another beat, and keeping my eye on Johns Hopkins, before doing any redesigning at home.
Source(s):
Emily Sydnor, MD, a fellow in infectious diseases at Johns Hopkins Medicine in Baltimore.
June 28th, 2011 at 8:12 am
Yesterday’s topic was so important to me. I called my mother and asked her to read it. She called her sisters and they read it.
Three people in our family over the past 23 years have been diagnosed with Cervical Cancer. One, Nena, by beloved younger sister died after 4 years of painful treatments.
Thank you Michelle, we shall all use it to inform our husbands and boyfriends our sincere intentions if we contact a sexually transmitted disease from them.
Jackie
June 28th, 2011 at 8:21 am
I am still trying to understand why anyone would leave out the part about prosecuting the creep if he gave you a disease he got from sneaking around behind your back to have unprotected sex.
The logic that it won’t help fails in comparison to the logic that if you don’t threaten a potential creep with prosecution, he most certainly doesn’t have a reason to wear a condom.
Angela
June 28th, 2011 at 8:28 am
I’m sorry, but I just don’t see how threatening a man with litigation will encourage him to wear a condom, if he is the type to cheat without one.
I find it insulting to even bring it up to your husband. I’m wondering if Michelle said those words she offered to us to her Main Dude.
If so I would love to be the fly on the wall in that room.
Emily
June 28th, 2011 at 8:40 am
Michelle, Don’t you just love the way some people make a joke about the STD issue and especially about telling the guy you intend to sue?
They wouldn’t be laughing if they got it!
The fact that you tell the guy that you will prosecute him, is to show him how serious it is and that he will pay for it should he decide to fuck without a rubber.
If he doesn’t care about you, hit him hard with the money/jail aspect. Leaving that part out lessens the desire for the man to do the right thing if he doesn’t give a shit in the first place.
Men need to be hit hard on this and telling them that they could go to jail and not have pussy but dick up their ass might just get them to don a rubber.
If it scares only one man into safe sex practices, that will be one woman spared the agony of discovering she has an STD or cervical cancer or the fact that she may die from a man she trusted’s betrayal.
What fucking assholes they are. And I rarely use that word. But how dare they make something so important into a joke.
June 28th, 2011 at 8:45 am
Doug, Main Dude:
The office is abuzz with tension. People are taking sides. This law firm is waiting. Will this new Michelle mission point the firm towards Tort or Divorce litigation?
How did you take her little speech?
Clark
June 28th, 2011 at 8:47 am
Doug, see what happens when you let a bitch’s reins loose?
Cuff, her.
George, WN
June 28th, 2011 at 8:49 am
Clark, just because you are a partner doesn’t give you the right to be an asshole. Cat nailed you. I pity your wife.
June 28th, 2011 at 8:50 am
The SILENCE is deafening in blogdom awaiting the Main Dude’s reply.
June 28th, 2011 at 9:01 am
Has it occurred to anybody that maybe this is sour grapes on Michelle’s part? I mean we haven’t heard from the Main Dude in quite a while.
There could be trouble in paradise. If so, that would explain Michelle’s motivation to fuck it up for the rest of you lucky bitches with men.
If I were you, I would take a deep breath and think about what I was doing before I jumped on that band wagon.
You notice her best friend ZL took a different tack. She wasn’t about to risk losing good dick by pissing it off.
Take note from the second opinion and run from Michelle’s advice.
Dave
June 28th, 2011 at 9:25 am
Michelle, I told my husband in exactly the same manner that you wrote it. He looked at me and asked me if I thought he was that type of guy?
I said exactly what you said I should. He frowned and said he wouldn’t cheat on me in the first place. Then later he came in and said that if he was pounced on by a irresistible hot babe he would be sure to put a condom on.
We laughed and he added “wonder what the Main Dude is going to say?”
Me, too baby.
Melaine
June 28th, 2011 at 10:02 am
Michelle, this is so the right topic. I have never thought about this. But my husband is going to get the speech exactly as you wrote it.
He is a very sweet guy and in our 17 years of marriage he has never given me any reason to think he is anything but the great guy he is. I love him so much.
I haven’t told him about your blog because I like to think of your blog as this special place where we girls meet and talk.
Yes, guys sneak in every now and then, but it is still a place where the girls can let it all hang out. We prance in each morning knowing our host is wearing Steel Stilettos and she is not afraid to use them or encourage us to.
I visit other blogs. I like Zen Lill’s it is very informative. But yours Michelle is a GIRLZ blog! It opens and ends about the woman’s point of view.
I like that.
April
June 28th, 2011 at 10:05 am
I am waiting for your reply too Doug. But I don’t want you to feel that you have to focus on my calling your woman a bitch because I was not calling Michelle a bitch. That was a generalization I used to make a point. It was not directed towards Michelle in a specific way.
George, WN
June 28th, 2011 at 10:21 am
Michelle, Hafa Adai.
The women on Guam could certainly use the advice you have given. The island is awash with gossip about men who cheat on there significant others. The men here will jump anything willing to put out. It is no surprise to me that Guam is becoming the Chlamydia of America.
Women of Guam you need to copy Michelle’s speech and frame it and then use it. I have. Men need to know that women will take whatever legal steps that are available to make them pay for their wrongful actions.
Hafa Adai
Anna
June 28th, 2011 at 10:26 am
S,
I would believe in aliens from another planet before I would believe in vampires. My question is was D48//9c the only alien you have met. Did he have or introduce you to any friends from his planet?
Kent
June 28th, 2011 at 10:35 am
Good morning, I don’t think main dude should have to comment although curious minds would love to know…I have one more bitch to add: awhile ago, and if I had access to archives I would’ve found it, I had commented on cheating lying assholes and said – well, why not leave him then if that’s the way you really feel.
Ahhhhh, and I was met with -’ we have kids together’ – ‘he stands to inherit millions’ – and ‘fuck you ZL all the way bc you separated and we’re all not like you’, blah blah and blah…
well, in Mischa’s speech (and I admire some of the wording) she suggested you say ‘and I will separate from you if I have an STD…’ (that’s right before the litigate part) so now you all ‘with kids’ and ‘standing by for millions’ have nothing to say about that? Realllllyyyy….
Hmm, so my ‘life is not an ideal world’ isn’t flying with some of you – how about this ‘case in point’ example – let’s say you are no having sex with your man for whatever your reasons are (see my blog post ‘Your subconscious and your life’) and he succumbs to some ‘hot babe’ who floors him (and there is always someone attracted to your man, no matter what flaws your seeing) and no condoms are in sight at time of action, and oh man, shit – he immediately tells you, are you going to look at him (let’s say he’s been adoring and right minded to this point but no sex for months is in the atmosphere) are you really going to separate? Some of you will should you get a positive result on the STD test and some of you will be like Henrietta who for her own reasons decided to forgive.
Don’t go jumping on my shit bc I point out the obvious – we don’t live in an ideal world where you make that statement one time and forever after condoms fall from the sky should a hot babe jump your man, c’mon now – and if he’s a cheating jerk and you ended up with something, I am sorry for your pain.
I am merely stating that life isn’t led in a linear fashion and I know, I know, you all want me to just stand by women and not add in men and human aspects that require us women to say things like ‘no glove no love’ and other confrontational statements (but they do live here and I do interact with them and so do you). Well, as is obvious – sorry cannot lah…
I am always a girlZ but I will add: we need to get all women to never screw another woman’s hubby, etc…bc you can rail on what men should do all day and it will still happen bc life is a messy place.
A male approached me recently, married…asked if I were interested in a ‘discreet’ relationship, I said smiling, ‘so you’d be cool if your wife is asking her golfing coach this same question then, right? I mean, you ARE in an open relationship I take it?’ yea…his face muscles went tight, now that’s a lying cheating jackass and I hope his wife finds him out.
Luv to you all : ) really – Zen Lill
June 28th, 2011 at 10:35 am
Anna, you are so right about the lax attitude that the island takes to the sexual promiscuity of the males on this island. Most families will not seek criminal remedies when they discover an adult male is having an affair with their underage daughters. It is so sick here. Many a young girl is seduced by a much older male.
Here is but one example. Fortunately the family did take action albeit too late to avoid a pregnancy.
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Guam ex-convict allegedly impregnated girl on Rota
By Ferdie de la Torre
Reporter
An ex-convict from Guam who was arrested last week for allegedly impregnating a female minor on Rota entered a not guilty plea in federal court yesterday.
Melvin David Diaz, 49, appeared with court-appointed counsel, Joseph Horey, during a detention hearing at the U.S. District Court for the NMI.
Diaz pleaded not guilty to an indictment charging him with three counts of enticement of a minor, and one count of travel with intent to engage in illicit sexual conduct.
Judge A. Wallace Tashima set the jury trial for Aug. 29, 2011 at 9am, and remanded the defendant back to the custody of the U.S. Marshal.
Assistant U.S. attorney James Benedetto asked that Diaz be ordered to stay away from and avoid any contact with the girl or any of her immediate family member. The judge granted this request.
According to the indictment, between Aug. 1, 2010, and Sept. 30, 2010, Diaz traveled from Guam to the CNMI for the purpose of engaging in illicit sex with a minor. A “cooperating individual” approached the FBI to report the matter.
Records showed that Diaz has prior convictions of reckless conduct, stalking, and family violence.
Diaz’s license record in Guam listed his employer as the Department of Public Health and Social Services.
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Michelle’s chlamydia speech should be expanded to include other sexual transgression by male sexual predators.
Hafa Adai
Lea
June 28th, 2011 at 10:40 am
Of course Zen Lill wouldn’t expect Doug, TMD to have to comment. This from the woman too afraid to confront any man she may lose. Michelle is made of a different cloth.
She respects Doug’s opinions so she looks forward, as do the rest of us, to what he has to say.
Jessica
June 28th, 2011 at 10:41 am
Go ahead ZL follow your usual blindly leap out and support the man.
June 28th, 2011 at 10:48 am
Zen Lill are you serious? I was one of those women who ranted at you for suggesting that we leave our man. I will apologize to you on that score because in retrospect as you suggested we were not as receptive to your suggestion as we should have been.
But even women who balked at leaving their man for cheating on them would feel different if the bastard gave them a life threatening sexual disease. That is apple and oranges honey.
Ellen
June 28th, 2011 at 10:50 am
Some perspective, please, Zen Lill. Leaving a man for cheating on you hardly compares to leaving one for giving you a fatal STD.
Karina
June 28th, 2011 at 11:02 am
Got it Women of MM blog, and noted. True enough, I stand corrected, cheating lying bastards who cover it are ok and std’s are not, ’nuff said. And I am not being sarcastic there.at.all.
I only say that about Doug tmd bc I know him personally, and of course I want to know what he has to say, I’m just feeling like I’m invading private marital space bc of my personal relationship, no other protective man reason, surely you can understand that?
June 28th, 2011 at 11:11 am
Okay, okay, wow, I guess I will chime in a bit…Since I always have fun with it, and even despite your second post, I’ll start with you George…You’re an asshole, despite your second quip. Enough said.
Michelle sat me down with a smile and stated clearly that she needed to discuss something and asked for me not to take things the wrong way. It might be touchy, but she mentioned she was not insinuating anything, but it is a topic that needs to get out on the table. Her words were verbatim as she wrote. So, I suggest that all you ladies out there simply follow that outline and preamble as I have mentioned, and you should be fine. This is a conversation that must come from the heart and not from any accusatory position, despite any possible reason to accuse. When it is delivered in any sort of threatening manner it will not be received. So, with that said, your Blog Bitch, delivered it to me in a very non confrontational manner to which I could listen and understand her position. (oh, and as for positions…George, sometimes we have used cuffs, just for your referrence.)
I agree that ALL women should have this conversation in their relationships, as well as the caveat of prosecution and redemption. It brings up the taboo of personal history discussions that most people shy away from or never have, because it goes both ways. There are many diseases that lie dormant and unknown for years before one finds out, so men and women should understand the situation of past, present and future. Since this is primarily a conversation regarding this disease and the result to women, there are men that will hear the conversation, they may still cheat, however, they will certainly think before capping or not in a whole different manner. Waiting for the results and then bringing it up in a threatening manner is cowardice to the current relationship, or in essence you are residing yourself the the fact that your relationship or else perhaps your interrelation skills within that relationship are not capable of holding that space.
It certainly hit me blindside, because I have been very busy and not reading the posts lately, so I wasn’t on track with the current discussions and mindset. My bad, I’ll try to be here for all… So, I didn’t say anything during the conversation. It wasn’t something that I needed to say anything anyway. There are many times that women simply want to be heard, and this was certainly one. To fill that space with my thoughts and RE-actions would have been sophomoric and irresponsible at best. Michelle had a purpose with her point and she needed it to be made and heard. So, I made sure I allowed that to take place on my part.
If a man feels threatened by this conversation, it is simply coming from a place of ego and power. They would be feeling their power being stripped away a little in that they cannot simply go and fuck willy nilly with their little nilly willy. They are getting parameters set on them, and most men, shit, most anyone doesn’t like parameters set on them. Well, too bad for your ego…
It is an honest and straight forward discussion that is clearing space for a more healthy relationship in the future. Sidestepping and double talking through it will not give your relationship the extra building blocks to help substantiate a growing and more solid foundation with which to continue to build upon.
I know Michelle, and her mannerisms, and it was not something that she knew, as she brought it up, how I was going to react, but she had faith in her resolve for herself, as well as, faith in our relationship that we were strong enough to hold it together dealing with what can become touchy and explosive depending on how it is both delivered and received.
So, with all of that said, I find it funny that people jump to the conclusions that due to my few days of silence that we are “going through it”, and Michelle is vengeful and wanting other relationships to go to shit as well. Again, that type of response is a direct reflection of your ego and own personal relations that it might serve you and the world best that you take a look at. And, for those finding it insulting to even bring such a discussion up, might show one that you have this, as well as, other personal issues that you need to deal with within yourself, before you are able to deal with something like this in your relationship.
As Lil said, the world is not linear, however, there are some situations that one can be confident in knowing how they will react to such a circumstance. Having those parameters out in the open help give both parties in the relationship a place from which they know is a boundary of conviction.
June 28th, 2011 at 11:17 am
Hello, men lie in the real world Zen Lill. How many married or involved men do you think is out there on a daily basis lying to women about their availability?
Read the topics Zen Lill before you make your jokes or comments. Michelle was not making a social comment about men vs women who screw sans condoms. She was making a statement about what a woman should do to alert her man about her stand on fucking without a condom and exposing her to a sexual transmitted disease.
Again it you had read her article you would have come away with the fact that it was NOT about women who forgive their men for any type of discretion. It was about telling her man that she would not be forgiving if he gave her a STD. I don’t know about you, but I would not accept any excuse for a man that gave me a STD.
I might forgive him for fucking around if he used a condom and it was only one or two times, but your suggestion that him giving a woman a possibly fatal disease that could have been avoided by simply wearing a condom is so bizarre as to border on those stupid blond jokes that blonds like me cringe when I hear one.
But damn Zen Lill your statement attempting to excuse such callous and selfish behavior by a man who would cheat on and expose the woman he claims to love to a life changing, if not fatal, disease makes you the poster child for all those dumb blond jokes not because you believe your bullshit but because you just don’t get it!
Brittany
June 28th, 2011 at 11:20 am
Zen Lill your example of a man cheating on a woman who had not satisfied his sexual needs was wrong on so many levels.
1. Nothing excuses fucking without a condom if you have a significant other. That applies to both men and women. But the fact that you were willing to give this asshole a pass because he had no sex from his female partner would be ludicrous if not for the fact that this is your MO. You are always foremost looking for a reason to give a man a pass.
2. The fact that you view “no glove, no love” as a confrontational statement. If a man is willing to screw me without a condom, that means that is his normal sexual behavior. If he has frequent unprotected sex he is a carrier of Chlamydia or some other STD. Only a fool would view requesting a man to produce a condom before having sex with him as “confrontational.”
3. Yes, as you stated, it is obvious that you cannot support women, if a man’s needs would be compromised. Good ole Zen Lill must let them know that she is available if their woman isn’t.
Aunianue
June 28th, 2011 at 11:22 am
BRAVO! MAIN DUDE
June 28th, 2011 at 11:23 am
I would have expected nothing less from the Main Dude. You are a lucky woman Michelle.
June 28th, 2011 at 11:25 am
The Main Dude has spoken. So, I guess that means up yours, Dave.
June 28th, 2011 at 11:54 am
I understand Zen Lill. I hope you wont let the crazy women on this blog drive you insane. You have your supporters. As you said and Doug quoted you on, the world is not linear.
I support Zen Lill and am proud to.
Mary
June 28th, 2011 at 11:56 am
Well said MAIN DUDE.
June 28th, 2011 at 12:09 pm
Michelle,
I am in the mist of a serious crisis. When I told Carlos, he broke down in tears as begged my forgiveness because although he didn’t give me anything his fucking a bitch without a condom has resulted in his getting her pregnant.
If I take ZL’s advice, I can forgive him. We have been without sex for more than 4 months. But I take yours and some of the words of others who side with you, what I am hearing is that this man who claims to love me may not have cheated on me because we were split at the time. But he had casual sex without a condom. He admits he hardly knows the woman and he is not even sure the baby is his though she claims it is.
I asked him if I had not called with this topic would he have told me. He says maybe not. He says he was about to call me and ask me to take him back because he is sorry about the argument we had and that he will try much harder to control his jealousy.
I don’t know what to do. I am not an american. We live in a catholic country and here it is pointed out that forgiveness is so important in God’s eyes.
Dulce
June 28th, 2011 at 12:53 pm
Mary, thank you, and I’ve been taken out of context, bitch slapped and everything else here…my life and how I live it is what matters and I don’t expect anyone to understand everything I do. If someone wants to call me blond : ) as if that explains something for them, then have at it. I make my point with males and early on, they know what my non-negotiables are and that no matter how good the mojo I will walk (and have) if the non-negotiables are broken, that being said, I have forgiven some things as well. And no I haven’t had to prosecute and maybe I’ll throw it in there in my convo and maybe I won’t, that’s my call and my bidness…
My point with the no sex for months is not about what’s right – it’s about what is and what often happens, it’s a human frailty, mostly male but I can admit it would make me wonder what the relationship has become and I would have the cajones to ask why we were no longer doing the deed, and is lost attraction temporary or permanenet or is there something I need to know or wtf? It’s all about communication everyday, not just one convo.
If you would like to live in an alternate reality where your man or woman isn’t tempted elsewhere when you are not making love for extended periods of time than please do. And I totally feel for Dulce right now, that one is tough and that is an example of the non-linear-ness of life and relationships, and that was my only point. It’s a point well taken if you’ve not had the chat to do it…I say a lot before my pants are down the first time, but that’s just me…
Luv, Zen Lill
June 28th, 2011 at 1:25 pm
Michelle and Doug: I don’t know any of you, but I sure wish I did! You both appear to me to be very positive forces, very honest and open, and for that I admire you tremendously. May all the Gods bless you.
June 28th, 2011 at 1:32 pm
Zen Lill, I think your words have been misunderstood by many. It is all in how the “delivery” was understood. Please continue to post, I’m interested in what you have to say, too.
June 28th, 2011 at 1:51 pm
Thanks, Christine, I am going to work on my delivery…though some could work on their receiving? We all have lessons to learn while here.
June 29th, 2011 at 5:28 am
It is a scientific fact that if one of the two people in a monogamous relationship is having sex without a condom with another person(s), then he or she is exposing the unknowing partner to all the sexually transmitted diseases that unprotected sex brings.
The enormity of what the unsuspecting partner is being exposed to depends on how many sex partners the third party has had unprotected sex with. However many that may be, the unsuspecting partner may as well have had unprotected sex with all of them too because that partner can be infected with whatever STD they are passing around.
DULCE, the question you should be asking yourself is what does that say about how he feels about, you, the other women he has sexual contact with, and himself in that order?
A guy who goes around having sex without a condom when he has an unsuspecting woman partner doesn’t deserve any consideration what so ever. Only a woman who is a fool would give him a second chance.
Putting that another way, if he took a shot at you with a loaded gun, would you find a reason to give him a second shot? There is no reason to believe that he would not cheat without a condom again, if you gave him a second chance, if you must error, why not error in your own interest.
Men who decide to satisfy their needs of the moment at the expense of their significant other’s safety or life will NEVER put her needs before his. If the woman finds out and takes him back, he will then NEVER respect her intelligence, common sense, or ability to see through his lies.
So Dulce, if you can be content with being with a man who will NEVER respect you because he believes that he conned you into giving him a second chance and who will continue to cheat because he sees no reason not to, then give him a second chance to infect you.
Robert
P.S. Believing he did it because he was horny(didn’t have sex for a few months) is a pathetic attempt at self blame by an emotionally weak woman. No man would give his woman that out.
With good reason, unless we humans have become dogs in heat, our commitment to our significant other should be enough to give us the strength to resist the temptation to have sex without a condom.
PPS. The definition of a person who believes bringing up the use of a condom is “a source of confrontation” is a SLUT. The gender of the slut doesn’t matter. The person that would have sex with a person who allow them to have sex with them without a condom is a TRAMP, again the gender of the person is irrelevant.
Hence, if you are lucky enough to discover your significant other is a SLUT or TRAMP, before your are infected with a disease that could kill you, my advice is to RUN not walk from him or her as soon as it is to your advantage.
All forgiveness will get you is a second exposure to the same sexual infections he exposes himself to after he engages in unprotected sex.
June 29th, 2011 at 8:11 am
NIcely said, Robert. There’s nothing confrontational about condom usage. And you are correct, it is not a gender issue, just use them.
I have been wondering though why people are not discussing their non-negotiables about stepping out and whatever else might cause a definite break up of a relationship/marriage early on…why do this after 5, 10, 15 years…just so I’m not taken out of context…I mean, why not discuss before bedding a first time, after agreed exclusivity, etc…that would seem to have laid the groundwork for NOT doing it or how it should be reported to sig other asap right from the get go, no?
- ZL
June 29th, 2011 at 3:49 pm
Just as Robert and Alycedale said forgiving the assholes just gives them a second shot at killing you.
This woman was a fool. If I were on the jury I would not give her $25million. She was on notice after first time and she allowed him to give her a second dose.
Wilma