Posted by Michelle Moquin on May 24th, 2012
Well…what can I say…I just love when the topics of sex and relationships are discussed here. I enjoy posting topics that inspire conversations even if I don’t have much to say at the moment of print. But today I am inspired to join in…just a bit. Now, because I have entered into an entire new world of exploration, these days I am feeling open to considering new ways of doing things. That is what is so exciting about being single again. The world is my oyster, or perhaps I am the oyster. :)
I used to be a serial monogamist, aka: “mini marriages”, a term that Robert, RT coined a few years ago, in his very honest and illuminating write that to this day I still read and pass along to my single girlfriends, young and old. I had never thought of myself in “mini marriages” but after reading his write, I knew that was the label that I proudly wore without realizing it.
I still love the concept of monogamy – I guess I read too many romance novels that tweaked my love gene into believing that I was “the one”, he was “the one” – was attainable. Ahh…young love can be so innocent and beautiful…until it ends.
Perhaps it is the writings by Ym and others that post of their unrequited love that keeps us women believing that someone out there feels that way about us.
I still have HOPE - that is the deeply rooted romantic side of me…and honestly, I like that it is still present. But in the mean time, I am going to be practicing something that is not my norm, and venture into whatever I desire.
Anyway, I am inspired by the life you are living PrP. Perhaps it is not what you truly desire but it seems that you have made it work. I have left the life of monogamy behind me…for at least awhile and am open to seeing what develops in my romantic relationships.
Zen Lill: Thanks for the link. I will check her out. Although I have been in a romantic relationship with the same man for quite some time, as you know, :) I found that in my past relationships, the “Oh you again” factor didn’t really creep in. Perhaps it is because I am into exploring new ways of excitement to keep it fresh. Love surprising my lover…and roll playing gives me the freedom to do whatever it is that brings me pleasure…and not surprisingly – a woman who knows what she wants and goes for it in the bedroom – that in itself is a turn on.
Marilyn: All I can do is laugh at your comment. Don’t you know that Hell throws the best parties?
Nelson: A girlfriend of mine just told me the other day that her husband and her just decided that they were going to try an open marriage. It was his suggestion because - well this is what he told her- he sensed she was not happy so he said, ”Why don’t you find a lover”. She was excited and had someone in mind that she had met recently. I hadn’t seen her in a few months but noticed right away that something was different. She was rockin’ her look and after our conversation, I knew why. I say, with all of the divorces these days, if both are open to it, try something different and see what works. I claim to be no expert in the area of relationships but I will say open communication is definitely key, as well as mutual respect, and agreed upon “rules” so to speak.
Readers: I think that is a good place to end. I needed this conversation this morning. Thanks for keeping it going.
And now…today’s Topic du Jour – something that won’t surprise any of us. Another study of Fox viewers…just in case the first study didn’t convince you.
Another study has concluded that people who only watch Fox News are less informed than all other news consumers.
Researchers at Fairleigh Dickinson University updated a study they had conducted in late 2011. That study only sampled respondents from New Jersey, where the university is located. This time, the researchers conducted a nationwide poll.
The poll asked questions about international news (Iran, Egypt, Syria and Greece were included) and domestic affairs (Republican primaries, Congress, unemployment and the Keystone XL pipeline.)
The pollsters found that people were usually able to answer 1.8 out of 4 questions on foreign news, and 1.6 of 5 questions on domestic news, and that people who don’t watch any news were able to get 1.22 of the questions on domestic policy right.
As the study explained, though, people who watched only Fox News fared worse:
The largest effect is that of Fox News: all else being equal, someone who watched only Fox News would be expected to answer just 1.04 domestic questions correctly — a figure which is significantly worse than if they had reported watching no media at all. On the other hand, if they listened only to NPR, they would be expected to answer 1.51 questions correctly; viewers of Sunday morning talk shows fare similarly well. And people watching only “The Daily Show With Jon Stewart” could answer about 1.42 questions correctly.
Other networks also did badly in some sections; MSNBC viewers and Fox News viewers both fared worse in answering international questions than people who watched no news.
People who only listened to NPR or watched Sunday morning talk shows or “The Daily Show” did the best in the study.
UPDATE: Fox News hit out at the school responsible for the study on Thursday. A spokesperson for the network told The Hollywood Reporter, “Considering FDU’s undergraduate school is ranked as one of the worst in the country, we suggest the school invest in improving its weak academic program instead of spending money on frivolous polling – their student body does not deserve to be so ill-informed.”
No surprise over FOX’s response in the UPDATE. Thoughts? Blog me.
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